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Is Love a Curse??
I've got 5 words -A gift and a Curse

@moyola -your profile pic is right on the money.

Thank your stars they weren't divorces.
The problem might be with you -check yourself,step up your game-and let hooking up come naturally.
Heartbreaks happen-only when you allow it to.

@gabrywyl
It's alright no offense whatsoever.

Here we go with the stereotypes again -can't they ever stop.
So what if they fall so quickly? They fall and they pick themselves up again,init?
Stop with the generalizations, if you say most -how many have you met?

Here we go again.
What does it matter if you are single on the friggin' day.
Live your life,spend everyday with people that matter to you. Who cares about the 14th.
Just another avenue for some people to get dumped anyways.

She probably did you a favor,if she hadn't this year would have marked it 8th,and next year 9th and so on,
and you still wouldn't have had a clue of how she felt -action speaks louder than words.

Real Men do real things.

Clash of the titans. Do you listen to your mind or to your heart. Hmnnn.
Your main fear i'm afraid is that you feel your friend will think you less of a man if you go ahead with wedding his ex.
How would he react if you and your newlywed(his ex) both go visiting for dinner or meet at a party. That is your major fear.

Of course if he were not to be your friend,you would not have all these doubts as you would go ahead and marry her.
We are all someone's exes or vice versa (6 degrees of separation), the only difference is in knowing. That's what kills.

I hope the following helps in finding the answer to your question. Goodluck!

Elbert Hubbard-
Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away.

Edmund Spenser-
All for love… and nothing for reward.

Anonymous-
Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart, or burn down your house, you can never tell.

William Congreve-
Heaven has no rage, like love to hatred turned,
Nor Hell a fury, like a woman scorned.

Attachment issues or is it detachment.
It's hard to break an habit,reason why people fumble with new year resolutions after a couple of days.
Before i get ahead of myself,why be with someone whom you are obviously fed up with?
A good way to stop thinking of someone who has left a scar,is to refocus your energy on positive thinking.
Get a new wardrobe,pick up a new hobby,call old friends on the phone,learn something new,go back to school,get a new hairstyle,delete the text messages and pictures,meet new people,the list is endless.
My point is-you can do anything if you put your mind to it. Don't stay static!

Calm down indeed. Only for the issue to resurface at a later date. Y'all never forget but you forgive.

Here we go again.
At least she didn't leave you after 7 yrs, so whats the problem?
Seems to me you imagine things a lot, so i will help you out.
Here it is -imagine that you are both still going out, better still imagine this topic doesn't exist.

You say you need help.
I say you need to get your own man.
If he leaves his family for you-who is to say he won't leave you ?
So it's a win-lose situation for you. Just my thoughts,but hey what do i know.

She left. Meaning,your relationship wasn't headed anywhere in her eyes. If it were,she'd say 'no' to any suitor that had come along.
You are heartbroken. Meaning your alcoholism would only give you hangovers.
Life goes on. Go listen to Kanye West's song 'heartless',and move on with yourself.

mum's the word. That ought to help in turning the tables around.

Robin Thicke -Beautiful World

D'Angelo & Erikah Badu -Heaven Must Have Sent You