₦airaland Forum

Juliusdaughter:
I saw a thread on front page yesterday and marvel at how men repeatedly said they'd choose their mother over their wife, this isn't the first or 6th time I'm seeing this and it's becoming a norm among our men. I just feel to shed some lights on this issue.

Firstly, this has become like a 'hand-down' whatever on the side of men, and this can be traced to how our dads treated our mums. Whichever man chooses his mum over his wife is doing so to put up with his father's failure. Your father failed in his husband duties and you obviously saw it growing up, rather than learn your lessons and try to be a better man for your wife you choose to be like your dad all over again, and the chain continues with your sons.

How much is heard of a wife choosing her dad over her husband?? I don't think I've heard it before, and it has never been an issue to discuss because women don't do this. We don't do it because our mothers were sufficient in their duties towards our fathers, we saw this and have no need to fill an emotional gap that our mothers could have probably failed in.

It doesn't make sense and will not make sense when you relegate your wife because you want to act like the husband she never had, I am not saying don't treat your mother nicely, but not at the expense of you wife! "she suffered on top of my head" that's her duty as a mum and it has absolutely nothing to do with your wife. A man must be able to find the balance between both women, don't cause unnecessary emnity between the two of them.

Put up a statistics of 50 men and 50 women. You'd realize at the end of your survey that more men will choose to marry a woman like their mum compared to the number of women that would choose to have a husband like their daddy.
Have you thought about WHY? it is because these guys sees the kind of I'll treatment their mums went through in marriages, but she still stayed anyways, whether our father was a cheat, drunkard, womaniser, financially unintelligent... Who wouldn't want a woman that can handle all their excesses
For women, reverse is the case, women learn their lessons from their mothers and simply move on. That is why a modern wife will hardly take half of the bvllshit her mother endured in marriage. And you begin to wonder why these men are surprised when a woman says she cannot stay with a man like their fathers? They're surprised cos their mothers took it all in

Aunty,an average Nigerian woman chooses her parents above her hubby,they not just sincere enough to say it, unlike men.
I for one,desire a female child to a male.
This is because,an average woman have a way they drag the attention of their hubby to their own family, picking fights if the man attempts to concentrate on his people.
The day the man dies,she clearly shows her true colors about how she actually prefer her parents (dad inclusive) to her hubby,by totally abandoning her in-laws.
My point is,if really a woman loves her husband than her dad,she will equally direct the love she has for her parents towards her inlaws.
But, come to think of it, you want me to love my wife,who can move on because things have gone rough,to my innocent mum who will stick to me for better for worse?
You know why there's no English word to describe the separation between mum and kids unlike "divorce"?

March 14

Mabizela:
Osaze is having a mental breakdown and he needs our help and prayers before he runs to the market naked. the guy messed up big time by going public with the issue. I bet he will be regretting his actions by now

You sound a bit confusing.
First, you said osaze is having a mental breakdown,he needs our prayers instead he will run to the market naked.
Next you said he will be regretting his actions.how can someone with mental breakdown be regretting again?

Zzor:
I don't like this donjazi of a man, if his father behaved the way he's living, he wouldn't have birthed him and coming to show off here.Old man like him still living a single life like a common teenager, it shows he's very irresponsible

why does an average woman sees marriage as an achievement?
How has marriage improved the life of anyone?

Dreyton36:
Abeggi make i hear word

Is money itself not evil ?

Abi money no be root of all evil again ?

so, someone cannot make money apart from the evil way?
You sound like a religious person.
Do evil,ask God for forgiveness,he will always forgive ba.
This is the problem of religion
I always believe atheist are more moral than religious people

Dreyton36:
Na everybody sabi play ball ?
Na everybody be banker? How much he banker salary

Is it ur prayer wish ?
Abeg shut up there jare

If Yahoo boy dash u 10million u go reject am

typical Nigerian.
Anyhow, just make the money.
Very religious people,yet very immoral and godless.
No sir,i wouldn't accept from a Yahoo boy. I won't even decend to relating with a yahoo boy

Dreyton36:
My brother whatever he does for a living that's his business, tell me 10 Nigerian citizen who makes clean mine without any single dirt I'm waiting

just imagine ur kind of mentality.
Like you are ready to go any length to make the money, yet return to tell us how God pick ur call back?
10 Nigerians? Mikel obi,kanu nwankwo,okocha,my uncle at refinery,my elder brother who owns a school at Abuja. my banker friends.
Guy, millions making clean money.
When ur wealth is soiled,that's not God picking ur call

Dreyton36:
Why wont they smile
That's the power of money
Chai oluwa abeg pick my call
My own type of money that I seek is not to disrespect women cuz this is pure disrespect to women

This is exactly the problem, "oluwa pick up my call".
What does he do for a living? Doesn't concern you, right?
We must start criticising controversial figures not forming it doesn't concern us and praising them with such phrase

I won't be surprise if all south east govs migrate to APC.
South East knows virtually nothing about Nigerian politics.
Little wonder they finding it very difficult to hold presidency

Thought ncdc said no more daily release of figures, that it will be weekly

Righteousness89:
We Live in very Amazing times..
Of recent strange Creatures have been showing up themselves in different nations of the World!

Everything in these times are just out of the Ordinary!

JESUS is Coming Folks!
The time is toooooo Close!
It's gonna be Suddenly! It's gonna be Unawares!
If u Value your soul! Give your life to JESUS!
Pls I beg u all Give your life to JESUS !!

Na today? Alligator is Strange animal?

Those of you who voted buhari,what was ur reasons again?
Goodluck increased price of fuel?
Goodluck was clueless when it comes to security?
Goodluck allowed corruption?
Prices of goods...?..?
Goodluck marginalized your region?
Goodluck couldn't fix electricity?
Goodluck was not man enough to stop boko Haram?
Goodluck was a clueless leader?
Jona daft?

Talk naa

This is my problem with you guys

Eastlink:
North cannot give us a Greek gift. Jonathan should remain in his village while men carryout the reforms he failed to do. A man who slept for 6 years will never make any difference even if you allot him 100 years.

the north will eternally decieve the south.
You think those calling Jonathan are doing it for him?
The north is scheming on how to allow the south run for only a single term,so that power can return back to the north after only 4 yrs.

Etrusen:
Oga if you have nothing to say please stay quiet

telling u the head of Nigerian traditional leaders means i have nothing to say? don't tell me you are oblivious of this common knowledge o�

seunmsg:
Really? When was he appointed leader of all traditional rulers in Nigeria?

during Babangidas regime

seunmsg:
The headline should be: Buhari, monarchs meet in Ado Rock. Sultan is also a monarch, he does not deserve a special mention. There is no sense in separating him from the other monarchs. We in the south always complain of northern domination but we are the ones encouraging it by putting them ahead of us through our media outlets.

Seems you don't know the sultan is the leader of all Nigerian traditional leaders

Yea

Ihatemumu:
Will Africa ever get to these scientific heights when its giant is yet to fix electricity even after 60, years??

who even tagged us "giant of Africa"?

anastasius:
32hrs? Aboki no get sense

if you had read you will understand who is more senseless.
How a Mr Daruis becomes an aboki, only God will help u explain.
Hahaha

With all these recklessness,if left to themselves,am telling you,these guys will collapse Christianity with their greed and selfish Interest.

You will observe that, since the commencement of the#endsars protest,over two weeks ago,the usual tribally laced insults seriously reduced.
We all spoke in one voice,NO RECORD OF ANY DEATH as a result of this�.
This days,many tribal warlords are born in social media.
Politicians take advantage of this,cash in, divide us the more so as to get exactly what they want,as such,we remain where we currently are.
My fellow nairalandas,can we keep this up?
We can get a better Nigeria when we get united, regardless of tribe, religion or any other IRRELEVANT attachment.
Insulting another person's tribe will never make yours better, rather,it will only worsen the plight of the society,most especially the youths.
I repeat, you will not die if you don't do tribal war.
God bless us,
God bless Seun,
God bless Nairaland

EastGold:
This your copy and paste eehn

Sir, didn't you see the link?
I never claimed the information na

Aisha Yesufu was born in December 1974,
though born and brought up in the "getto" of Kano,she is from Etsako,in Edo state.
She graduated from bayero university, Kano,where she bagged a degree in microbiology.
She is a business woman.
She is married to Mr Aliu Yesufu,also from Etsako.
https://dnbstories.com/2020/09/full-biography-of-nigerian-political-activist-aisha-yesufu.html

spyglaxx:
I have never been scammed by a nigerian but scammed four times by Europeans and asians.

Check very well, those you called Europeans are actually Nigerians.
Hahaha

ENGINER:
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I just did but still didn't work

Don't even know the particular word to use for the Google search

oluwoleife:
U have the data to post here.....but u cant google it and DIY?

I reserve my comment

i have checked google but saw nothing

Evening house.
I just loaded my DSTV online,but it's not picking.
Please,is there anything i need to do?

Joshmodest:
I would have said you were lying if not that we had one like that in my former compound ....
This man has literally become a burden to his wife and 3 sons... He doesn't work as a full time minister , his wife does all the work and if she complains a little he'll tell her she's not the only one ...she pays the kids school fees one of them is in the higher institution , she takes care of their clothing , every expenses , even food the day Mr pastor go drop 500 the whole compound would know ....
His kids must not sing any genre music except "Gospel" , if they do na curse , they must not have girlfriends a child of 19, they can't even watch film in peace , they barb stylish cut problem, even football watching na yawa , keeping friends is an issue except na deacon son or Sunday school teacher son , he even said they must marry from that his church or he'll reject the wife ...so bad that the senior son once told him that hope he remembers it was him God called ?..he doesn't gist with the kids and blames the mother for doing so instead of reading bible ....one time dey once he sees then laughing , he'll bring bible and hold prayer....
Ladies stay away from strict pastors ,.they'll ruin your life and your kids life with their sententious mindset !!!

sir, didn't the wife see all these before marrying him?

tobechi74:
They can be boring. No room for fun Always serious face. Hardly play with family

They do not know how to handle women . Most strict pastors spent their youthful days avoiding dating and friendships with ladies in general so as not to commit adultery.

They are fault finders . They go about looking for offence. Every thing is a sin.

They are not romantic They grew up avoiding ladies. They are not used to giving hugs and kisses. They only know one position. Anal sex is a sin. Only accepts style is missionary. The mouth is for praising God name and not oral.

They can be routinal .. They have a structured life style. Easily predictable. Wife feel bored.

Lack of emotional intimacy. Wife is emotionally starved. His priorities are in the things of the lord. Time for heart to heart discussion and he is quoting

please minimize how you blame men and blame those ladies,who,out of desperation to marry, becomes blind to his being unromantic during relationship stage.

internationalman:
Who send me make i play Liverpool to beat Aston Villa..

He will shake it off in 3 days; he's stronger beyond the pitch of play.

no b 14 days again?