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Tutu82:
This thread is a few years old but am interested as am after some help.
Hi,

I live in London and recently welcomed a set of Triplets.I intend to stay at home for two years to tend to the babies but would need some help i.e a live in Nanny to join me and cook,clean and care for the babies with me.

I would provide accomodation,feeding,Sundays off and £600 (£1-750 that’s 450,000 monthly if you would rather be paid in Naira).

I have also considered bringing a nanny/househelp from Nigeria to look after my baby and learn the ropes but Domestic visas is a pain and young girls come here to disappear.I don’t want to have any issues so not facilitating visas.

Please contact me if you live in London or looking for this sort of Job role.If anyone knows any agency details am open to the information too.Not bothered about religion but would prefer an African as would like babies to learn culture and manners.Must be Female and above 21years of age.

Thank you.

Hi Tutu, I know this has been a while. I find myself in need of a nigerian nanny and would like to know how you resolved yours and if you have anyone you can link me to. I live around croydon.

[quote author=Tutu82 post=115908389]This thread is a few years old but am interested as am after some help.
Hi,

I live in London and recently welcomed a set of Triplets.I intend to stay at home for two years to tend to the babies but would need some help i.e a live in Nanny to join me and cook,clean and care for the babies with me.

I would provide accomodation,feeding,Sundays off and £600 (£1-750 that’s 450,000 monthly if you would rather be paid in Naira).

I have also considered bringing a nanny/househelp from Nigeria to look after my baby and learn the ropes but Domestic visas is a pain and young girls come here to disappear.I don’t want to have any issues so not facilitating visas.

Please contact me if you live in London or looking for this sort of Job role.If anyone knows any agency details am open to the information too.Not bothered about religion but would prefer an African as would like babies to learn culture and manners.Must be Female and above 21years of age.

Thank you.


Hi Tutu, I know this has been a while. I find myself in need of a nigerian nanny and would like to know how you resolved yours and if you have anyone you can link me to. I live around croydon.

advanceDNA:
U are speaking a lot of theory and fallacy.....I have not seen a man that will see his wife as competitive for suggesting help when he needs it ...that man doesnt exist....
.. men are egoist doesnt mean men will despise their wife for offering to help...

We men are used to doing things all by our self not because we dont want help but because no one helps us from the start....society expects us to pull it off...society mocks us if we cant and call us broke and all manner of names.. same dont happen to women.......

Usually, Men dont ask their wife either because of the kinda of wife they have or because of what they has heard and seen about women..but not because they dont want..
.. if ur husband borrow u money...its gone... but if e reach una turn ....wahala... who wants stress from wife at home askimg for money she gave him

Mr, this is a very wrong assertion. Speak for yourself and not 'all men'. Do you know there are men that locks up their wife and threaten harm unless she sends him all her salary for the month? There are families where the woman pays all bills (rent, school fees, feeding) because her salary covers it but the ungrateful men in their lives will want her to bring what she has saved up after family expenses. Stop saying we men we men like all men are roped into one perfect spectrum. Please speak for yourself. There are terribly insecure baby men all over. Dont get me started on those that will seize wife's car keys.

Hi Nairalanders,

My husband and did our biometrics on 6th September. I am the primary applicant and paid for priority, I got my Visa 15 days later but my husband is yet to get his. There has been no email from TLS or UKVI since application.

What do you suggest we do? should I be worried?

Labelle:
Please how can i pay the 55 pounds? its rejecting my gtb dollar card

Hi Please did you make the payment? how were you able to resolve the card rejection as i'm facing the same issue.

Regards

[quote author=lantrenzo post=116206277][/quote]Hi, Please how were you able to get a date and what date did you get. I have been trying to book for 2 days now and all dates are grayed out on TLS.

LagosismyHome:
What category is this

skilled worker visa (3 years). I am the main applicant.

[quote author=LagosismyHome post=116021561]Hi LagosismyHome,

Thanks for your responses.

Please I have an issue with the IHS payment. I was charged 2290 dollars for IHS but when I was about paying for my spouse as the dependent, they charged us 2640 dollars. Any idea why the difference in amount charged?

Thanks

Was about buying from them and decided to check the reviews on mainland. Thank goodness.

How old is the microwave pls

That's her anthem...disrespect

Anita said it was domestic violence.

I remember watching Paul in an interview with AM igbo at his house, he said women should stop going through their husband's phone as that more than anything causes problems in marriage.

Whatever be the case, Anita is a grown woman and knows what's best for her.

PS. she left wealth, fame, MRS title in the face of violence, but all the hide my ID crew members that don't have a stick to their name, what is their excuse again?

Kingpin1000:
You go come my house, chop my food, collect money for my hand, want still chop kpekus wey I dey chop... that one no do you, you took it further to scatter my marriage..
No be Juju be that?

You are crazy AF

Tripitaka:
Its mindboggling, the way prostitution thrives in our society unashamedly. Yes its called the oldest profession, but at least the indulgers were not as brazen as what we have now.

Social media has also elevated the stupidity in people. You know fully well that your wealth was gotten by I'll means, yet you go on SM praising a God who is not part of your "hardwork".

It's same reason people lunder money to make it legit. Someone told the world the source of her grades (aggressive malpractice) and she's in trouble. That's why the tag will continue to be 'God did it's and not puccy did it.

Marrvelous:
How can I sell my xsmax 256 on this platform oyin

Please how much do you want to sell and can you drop your contact.

The man Kidnapped the baby. Check the meaning of kidnap before saying she is been too harsh.

@OP, I can just imagine the heartache you've been through over your girl. just be strong and keep praying for her. Hopefully, the man is a good and attentive parent to his daughter and did not just abandon her with his parent in some village.

Still not knowing is worse. The best option for you is to get private investigators here in Nigeria if you have the money. If you can establish where she is, it will be easy to get her back. Here in Nigeria, especially for a daughter, it's easy for a mum to get custody. Although they will question why you've waited five years. I too wonder same (not judging though).

Another option is to come down to Nigeria yourself and report to the embassy. They will take it up from there. If only you know his state, you will report to his state and get him apprehended if still in the country.

You could also table your issue with strong feminists that are also activist online. NGOs can help too. They will use their influence and connections to help.

Another option is to let go. Difficult as it might be, if you do not have the means to get your girl back, you might just have to make peace with the issue and live your life as happy as you can be. Marry (be truthful to your husband about your girl), have other kids and be happy. Keep a strong online presence incase your ex looks for you to connect you to your girl or your baby decides to look for you. (NB...even as i'm typing this option my heart is breaking on your behalf)

November24:
Lusting after your whorish mother yes!

coming from a person speaking ill of TB and calling his believers baby Christian. SMH

pepperdemzombie:
In the shadow and envious of a drug addict, drunkard, irresponsible, liar, thief, loud mouth, uncouth, incestous, used and dumped shameless prostitute? Ha!

you reek of bitterness and envy. Get a life bruh

OP are you sure you have a Benz LEEMAO

Well, i have not had any experience with village envy, but stories my dad used to tell about it scared me so bad i don't go to the village. I do not even upload or flaunt my life on social media because i have cousins on my timeline. such is my fear .

I don't even plan on building a house in my village. When the time comes I'll do it in Awka.

Though I can't prove what my dad said, but he was spiritually strong so I'd rather be stupid believing him and avoiding village people than be wise and ruin everything.

pepperdemzombie:
Churchill NEVER married Tonto! She said she paid her own bride price, so she married herself! Even with bride price in hand, NO Igbo man can marry her. Churchill was still married when she did Introduction and engagement with him, why didn't you call her an idiot back then when she was pretending to be part of Churchill's NGO but fvcking him? She has collected her bride price back, so she is no longer with Churchill. She has moved on and paraded different men, she is with a married man with 3 children in Abuja now, whose properties and cars she is flaunting to fuel her fake life.
Where was your comment when she was flaunting men? RMD was also rumoured to be dating Jumobi before his wife died. They started dating later and got married. Make una leave Churchill alone, Tonto is not someone you can recommend for any member of your family.

Again, you sound like Tonto's shadow. You also sound envious.

some women have that mentality. maybe because growing up, that's what was attainable in her family. That's also the expectation of the Nigerian society. There are men who want a full time house wife they will provide for and there are women who only want to be a housewife. You failed to establish the kind of woman she is during courtship.

That said, try the carrot and stick approach. Is your wife a graduate, you can talk to her about getting a job or start a trade (though i wonder where the money will come from). And really someone at this age and experience that don't know how or what to do to help a husband, forcing her might bring resentment. and she might likely fail at whatever she's forced to do due to lack of interest. You might try the stick approach. Don't drop money for a week and see exactly what she will do. like try to not even feed the kids and see the extent of her laziness. I think her actions will guide you on the next step to take.

I pray favour finds you again. May God bless and provide for you. i really don't know how a family can be happy without money.

SmellySperm:
Keep it up baby girl

But real virgins don't actually brag about it tho

Maybe they should. so girls can emulate their likes other than those slay queens/hoes with pride that we see everywhere. If they can brag about it then virgins should do same.

When kids go online what trends, crossdressing, baby mamas, hide my Ids etc. What are they likely to gravitate to?.

Been a virgin till marriage has lots of advantages to it with little or no downsides.

[quote author=pepperdemzombie post=101617157]Not as shameless as Tonto fvcking The football Uche brothers as confirmed bt SDK and bringing bad luck to their career. She is yet to deny it. Tonto na oloribururuku.
They were not yet dating when she accused them, Churchill was still a married man when she got pregnant for him and married him


You must have been a fly on the wall when all things Tonto went down.

where una dey see this kind women marry.

It’s always important to plan your life and as much as possible stick to the plans you’ve laid down especially for ladies.

A smart and determined lady will finish school, get a well paid job or business, even further studies before marrying.

I was pregnant when I registered for MBA. I have a live in nanny (49). She has five grown up kids and in all honesty knows how to handle kids better than myself. I leave my baby with her and go to work. I practically don’t do anything at home except weekends when I make sure the nanny goes home so I can stay with my baby. I don’t let people shame me with negativity for pursuing career and education above all. It’s not a bed of roses but you can make it work.

Have an understanding husband (KEY) and really follow your dreams regardless. In the marriage-career race, You don’t have to sacrifice one for the other.

These ladies want to spoil market for other forbeschick aspirant.

GboyegaD:
It is a two way street. There's also the tendency of them ending up as nuisance. Remember he needs work harder to give them the life he wants which could mean he might not have adequate time to raise them..

They can also end up as nuisance in Nigeria.

For the man to have done this, he planned adequately for it. Raising them might not be an issue. There really are good fathers.

Zzor:
That man is a good man,I can see through her post

This is relative really. A man can be a bad husband but a good father. The two roles are mutually exclusive.

@ poster I know you are hurt but look on the bright side, if they are truly in the UK don’t do anything to sabotage that move and bring them back to this Nigeria. They have a better future in UK than in Nigeria. If he is a good father and you know they’ll be fine with him, as painful as it can be, let them stay in UK with him. You look for a way to negotiate constant communication with them to stay in touch that’s paramount.

Then take the separation to develop yourself, I mean you’ve been given a ticket out of a bad marriage. Channel the pain and heartbreak to pursue success. Your kids will ALWAYS remain your kids. And who says you can’t relocate yourself to UK to be close to your kids?. Hopefully you are an independent woman. You can achieve a lot if you set your mind to it. But really don’t drag those kids back to Nigeria.

Liposure:
very ugly thing. My dick will never rise if she tempts me

Your girlfriend or wife was watching you type so just had to type this...

Let her boast.

If runs girls can boldly showoff their trade and skills I don't see why a virgin shouldn't.

baralatie:
he is not bored but is no longer interested because of improved status

his decision is no different from a classic case where a road side mechanic is married to a fellow bread seller .10 years down the line the bread seller is now a chartered accountant and works at kpmg.
now she wants a divorce because the road side mechanic is no longer upgradeable

I get it totally. All I’m saying is that the couple are not in sync in the first place. If they were, they will grow together in their various fields of interest. Men marry waec holders and encourage/ sponsor them to become graduates. It boils down to the level of commitment in the relationship.

@ op If you are not bored with her and she’s interested in improving herself, you can correct the past mistake by talking to her(not in a condescending manner please), encouraging and sponsoring her in her chosen interest. Try to build up your relationship and if that fails you can walk away knowing you did your best.

It’s not a norm but it’s not a taboo. But your focus should be on your personal happiness. If you are no longer happy in the relationship or marriage then take a walk.

P.S You are supposed to grow together. If you say ‘bored’ that’s more understandable.