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WandaMaximoff:
See ehn, if you want that marriage to see the light of day, don't bring your marital issues to Nairaland. Your marriage will be over before your thread gets to page 2.

You are living with a full grown adult for the first time, you both have weird habits that will irritate each other. Trust me, I'm sure there are habits she is also tolerating from you.

Marriage is give and take. I'd suggest you talk to her when the mood is lighter, pillow talk in the bedroom is a perfect time. Tell her how her hygiene makes you feel and tell her it would make you really happy if she changes.

Speaking up just at the time you noticed another of the unhygienic habit won't help you as you will be addressing it with anger.

If you can't settle a small matter like this amongst yourselves, there are worse storms in marriage o.

We have talked about it quietly on several occasions before (the reason why i am now labelled a complainer about insignificant things: she has called me petty on several occasions for complaining about things like this) and she basically sees nothing wrong with what she does. I plan to show her this thread, so that she can see at least that not even a single person that commented so far approves her weird toilet habits.

decatalyst:
I hate to hear the statement "I am still the one to apologize" It sucks to hear this!


You make it seem like you are a simp! You are supposed to offer direction in your home. Tell her what she needs to hear to get the desired result. You don't have to shout on the woman please.

I am a very calm person actually, shouting comes from frustration because the moment i try to correct her she gets angry and lashes back immediately raising her voice. So naturally i raise my voice to match her tone so that she hears me and so that i can make my point.

On the other hand, i apologize because, sometimes when i wait for the apology for too long and it is not coming, i decide that i cant continue living like that and look beyond my intention to correct so that we can have some peace and move forward, probably push give her more time to evaluate her actions, while we continue living in peace. I cant imagine living with anyone for a week in the same house and not be able to communicate with the person. I dont know how other people do that. I personally try to resolve issues quickly.

Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.

I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."

I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.

This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.

There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

hahahah.....this must be some deeper lifers

I am a data reseller also, so it hurts me when i see complaints like this..........some peeps would go to any length just to make fast money, tarnishing the names of others who try to make something meaningful out of life.
A small scale biz idea that could easily yield them hundreds of thousands in a short while, with very little capital, is what scammers would rather choose to runoff with a mere 1k recharge card.(Penny wise, Pound foolish)
i have been scammed on 2 occasions by resellers here on nairaland, before i eventually came across a reputable reseller, which made me see the beauty in the biz, before i eventually ventured into it.

although in your case, i dont think u were scammed, it may just be a case of bad customer service on the side of the seller u bought from, cos i wonder why sum1 would sell and not give u the codes to check you data balance.

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was just thinking d same thing

I have known this lady for a preety long time and we are soulmates, she complements me in almost everyway and she definately meets the criteria i have set in my mind for a wife, except for the fact that she happens to be an atheist and i strive to be a devoted christian.
She only told me about this recently when it became clear about how serious the relationship was. We have been dating for about 6 years and are both marriage ready. I did decided to end the relationship at some point which i did for about a year, but the problem is i cant find anything close to those qualities in anyone else.
Fellow nairalanders, i need your advice please. I do have a thick skin, so i dont mind u being as blunt as possible, i am even open to insultive comments, just say something and tell it like it is.

Back to the age old question “Why Did The Chicken Cross The Road?”

I have been conducting an interview on various important peeps (V.I.P.'s) about this question and these are their varying opinions........

GEORGE W. BUSH:
We don't really care why the chicken crossed the road. We just wanna know if the chicken is on our side of the road or not;
The chicken is either for us or the terrorists. There is no middle ground here.
If it isnt for us and has crossed the road that is to say that, it is definately carrying W.M.D's and we would not hesitate to use full force against it.
My dear allies let it be known that this war is actually talking about peace and finally in response to the sympathizers of the chicken all i have to say is that they would hear from us soon......

BILL GATES:
Microsoft would be launching its new software by the early quarter of next year codenamed egg master suite.
It will not only tell u why chickens cross roads, but also what roads they cross, their preffered time of crossing and lots more.
If you buy the online edition with inbuilt inernet explorer, u can easily synchronise your data with those of other users of eggmaster suites world wide.

MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR:
I have a dream... That someday, every chicken in this nation will be free to cross roads without having their motives questioned. Brothers and sisters i have a dream........

GEJ:
i understand the chickens plight cos Just like myself, it crossed the road with no shoes, just anoda reason for our transformation agenda for fresh air.
Meanwhile, we'll set up a committee to look into the matter properly and probably grant those worrying the chicken amnesty.

PATIENCE JONATHAN:
My fellow widows, You see, i doesn't knew why the chickens will behaving like that, the only things i can said is that the chicken must be a WINTCH!

CHIEF ZEBRUDAYA:
are-u-are, are u surely sure ovuloria, dat u ar not d one dat sent giringory akabogu wit clarus to pursue d chicken,
ndeh! just to information u, natty is on d other side of d road tryin to confiscated d chicken for bele-wise.

GANI FAWEHINMI:
Why wont the chicken cross the road? When there is no light in her house! When price of fuel is too high for her to drive over the road! When there is No food in her stomach! No job to do!
Armed robbers are after her eggs, the schools are on strike so her chicks cant go to skool , when there is no justice. Why wont it cross to the road to the other side?

HON PATRICK OBAHIAGBON:
The question brings to mind a
perpendicularity of oblivious
occurrences. The rationale for the crawling species of the hen folk for advancing across the Broadway to the obvious greener side, portray a phantasmagori callegory in my homosapious mind, that there
is a reason. The metaphoric proposition maybe that it is going to cast its vote for Fresh Democratic Party and hence justifying its subconscious mind that she has done her civil biddings.

T.B. Joshua: I am seeing a chicken, i see chickens my dear brethren,........yes Emmanuel,.......... there is more than meets the eye, about that chicken...this is one of the end time signs......a chicken maybe crossing the road in the physical, but in the spirit i see lots of chickens they have crossed that road and are still crossing it.

NSCDC Lagos chairman:
The reason the chicken crossed the road is only going to remain known by one person, I cannot categorically tell you the reason why the chicken crossed the road, I dont wnt to say one tin now and my oga at d top will say another thing.........clears throat.........Daz all!

FASHOLA: that cannot happen in lagos state!why should it cross the road, when i have made provision for pedestrian briges all over place, where were the LASTMA officials, when it place took..


EFCC chairman:
6.8 trillion dollars has been traced to a supected chicken in different bank accounts overseas.This is a high profile case of money laundering and corruption. All hands are on deck to see dat d chicken is brought to justice. The last known where about of the said chicken, was seen crossing the road. Our operatives wud also b crossing the road to bring the chicken to dance to tune of the law.

Proff. P.N. Okeke :
From my viewpoint, the Chicken was at a state of rest and tended to stay at rest, until it was acted on by an equal and opposite force which set it in motion and hence it put one foot in front of the other in the opposing direction to the applied force and took a sufficient number of steps to traverse a distance greater than or equal to the road’s width which is a constant(R).

ADAMS OSHOMOLE: Comrades!, Instead of focusing on the nature of the road, the committee (PDP) is deliberating on the chicken's aims for crossing the road. Why won't the chicken cross the road when a sudden swimming pool has appeared on the highway due to mismanagment. Are u telling me that the road in question is not a federal road, if the roads were smooth will the chicken have need to cross over?
I hereby call all chickens 2 stand up nd say no 2 godfatherism nd yes to
ONE Hennnnnnnn! ONE VOTE!
ONE Chickennnnn! ONE VOTE!
ONE Eggggggggg! ONE VOTE
..................................................................

Abubakar shekau (Boko haram leader):
i have no interest in this matter, cos it has nothing to do with my beliefs. "I am also not against anyone, but if God asks me to kill someone, I will kill him and I will enjoy killing him, like I am killing a chicken," wether it cross the road or not!
Source: www.cruisenigeria.com/2012/01/if-allah-commands-me-then-ill-enjoy-killing-you-like-a-chicken-bokos-reject-peace-talks/

Nigerian Police commisioner: that chicken is under arrest on a 4 count charge..
1.Crossing the road without the possession of a certificate of road worthiness
2. Crossing the road at a vehicle crossing location
3. Loitering without any form of identification.
4. Finally for being a nuisance and causing public unrest to my beautiful friends here on nairaland...
...............................................................

And now my dear reader, i am still asking u, why do u think the chicken crossed the ROAD?!!! Abeg make una tell us o!

maka why? (for what)

mine are:
..... "stay kool"....(my way of saying goodbye or remain blessed)
Also......."nothing dey happen"....... (when i am really excited),
And........ "who is your daddy".......... (when i am hitting it right, if u know what i mean.lols)

ok na, no wahala, tomoro still dey........we dey here dey wait........(now where is that my mattress?) BB must go......hehehehehe

More lessons to learn:

@ the birds: sometimes, being in shi.t may not really be as bad as it seems.

@ the cats: Sometimes u need to eat the sour tasting shi.t before u Have a very sweet tasting bird.

@ the cows: stop wasting your shi.t on foolish birds. Cos they would only brag about it and get themselves into bigger shi.t

summary:
those eating should keep eating shi.t,
those shi.ting should shi.t wisely and
those falling into sh.it, should hide themselves.

In the end its all about the shi.t......
i got to go take a sh.it myself.
Have a nice day people..........

Blood of God, wonders shall never end.......Choi.........

gambus007: ps3jail.com

thanks man, but the site, shows all evidence of a scam site. Did u test it yourself and are u still using it?
The update installs, but takes u to official firmware 4.31, rather than than the CFW, so u cant install pkg files, any workaround for this?

I just got some info from a friend of mine, who claims there is a new software hack for the ps3 and that he can play resident evil 6 and other recent games on his console, directly from his hardrive, without disc support. His console had been previously updated to Official firmware 4.3.

Question?
How true is this and where can i get detailed info on how to do this?........I am presently having two ps3's with Official firmware 3.56 and 3.72 repectively, which do not allow the installation of multiman or any pkg files, so i cant run games from the hard drive........any useful info would be appreciated.

funny, but the problem be say, corruption no go let nigerians quench the fire. what they would rather do, is to start bribing hell's official's to import a.c's and install into their fellow corrupt one's cells.........