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@ topic
Dude was probably fed up-didn't know how to end it, untill you came up with the facebook thing, and then he embraced that as his exit point. It's reverse Psych no doubt like someone said earlier. But i understand where you are coming from, the confusion at being played like that-it happens.

His interest level most likely dropped from a 100% to below 20%. Someone new came on the scene, no doubt.

@ topic
If you think, then it's probably true.
There's no amount of talk u are gonna talk to him that'd change that -if it were to be true.

Obviously put you on a high pedestal-maybe he seems to think his wife isn't that high.
We all fantasize about what we can't have. The only difference is that while some only fantasize and are content-others go overboard in pursuit of their fantasy.
@topic.
Too bad for everyone involved,really.

Like someone said,change your digits-but who's to say he might not get the new one still?

LMAO.
Exactly wot i said in a recent post.
14th -just another day to get dumped.
Women. Either hate 'em or love 'em.

hehe.

@demystify
Ask him.

Protecting your neck i see,but this isn't the best place for answers. It's a win-lose situation.
Best to start looking for new job openings.

@demystify
Tell him.

@topic
Its all been said-stop generalizing.
Maybe you need to change the crowd you been moving with.

@topic
Dunno what women want, me? -Just want to be left the 'F' alone.
Overated day and people doing overated things.


The sending of Valentines was a fashion in nineteenth-century Great Britain, and, in 1847, Esther Howland developed a successful business in her Worcester, Massachusetts home with hand-made Valentine cards based on British models. The popularity of Valentine cards in 19th-century America was a harbinger of the future commercialization of holidays in the United States.

The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, making the day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year, behind Christmas. The association estimates that, in the US, men spend in average twice as much money as women.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day

First all,
We both seem to be in the same jam -spending habits that's getting way outta control. But that's where the contrast ends-as there's no gal suggesting a joint account.
Two things:
1. Fine,you go ahead and open a joint account-but what happens if the relationship ends thereafter.
2. An ex suggested that in the past,it wasn't for a joint account though-but for a joint investment.
Lets just say i was advised against it -reason being that we weren't married. Relationship ended still, so no awkward strings attached thereafter.

@ Outstrip.
It really is something else isn't it.
The type of things one reads about is a topic for another day.

John Legend -PDA

@chika
Same thing a man would be doing with a woman for 7 years.

@Sinaayo
Why the quotes?

@Virgie
My points exactly. It happened 7 times for the poster -only because he allowed it.
You give it your best shot like you said-but believe me, there are always tell tale signs right from the start.
The signs might not be noticed by you, but say by friends or family members-but most times we are often blinded by love to even notice them until its too late.

:d

Russellino abi Russel Crowe Yes i'm the one. Duh!
Wetin? You want to be the shoulder that he cries on? Well go ahead then.

It really is food for thought, init?

tope2000:
Because they are exciting
Next

It's all been said.

Sorry but you got played. Pathetic but there's nothing new under the sun really.
Lets look at the facts.
1. From your story,looks like you didn't take charge of the relationship from the start.
2. In fact, you should have seen it coming but guess you were too blinded by it all. Now interest level on her part for you is zero.

This only means two things.
1. She never really liked you,except for when you provide for her needs at every beck and call.
2. She's got someone with deeper pockets than you now. Money,power,respect. The last of which she obviously has no regard for you.

7years of your life gone? Nah, only if you see it that way. At least now you know the kind of slime she is,so why not move on and work on you career. It was never meant to be. Period.
The signs must have been there for you to see, but like i said earlier-blinded by feeble love. Until she called to say she needed space,and thats when you cried,begged or whatever it is you did. Pathetic.

What sort of weak men are we breeding these days ? Because this forum is full of such topics. 7 years of your life gone indeed -so what?

Seeing that you really truly love her -then marry her.
YES-go ahead and marry her now. Do a quiet little wedding with a handful of close friends. When you've got the big job,apartment and company car-you can then renew your vows or go for a proper honeymoon.
You don't need to break the bank to marry a girl whom you obviously love -and she'd stick by your side(highs and lows) if she sees how committed your goals and future prospects are.

Close of work should do, seeing that she's got a human shield in the form of friends protecting her.
You don't need to tell her how you feel and all,lest you scare her away. Just be yourself and let things progress naturally.
Start by spending little time together, sharing things,thoughts, and see if you got anything in common.

Forget her friends-for now. You might need them later though.

Okay so let me get this straight.
1. You were head over heels in love with your ex.
2. So much in love that you actually gave up a good job in the UK just to be with her.(were you thinking straight?)
3. She dumped you six months after you got back and your $$$$ ran out.
4. All of the friends on both sides were really insensitive towards you and you sort of disappeared.
5. You got a call telling you that she's getting married.
6. You thought you were over it but it hurts bad and you ask if you are weak or it's just natural.

To the last question :Yes you are a weakling. A dumb one at that.
And for you to come here and ask that kind of question again -shows that you'd give up another job for another girl someplace.
Nas once said :F**k who's the baddest a person's status depends on salary-you left your job,flew down to be with her-ran out of $$$$ and she left.
One thing you gotta  understand is this -ladies hate men that are weak. They look up to men who know what they want in life, and men who know where they are going in life. I'm afraid she saw through you-probably that first night after you came back and told her you quit your job to be  with her. It was just a ticking time bomb from that moment onwards. Your character and how you present yourself is much more important to women. I mean what is wrong with you man? If she couldn't join you, why didn't you take a leave of absence from work and flown down to propose to her first. If she had said no -well you'd have flown back to your job and moved on. If she had said yes,then i wouldn't be here typing on this thread would i ?
Anyways that was 3 yrs ago,so i'll cut you some slack. But have you learned anything since that time? Wrong!

Lastly, you say it hurts. Another weak attempt by you to gather sympathy,from me you get none. But i will leave you with three simple lessons/rules.  

Lesson: Rule no.1 -You never lose women, while chasing money.
            Rule no.2 - You always lose money, while chasing women.
Rule no.3 -Never forget rule no.1 and rule no.2

It's not easy to walk away -well that's what you think initially.
But then with time, you'd find that it was the best thing to have ever done.
If he doesn't appreciate you, then leave. Life's too short believe that. There are many nice guys out there.
Don't be the broken hearted girl.

Hilarious!
Okay then, you are too good for him. Agreed.
Go find some dude that's got fresh minted breath,yea that'll work. If you ask for money and he doesn't give you,at least be rest assured he's got the freshness you seek.