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A friend wants to know how to stay out of the attention of women who don't want to stay in the friend zone?

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MrBrownJay1:
bro, just because you dont see their marriage as "legal" is for you to deal with...many people only do traditional and church wedding....and they go on to live wonderful lives together. furthermore, the fact that you think that this man is against "making their marriage legal" while they are already legally married, is why you will never see this issue from his point of view.

the op doesnt want them to divorce because he is seekeing for ways to have this man change his mind.... he is just as biased as you are. you guys should open your minds and accept that there is something seriously wrong here and these two should have NEVER gotten married. now, differencies arise and you want this man to lay down and open his nyansh so he can be royally sodomised in every ways this lady desires. haba! have some respect for this dude bro. the man said NO, why dont you guys accept that for a change!

what is standard practice will work for standard people,... today many dont even get married and have baby mamas instead, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. so stop trying to make this court marriage issue like a do or die mission, and instead try to UNDERSTAND this man

I didn't use the word 'legal' in the context of "legitimacy' I'm simply referring to the 'registry/state marriage' for lack of a better term due to its use of legal documentation. Just like someone who says he is in the legal profession doesnt mean everyother profession is illegal, I'm not suggesting any of the others is inferior. The man simply didn't give any real reasons for refusing it. And until we know what agreement they had prior to the wedding and what transpired like I pointed out before, we would all be making wrong assertions.
I do not want to turn this into an argument. I think I have covered enough ground for my opinion on this matter.

MrBrownJay1:
i see it as a new marriage, as only a newlywed can deman for such, i dont even believe they have kids yet.

sadly, in all your write up, you never for once mention divorce, making me believe that you think they should stay together even though they are incompatible on this very important marital issue. says a lot about your mindset.

as i said earlier... if push comes to shove, then let them part ways with no regrets, et voila!

I am of the opinion they are newly weds from a rushed marriage and that's why they don't seem to be in agreement about something as basic as legalizing the union. In most churches, you go through an intensive course for months before you are even allowed to marry and these issues would be raised during the course, you are even required to get the legals done before the church can wed you or alternatively have the legal registers signed during the event.

It makes absolutely no sense that this man newly got married and already is against getting it legalised. I can't see where she is wrong for demanding something that is standard practice for most newly weds.

However if she had accepted to boycott legals and now suddenly demands it, then i agree something is fishy. In the absence of that, the man should tell her why he doesn't want it and his reasons better be compelling.

The OP wouldn't come here seeking our opinion if he wanted them to part ways, suggesting they get divorced is not in any way useful to the topic at hand nor respectful to the OP.

MrBrownJay1:
you are the one who said that it was this man who asked her hand in marriage, and i just pointed out to you that they WERE indeed already married.... whether she likes it or not. so technically, YES, if she is pushing for a court/registry marriage then she indeed wants another marriage to recognize their union.



and yet, you dont think that this man could also be taken for a ride, like many are? your message is one sided.



well here is a clue: she "supposedly" has money he doesnt, so such marriage could LEGALLY have her take his kids away, when she divorces and portray herself as the only able person to care for them..... if she was indeed richer, then she wouldnt really care about all this because a good lawyer would do the trick (whether court marriage or otherwise). it is very easy to confirm who the unmarried parents of a child are AND a person with money would easily have lawyers show them as the best parent to get custody.

now remember, this man DOES NOT want to have such marriage, and he is ADAMANT about it as thats his wish. dwell on that and tell us all why he should not stand for what he desires, and instead conform to what SHE wants?

I think we seem to approach this topic from different angles and we would both appear to be correct unless we had all the information from the OP. While I see this as a new marriage, probably a case where they just got married and she is wondering why they haven't completed the legal bit, you probably see it as a marriage that has been on for years even with grown kids and I can understand why her sudden demand for legalisation would raise a red flag about her commitment to the union, especially if it didnt bother her for years. The OP didnt say how long they were married and thats why we have conflicting opinions. I would also refer you to this post I made. I think the Op can find solutions from asking these questions as well.

majorbravo:
I think if the man had made it clear that he isn't interested in court/registry marriage before they actually performed the other marital ceremonies and she had accepted it then, something would look very fishy that she demands it now. However if they never had this discussion prior to marriage it is only fair for her to desire full marital privilege.
The man should've explained that he doesnt want it before proposing and listened out for her response before going ahead with the ceremony. It's standard practice for married people to get legal proof of their union. Someone isn't telling the whole truth here.
This dispute rather has the symptoms of a rushed or arranged marriage. OP can find out who is really acting funny by asking his sister if she knew it before his proposal. That would solve this whole quandary

Did she know he wasn't interested in the legals prior to the marriage and accepted to stay with him? The motive can only be discussed and analysed if this information were given.

somehow:
Here is one:

What stops them from getting a pre-nup. Ain't no way I'm gonna let anyone marry my daughter if they don't register it with the church and the law. He should be looking to answer to God if he decides to jet, and also lose half his property if he thinks he can just go marry someone else after he's done reaping her off.

MrBrownJay1:
bro you are the one who was quick to make a biased post against this man, and who therefore should also do the same for women.



so in your opinion they are NOT yet married, abi?



sorry i dont have a crystal ball, the only thing i know is that this man and this lady are ALREADY married, and he "vehemently" does not want to do any more marriage (whether court, astral or mental)



yet the reason this woman is NOT satisfied with their marriage, and is hell bent on having another marriage (court) is because of what may happen to the kids WHEN they divorce... and you have the audacity to say that this woman is not thinking of divorce and what not?!

They are not having another marriage ceremony bro. It's simply registration of the marriage(that's why it's called registry) so the state is aware of it's existence.

If you have ever seen rushed or arranged marriages, some of them turn out this way. In my opinion this woman is just trying to ensure she is not abandoned like the woman in scenario number 2 I gave in my first post.

I'm still waiting for an example why she would marry him to get a divorce. Did you not read the OP said her father paid for the entire ceremony. It's definitely not monetary satisfaction she is after. She just doesn't want a situation where the man married her to enrich himself and then jet. The talk of kids is what she would tell the OP as a sibling, we both know there is more to it.

Tellemall:
He should've stated his preference for polygamy before marriage.

I think if the man had made it clear that he isn't interested in court/registry marriage before they actually performed the other marital ceremonies and she had accepted it then, something would look very fishy that she demands it now. However if they never had this discussion prior to marriage it is only fair for her to desire full marital privilege.
The man should've explained that he doesnt want it before proposing and listened out for her response before going ahead with the ceremony. It's standard practice for married people to get legal proof of their union. Someone isn't telling the whole truth here.
This dispute rather has the symptoms of a rushed or arranged marriage. OP can find out who is really acting funny by asking his sister if she knew it before his proposal. That would solve this whole quandary

MrBrownJay1:
bravo sir, now can you also post 2 examples of how this woman could be deceitful in her pursuit of court marriage.... OR do you nelieve that she could never have an ulterior ill motive in this saga?!?!

here is just a clue: she is stating from the get go that she doesnt want to lose her children... so do you think that she should keep these children if hubby discovers that she is a danger to them, insane or looking to use them as money ritual?!?!? oh yeah, the husband too can come up with any negative example about women to make a point (like you did).

Do enlighten me with some examples please, let's assume for a moment that I don't know what harm she could bring.

Isn't it the man who proposes marriage? If he thinks her a terrible woman why ask her for her hand in marriage in the first place? How does staying away from the registry stop a mad person from being a danger to the kids in the marriage?

There is something the OP has implied without spelling out and that is the fact they think the husband may not genuinely be interested in the woman perhaps he got her pregnant before a quick marriage was planned, or probably because of some material gain and as such, the need for them to really cement the marriage in such a way he doesn't get an easy exit.

Call me misinformed if you must but I don't see why a woman would be interested in securing a recognised legal union just to end up as a divorcee later on if she just wanted him for kids. Most women like this don't even want kids to begin with (you have to consider the fact that this is happening in Nigeria where single mothers are frowned on) and the man has to be really rich(at least more than she is) to even facilitate such an intention.

Chaclaitmilk:
Personally I think he wants to keep his option of getting a second wife open. Am just guessing though since the guy is from a polygamy family.

Take this example of 2 men who vowed never to get married in the court/registry.

The first had been married for some years, one day he abandoned his family without obtaining legal closure. He now wants to marry another girl who isn't aware of his previous marriage and he knows he can't remarry her at the registry as he already is in the eyes of the law, he has made too many official endorsements that indicate his marital status, infact he even travelled with documents that indicates his lawful spouse on them, therefore he doesn't want any complications, so he is deeply against the mention of court marriage from his new fiancee who has no clue about any of this of course.

The 2nd guy married an unattractive older woman for her money and took his time to set himself up with it before making a clean get away when the coast was clear. Now he didn't marry the older woman in the registry and strongly discouraged her from it so he can eventually be able to marry the girl of his dreams with ease when the time is right.

Your sister's husband may stand 'already married' in the court to someone else before he met your sister or plans to move on later on and thats why he can't marry her in the eyes of the law. I pray this isn't the case but you can't be too sure.
He should be able to give his honest reasons, but since he hasn't, my assertion above is probably true.

This babe didnt mention vic.o. If not for that dude no one would have seen you.

This kind of style is called 'Ceasar of Rome'.

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May God save us from Witchcraft and Demons.
The stories are from a ghanaian's facebook inbox.
Ghana well done! I hope Nigerian women don't do these things too.
Lord! is this the kind of sin you see and have to forgive? I beg thee, Save us men from these evil women!
May we never marry our own demise.

Jogunomi1:
I want a tall woman but she's short. I like my woman to have plenty hair but she shaves her head.

I think the hair can be sorted out. But the height tho, how short is she really? does she struggle to see the top of a bar table or is it that you are very tall and the height difference makes kissing her standing impossible?

Omuneizzy6:
the man look like buhari... His long neck.. So lovely

Lol

RandyX:
I use my medulla oblongata! Lol




iT's called WalkNAV....

You'll get there eventually, keep working hard.

greenhulk:
Sygic still rocks, I use it all the time. Lagos, Abuja and the major cities are fully loaded, u might be disappointed though when u travel to cities that are not very popular..U will find major roads but many streets in remote areas are not available.

I use Google maps once in a while, also does a great job but I prefer the UI in Sygic.

Interesing to see the app is still holding up, saw some not so good reviews on the latest version on google play store, though they promised to fix the issues raised. There is also a Car Mode version (for samsung/android), with a better user interface than the generic sygic. However I was informed by their staff that purchasing the premium band of the Sygic 'navigation and maps' app doesn't extend its license to the Car Mode version, which means if i want to get the car version premium, i would have to buy a separate premium band just for it and it's quite expensive to buy the World Premium of the car version though the entire UI seems very pleasing to the eye indeed.

Guys I need an update on this information for 2017/2018. Which app is the best now for long distance travel?

If this thread is too old, you can reply here:
https://www.nairaland.com/4202135/what-gps-maps-app-works

Hello Car gurus,

So I've recently been searching for some information on Phone/Tablet apps for GPS & Map navigation specifically for Nigerian roads. Although I saw an old thread here, it's been about 2 years since anyone commented on it. I felt an update is necessary as the various GPS/Maps application developers would constantly have upgraded their apps.

I focused on the top three apps from that thread and personally I have made the following recent observations about them.

GOOGLE MAPS
I was particularly intrigued to find Lagos now has street view in 2017 for Google Maps. However, I don't know how reliable the maps itself is as regards navigation, because it was really bad and I got lost using it in 2015, I noticed it did improve in 2016, but it still had errors within Lagos and that was the last time I used it in Nigeria. I also heard you could download offline maps on it now, how well does this work?

SYGIC
Although I haven't used this app, I saw some good reviews about this app on the previous thread from 3 years ago, the focus seems to have been placed on the fact that the maps are downloadable for offline use and they come in a comprehensive format. However the app does cost money for some of the really cool features. For those who have used it, what do you think? Are they doing better now or have they fallen below the standards?

NOKIA HERE
I saw good reviews of this map as well, however Nokia/symbian phones aren't very popular these days and this makes me think the review for this app on that thread might as well be outdated. Need someone who still uses it to tell us the current state of the app.

Does anyone use any of these apps for navigating in Lagos and across the country? or know a better one? How does it hold up in poor service areas while travelling? I need a really good app for a road trip i'm planning with some friends who ain't familiar with the country terrain. I would hate for them to run into a broken bridge or something.

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Una get time

Today I saw a post featuring a lady who complained bitterly about the uncouth behavior of a taxi service driver who messaged her to say she was "stupid" after she supposedly changed her mind about the trip. She reported the incident with screenshots to the company who replied promising to deal with the driver in accordance with their standard practice. However, many readers resorted to blaming the driver for unethical conduct in the line of duty, some blamed the lady for infuriating the driver who probably was already depressed by the nature of his job, others blamed the taxi company and a few blamed their competitors. Well who is right? We'll find out after this analogy.

Now while we are busy throwing stones (casting aspersions) at the parties involved, none of those physically involved might have actually been hurt by the incident: The lady might feel satisfied that the unruly driver has been sacked; Meanwhile, the company might have simply issued the driver a warning and let him continue with his work, because they get such complaints daily and can't sack more than 80% of their workforce or they wouldn't have a business to run; The driver on the other hand, may have experienced such warning before and continued in his behaviour knowing no one would fire him. Whether he continues to be unprofessional or not, blaming everyone for his life situation, is up to him. But the big question then is: Was all of this preventable?

While many might speculate a likely provocation from the customer (if indeed there was even any?) that led to the driver's unruly behaviour, there is certainly no justification for the driver to send such text to a customer no matter how provoked he was. It seems quite obvious the driver doesn't take the job seriously and probably does it for the heck of it. Also, this sort of behaviour might have been previously condoned without major sanctions from the company for such a driver to feel confident enough to even dare sending such a message. It may also seem probable, that the lady goes about infuriating working people cos she gets a kick out of getting people fired (make no mistakes about it, there are people like this: They've even coined a name for it: Schadenfreude).

But this is not the time to apportion blames. In your career or business, you are bound to face all sorts of people, clients, partners, even bosses. If you love your job or really need to keep it, you have to maintain professionalism. QUESTION: How do you remain professional under such conditions? There is just one answer!

Work Smartly

Many people are not smart, if they were, alot of terrible situations could have been avoided. How can you go to a 40,000 hectare farm with a kitchen knife and expect to cultivate the land in 5 mins? This is usually the mindset of many Nigerians, they expect to make money but aren't willing to invest themselves enough in what they do. They would rather expect miracles to happen. It is only in Nigeria, a man who never learnt how to multiply and divide would get a job as an accountant and celebrate in a big way, hoping for some magical fairy to help him do his job. The same thing happens in our politics, but that is way beyond the scope of this piece. The westerners seem to be light-years ahead of us because they don't expect miracles for things they already have the God-given miraculous capacity to handle (instead of looking outwards for another). It makes them more appreciative of the real and true miracles.

In our example, if this man had simply installed cameras(with audio capture) in his vehicle, he wouldn't bother what a customer had to say or how they behaved. He would act professionally and be able to defend himself with his company. Possibly even get the lady banned from the platform. He clearly isn't smart. The law doesn't protect everyone, it only protects those who have proof. And that is why the lady emerged victorious in the circumstances, because from what we know, she is the only one who was prepared, taking smart precautions to document the incidence in order to protect herself. Similarly, if this man had installed and was aware of his own documentary devices, or that of the lady, he would have controlled himself and behaved professionally at all times to avoid being spooked by his own control mechanisms. The company was not present at the scene, however, they could discourage such ill-mannered behaviour among their drivers by making CCTV equipment a requirement for participating drivers, as well as clearly pre-disclaiming (by association), any drivers who do not have such devices installed to record their activities during trips, and by informing customers likewise, not to patronise any of their drivers who do not meet these requirements. This would not only help build trust in your customer base, but would help against abuse of the system by either drivers or customers or even competitors as the case may be.

What does this mean for career men and women?

1. Love what you do and only do what you love: Why sell tomatoes because everyone else is doing it? if it shames you, stop and do something else, you have a brain, use it to do what makes you happy.

2. Be Prepared to face challenges: Nothing good comes without an obstacle, if it didnt, everyone would be rich. Always bear in mind that you are not alone in the search for a better life, thieves would try to nick it off you, unreasonable colleagues would try to suppress you to get past you, a demanding boss would try to use you to better his own lot. You have to acknowledge these issues and instead of hiding from them, focus on why you are there, what benefits does your current job or biz give you? If these are things you can handle, you can work on point 3.

3. Invest in control mechanisms to defend your priorities: Be prepared to protect your self and find out about ways to make your job easier, if a better chair keeps you relaxed at work when speaking to clients, buy it. If as a boss, a camera would prevent Big joe(your secretary) from stealing all the snacks and drinks meant for visitor's refreshment in the fridge, install it. If an ID card reader would prevent 80% of your staff from turning up late, have it set up. If adequate lightning and a sumptous meal/refreshment awaiting the builders that work overtime at night, would keep your staff interested in working longer hours without errors, commission it.

Work without working smart could easily lead to problems for everyone. So do it right. Work Smart.

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There is just one person to blame here, The Driver.

It is quite obvious the driver doesn't take the job seriously and probably does it for the heck of it.
There is certainly no justification for sending that text to a customer.

Many people are not smart, if they were, alot of situations could be avoided. How can you go to a 40,000 hectare farm with a kitchen knife and expect to cultivate the land in 5 mins? This is usually the mindset of many Nigerians, they expect to make money but aren't willing to invest themselves enough in what they do. Still expecting miracles to happen. The westerners are light-years ahead of us because they don't expect miracles for things they already have the God-given capacity to handle. It makes them more appreciative of the real and true miracles.

If this man had simply installed cameras(with audio capture) in his vehicle, he wouldn't bother what a customer had to say or how they behaved. He would act professionally and be able to defend himself with his company (Taxify). Possibly even get the lady banned from the platform. He clearly isn't smart.

On a second note, I am not a stranger to how these kind of companies operate, they are in it for the money, one less driver, means less income for them. They probably get these sorts of complaints all the time, and would say to the complainant that they have taken care of it, Don't be surprised when you see that same driver still working for them and picking people up, the company would usually just issue the driver a warning and let him continue with his job. The customer would never know.

BluntBoy:
OP, do you mean broke or poor? Because I am sometimes broke. If you work on contract like me, you will understand that being broke does not mean poor.

RandyX:
Broke (Temporarily out of funds).
Poor (the state of being out of funds).
What we call poor is people who are always broke. People can not usually tell the difference because they assume broke people are poor. A Poor person doesn't have the capacity to make enough money to cater for his needs (usually from their mindset, but physical deficiencies can also contribute). However, a broke person has the ability but just doesn't have the resource or opportunity at a given time. If that is the case, then no one is really ever poor except they choose to feel so or simply can't convert resources and opportunities due to some physical or mental impairment that prevents them from using their skills. The post addresses those who still have the ability (Broke).

Well said.

ProudtobeaMUMUM:
That your useless thread Bro, get a life man

I can go on and on making a fool out of you on your thread. I'm sure you would like that. I repeat, you must be depressed

ProudtobeaMUMUM:
True/false
Most of the active users who insult people here anyhow are depressed or have no one to talk to

I think you are depressed. You just came to my thread throwing insults. Get help before its too late.

ProudtobeaMUMUM:
I dey vex, na why I dey yarn anyhow. In short, I'm just depressed, my girlfriend left me cos I no fit buy pepsi

You should be careful next time, be cautious and conscious

ProudtobeaMUMUM:
Romance section can't be complete if a useless post doesn't come up, am not surprised

And useless comments as well. Not everyone can read.

Guys, if you are conversant with the life cycle of a lady from low-income background, you would usually find a mother dragging her daughter's ears, warning her sternly, not to marry a poor man like her father (the mother's husband). You would hear words like "I married for love, look where it landed me, we are all suffering, all the beauty of my youth wasted on this nonentity of a man. My daughter don't make the same mistakes I have made, leave that useless boy today and marry a rich man". What you find afterwards, is a girl confused and haunted by the words of her mother and the memories of the hard life they have lived.

From the analogy above, many would be quick to judge the father as a useless man who couldn't fend for his family. Some men would call the mother wicked for asking her daughter to be a gold digger, others may choose to support the mother and urge the daughter to keep to the advice. Well who is right? at the end of this post I would give my verdict.

Most of our ladies face this dilemma in our world today, especially in African countries. However, the truth is, the mother has told the truth about their situation, but she hasn't thrown enough light on the context to properly enlighten her daughter in a way that can be deemed appropriate for a good life.

However, this is an eye opener to men who are still in the dark. The women are light years ahead of you in philosophical thinking though they may not appropriately communicate what has happened in a way you consider ideal reasoning. In order to deal with a woman, you must first of all understand they are wired differently from us men.

While a man is most likely going to be a realist, women are mostly fantasists. They are controlled 70% by emotion and 30% by fact, while the reverse is the case for men. If you doubt me, Observe a scenario of two people preparing to go to the post office (or any area where other people would likely be). Ask a woman why she put on the dress she's wearing and she will tell most likely say something like 'she wants to feel beautiful'. On the other hand, a man would probably just say: "I just saw this hanging on my wardrobe and wore it cos I have to wear something to cover myself". Notice, the man doesn't really have a reason for his color choices or design patterns. While the woman does, and this is usually because she desires some sort of validation from on-lookers. The benefit is what she gets(in this example, admiration). Whereas the man is more protective of what he already has(covering up).

This also affects how we make money, While most men choose to make money to improve their ability to protect themselves and those they love (eg a House to shelter them, Car for transiting his family, Bills for wellbeing), Women mostly require money to improve themselves and stand out (eg Gold jewelry to appear brighter, brazillian weaves and designer apparels to appear larger than life, get invited into big parties and road shows, even when a woman acquires a car, she does so for the prestige, don't be surprised when she hardly ever drives it herself but commissions her partner or a hired professional to take her around in it).

Now, what does all of this analysis above mean? Men, we appear to have been the dummies all along, we make sacrifices and put the needs of everyone else ahead of ours, we work so hard, save so much money in anticipation of a tough situation which everyone else looks up to us to solve, but never for once think about being as self-concerned as our female counterparts. Even when we spend money on ourselves, we do it in order to improve our ability to be of service to others. We hang out with a woman whom we protect from the elements by ensuring we have a car and/or umbrella handy. We open doors for her, pull out her chair so that she is comfortable, we crack jokes just to make her laugh, we also pay for the meals both of us enjoyed, we offer to take her home and we do not leave till we are sure she is safe, we then smile to ourselves feeling fulfilled, but what do they offers us? sex is evenly enjoyed by both partners, a woman will never have sex with a man she derives no benefit from either in the act itself or in exchange for some other good. So what does she really give?

This is why women don't date broke men but we date broke women, the women are the wise ones, choosing only to engage with people who benefit them. We on the other hand, choose people we have the capacity to help.

Now back to the scenario in the first paragraph. What should the mother have advised her daughter? To put it nicely, she should have asked her daughter to work on her intellect and marry a man who is cooperative but not lazy. Marriage is a two way journey, if that mother had married a man who fits this description, she would have been able to use her own self improved intellect and resourcefulness to help the man(whose natural inclination is to protect and provide) to reach the point she desired for herself and her children.

So there you have it guys, what shall you do? Shall you make all that money and look for a broke girl? in the hopes you could single handedly get her out of poverty? If you get broke in the process, how do you come out of it? The only hope you have is if she is resourceful and intelligent enough to not blame you for the situation but use everything you have invested in her becoming a better version of herself, to assist you in leading the family to greater heights. A woman has responsibilities in marriage too as well as the man, the man is an expert in protecting and providing for his family but the woman's natural instinct helps the family grow and stand out, they need to both work as a team, or neither partner would feel fulfilled. Is a broke man or lady a taboo? No, is a wise man or lady better? Yes. But in the end the choice is yours to make!


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Guys, this lady has said the truth about 80% women. I commend her honesty unreservedly.

However, this is an eye opener to men who are still in the dark. The women are light years ahead of you in philosophical reasoning. In order to deal with a woman, you must first of all understand they are wired differently from us men.

While a man is most likely going to be a realist, women are mostly fantasists. They are controlled 70% by emotion and 30% by fact. If you doubt me. Observe a scenario of two people preparing to the post office (or any other area where other people would likely be). Ask a woman why she put on the dress she's wearing and she will tell you 'she wants to feel beautiful'. On the other hand, a man would probably just say, 'I just saw this hanging on my wardrobe and wore it cos I have to wear something to cover myself'. Notice, the man doesn't really have a reason for his color choices or design patterns. While the woman does, and this is usually because she desires some sort of validation from on-lookers. The benefit is what she gets(in this example, admiration). Whereas the man is more protective of what he already has(covering up).

This also affects how we make money, While most men choose to make money to improve their ability to protect themselves and those they love (eg a House to shelter them, Car for transiting his family, Bills for wellbeing), Women mostly require money to outshine everyone else (eg Gold jewelry to appear brighter, brazillian weaves and designer apparels to appear larger than life, get invited into big parties and road shows, even when a woman acquires a car, she does so for the prestige, don't be surprised when she hardly ever drives it herself but commissions her partner or a hired professional to take her around in it).

Now, what does all of this analysis above mean? Men, we have been the dummies all along, we make sacrifices and put the needs of everyone else ahead of ours, we work so hard, save so much money in anticipation of a tough situation which everyone else looks up to us to solve, but never for once think about being as selfish as our female counterparts. Even when we spend money on ourselves, we do it in order to improve our ability to be of service to others. We hang out with a woman whom we protect from the elements by ensuring we have a car and/or umbrella handy. We open doors for her, pull out her chair so that she is comfortable, we crack jokes just to make her laugh, we also pay for the meals both of us enjoyed, we offer to take her home and we do not leave till we are sure she is safe, we then smile to ourselves feeling fulfilled, but what do they offers us? sex is evenly enjoyed by both partners, a woman will never have sex with a man she derives no benefit from either in the act itself or in exchange for some other good. So what does she really give?

This is why women don't date broke men but we date broke women, the women are the wise ones, choosing only to engage with people who benefit them. We on the other hand, choose people we have the capacity to help. The OP has opened your eyes now guys, what shall you do? Shall you make all that money and look for a broke girl? Or shall you look for a lady that compliments your benefits as well (The ability to improve your lot)? The choice is yours!

op you forgot these groups, Commonly found in timed sports games (like soccer - Fifa 17).

THE STALLERS: These guys actually don't play to win. They don't plan to score you, but they wont let you score either. They park the bus right from the beginning of the game and keep kicking the ball towards the side lines to kill time. God save you if you mistakenly score an own goal in the process of trying to take possession from these type of players. Don't wait for penalty either, If you are silly enough to let them lead you there, you would be shocked at the results. The whole point is to drag you to penalty shootouts and then they floor it.
Favourite quotes: <These guys never use a mic while playing, until after penalty shoot-out then you hear them turn on the mic and let their cat lick the mouthpiece>
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THE QUITTERS: These guys never finish any game, because they always quit when they are losing. The only way to beat this guys is to delay scoring till the very last injury time. Remember to skip the replays so the game ends before they can shut it down.
Favourite quotes: Well F**k you, I'm out!
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THE LONEWOLVES: These guys are not team players and definitely not good sport. If you in an online co-op with one of these as your teammate, then you can be sure your game is bound to look gloomy. They keep trying to play all positions in the pitch with their player and never pass the ball, but always trying to do some silly skills, often losing possession in the process. The only way you would ever get possession of the ball is when they get a red card.
Favourite quotes: ha ha ha ha!
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