₦airaland Forum

Aaaaarghmed:
she was very immatured,people easily confuse her,we fixed date for introduction more than 3 times and she kept postponing for no tangible reason,almost made me a laughing stock,my prayer is that someone will also lead her on and dump her at the final stage.

She's not ready. I hope you didn't spend much on her. Move on you'll find a better woman.

Aaaaarghmed:
My greatest regret in life is wasting 6years of my life with someone who is a Nacirssist.Imagine dating someone for 6years and when you initiated the conversation to settle down,she said ..is it because you are getting old you want us to marry.Just fucking imagine that statement,so,6years is not enof.i shud keep waiting.And was ready financially,emotionally and all.Its my biggest regret because ,I ignored a lot of ladies who were interested in me because of her.I try not to remember

This cracked me up...no jokes.

Seem to me like you've been dating an immature girl.

Brings me to the question...what have you two been discussing for the six years? Discussion to settle down is not a one-off thing...

I really can't put my words together rn...not in a good frame of mind.

klimkid:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it's about time we start planning on getting married.

One thing I no for sure is that she loves me and I do love her too. Recently, she told me that her mom went to some churches and they told her it won't work, about 3 pastors. But my girlfriend told her friend to tell her pastor to pray about it.

So he prayed about it and he gave us feedback after 3 days and he said the marriage will work, he said I will give my girlfriend peace, take care of her and make her happy.

There's a woman that prays for me here in Lagos, she said there is nothing wrong with both of us. I also called my Rev. Father and he said that nobody has the right to say the person is for this person or the marriage won't work.

He said marriage is a decision both of us will take and pray about it.

He said hence we love ourselves so much, should leave it for God and continue with our relationship.

Guys, have you experienced this before? What do you think? I am confused.

I have experienced this first hand. I got a fake prophecy that my fiancee, now my wife was a witch and jezebel. I cried and cried that day...after four years of friendship + relationship.

We are married now three years and I can say she's one of the best things that has happened to me.

The decision is yours to make. Know what you want and be determined to fight for it.

9jvirgin:
Tinubu is an illegitimate president. Whatever sits on falsehood, shall fall. Without Peter Obi, there shall never be progress for the people of Nigeria.

For you and your family!

Angrygoat:
You can see how bitter andtoxic u are. Hahaha.

It is true oga. That your comment shows how toxic you are and senseless too.

You didn't "sound" like someone that wants to live long.

boborosky:
...

Thanks, but what if she doesn't learn....?

She will. See let me tell you, there are different methods of teaching. Discover what works best for her. Howbeit, with love and patience.

Help her list out her goals; what she wants out of life. Break them down for her to smaller goal workable and achievable plans.

You can go as far her rewarding her with encouraging gifts when she achieves any of the smaller goals.

However, it starts from you deciding if you think she's good for you. If you think so, then put in the effort. Note, whether you choose her or someone else, you must groom, put effort to make her suite your taste.

I wish you all the best.

Oluromantic:
My advice is to give a little more push. I'm saying this because most resourceful ladies might also find it difficult to submit. I know there may be a lot of ranting and criticisms about submission but I'm giving you a honest advice as a realist for your future. Nothing makes you a fulfilled man than to have a resourceful wife that allows you to be in charge: such women are very rare. Once they can work hard on their own, submission with their money gradually slides out...it's psychological.

Now considering the fact that you can't find all you need in one person, you have to weigh your options which emphasizes the role of grooming. Grooming means training her to soothe your taste or standard. To be frank, it might not be a sweet experience at first but it's worth it. The point is you're not ready yet, when you're ready, you will drill her seriously and your love for her is the fuel. I did it for my wife. Anything that gives you peace of mind as you said; that she has good character, should be seriously guided and guarded. Only few women will give you such peace despite their imperfections.

Start from a small level, get her a shop if you can afford it to start selling provisions or likely things and monitor her totally so far she's not pissed to say you're domineering. In my case, my wife enjoyed my control and that made it easy for me. She said she likes the disciplinary love and that someone is mad over her. Now she's super-productive, she even charges me for her services and collects her money promptly. Business is business. I trained her.

OP, reading just the first two paragraphs, and from experience, this is what you need.

Be more patient with her. Start grooming, working on her now. Even after marriage, the grooming continues.

I wish you all the best.

I'd advise you relocate. Study route is good; just choose an IT course that won't stress you too much. You can continue your crypto biz while you go to school to establish yourself in the long term.

You can even do physical business if you have the capital and go through the necessary procedures.

Finally, it's a good environment for your kids to grow.

tonywonder:
The husband is the cause because if he had set up a business for her when she requested for it, this nonsense wouldn't have occured. So the foundation of this problem na the husband cause am.
Why deny your wife to do business or work even if you are the richest man in the world? Some men reasoning na wa oh

A cheat would always cheat. Might not be with the driver; could have been with a cute customer.

See there's no justification for cheating no matter how good it sounds. There are ways to avoid it if you don't.

So my conclusion is...she is a cheat and she would always cheat. Person wey dey get sugar daddies from university days. What do you expect?

dondodo:
My name is Solomon from Kogi State. A graduate of Accounting from a government University in Kogi state. Since I graduated from the university 10 years ago,I've been facing different challenges ranging from family,finance,health and so on.Luckily for me i got a good job this year and I've been thinking of settling down. Do you think it is proper for me to marry a woman at 35 or just have a baby mama? This question have been pondering my mind. Please your opinion is really needed

The fact that you even came here to ask this kind of very sensitive and personal life issue shows that you shouldn't go into marriage yet.

Marriage is not a function of age, house or car.

Sit down and ask yourself: Am I ready for this?

Hi Nairalanders,

Today makes it two years I tied the knot and I must confess; marriage is one of the best things that has happened to me.

For my singles hoping to settle down, don't be afraid instead trust God and shine your eyes HWA to me.

highness25:
This boy get luck say I don comot for Lagoas, you for explain to me the reason behind that Pena wey you miss that day.

funny you. Let love rule.
Remember all the ones he has scored. The important goals too. Up gunners

Parachoko:
Person wey dey earn 30k do not deserve to have a car

How old are you?

This comment says a lot about you. One of them being that you're not wise. No offence pls.

[quote author= post=123488376]Says a boy typing from one village....

Funny kids everywhere,
Just come social media dey type incoherent jargons everywhere 😃
Bring one person out from your community that is as learned, exposed and intelligent like the Vice President.
#StopPoliticsOfHatredAndBitterness[/quote]I love this! Wish I could like it more than once.

You finish the guy

Farid24224:
God!!! Guys I swear I really need help... Would you believe me if I say that I have never toast any girl before, never!!

I might be too young at 21 but I think I should have a lil' experience about it...My friends are making fun of me all the time.. Please I need a reply with tips (Google isn't helping at all)

Am not rich, still a student and hustling around, not handsome, average height at 6'0"

Please help a bro.. 🙏🏿🙏🏿

You better face your studies and hustle for now.

Those things are distractions. I didn't toast/date any girl until my service year and I married same lady.

Focus on important things first and make a meaning out of your life first.

Jennyclay:
Oh No!! Not again .

Another animalistic behavior from these useless men . What is attractive in a 7 years old child

This beast should be sentenced to death ASAP. It’s high time we separate humans from beasts.

Men are beast.
Men are monsters

A monster/beast gave birth to you

Therefore, you're also a beast/monster; because lions don't birth dogs!

jiggar:
It's just painful and somewhat devilish how someone will just be somewhere and be wishing others to fail and go back to ground zero.

The OP did not ask anyone here for money or any form of assistance, and yet, some people are already saying he will see 'shegey' in UK and run back to Nigeria.

What kind of satanic mentality is this?

Is it a crime to struggle and climb up the ladder of success and greatness?

Is success designed only for some selected few?

When he was struggling, no body wished him well, but now he has seen a little progress made possible by God, some self-created god are striving with boldness to predict his future. Na wa o.

To the OP, the good Lord who started this new Genesis chapter for you, will definitely take you into your Revelation.

Nothing under the sun will stop you, as long as God Almighty is on the throne.

Henceforth, ignore any and all forms of ludicrous statements, it's not worth your effort.

It's well with You, Your Son and Your Madam.

God will make the environment you find yourself in, work for you.

Amen to all the prayers.

It's the nature of an average Nigerian. Only few would do otherwise; I believe you're one of the few hence your comment.

I'm shocked at some comments. But I'm happy, God is not man. He deals with everyone according to his/her heart.

gmacnoms:
I survived Nigeria. From nothing, I built a brand that if I point to, you’d not be able to connect it to me, because it’s outstanding. I left warri to lagos with a bag of a few clothes. I squatted in Aj for long. Before I left lagos, in a space of 3 years, I drove the car of my dream (as at then), a 2010 Camry sports. I rented an apartment , and I got married to a great woman.

Uk soft, even chicken wey no get wings go easily grow wings and fly. Uk no fit humble anybody coming from my background and path. In fact, na child's play.

Go rest, Agbaya

I like the way you finish am.

Awon agbaya.

If we can survive naija, west, na child's play with God.

If you don settle, try enter Canada. I believe it's more family friendly than the UK.

I wish you all the best brother. God bless you.

Tadadobe:
Nigerians will hustle since they were born. Grind for 30 yes . Only to pack all the money and take it to UK. If they don't, they'll never feel achieved. Amazing

Oga rest! Is it your money?
Do whatever makes you happy, live and let live.

You don't even know his plans. Obviously you didn't read his other comments after OP how he feels bad about the state of his country because of the bad leaders.

You smell like bad belle.

Peace!

Naybahood:
Wetin come concern us ??

All this rubbish UK people wey their mouth no dey stay one place .

This one never even settle down , him don dey do rubbish.

Spits

Is this frustration or just bad belle?

Be happy for something good, let good come your way too.

EyenIbibio1:
Her past doesn't matter, so long she doesn't go back

So how will you know she won't go back?

GoldenJAT:
Make Oyibo try rest!! But assuming na only blacks de this world eh! So many mysteries will be left untouched.
We too value our lives!!

Whites value their lives more than us, it's their insatiable quest for knowledge that make them go on such adventures.

Fear is what is killing the black race and not value for life.

riverbird:
E be like say na only me get gf wey hardly ask me of any financial favors but keeps disturbing me with marriage talks

Na setup o
But she's wise.

Harmattan123:
Oloriburuku

Are you one? Why cursing?

plaindealer:
Do you mean as an activist who is always worried and ranting about unemployment, the poor economy, and so on, I should still be allowed to take my money and services abroad to boost their economy and create jobs instead of here in Nigeria?

How hard is it for you and your kind to make sense?

Tribalism, bigotry, hatred and bitterness just cannot let you people see road.

You just don't have sense, and you're shameless about it.

I don't know if you've ever been to a first world country; because if you have, you won't be typing this trash.

He should patronise bad local medical services at the expense of his life?

Please get sense.

Sablexxxtoons:
Oga why u getting all emotional cos of front page..

pardon my asking no offense o.. are you Nigerian national born? The name Sukkot sounds Indian

I don't think any Indian would type a write-up as good as he did. I don't want to generalise, but it would hard to find an Indian that's good with English.

BloomingDale:
I blame Nigerian parents raising thugs and hooligans.

Did your parents also raise thugs and hooligans?
Or are you one raised by a Nigerian parent?

Why generalising?

beekind:
How does meeting someone physically and communicating regularly online affect the success of the marriage ?
Are you saying those who dated physically have perfect marriages and never had issues ?
Are you saying dating physically guarantees a happy marriage ?

The fact you had problem does not mean everyone will. Dating physically is no guarantee of a happy marriage neither is dating online. As long as you find the right person either physical or online doesnt matter.

Bro, did you read his comment at all?

See the best way to learn is from other people's experiences. He didn't say you should not marry her; he said slow down. And from experience I'd also advice you to slow down a little.

I've been reading your responses, and I can tell you I've been there.

Personally, I also fear for you at the "rush". However, it's your decision to make. Be ready to take whatever comes with it.

Peace.

Penguin2:
That’s what most people are saying.

But I fear she appears too little and tender that no one might wanna hire her in Canada or Europe.

Not true. Young Women drive trucks here. It is not a function of body size and age as long as you're above 18 years.

DARLINGTON869:
Hei God abeg ooo! And I dey plan marriage lyk dis o. Pesin go toast woman, buy am things to please her, pay bride price, arrange wedding, rent house, only for him to enter sorrow, worry, cheating and nagging. God please take control ooo. I am honestly worried. Like really scarred.

Baba this one that you're scared, you better calm down and do proper assessment of the person you're marrying. If you want to seek spiritual guidance and confirmation from whatever you believe in, please do.

From experience, a man should get to a point where he is no longer scared of anything as regards getting married if truly he is making the right decision and ready for whatever comes in the marriage.

No matter the bad news you hear and see on SM, there are so many marriages doing very fine; mine is one and we are not even from same tribe.

So relax, do good due diligence. There's no fear in love. Fear is not of God.

Be patient and persevere. Even for PRs I can tell you from experience that the first year is never easy talk more of you that came in via study route.

However, patience and perseverance is the key. I've been here 7 months now and it can only get better.

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

Your sister should humble herself and learn how to cook properly from the maid. What her husband likes.