If Cork leaves I leave!

Sistas y'all better beg him to come back and give him what he's been asking for before we both leave forever

Freesia:

Mr MarcAnthon you are not trying to instigate anything are you ?? You're right it's real entertainment sometimes, I thought I had heard it all but NLanders verbal abuse is sometimes even foreign to the curse" inventors" if you can even call them that!! meanwhile enjoy your popcorn

Thanks o jere. Lol . . . These guys can cuss out a corpse and get it so angry it'd come back to life to retaliate. Me? I only watch from the sidelines, popcorn in hand.
It's a shame that the pugilists retired way too early though.

2buff:

2Buff's EVO3D fell in the toilet and died

So now 2Buff needs to get a new phone
2Buff only fawks with Android and is guaging 2 phones right now: The Samsung Galaxy Note or the Google Galaxy Nexus.

Vote on what you feel 2Buff should get.
Expecting your input.

You never confess wetin really happen

Why does 2buff talk to 2buff in the third person?

Have you forgotten the road to alaba market? abi google don stop work for your computer?

Flashaldrin:

Am swamped, but good. School is as stressful as can be, nothing new.
How work? and madam?

Which part of 'my lips are sealed' don't you understand?

Flashaldrin:

^^ you go fear naaa
he should meet you for tutorship, right

My lips are sealed

How you been? How school?

^^^ @dayo, these your anti-ojukwu and anti Igbo attacks are beginning to get boring. Let the dead man rest in peace nah. Na wa o

HBD

chaircover:


I am signing out now to follow Ifys good advice.  That one can never die even if I am 100  

^^^  Are you Ijebu?

Chimezie198:

Floxybabe. Am chimezie and you? . . . . . . .
Nice to meet you!  

Is that supposed to be a chat up line

^^^Classic

You guys are something else, iswearigawd!
Where's RichV.
Moremi reply Richie's allegations nah. This is really interesting!

I have a big SACK of popcorn beside me. . .sitting cross-legged, eating popcorn and getting entertained. This is gone be a GOOD AFTERNOON gentlemen!

You can 'extrapolate' your answer from earlier posts. You're good at extrapolating so it shouldn't be an issue. You could also start a new thread.

^^ I laugh at you trying to teach me English.

Like I said, since you're heard of hearing (or reading), the only reason God will endorse divorce is when there's a case of infidelity. Just so you know. JC may not have told women to stay in a physically abusive relationships, but I'm sure he considered that when he said infidelity should be the only reason he'd endorse divorce. Unless you're smarter than him, that is, since you're good at extrapolating.

But you're getting ahead of yourself here. The OP asked a question about submission. I wouldn't know the kind of dictionary you use either, but I'm finding it hard to pair submission and physical abuse within the same bracket. THE ISSUE IS ABOUT SUBMISSION AS A RESULT OF THE MAN HAVING FIRST LOVED, OR LOVING AS A RESULT OF THE WOMAN HAVING FIRST SUBMITTED. And I'm saying they should be independent of each other, ideally. AND THAT COMES INTO PLAY NATURALLY IN DECISION MAKING, not physical abuse, bros. So cool down.

And FYI, I don't believe in divorce. I think whatever the issues are two adults can always resolve them IF THEY WANT TO.

iiiyyyk:

 Thank you macanthon, is it not only in US, UK is even worst, by the age of 27 they have three kids with 3 different men by 35 they are looking for the forth husband.

 it is a shame when people want to emulate every thing from the west.
in terms of family values, i think the west has failed.

 God the author of marriages, gave us the rule to play by. play yours effectively.
whether Muslim or christian, the man is the Head. like in EVery  institution whether eathly or heavenly, the head is the decision taker, but does not make the decision in isolation, rather considers the contribution of others. in this case  considers the wife's contributions.

Thanks man. You understand where I'm coming from. If everyone played their roles the institution of marriage would not be in so much mess. The problem is women trying to be the head and men preferring to be philanderers and irresponsible. Hence all the wahala.

moremi2008:

So your vision of marriage is a jail cell for women? Is this why many Nigerian brides find themselves beaten to death? Your interpretation of the Bible is dangerous and contradictory.  Sorry, I will never advice my sister to submit to a man that's beating her up or cheating on her. Your wife is NOT your slave.

What exactly are you saying cos I can't make much sense from this. Where exactly did I say women should be slaves? I said the woman should have her say but still let the man have the final say. However does that translate to slavery? When women are asked to submit unconditionally, it's because the One who asked them to does not sanction divorce, except as a result of infidelity. The same applies to men as well: You're to love unconditionally. They should be mutually exclusive. But that applies to couples who are already married. So get it clearly pls

D bible didn't add all these clauses my 9ja sistas r cooking up o!!! It's "wives submit, , den men love, " No "if, , else" clauses

Exactly! If everyone played their part marriage won't be such hard work as we know. If you're already married it's too late I guess. The wife should submit and the husband should love, both without conditions. To submit would mean accepting his decision as final even if you should have your say still.

Those who are unmarried would have to put their partners up against God's standard. For her: does he love me unconditionally? Will my own plans for my life ultimately blend with his? Can I trust him with my future? Can I trust him to make the right decisions for our kids? etc, etc. If you can answer an honest yes to these questions then bitter arguments shouldn't arise, not just because he loves you but because you consider him capable and smart enough to make the right decisions for you both.

And for him: Does she love me as well (believe me submission is not the first thing here. Guys also want to feel loved first)? Is she proud, haughty, incalcitrant, and/or considers herself too smart for me? Does it take threats and not superior arguments to get her to fall in line? Does she respect me? etc, etc.

To our sistas who think the western world provides the ideal marriage model, you may want to consider what the divorce rate figures are. . . 1 in 2 in the US. Unless you won't mind being forty with three kids and waiting on your third husband.

At the end of the day, like someone pointed out earlier, where true love exists everything else should be a lot easier.

Na wa for these boys o. There should be an IQ test before people are allowed to create topics. . . seriously

ayanle ogunfe I said earlier that I don't know much about your people and I honestly didn't give a fcck. That's still the case, cos like Pendo said, you guys can as well disappear out of Africa and we'll all heave a sigh of relief, that is IF WE NOTICE. So no one really cares to read all these epistles you're putting up. Please do us all a favor and disappear out of this thread as well.

You should be ashamed of yourself and your people seeing all what Pendo wrote there. I would be if I were you. Channel your anger, bitterness and hate to the man that fccked you in the as[b]s[/b] while you were imprisoned. When you go about it this way you become the most loathsome persona I have ever come across online.

Your land is a wasteland, your people have had their humanity ripped out of them by their fellow savage countrymen. Now you're all either beggars, refugees, savages or pirates, and instead of you to start thinking of ways to improve your lot you're here hating on a people that don't care if you're shot through the eyes or butt.

Please get your head out of your a[b]s[/b]s and begin to use it.

And while you're at it learn how to quote people and post properly. It tells me your IQ is so low, like I suspected. Btw how old are you?

Olodo oshi. Everyone hears some silly tale and then runs in here to open a thread, forgetting that this is www and some ignoramus somewhere who doesn't know any better will think that's the true situation of things.

Here, go to this thread and see how some scum thinks his Somali race (for that matter) is superior to we 'silly slave West Africans': https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-855380.96.html#msg10270613

So just get your head out of your a[b]s[/b]s and be responsible for once in your life. BTW, how old are you?

lol

^^^ Yup. He said so himself in one of his bitter, earlier posts

Mrs, Chima:

I don't have men.  I have a man as in singular.       I don't control other men.  Sorry.  Not my duty.  

Why are you in so much pain over what Nigerian/Black men do with their lives?  Did one of them used you?  You sounds bitter and hurt.  

I think he was fccked in the a[b]s[/b]s by some rasta-looking black man when he was imprisoned in the UK for stealing lunch. Is why he's so bitter against west africans and blacks.

Mrs, Chima:

LMAO@women choosing African men because they pay for a chicken sandwich.

Those Black American women are silly and attracted silly arse men.  I know different nationalities of women who have dated African and they have bad reviews about their dates. 

However, I have dated non-African men and they have all paid for my dates (some of them were Black men) 

I don't say so, I know so.

Sorry . . . since you know so

TisaBone:


lol. i think that's part of my charm. i just refuse to hold onto hurt and pain and life's worries that usually prematurely ages and makes one jaded. i won't accept less than what I WANT. any man who wants me has to get with MY PROGRAM. I'm  not desperate nor will i settle. it was different had he not asked me out on a date, then i would not have minded paying for myself. because once again, I have never asked anyone for anything, and dont even have the desire to.

I do hope you know that relationships are all about compromises. Not that your shouldn't have some 'get with it or no deal' stand points, but you don't want to be too rigid either.

Mrs, Chima:

Sorry that is not the culture in America.  American women are still expecting to not pay for their meals or outings especially if they are asked out.  If you guys are friends and it is a mutual thing then that is different. 

If a chick offered to pay for your meal that means she think you are broke.  Real talk.  (If you guys are just friends and not in a relationship)

I have never paid for anything when I am on dates.  (I don't ask men out)

And then I watched this video sometime back about how AA women prefer African men to AA men because, among others 'African men would pay for dinner when they were out on dates, but AA men wouldn't'. I found that hilarious.

But if you say so. . .

TisaBone:

ok this much i understood, the rest? i dont know.


and no i dont want his money. I dont need anybody's money. Id rather go without that ask anyone for a dime.

but he offered, so he pays. everyone knows that rule.

Lol. You come across as different, innocent and naive, all wrapped up in one. Isn't it a given that everyone pays their bills in the west? I get 'invited' for a night out for dinner only to find that I'm expected to pay for myself  . And this has nothing to do with the fact that I'm a guy. The girls in the company do the same and sometimes I get embarrassed but I'm told that's the culture here even dating couples. So don't you know that already?

tpia@:

not true.

is cork one of your ids?

Are you for real? I see you have no sense of humor as to believe all what Cork and Lefulefu says here. smh for you

ayanle456:

first i am somali not a nigerian, lol, i dont know why i would lie about that, to the person who says that i am afraid of nigerian men taking somali women, looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool, well i guess some somalis like sarah and lulive have done some good PR. lol, trust me, the only africans that somalis know, are the somali bantu, and they were our slaves, so when i come to the west, all the africans i see use to look like my slaves, honestly do u think the average somali woman would go for any black, loooooooooooooooooool, again just go to somalinet.com and if u dont believe go ahead and see for yourself,


as for the reason why am puting u down, well i feel very superior, i wana enslave u guys, lol, if whites can do it, i think somalis can do it too, this all comes back to some west african hitting on my sister, my sister peppered sprayed him, and he threatened to kill her, so for me this is personal, i swear , i called this kid a slave, but he keeps drooling over our woman, so at this moment its a matter of honor, u slaves need to be put in ur place, so go create a thread about nigerians and how they are related to egyptians, lol

THIS GUY IS SO RETARDED IT HURTS! I'M REALLY DISGUSTED.

Inked_Nerd:


Eh ya, sweetie, let's not judge everyone because of one lost soul

You wouldn't want to feed into the same mentality he or she possesses

I know Inkie, I know. The clown is making it very difficult for me though. He fits so well into the profiling the Somali girl provided about the average Somali guy. smh

@ayanle, you have a very repulsive attitude. I don't know much about your people, and honestly I don't give a fcck. All I know is that if you guys are so cool, and if your 'pride' is a healthy one, you'd have found ways to fix your country so you'll stop collecting handouts from the rest of the world - which is really demeaning to your so-called pride. If you guys are so proud you should choose to starve to death than collect handouts

I could say a lot to you but I'm not so sure it will be useful cos your come across like you're irredeemably lost in your 'pride'. But take this away with you:

1: a lot of what is said on here is just for fun, and those Nigerian brothers who bash our sisters would defend them anywhere in real life. Apparently you have no sense of humor to see through this, and I wouldn't blame you. It is sometimes an IQ matter.

2: We are not so insecure like you guys to try to dictate to our sisters (or brothers for that matter) who they should date. It's a free world, remember.

@Van Snickers, thanks for the link. It's quite revealing.

Mr Ayanle, here are excerpts from a Somali girl. Defend yourself, oya

I really hate being Somali, help?
Where do I begin, I hate how some stupid freshie Somalis will be like 'We are not black and that we are arabs' that gets on my nerves because we ARE BLACK. I love being black. Somalia is a laughing stock, the country is a joke to the whole world. I hate Al Shabaab and how uncivilised Somalis can be like.

Majority of the people in London hates Somalis because of how they are everywhere and how they take benefits

I'm so embarrassed to be a Somali, I don't have any Somali friends all my friends are English, Jamaican, Mixed race, Nigerian, etc, I hate how all the Somali guys look at me and give me this death stare just because I don't have any Somali friends and how I am hanging around with Non Somali boys.

I find Somali guys really unattractive, they think they are so hot but they're so fugly and I will never ever marry a Somali guy, I'm scared that no other ethnicity would want to marry me because I'm Somali just because they are the most hated in London.

I also hate how Somalis look down on other blacks and think that they are superior it's like shut up there's nothing to be Superior about.

I wish I was white or from the Caribbeans or from West Africa in that way I would have a lot of things to be proud off. I honestly don't know what to do, I hate being Somali with a passion, I always cry to myself and dream about being a different ethnicity.

This just confirms a lot of things for me about the average Somali man's character. How deluded can an entire army of people be? SAD

queensmith:

^^ lol

have u ever watched lagidigba?

Never heard of it. Tell me