₦airaland Forum

VTJN:
This could happened in any part of the world.

it cannot

OneCorner:
What do you guys derive in fake news
You bloggers needs to be charged for treason for posting fake news cuz you are enemy of the state

mumu! you dint watch the video abi?

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

I'm ready, 3 months max I knack u ring.

on a more serious note, since you are "afraid" to ask him, he is not the one, Trust me. It's good you gave yourself a deadline but it shouldn't be a do or die affair, don't let desperation push you into what u will regret for the rest of your life. My advice it that you kick that deadline you gave yourself and just allow things to flow.

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

if what you wrote here is true, you married the wrong woman. She is not a good person.

......of lies

that poor kid spoke out on his dying bed. he cannot be lying.

and una born 3?

I hope it's not audio arrest

theForth:
Hey guys, what's up?

I was at my uncle's place today with my mum, I noticed his wife complained about something bitterly because they had a private chat and it was so unlike her.

After the whole visiting, I asked my mother what was wrong and she told me that my uncle cooks his own food all the time and even does his laundry alone and his wife doesn't like it, and although she's been complaining for over 5 years but he doesn't seem to change. I asked for my mum's opinion and she said she'd be totally uncomfortable if her husband doesn't eat her food year to year, same with my babe.

Is it wrong for a married man to cook his own food?

your uncle don do juju whey forbid am from eating wetin woman cook

positivelad:
hello guys

i just discovered that im hiv positive, so i am looking for a hospital where i can get free hiv treatment in riverstate (i heard the government made it free in some hospitals)

does anyone have any idea ? please comment below

BMH

Rtk5:
Every bashing or insult is accepted because of the gravity of my actions.

I went to shop the other day and just at the entrance I saw a wrapped gift fall off a woman's bag while she entered her car to drive off, I picked it then rushed to give her, she thanked me and we exchanged numbers.

We got chatting that same day and she told me she is married with 3 kids which was obvious right from when I saw her. She even sent me some of their family pix and boom i discovered that her husband was someone whom we grew together in the same street those years but we were never friends because of age diffrrence as he was like My senior with 10-12 years age difference. Our chat with her got so intensed that we agreed to hangout together but we needed a secret place due to our marital status, so the only place we could go for was a hotel.

Yesterday Sunday we went there and before i knew it we had sex. Since yesterday till this till now my conscience has been disturbing me, infact I couldn't sleep throughout the night till now. I've done what is evil.

How do I get this guilt off me?

idiot!

advanceDNA:
Nigerian sniper is adulterated... that thing doesn’t contain up to 1% of -dicholorovinyl dimethyl phosphate ...

Naim e dey kill heart broken lovers all the time they take it?

rosebase:
I have seen 3 diferent scorpions in my apartment in d last 4weeks, a very tiny ones though. After blocking all d holes some days go I still saw one this night. What's d wat out pls

fumigate

Use this Chinese insecticide they sell 1200. empty the canister in your room and stay way for whole day.

the drug barron uncle of a killer has spoken.

I'm afraid Slyvester might not get justice. Scapegoats will be sacrificed.

Hard core woman!

She is the one holding abia state captive since 1999

seunmsg:
First it was Gumi and now Buba Galadima. What’s the relationship between Atiku’s political lackeys and terrorist bandits? Why are they always defending those blood sucking demons? Are the bandits Atiku’s boys? The connection needs to be investigated.

what is buhari doing against the terrorists is he not in the helms of affair?. the way you zombies reason eh! one will think you truly don't have brains.

is boko haram face full? Animal

PARADIZEPRIEST:
cITY TOWN planning authority must be very angry for Messi taking another Ballon d’Or

it's more like they are angry he left Barca

Sly parents should sue that school

luckiest snake in Nigeria

Na aproko people plenty pass

chikason22:
I see draw soup.

This i have seen

But wait oo. Why is Man U playing Ronaldo upfront.
If they want goals, they should play 3 strikers

you are a blind man.

bcomputer101:
Wike my governor.



If to say Dowen College happens to be in Portharcourt ni, Wike for don go there with bulldozer the following day to bring down the whole building.
No time for nonsense.

mumu talk

TinubuGoQuench:
I thought they said that the boy mentioned the names of his killers before he died How come the names of the killers are still not known yet?




You need serious beating

why u dey like display your mumurism all the time?

https://www.nairaland.com/6881708/faces-boys-murdered-colleague-sylvester

FIFApresident1:
This school appears to be a reputable school with what I read online about them, one of the best school in Lagos state..

I really do hope they can bounce back, but sadly the hungry Nigerian media sphere has done a really great damage to the image of the school (beyond repair)

Yes, the school loose guide big time, but the recent development surrounding this issue is needless, I mean, stuffs like, revealing the owner of the school with bad captions.... Is that going to change anything?
The school management didn't notice this small loopholes, we can't blame them, cultism is strange in Luxury private colleges.

May the soul of the young promising boy continue to rest in peace.

why did they deny what killed the boy in their first press release? they brought the public backlash upon themselve.

this should have been your first response to this matter. Heartless management.

NGpatriot:
The bible in your house is for liars, your own adutrated bible preaches lies.

Thou shalt not bear false witness mean anything to you sinners>

fucker

NGpatriot:
Why is this one lying on top Bible?

Christianity and the holy bible tell Christians to lie also?

Na wa for ipob brand of Christianity o?

No wonder den masaka policemen, cut off their head, roast and eat them like barbaric cannibals..

Goshhh..

so bible no talk say make you get sense? ode

Karemarealty288:
Waiting for toto's chemical reaction....

if tonto will be wise n mature, she should totally ignor her.

Foodqueen:
This woman again.

No be she say she go heaven and hell the other time, come still de apologize to her members later.

So them still de allow her handle mic

no be this one.

na she talk say na sin to eat Titus fish

lol

Nollywood really did some mental damage to their average fan walahi!

he might not be aware of it. maybe one of his staff was stealing from him and stashing it there