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Goal well deserved.
Iwobi should be out.

Chukwueze and Iwobi are both errors first half.

IkeOnyia:
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Alex Iwobi has been very disappointing. He is so clueless like someone playing for a second division club in Somalia.

Honestly! Too predictable with the ball.

Chukwueze na idiot.
Why hold the hold ball too long.

dazzlingd:
You are in Nigeria eating waffle. Does that make sense really.
Living in the Us, I am already tired of these foods. These foods you carry for head for Nigeria cost between 8 to 15 dollars or more. To get proper Jollof rice or Amala with Nigeria stew may cost me up to 30 to 50 dollars.
So why would someone in Nigeria, with access to Amala, pounded yam, jollof rice and the rest go and buy waffle and other ridiculous foreign foods?? What exactly is your problem?

God bless you.
And they are all going to be home-made; no eating out. Don't trust any Nigerian eatery or buka.

Osimen be putting hands on head like say he go score. Overrated!

teebaxy:
I see Nigeria winning and I see oshimen scoring 2 goals today

Nonsense coach

Osimen don start...
Very wasteful forwards and selfish too.

Useless Arsenal team.

crazygod:
Na now I know say Klopp no get interest in this tournament. You remove your only DM for Gravenbach. You remove Gakpo and left Nunez. Congratulations Arsenal. You guys are through to the next round.
YNWA.

Which Arsenal is going to the next round?
With this rubbish they are playing?
Congratulations LFC YNWA.

Saka is just useless today.

SIXTEENTH:
Welcome to our world, my wife just delivered twin's last night, please nairaland MOD help push to front page for I don't know how to do it, thanks

Congratulations 🎊 May God give you everything you need to help them fulfil purpose.

princeSammyz:
Why? I would really want to know why. What is your experience with Kogi?

Are you dating one?

Because I dey suspect this your question

Illegal1:
omoh........i no knw say people wen get sense plenty for nairaland lyk dis.


i've learnt alot 4rm u guys

You typed my mind.

People that have seen a lot.

We should have more of topics like this moved to fb.

Ok

Berrityga:
Hand over his birth right to him and allow peace to reign. You don’t expect him to visit Nigeria every time a mosquito dies in your house. Moreover do you know if he was in prison in South Africa . You don’t know his story or his struggles just allow him take what’s his.

You mean his parents are mosquitoes?

Except he has genuine reasons for not coming when both of them died and he should have duely communicated with the rest of the family.

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

You better stay out of it, and advice your dad to thread carefully if you love him.

The wise thing to do would have been your dad insisting that his dad writes a will before he dies but since there's non, he does not have much say because he's not the first male child or the first child.

1Sharon:
Nothing like househelp in Europe. The husband and wives handle chores themselves.

Nigerians are so comfortable with having strangers in their home. 3rd parties ruin a household

You're absolutely right!

You want to japa as a man and you are not ready to do house chores in support of your spouse

Just dey play

JuanDeDios:
An average man is AFRAID of his wife and will not challenge her in house matters. But you don't know that, do you?

NO we are not afraid; we just want our PEACE.

That rightly so, maltreating an house help is not one of those things a real man should not act on. Caution the woman, if it continues send the house help away and let her do her things by herself. You help when you are able to.

marlow1962:
I hate that shit, sometin you can't do to your children but it fun to do to another's child.
When I get married and my wife says we should call in a house help, if she ever maltreats her, that's the end of our marriage.

End of marriage ke? How old are you?

Just send the help away, then the both of you can join hands to the house chores.

He who judges by a one sided account is a fool.

There's more to OP's account than meets the eyes.

However, if everything OP typed up there is 💯 true, then the man didn't do well. He definitely needs to get back to his senses and do the right thing especially if he still wants the marriage to work.

OP should have explored other options before calling the cops. Who did she report to amongst his family? Did she report to someone he fears and respects? Did she take her children and go on some safety vacations to her father's house for the man to have some time to get himself while she's also safe? She can even make the man sign undertaking not to lay hands on her again without having him detained for two days.

Going forward, OP needs to be very careful staying under same roof with him for now.

Having him sign an undertaking is not enough; we have heard stories of men killing their wife and children and still kill themself.

Take a break, be sure is mentally stable before you can be with him again. Be sure he's happy again. You can care for him from a distance, you can apologise, reconcile without necessarily staying with him for now.

All the best

ednut1:
Stop putting yaself under pressure. No manual to life in Nigeria

Not anywhere in the world.

It's not a good thing to measure success in life by societal definition. It's a sign of immaturity no matter the age.

Define your succes, define your life.

siofra:
Maybe I'm young and foolish, but I really don't mind being a second wife (or third wife or whatever) but I'll not be a first wife to a man with other wives.

And there are terms and conditions.

He must be super rich (like Ned Nwoko rich)

I will not have children for him (my mind may change)

I'll have my own apartment and I'll not take his name.

If he's Muslim, I'll not convert to his religion.


☺️

So you can have the freedom to do rubbish while still enjoying his money. You obviously are young and foolish; not maybe.

We are gradually loosing the ideals that marriage stands for and I really pity this generation of young adults.

MadamExcellency:
Mumu@ assumption. Who likes liability?

Time has gone when women rely on men to take care of them and their children.

We go to the same school, graduate at the same time and got employed in the same offices and fields. Most of us are better placed than our husbands hence why must there be this dichotomy on who takes care of the family?

Is like most people especially women intend to go to the grave with their money. Spend the money on the family including on your husband and make sure the children are better placed than the parents.

Family first.

God bless you.

The truth is women are naturally selfish; it is innate; and this not just a quote but reality.

Just the way men are naturally egotistical. However, most men use the ego wrongly and foolishly; to oppress and dominate.

The ego is meant for a man never to settle for less, fight for what is his and protect what belongs to him.

Sonnetoshodi:
My bro, women are special creatures.
As a man, you need to know this.
My two cents; if you love her, and see her as your future partner, then please overlook the virginity issue.
From what I read; she's no longer a virgin(this is established, don't get clouded with emotions) and that is if she was one before you met her.
When women try to be smart or concealing, to a 'man' they are only revealing the true matter.
She couldn't just bring up the hymen breakage matter from the blue, something must have happened.
So don't bug yourself,let her know you chose her not entirely cause of her virginity.
Don't lose someone you value, and also know there'll always be someone better.
The ball is in your court today, it could be in hers sometimes later.
Women are wired differently my bro.

OP if you're still reading...
This is an experience advice for you.
Best comment so far. You typed my mind

Westerhoffe:
Selling a human is a serious criminal offense.
But this case is more serious as the children sold turns out to be his!
What kinda father is that?
Three children!!!

He's not a father! I think "man" should be fair.

People should understand that being a father goes beyond just depositing seed into a woman and the seed coming to this world as children.

As a matter of fact, it goes beyond being financial responsible for them.

The psychological, emotional and spiritual responsibility to the child(ren) is very importantly and should never be put under.

And this is from personal life's experience.

Jennyclay:
I’m so much in Love with Davido

Or his money?

Righthussle:
It depends on what you are going there to do. Go if you're going for studies, don't if you're going to be a house boy or house girl care giver or nanny.

I laugh at your ignorance...lol

Mitsurugi:
You're a monkey. At least he's outside the gate na

Maybe he escaped guess that's what she's inferring.

siofragspot:
What is written behind the man on the gate?

But I don't think he's one of their patients. Do you?