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When I hear stories like this it makes me wonder one thing, where are these broke girls guys complain about?

I look at my friends and my circle of girl gang. I see the way all of us are hustling to make ends meet for ourselves without any assistance from boys or men. I look at us and I see our drive, determination, pride and passion.

Then I come to Nairaland and hear different stories. Then it just makes me wonder, where are these girls?

Stop drinking "soft" drinks entirely

I like that you are strong enough to think about that. Personally, my siblings and I bear my father's own name.

Now let me point out some of the disadvantages I noticed.

We are somewhat disconnected from the larger family. While everyone is bearing a particular surname, we are bearing something else. It feels somewhat, trust me.

There is this joy that comes when you see or reconnect with a distant relation, especially when you guys share same surname. Sometimes people trace you simply because of the familiarity of your surname. I won't know because nobody ever asked me.

Essentially, just know that you are building another branch of the family. If everyone decides to start bearing their father's name, imagine how it will go.

If he doesn't want to apologize, then let him not. I understand the need for apologies but I need you to come to terms with the situation and proceed with your life.

Remember, who you are and what you become should not be determined by your family background. You have a lot to accomplish so just get on with other things.

Just dey your own lane na

dunelsty:
and finally I see a Nigerian who loves john bellion..
that guy is my inspiration.....
nice one dear

Jon Bellion is quite popular amongst my circle. He's actually becoming mainstream.

It has its moods. These days I have been playing Ellie Goulding's Army on repeat. I remember when it used to be Scars to your Beautiful by Alessia Cara, Second Hand Heart by Ben Haenow, Hand of God by Jon Bellion.

Yes na

Abi na only boys dey get urge?

Tedassie:
yeah,14yrs vacation in Kirikiri maximum prison exclusively for u both

*sighs* how romantic¿

coman beat me,i dey haus

Drop your address na. See whether you no go chop slap

safarigirl:
and Nigerian men are the model ones abi?

At least AJ is in Britain, so he will date the girls around him. You don't expect him to date Nigerian women

You people are in Nigeria with the likes of Uche Jombo and Ufuoma, yet, oyibo snatched them from under your noses and you want to list bad manners of Naija girls? Chris Attoh snatched Damilola from under your noses as well.

The unfortunate naija women that spend their lives with naija men end up running away because of his animalistic ways.

Before you critic the ladies, don't forget, na the same mama wey train those 'gluttonous' women train the men too, so, na the same character dem go comot with

If the women are bad, the men too are bad.

If this Nicole girl now was a Nigerian girl, y'all would call her olosho, baby mama and all that, but because she's British, you won't talk the usual smack.

Make una just dey una lane before we wash our dirty linens outside

You deserve a vacation trip for this comment

I can't help it. I love love stories!!!!

Happy Married life to these beautiful couple

Safiaaa:
You are a guy though. A guy behind this account

Biko do I know you from anywhere?

dingbang:
lol.... Wetin u go do Luna...

I will show her the error of her ways

Smellymouth:
Mr Color rainbow, name one time when you don dress well. Just one time..

Wetin this man do una

Hay God.

See fine children. No wonder some people wanna marry white people just for this kind of fineness.

Choi. Buttercakes truly

DavidTheGeek:
Hasn't seen Part 1 sef.. Who will take me out ooooo?

Look for the mp4 of it. It is no longer showing in the cinemas.

dingbang:
I don't think he asslicker... He just didnt want to go extreme

I think he was too mild though. How can someone you haven't known for long start almost harassing you for money to make hair? The guts of some girls though...

If I were a guy ehhhhh

Just look at them.

The girl was not joking, she wanted the guy to give her the money for real. She turned everything back to him when she discovered he won't.

The guy was polite and sensible, but he's still an a_ss licker. Was expecting him to put the girl in her place but he still suckered up to her. Continue, you will surely create a Nairaland thread soon

The fact that you are not seeing the suitors does not mean they are not there.

Not everyone is sociable and relaxed like that to the point of letting people into their homes that way.

And who has plenty boys visiting you helped?

alex20009:
Please do u v idea what we r being assessed on the video interview

I don't think anyone has a clear idea at this point. Just sit pretty and wait.

shogz89:
Did my video test 16th but haven't got another mail apart from the first one sent upon completion... those tht got regret mail pls was your assessment good, excellent,mixed or competent?

It is not by what words were used during assessment apparently.

nabegibeg:
you dont want chicken and chips, shawarma and fresh fish ?

Everything has its mood and time na

crimebusters:
no wonder your mess no get part two

Excuse me, do I know you?

Yes oooo

For lunch and dinner

factwriter:
Your response is somewhat laden with emotion, probably you have related with people (mother/child) who were once victims or (with due respect), yourself was a victim.

Whichever the case, the fact that you appear to have had a first-hand encounter with this issue evidently compromises your judgement.

In other words, you are being too extreme with your prescription.

If Nairaland were a more private (IM) forum I could have delve into my personal experience and show you how a "now blossoming" marriage was almost dissolve based on similar prescription like the one you are giving.

There's always a light at the end of the tunnel, what matters is just how high we can hold our heads up and how encouraging those we lean on could be.

Thumbs up for all the "enduring mothers" of the world.
I made it here today because a mother was there yesterday.

At this point, all I am going to say is that you have your point of view, I have mine and that is enough for me.

Mindfulness:
Every adult should have something to fall back on. This is nothing but wisdom. Even if you have the best husband in the world, he might get sacked or die prematurely. You never know. Be prepared.

Exactly.

factwriter:
Leave with their kids

You mean the kids she brought from her father's house or the one she had for the man? I thought a child belongs to both biological parents.

Do you know what happens to children raised outside marriage?
Do you realise how tough it can be for a single woman to successfully raise " disciplined and morally upright" children alone?

Everyone here seem only concern about "the woman", nobody appear to be considering the disadvantage of such decisions upon the children.

While I strongly condemn domestic violence (especial when it's unleashed on women being the weaker sex), I firmly believe that protection of any one spouse against domestic violence, be the man or woman, is the responsibility of the LAW and ACTS governing a land.

In the America, UK and the likes nobody tells you not to beat your wife, do so and go to jail while that same woman you abused "gets to remain in your house to enjoy the comfort and security" needed to raise the children she bore for you.

Again protection against domestic violence is the responsibility of the LAW.
Telling an aggrieved spouse to move out simply before she has a sustainable financial means is selfish cause you are putting the general future of the children at risk.

Thank you for taking your time to write that article.

Do you know how hard it is as a child to watch your father constantly abuse your mother?

Do you know how many times you begged your mother to leave but she won't?

Do you know how it's like to wake up in the morning and resent your father every single day?

Or how about the cries at night your mom thinks nobody hears?

How about if she dies and your dad goes to jail and you end up with some dumb uncle and aunt, separated from your siblings forever?

Yes, it will affect the kids to grow up without their father. But it is way better than watching your mother get abused.

Any woman strong enough to leave should leave, not because of herself alone, but because of her kids too.

9jayes:
Them don come

Final advice for women, never ever stop making money. Don't sacrifice it for anything. The reason why most women can't leave is because they can't afford to be alone with their kids.

Have the number of kids YOU can personally afford and make sure you keep making money to the point that if violence becomes a trend, you can easily leave with your kids.

If you tell these abusive guys to beat their fellow men for road them no go gree o.

But they will come home to form boss for their wives

Cut your cloth accordingly. You must not have a wedding that will be featured in a newspaper. You must not have a wedding better than your friends own.

Do what you have to do with what you have. Everything depends on the bride and groom. If they share the same mindset, all these unnecessary expenses will be cut off.

Wedding is one day, marriage is forever.

If you really want to go big, either have a truckload of money or wait till your fifth anniversary.

Datevilme:
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Previous experience is an added advantage.

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What exactly is the role of the person here?

Finally unblocked.

That is how one mod blocked me for what I did but don't regret.

I was by the sideline reading all the gists but couldn't contribute

How market?