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It is obvious she still Luvs her Ex, but she is scared if she moves in with him again she cud become bored with him once more.
Chinedu might not b too happy to take her back. It's complicated in a way.

The problem is that, she doesn't want the gold digger to rip where she did not sow!

She apparently still Luvs the Ex and is simply Jealous seeing him with another woman.

The question is what shd she do now, since it obvious she still has so much feeling for the ex, and wud always hav that scar and rage seeing him with another woman.

^^^ give advise or u ignore and move on. Does every story that doesn't sound plausible to u mean is phoney? Open ur eyes man, things dey happen.

^^and ur advise is

dady2011:
Bola (or Macjve01), you are a very sick, ungrateful and crazy woman who do not know what is good for her.  If you are so silly and foolish to let this man go, u will regret it. Nursing is one of dirtiest Job no one want to do except blacks like u in record numbers because no one will hire u in any other profession. how dear u insult a man like love and take care of business at home like that. where are u going to find such type of men that will cook, do house chores, take care of the baby and love u? your response to his love and kindness is to cheat on him and rub it on his face.

Those good for nothing Tugs that u are sleeping around with now will never do that, they will never treat u like a woman, they will get u pregnant, u will beg them to marry u and give them your money, yet they will take it and dump u like a hot poteto. U are probably sleeping with Doctors in your huspital, he will never marry u, u are waisting your time chasing shadow. God help u if u get HIV/AID, u will end up a single and unhappy woman, then u will run back to Nigeria to beg him, he will refuse u and move on with his life witha woman who will respect him. That man should walk out of this abusive relation before u kill him, if u are not careful u will end up in jail.

you are not differernt from the crazy woman in this youtube video

Part 1:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U93BBNq5A64

Part2:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MONNcL1Rglw&feature=related

abeg stick with the bola

MaziUche0:
You do know the word "democracy" could mean a lot of things in different context. People in the U.K. have a different view of "democracy" from those in the United States. Many Iranians are perfectly fine with their "democracy."

I prefer the Chinese model. Especially in turns of developing. Democracy is not a prerequisite for development.

abeg no mention chinese model, it cant work in Nigeria. china is a mono-ethnic nation, the hans are almost 92% of the population.

Imagine having such in Nigeria,

what wud be the representation ratio in the governing council ?

of course every tribe wud want a representation, isn't it?

then how wud decisions be made ? voting ? of which the hausa representation wud have the highest and hence wud definitely skew the decisions to favor Northerners and islam first before anything even if it is not economically viable or makes sense.  

back to square one

As i will tell my friends, democracy is precisely wat we need as it cuts across ethnic lines, pinning one fraction against another instead of the disastrous tribe against tribe.

All this country needs is that disciplined, focus, incorruptible leader with an actual vision of what height he wud want the country to attain.

If the president is not bribing senate president with oil-wells, there wud be better checks on the presidency.

If the president is disciplined, he wud sack any officer that err. Be it minister, lecturer etc.

If the president is focused, he wud ensure budgets are implemented.

If the president has an actual vision, be it mass industrialization, tourism or farming, he cud then direct the economy and development to attain it.

^^ hahahahaha

^^ that list is 1980 edition, check out the 2011 edition.

dey no born u well to think abt marrying two wife. . . lol

^^ mehn, watching the above video is damn! i found mysef cringing all thru.

is she a kid? she doesnt have to read anything knowing she is not good at it.

(saw this in the family section)

While i was on internet searching for typical Nigerian traditional wedding list,I came across this and I just wanna ask if it is for real . If this is the list in real life then no man will marry me ooo,except Bill Gate pikin . . . Lol


"People , help oo. My friend has just fainted. He just received the following list from his in-laws for their traditional marriage next year.

This is after he and said wife have been married for about 3 years and 2 kids later."


Insult to the Family For making her have a baby before "marriage"
1. One She Goat
2. One bottle of St. Remy
3. Two Carton of Star Beer
4. Two crates of soft drinks
5. One bottle of native gin
6. Two Bottles of wine
7. N10,000.00

Consultation marriage list for the father (MBUP)
1. 2 bottles of three in one whisky
2. 1 carton of Explendido Brandy
3. 10 litres of native gin
4. 10 cartons of star beer
5. 6 bottles of Gordon Gin
6. 3 cartons of small stout
7. 1 carton of wine
8. 10 Jars of palm wine
9. 3 Heads of Tobacco
10. 3 line stones
11. 3 bunches of cola nuts
12. 1 bottle of grinding sniff
13. 1 roll of Benson and hedges cigarettes
14. 1 packet of matches
15. cash of N5,000.00 for breaking of cola

Full Proper Marriage List for the father
1. 2 pieces of hollandis Wax
2. 1 Chieftaincy shirt
3. 1 hat
4. 1 big towel
5. 1 pair of shoes and socks
6. 1 walking stick
7. 1 wrist watch
8. 1 dozen underwear
9. 1 she goat with N10,000 for cutting goats head
10. Matchet with cover and beet
11. 15 cartons of star beer
12. 5 cartons of champion beer
13. 2 cartons of brandy
14. 3 bottles of 3 in one whisky
15. 1 caron of wine (Don Morris)
16. 5 crates of minerals (Soft drinks)
17. 4 crates of Guinness malt
18. 4 heads of Tobacco
19. 1 bottle of grinding snuff
20. 4 line stones
21. 4 bunches of cola nuts
22. 1 smal basin and knife for the cola nuts
23. 15 Jars of palm win
24. 20 liters of native gin
25. 1 modern brief case with N150,000

For the mother – consultation (MBUP)
1. 6 bottles of campari
2. 4 crates of minerals (soft drinks)
3. 2 crates of Guinness Malts
4. I piece of English wax
5. 1 blouse
6. 1 basin with cover full of crayfish
7. 1 Head tie
8. 2 bags of salt
9. basin with pepper

For the Mother – Full marriage (proper marriage)
1. 2 pieces of Dutch Wax and one lase
2. 3 assorted blouses
3. head tie (canopy)
4. 2 Paris of shoes
5. one wrist watch + 1 dozen of brassiers
6. 1 hand bag and 6 underwear
7. 1 big basin full of crayfish with cover
8. 1 big basin full of pepper with cover
9. 3 bags of salt
10. 1 umbrella
11. 1 suit –case with N50,000
12. 1 caton of Eva wine
13. 1 big bottle of Yago wine
14. 4 crates of Guinness malt
15. 4 crates of minerals (soft ddrinks)
16. 1 bag of rice
17. 5 tubers of yams

Nto Ete (family members)
1. 3 cartons of star beer
2. 1 bottles of St. Remy
3. 3 Jars of palm wine
4. 1 roll of besson and hedges cigarette
5. 1 packets of matches
6. Nka Ekong of N10,000

Youth
1. Football
2. 1 bottle of gin
3. 1 roll of St. Morris cigarette
4. 1 packet of matches
5. N2,000

Iban Nda Usung (Women Vanguard)
1. 1 bottle of wine
2. 1 crates of minerals (soft drink)
3. N1,500 in cash

Grand Father (Uncle)
1. piece of wax loin cloth
2. 1 long sleaves shirt
3. 1 bottle of brandy
4. 1 wrist watch.

EDem Eka
1. 1 carton of beer
2. 1 bottle of brandy
3. 1 Jar of palm wine
4. 1 piece of English wax
5. 1 long sleaves shirt
6. 1 bag of salt


HELP!!!!!!!

she cant even tell him she is going to zimba becos Mugbabe still dey there.

pleep:
well, if she leaves the rich German guy for the Nigerian guy the German dude probably wont take her back.   and the Nigerian man will dump her as soon as he gets his VISA. haha

she says the naija guy luvs her for real and really wants to marry her. As a naija mysef i have doubts abt such, but . . .she seems to be so so into this guy yet she doesnt want to lose the German.

i was thinking to advise her to tell her German she needs to visit Africa, then use the opportunity to arrange for the guy, but she needs to divorce him first!. and that wud mean his consent. lawyers. And the court.

verdict: TOUGH. Bleep

pleep:
This is sad. just stay with the german dude you gold digging LovePeddler.

one might be tempted to say that but if she does it she wud be losing her naija guy. i dont know, but i dont think she is ready to lose him just yet.

@shy-one, u re one hell of a funny girl.

^^ sloppy ? how? 

wudn't end well?? so, whats ur advise ?

Hi Nairaland,

Seriously, i 've this friend, a woman friend (nothing sexual) from Zimbabwe but she is a German citizen, she is married to this rich German.
i met her thru a friend at a party and have known her since then to be a nice person. she has got a problem now anyway, her husband has erectile dysfunction and, I believe becos of that, he doesn't question Tebogo's sexual practices.

Now Tebogo has met a young Nigerian chap in London, and they are more or less into it whenever she comes down to London. The problem is, the Nigerian needs a VISA, his current one is just about to run out, so he is desperate and wishing to "marry off "Tebogo from her German man.

Tebogo has confided in me that she needs her German- he LAVISHES and  BATHES her in money and stuffs,  but she is also luving the naija guy- he does it good according to her and is also nice to her. 

She is asking me if it will be ok for her to divorce her German and subsequently marry the naija guy to enable him secure the Visa, then After two years, when the naija wud hav secured indefinite stay, she wud divorce him and go back to her German.

The case tire me. Abeg wetin una think?

lol

^^,

but seriously the situation is very dicey.

IMHO I think she shd stick with the present guy. Tho she cud still b sleeping with the ex once once- nt more than once in a month, if that wat she likes. But let the new guy no know abt am ooh . . Or else ?

beync, re u of the opinion she goes back to her ex ?

Also, to be fair on the lady, if she keeps him any longer he might, realizing she is going to ditch him,  snap and who knows. the kitchen knife does the job pretty good enuf these days.

so folks consider the girl's fears and concern and the above , b4 offering your advice please

i don't know, but i wud believe it was the devil.

i think she shd choose.  .   .em . lol, its not easyooh

it complicated, if she goes with chinedu, ok that might sound good. she wud continue to dev her new relationship, but how abt the uncertainties? when he is down how will he react ?
has he got plans for marriage with her?

then option 2

if she goes with her Ex, now they have both seen the worst of both worlds and might be able to understand each other better and having been there, left her and back again shows he has realized that she is the one for him.

it actually tougher than it seems.



where is chaircover, ifyalways and other sagacious advise experts,  abeg u guys re needed urgently ooh, please come and help a sister.

izeek:
Get a grip of yourself. If you are truthful with you, the answer lies not far off.

. . . and what cud it be (the ans) ?