My dear... u need to go back to school and focus on ur own career. give the guy space to focus on his work and career to. when u get useful, he will come for you!

she is telling the young men to f**k off.

well, mine is My ex was cheating and I decided to pay him back in his own coin but with his senior brother who has been eying me ever-since. We did it once and menh! he was so sweet that I went for the 2nd time, 3rd,4th till I can no longer count. It was so sweet! that even till now, I stil feel like having him one more time.

Pls I need this info o

Pls Guys I have a written interview with the LNG coming up soon, I need a clue of their type of questions.

Please Help! This is my first interview since graduation (2006)

Thank u Mr. Halfcurrent. Hope to here from u soon

What and what should I look into, read and research.

Pls help!!!

Pls Guys I have a written interview with the LNG coming up soon, I need a clue of their type of questions.

Please Help! This is my first interview since graduation (2006)

Jenifa_:

as far as I'm concerned, that wife doesn't care about her husband's philandering. I actually think she's trying to run away from her husband and family.
she seems like the type that will put condom in her husband's briefcase every morning before he goes to work (ie she's only worried about catching STDs)

different strokes for different folks.

Jenifa, I dnt think so, cause I know she over trusted the husband.

eros:

The house help should be sent away immediately, now that she is better and if the guy needs a house help, then he should get a boy. Besides, its best to get a house help who comes daily to clean the house and leave and not a live-in house help.

I wonder why people never learn from others mistakes.

I agree with you on this. But he said it will look suspicious if he send out and beside it will hurt the girl

monkeyleg:

Truth be said, whilst there might be a slight case of temptation here, I think the bigger question here is that this damn thing is far too common in our society. Just another symptom of the rot.

Most likely this happened, becuase Oga used his position to more or less intimidate the girl into submission. Is there a case for intimate harrassment?

We talk about the Temptation of the Man, what about the harrassment of the maid? There is no clear indication that she willfully gave into this

Again, what about his marriage? did it not matter enough to him for him to have kept clear. After all it was based on choice that his wife was not available. I really hate it when anyone tries to justify cheating, especially when the vunerable maid is involved

monkeyleg:

Truth be said, whilst there might be a slight case of temptation here, I think the bigger question here is that this damn thing is far too common in our society. Just another symptom of the rot.

Most likely this happened, becuase Oga used his position to more or less intimidate the girl into submission. Is there a case for intimate harrassment?

We talk about the Temptation of the Man, what about the harrassment of the maid? There is no clear indication that she willfully gave into this

Again, what about his marriage? did it not matter enough to him for him to have kept clear. After all it was based on choice that his wife was not available. I really hate it when anyone tries to justify cheating, especially when the vunerable maid is involved

there is no use of position there, according to the maid, she gave in willingly. I tried to know if it was on one occasion but she could not remember how many times it happened. Meanwhile my friend told me it was only once.

Oluschenco:

Body no be wood now! All blames shd be directed to d woman, heaven knows wat she is also doing rxt there.

Is that why a man should sleep with his maid?

ronkebp:

So do you think they man wouldn't have slept with the house maid even if his wife was around??

how will he when there is source?

I have a friend who is an international staff in one of the oil firms in Nigeria, his two children was born in the USA. Recently, he was posted back to Nigeria, his wife became pregnant again and they made plans for to travel back to deliver the child over there since they wanted her to be a US citizen. Before traveling, they made arrangement for a house help to assist in taking care of the children.

By September 2011, she gave birth to a baby girl, her husband went to visit her and the child and came back October 2011. When I asked him of when she is likely to return, he told me that she intend to start work over there. I was not happy with this cos her children are still very little to leave in the hands of a maid.

One day he called me to ask what medication can be used to prevent pregnancy, I wanted to know who is asking for such info but he told me it was his friend that jst got married and dose not want a child yet. I told him to advice his friend to use condom instead of risking his wives womb.

Two weeks ago he called to know a drug for getting rid of 6weeks pregnancy, I was surprised at this but he convinced me that he is not involved but just helping out his friend. Well I told him not use drugs that its better for them to go for D&C.

A week later he invited me to his place, on getting there I met him sweating under his AC, his eyes were all red. I was asking him what the issue was, but he could not look into my eyes, after some minutes he raised his head and said "I did something wrong" I was eager to know what the issue was. First, I asked about the children, he said they were all ok, I they asked about the house help, he told me she is having fever.

So what is the problem then? He repeated "I did sometin very wrong" this time I said let me guess! I said "she is pregnant for you? tears ran down his chics "yes" he said. I freezed! I was shocked to my marrows, I could not believe my ears. I was upset, I could not shout at him even though I wanted to cos he is someone I respect so much, I asked if there are no girls in the street of PH but he replied "U know I am not into girls" he explained he was unable to control himself for a long while.

Where is she I asked, he told me she is inside. I went into the room to find the 19years old girl lying on the bed shaking. The issue is that they went for D&C, it was incomplete becos she could not withstand the pains, I took her for scan and they find water in her womb, I had to rush her back to the clinic where they did the D&C, they doctor said she was in pains so he left her. They then re-did the Operation and I took her home, I nursed her for 4days before she could regain herself.

Tell me, what kind of a career will a woman abandon her family for? Her first child is jst 6yrs old, It is very painfull cos this girl is still living with this man and the kids, how sure am I that it won't happen again

Thanks all,

Thank u all for ur encouragements. I am really getting better.

Pls we can all help each other, especially the kids, they need attention. pls dnt overlook them, take every complain from the serious cos they might not be able to tell u exactly wat is happening to them or how they feel but if we put interest, we can always help out.

tsmith:

it is a repeat post from me, as I noticed you have duplicated the link in the romance session. Can i ask though that the two threads are linked and maintained in the family session, as I do not see anything romantic in this.

Sorry that should be a mistake. I did not notice

Thank u tsmith, the mother has no phone but the husband's sister dose. I will call her later to know wen she will come back to Port Harcourt.

Its good I have ur email, I will get intouch with u as soon as i do.

regards.

On the 2nd day of Oct 2011 at about 1pm on a Sunday afternoon, I went to a saloon at Rumukurushi Port Harcourt to make my hair. Beside the saloon, there is a chemist store and behold a woman with a little boy of 4yrs and a child of 10 months. The boy looked so weak that I could not over look him.
I walked up to this woman to find out wat the problem was and why she is at the chemist instead of hospital considering the state of the boy? I dnt have money was her reply. I told her that there is a clinic along the road and that she should come with me to see the doctor.
On getting to the place, the 3 quark nurses on duty were all interested in the purchase of card b4 they will tell me if the doctor was on sit or not, after the purchase of N1,000 card, they told me they want to call the doctor. I was so angry that I nearly slapped 1 of them.
after waiting for 30mins without seeing the doctor, I decided to check the next hospital, we got there and the doctor said that they cannot treat the child cos he needed blood transfusion n since they dnt have the blood, he referred me to another clinic at Elelenwo (St Jude’s) we got there n the doctor said same n refered us to Militry Hospital Aba road.
We got there and behold there’s only one doctor on duty whom they said has gone to attend to a woman with bridging labor. So we waited for another 45mins. Wen he came, he said that the lab dose not work on Sunday and therefore we should head to BMH as soon as we can cos the little boy has less than 2hrs to live. He gave the boy some injections to help him with his breathings.
We got to BMH and after many protocols the doctor said he needs urgent transfusion of blood. I was told to pay 3k for this which I did, only for them to tell me that I have to donate blood for child that the 3k was jst for service charge. All effort to get blood from the child for sample was invain. It took them 20mins to get a few drops out of this child cos there was no blood in his system.
Now the sample was out but there was no match cos I am A+ while the child is O+. The mother could not donate cos she is equally not looking healthy. Her husband died last month and she was still mourning him when the child fell sick, she came to town that day cos she wanted her husband’s only surviving sister (who was still in church as at wen I met them) to help her with money for the child’s health.
Now the issue is who will donate They dnt sell at the hospital. Where will help come from?? I was almost running mental wen a cleaner in the hospital volunteered to donate. In the process, they found traces of Hepatitis B in the boy; he was therefore disqualified for the donor.
4hrs gone already and there was no help. The little boy was now been supported by oxygen to help him keep breathing. At a time the doctor was deeply touched and he decided to donate.
Oh!!! Finally there was hope, I had a relief in me and I thanked God. After the donor, I hugged the doctor so tight that they were begging me to let him go cos he was due to close. I asked him how much I will pay him for the donor and he said “water” I could not believe my ears, infact I fell in love with this man at once.
At about 10pm I steped out to look for food for myself and the breastfeeding mother of 10months child, I came back and met people crowding the boys bed. My heart left me, the boy was seriously jecking n the new doctor n nurses where trying to calm him, serious prayers were flowing every where. After awhile the boy was calmed. When I asked the doctor why the jeck, he told me that there was no single drop of blood in the boys body therefore the veins were weak.
After 20mins the jeck started again, this time I was sitting right beside the bed I could not hold myself, I was screaming, there was no type of prayer that I did not come out of my mouth. The bed was shaking with this little boys jerk. The next thing I heard was the sound of his last breath, Bam!!!!!!! and some greenish fluids gushed out of his nose.
He died!!
I could not imagine it, I suddenly stopped crying, I was speechless, I could not believe my eyes, I was astonished. “this is not happening” I said to myself. I said it was dream, I forced myself to wake up but behold it was not a dream. I said to myself “where is God”? I jst sat there looking at the little boy’s corps allnite even as they covered him.

In the morning the husband’s sister came with a cab and they left to bury the boy

I am now begging the shock for the death of a boy that I do not know from Adam to leave me. Help!!!

On the 2nd day of Oct 2011 at about 1pm on a Sunday afternoon, I went to a saloon at Rumukurushi Port Harcourt to make my hair. Beside the saloon, there is a chemist store and behold a woman with a little boy of 4yrs and a child of 10 months. The boy looked so weak that I could not over look him.
I walked up to this woman to find out wat the problem was and why she is at the chemist instead of hospital considering the state of the boy? I dnt have money was her reply. I told her that there is a clinic along the road and that she should come with me to see the doctor.
On getting to the place, the 3 quark nurses on duty were all interested in the purchase of card b4 they will tell me if the doctor was on sit or not, after the purchase of N1,000 card, they told me they want to call the doctor. I was so angry that I nearly slapped 1 of them.
after waiting for 30mins without seeing the doctor, I decided to check the next hospital, we got there and the doctor said that they cannot treat the child cos he needed blood transfusion n since they dnt have the blood, he referred me to another clinic at Elelenwo (St Jude’s) we got there n the doctor said same n refered us to Militry Hospital Aba road.
We got there and behold there’s only one doctor on duty whom they said has gone to attend to a woman with bridging labor. So we waited for another 45mins. Wen he came, he said that the lab dose not work on Sunday and therefore we should head to BMH as soon as we can cos the little boy has less than 2hrs to live. He gave the boy some injections to help him with his breathings. 
We got to BMH and after many protocols the doctor said he needs urgent transfusion of blood. I was told to pay 3k for this which I did, only for them to tell me that I have to donate blood for child that the 3k was jst for service charge.  All effort to get blood from the child for sample was invain. It took them 20mins to get a few drops out of this child cos there was no blood in his system.
Now the sample was out but there was no match cos I am A+ while the child is O+. The mother could not donate cos she is equally not looking healthy. Her husband died last month and she was still mourning him when the child fell sick, she came to town that day cos she wanted her husband’s only surviving sister (who was still in church as at wen I met them) to help her with money for the child’s health.
Now the issue is who will donate They dnt sell at the hospital. Where will help come from?? I was almost running mental wen a cleaner in the hospital volunteered to donate. In the process, they found traces of Hepatitis B in the boy; he was therefore disqualified for the donor.
4hrs gone already and there was no help. The little boy was now been supported by oxygen to help him keep breathing. At a time the doctor was deeply touched and he decided to donate.
Oh!!! Finally there was hope, I had a relief in me and I thanked God. After the donor, I hugged the doctor so tight that they were begging me to let him go cos he was due to close. I asked him how much I will pay him for the donor and he said “water” I could not believe my ears, infact I fell in love with this man at once.
At about 10pm I steped out to look for food for myself and the breastfeeding mother of 10months child, I came back and met people crowding the boys bed. My heart left me, the boy was seriously jecking n the new doctor n nurses where trying to calm him, serious prayers were flowing every where. After awhile the boy was calmed. When I asked the doctor why the jeck, he told me that there was no single drop of blood in the boys body therefore the veins were weak.
After 20mins the jeck started again, this time I was sitting right beside the bed I could not hold myself, I was screaming, there was no type of prayer that I did not come out of my mouth. The bed was shaking with this little boys jerk. The next thing I heard was the sound of his last breath, Bam!!!!!!! and some greenish fluids gushed out of his nose.
He died!!
I could not imagine it, I suddenly stopped crying, I was speechless, I could not believe my eyes, I was astonished. “this is not happening” I said to myself. I said it was dream, I forced myself to wake up but behold it was not a dream. I said to myself “where is God”? I jst sat there looking at the little boy’s corps allnite even as they covered him.

In the morning the husband’s sister came with a cab and they left to bury the boy

I am now begging the shock for the death of a boy that I do not know from Adam to leave me. Help!!!

bittatruth:

Whats your proof that he is in-love?

Yes I know cos he has taken me to his pastor, his mum, and his elder brother.

What other prof do u need?

Pls follow ur heart!!! the best investment u can do in life is investing on humans. If u turn her good today, she will remember you tomorrow simple!!! wat if she misses her session and finally out of school but then you find out she is ment for u, wat will u do? Send her back to school wen is late Pls help if u re opportune to. Who Knows Tomorrow?.

@ poster.

Floxydion:

A guy saw me and said he liked me n wanted to date me, i tot abt it n decided to see if it would work out. After 3 days of meeting me he started telling me about a girl he met once n on that very day he slept with her n dat he respected he cos she told him to n blah blah, i felt it was just normal gisting until he started doing all these little n annoying touches. I told him point n clear dat i m not that kind of girl n i don't just trow myself like dat n most especially someone i've just met n imagine his reply which is dat girls like me ends up loosing in life cos of our so called principled life. I don't understand cos i felt decency shld be every girls pride but i m confused now cos he's not the first saying it. Is it right nowadays to just get intimate with a guy you just meet or am i too old fashioned?rted doing all these little n annoying touches. I told him point n clear dat i m not that kind of girl n i don't just trow myself like dat n most especially someone i've just met n imagine his reply which is dat girls like me ends up loosing in life cos of our so called principled life. I don't understand cos i felt decency shld be every girls pride but i m confused now cos he's not the first saying it. Is it right nowadays to just get intimate with a guy you just meet or am i too old fashioned?

Repeatations!!

@ Poster If u are really a girl of principle, you will not be worried of being old fashioned. But if u are only playing hard to get, then u will fall very easy with the words of men. Its beta to be principled than to play hard to get.

We ve been dating for 4months now (no sex yet), though he is unemployed (a chemical engineer) but manages a little business of his own. Lately, I noticed he's bored even when i'm around him. When i commented on it, he assured me that he is ok with me but has alot going on his mind.

This thing is really giving me concern cos i dnt want him feeling that way wen we are together.

What should i do??

190, u knw say me and u too the fight for here, I jst got back here so pls dnt start
meanwhile NL don won out finish

@190, yes

A man was SICK and TIRED of going to work every day while his wife stayed home. And further jealous of her, as she received lot of Women's Day wishes and compliments He wanted her to see what he went through so he prayed: "Dear Lord: I go to work every , day and put in 8 hours while my wife merely stays at home. I want her to know what I go through. So, please allow her body to switch with mine for a day.Amen!" Poof!!! God, in his infinite wisdom, granted the man's wish. The next morning, sure enough, the man awoke as a woman. He arose, cooked breakfast for his mate, Awakened the kids, Set out their school clothes, Fed them breakfast, Packed their lunches, Drove them to school, Came home and picked up the dry cleaning, Took it to the cleaners And stopped at the bank to make a deposit, Went grocery shopping, Then drove home to put away the groceries, Paid the bills and balanced the check book, He cleaned the cat's litter box and bathed the dog. Then, it was already 1.00pm And he hurried to make the beds, , do the laundry, vacuum, Dust, And sweep and mop the kitchen floor, , Ran to the school to pick up the kids and got into an argument with them on the way home. Set out milk and cookies and, , got the kids organized to do their homework. Then, set up the ironing board and watched TV while he did the ironing. At 4:30pm, he began peeling potatoes and washing vegetables for salad, , rolled meatballs and snapped fresh beans for supper. After supper, He cleaned the kitchen, Ran the dishwasher, . , Folded laundry, Bathed the kids, And put them to bed. At 9.00pm, He was exhausted and, though his daily chores weren't finished, he went to bed where he was expected to make love, which he managed to get through without complaint. The next morning, he awoke and immediately knelt by the bed and said: "Lord, I don't know what I was thinking. I was so wrong to envy my wife's being able to stay home all day. Please, Oh! Oh! Please, let us trade back. Amen!" The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, replied: "My son, I feel you have learned your lesson and I will be happy to change things back to the way they were. You'll just have to wait NINE MONTHS, though. You got pregnant last night." I LOVE THIS GOD.

Daytonbale:

Hi peeps
A FRIEND OF MIND GIRL FRIEND JUST CAME BACK FROM WHERE SHE STUDIES IN POLY HERE IN NIGERIA.
AND HER BOY FRIEND WAS WAITING FOR HER TO come [/b]BACK. SHE JUST TOLD HER GUY THAT SHE IS ENGAGE WITH SOME OTHER PERSON AND THE GUY REALLY LOVE [b]This GIRL.

WHAT CAN HE DO? THEY HAVE BEEN DATING FOR MORE THAN TWO YEARS
THIS GUY HAS BEEN HELPING HER IN EVERYTHING, AND HE WAS PLANNING FOR THEIR TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE NEXT YEAR BUT DID NOT TELL THE GIRL ABOUT THE TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE . HE WAS JUST KEEPING IT BETWEEN HIMSELF ALTHOUGH THE THEY STAY DIFFERENT STATE

ADVICE NEEDED PLS

pls 4get about ur "friend mind girl friend" and go back to school. plssssssss

Cnt belive 190 is now a FEMALE! U get t, t,

xynerise:

Pls advise 190 on his constant stay on Nairaland. Even a student cant be that bored. [b]190 must be a Cyber cafe attendant.

[/b]

I think so too

papa 190!!! Long time no see 4 nairaland o o o. But I'm back!!

hahahahahahahhhahaha una go kill person wit laugh o o ohahahahahahahahahah