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demmie1:
List the bad leaders in Europe that you know

Is that a serious question?

It's easier for me to list those who are good (if at all I can find them) because they would be a handful.

lexy2014:
kindly negate the info the "idiot faculty" was passing across? is it buhari that sent the nigerians in the class to scotland? who are the bad leaders in europe that buhari is better than?

Oga,

I am not here to discuss Buhari. As he came he will also go but Nigeria remains.

Very sad that the average Nigerian is willing to take and talk trash about their country just because they do not like the leader.

SMH

...and the Nigerians in the class kept quiet or most likely supported the idiot faculty.

So they have run out of bad leaders in Europe to go as far as Africa to get an example?

SMDH

I am not sure I see what the fuss is about. These days the difference between a student who comes first and one who comes 5th may be 0.5%. It is possible to have a student perform very well but come a distant 19th. It is quite common, especially in lower classes like Nursery.

Edit: Just saw that the child averaged 1st to 3rd in all subjects. Yeah, the 19th position is a stretch.

Your husband had been a womanizer before you married him and his actions after your marriage indicate that he had no intention of putting that lifestyle behind him. This alone, in my view, is grounds for an annulment unless you were aware of his kind of person.

I am not sure how you missed it in the 6 years he was your boyfriend, but what you do going forward depends solely on you. The fact that you guys have a child together does not make the union valid.

Can you prove what your eyes saw without resulting to a 'he said and I said' arguement? If you do the present the matter to your direct manager and let him or her decide what happens.

If you keep it to yourself you therefore assume a role you were not employed for, and it is very possible that the good you think you want to do may come back to hunt you.

When something bad happens, "He is Nigerian" but when it is good, "He is a citizen". SMH.

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Say this to yourselves in the mirror: Ignorance will not lead me astray

The vehicle did exactly what it was designed to do. Kept the occupants alive and with as few injuries as possible. Crumple zones took most of the damage, safety cage intact, airbags deployed as designed.

But I don't expect either of you to understand the explanation above. So just repeat the statement about ignorance, and try to help yourselves

I don't think the airbags deployed, at least that of the dude in the hospital did not, otherwise he would not have hit his head against the steering wheel.

Sainturch1:
Location?

Lagos.

BrickDevo:
70k serious buyer

You may call to negotiate


PS: Still available.

Sinachi100:
85k

Thanks.

The N95k includes the delivery fee to anywhere in Nigeria.

You may call to negotiate


PS: Still available.

Dawn91:
Let's swap and you add cash on top

Thanks, but I just purchased a new phone.


PS: Still available.

Hi,

I recently upgraded and want to sell.

Price: N95k

The receipt and everything in the pack are available.

She should ensure the papers are in her name o. When kasala burst, the first thing to go are the very expensive gifts.

Great development.

I hope they include the sculptors of those who also died in that crash.

You are missed Kobe.

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

I find myself in a similar situation but with a little twist (I am not inclined to relocating abroad).

I do want my wife to go for further studies abroad to help with the kids schooling (if they choose to study abroad), but (like your wife) she is reluctant because of the wonderful bond we share. I understand her position and we are currently trying to see how we can reach a compromise. I am not sure what that is yet but it is something we are working on. If you find a workable solution, maybe you could share and help me learn from your experience.

Ayoshewa12:
Yes o, the little premature is the strong and smart baby up there.

And each and each day, she keeps reminding me how Mighty God is.

Wow.

Your post just made my day.

I join you in thanking God.

Ayoshewa12:
Thanks ❣️❣️

Hmm, ask.

Okay.

Is the little one we celebrate today the same as the beautiful and strong baby you mentioned earlier? The one born at 1.5kg? If not, I hope she is okay and doing very well?

Please feel free not to answer if the subject is touchy.

For all that it is worth, I think you are very strong. I was with my wife at the labour room for our two boys and I know first hand that the process is never easy. I cannot believe how she would have done it all alone. You did and came here to tell your story. I cannot begin to imagine all that you went through. My respect ma.

Very touching.

Happy birthday little one.

I would have loved to ask but would rather not.

I am very glad everything turned out alright.

You are very brave.

I would prefer to be with my wife than have her be in some remote location.

Just thinking out loud: what has your wife being Igbo got to do with anything?

Mehn...you are thinking too much about yourself. My thoughts...

Getting fat is expected during pregnancy. I am a bit puzzled why that should bother you. I am no doctor but I am almost sure that making her too conscious of her appearance may have some psychological effects which in turn may affect the development of the baby. Whenever my wife get's pregnant I add a few pounds because I eat almost everything she craves for. We grow fat together during pregnancy and after birth we go on a weight loss journey together. This has been working for us.

You wife may not be as lazy as you think. It takes a lot of skills to be good at making up. If she does that very well, you may want to help her see the need to commercialize that talent. Becoming a make-up artiste may just be a way for her to put what you consider negative into positive use. I don't think calling your wife "lazy" is cool though.

I would strongly recommend that you do not make your wife a promise you do not intend to keep, or make your gift to her contingent on something you want her to do or not do. Getting her a vehicle because you are tired of her using the 'family vehicle' doesn't sound right. If you buy the vehicle, but she still decides to continue using the current vehicle, what next? In my household I consider all our vehicles as 'pool cars'. Everyone has the right to use any whenever they feel like. Matter of fact, my wife's right to use any of the vehicles comes first before mine.

Not sure I touched on all the points...tired of typing.

Aduke23:
I do not know what future holds. This country's situation keep worsening everything and not making things easy. I'm an undergraduate in her penultimate year. I'm sincerely scared of life after graduation. I just really hope life wouldn't deal with me in a messy way.

Hmmmmm...

Yours is coming early. I felt exactly that way after I concluded my first degree exams. I am not sure what triggered it. Probably fear of the unknown, but I channeled that fear into creating positive energy which propelled me to achieve a bit more than I deserved. I am sure you will be fine.

CSTRR:
That is the burden of fatherhood.

You sacrifice yourself for the greater good.

Nobody else will do it.

Tough.

Imjustagirl:
Play with him a lot, wrestling, play fight, even give him a nick name. Take him out with you when you need to run small errands like buying fuel etc. Create a bond with him.

When you want to discipline him, first talk to him and correct him why it is wrong, then tell him the consequences if he repeats it next time. That is five strokes of the cane, time out without his toys or no ice cream biscuits or treats for 3 days. Adjust as applicable according to offense committed.

Always make sure you let him know he disappointed you anytime he does what you specifically told him not to do. Praise him a lot when he does well so that he will always value your validation and won't always want to do what disappoints his daddy.

When dishing out punishment, be firm and purposeful. Don't lash out in anger and hateful words so he won't think you hate him. Explain to him that he broke the rules and therefore deserves the punishment


Hope this helps

Very much appreciated.

Hilariousfacto:
Dey there dey form official best dad....I made this kind of mistake with my 3yrs old son when he was just about one year, the rate at which he caught up with everything really amazed me....I had to enforce him sleeping in separate room immediately.... Same with my last baby girl, she's also now used to sleeping separately....all these didn't come easily, nah with thorough beating self...you will be glad you did later.... I ain't gat no time for shit...I can't turn my kids to nympho at an early age all in the name of best dad....I've seen kids at under age three trying to engage in sex....in fact a tenant had to move out of our house cos her girl child was already on the high at age three....bros.....use force bfr things go out of your control

You are very brave.

Please a question...

With the beating, aren't you scared your kids may become afraid of you and in the process get disconnected into adulthood?

I love my dad dearly but he was not one to spare the rod. Overtime we got closer to our mum (our defender of the Universe back then) while our relationship with our dad became strained.

For almost two years I did not inflict any form of 'corporal punishment' on my 2 year old, but I noticed that he now exhibits some traits that require correction. I, very recently, started 'spanking' the dude, but noticed that he gets 'uncomfortable' around me whenever I am 'not happy' with him. I am a bit uncomfortable with this.

Does that happen in your case, and how do you deal with it? I guess this makes it three questions.

Thanks.

Not sure why you would suspect your wife of something I consider terrible.

...but really, if she hid this source of income from you then I presume you have some explaining to do.

Anyways, it is possible the cash is not hers.

daddytime:
I'd suggest you start now sir...the earlier the better.

You know wetin our people talk about fish wey dem bend smoke...to stretch am back straight na war...

Catch them young.

Thanks.

daddytime:
Hmmm...this is a very very tricky one.


1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

Yes, this is where you guys missed it. She should have been introduced to her room by age 3 at the latest.

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

Never, it can't be too late. It's time to let her know who's in charge and the boss.
Kids are like "puppies or dogs". They play on your intelligence and patience to an elasticity and should you fall for the " blink-first" game, you'd remain their puppy and always at their mercy.


3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

Like "NIKE", just do it.
Introduce her to her room, make her understand she's a big girl now and needs to act like one. The best person to implement this should be mummy. The trick should be to spend time with her gisting and telling her stories until she falls asleep. She'd rebel for a while but after a while she'd eventually get used to it.


4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

She shouldn't be encouraged or given any reason to ask such " adult" questions. However, in a case where you both get careless and she stumbles in on you, if you weren't caught in your "birthday suites" just tell her you and mummy were praying.


5. Is her jealousy normal?

Isn't she a girl? Ask her mummy


Enjoy my signature..

Me like your post very much.

A bit curious though at response 1. Age 3?

I have a 2 year old that is fast becoming my very own "follow-come charger". Likes to be everywhere with me. I thought it was already late introducing him to his own bedroom. Seeing your post suggests age 3 may just be the right time to do this. Is that correct, or I should start now?