Dude, kindly come and update your story.
I've been posted to Kogi too and my mind nor dey there at all.

agulion:
Terrible

Do you mind going into details, please?

It's no news Tinubu has declared to run for office and he's most likely gonna bear his party's flag.

I don't yet have a preferred candidate so I'm tryna gather data to make a more informed decision.

This question is for those who lived in Lagos during Tinubu's tenure as governor...

How was Lagos during his reign in terms of development?

ViperAda:

How does staying up at 12am has anything to do with joblessness, huh?.
I was right about you after all, you still have a lot more to lose, kid.
A time is coming there'd be no more bag to pick up.

-Viper

Lol. I've seen your kind on this spece. You're one of those blokes who come to Nairaland to seek the attention that's clearly missing in your sorry existence.

You've argued with over 3 persons on this thread over an issue that's not even an issue. You're pathetic man. It's glaringly visible all over your writings.

ViperAda:

I just read your thread where you were looking for company of depressed, sad and lonely like minds. I knew your life issues is skin deep but if not properly managed, it would cost you more than you ever bargained for. Now, you've lost a job, who knows how many more is left for you to lose.


-Viper

Lol.
Here you are, combing through my previous threads at 12AM. I think you need a job more than me. Because apparently, you're clearly jobless.

Good bye, dear insignificant fellow. Continue wasting your life.

ViperAda:

Look at this small thing. Life would teach you.


-Viper

Okay comrade. Now chill.

PressMyButton:

You're rather immature and ill-trained. And from observation, you lack the temperament to cope with work pressure.

You don't even know me from Adam and you're already making pointless observations. What do you know about work pressure?

Y'all total disregard for time is appalling. Your life counts by the second. If you wanna waste it slaving away waiting for someone who shows total disregard for it, then that's fine.

Thanks for your input. Bye.

ViperAda:


Humane treatment my foot. What could be more humane by your projection other than refreshments and a word of apology to go down with it.

Why can't she be humane to herself inwardly and stoop to conquer. I feel so sorry for OP because if she allowed herself pushed by toxic advise, so many opportunities would walk her by. If life was kind enough to her, she wouldn't have been somewhere waiting in vain for longer hours for a job, she probably would have been working in her father's office as oga pikin. OP had better refine her attitude and stop being unnecessarily irrational.
To clarify you, I have nothing personal against her. I just wanted her to stop glorifying rude and classless attitude.

-Viper

Dude, you've clearly made your point. Now chill.

jenny005:
Yes. U wud have had a little patience. Maybe they were using that to test u and remember patience is one of the greatest virtue in the bible.

We're talking about a workplace not a religious entity! Productivity is what forward-thinking companies constantly tries to nail, and this is singly attained through proper time management, not patience.

Companies wasting your time in the name of "testing your patience/endurance" are not serious with business. And most likely have a very backward-thinking management at the helm of affairs. Such work environment will stagnate your professional growth both as an employee, and as an individual.

Any serious company values time and respects it.

Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

Richy4:

I will suggest Bayelsa state but there are 80% chances that you will teach..
97% chances that you will hate the orientation camp..
100% chances that the locals no send u.. because u go pay house rent at high cost..

Lol. Thanks chief

ednut1:
Just look at terms and conditions he dey list like your papa owns Nigeria. Spoilt brat

You're a fool.

esthel:
don't leave it to fate o, before you will end up where you will almost cry, pick ogun and try to be in Abeokuta....should be fair

Thanks for your input.

Have you experienced Ogun?

maiiilooo:
Kano ..

Any specific reason(s) why you'd recommend Kano?

GboyegaD:
Why not just leave it to fate? Must it be influenced? Live each day at a time.

I've thought about that too. But...

I'll be going for service in a few months and I've got someone who has offered to help me with my posting. She asked me to choose practically any state of my choice except Abuja.

Interestingly, Abuja has always been my first choice (I've got family over there--feeding & accommodation won't be a problem).

But since Abuja is out of the table, I'm a bit conflicted as to which state to pick.

First, I don't like Lagos. That's out of it.
Secondly, I don't want to teach.
Thirdly, I need somewhere with a considerable cost of living (cheap food and housing).

So basically, I need a state where I can begin life as a bachelor and hopefully, get a job or start a thriving business.
This means my preference would be a state bubbling with economic activities and a low cost of living.

I need your suggestions, guys.


Where would you suggest I do my NYSC, going by my aforementioned criteria and your personal experiences?

KNOWMORE56:


Go on personal retreat. By personal retreat I mean you alone with God, get revival messages you'll listen to, separate yourself from everything and everyone.

Any pastor that can feel sad because you want to get connected back to God does not love you....

*. Song of Solomon 1:6 "KJV:Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother's children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept ."

Thanks a lot. I'll imbibe this.

Truvelisback:
Fast! 6 to 6.

You're saying the same thing.

Vision101:
Prayer is communication between a child of God and God. No two friends exist without talking to each other regularly. The scriptures says that we should pray without ceasing. Something must be definitely wrong when a true believer finds it difficult to pray.

Irrespective of your activities and position in the church, the question is are you a true believer? If you are sure you are then a retreat is recommended to fire your spirit up.

It's unthinkable to find a good Christian that finds it difficult to study(not read) his Bible regularly. The revelations that come to you each time you study the Bible is ever fresh.
It is not a good sign in Christianity to go low after you have gone high in service to God.

Anybody that finds the above easy has a question mark in his Christianity. Don't be deceived by the initial breakthroughs you receive when you do this. They are the tricks of the devil.

What you are experiencing could be danger signals. The enemy will never be happy when you are fervent in the things of God. He will sow the seed of lukewarmness. Remember the Laodicean church in the book of Revelation.

Pastors are advised to spice up their service. Include varieties because the church is made of human beings. Jesus told Peter to feed his flock. The food must not be junk food. Messages should vary while maintaining the main line which is our Lord Jesus Christ.

Recommendations
~ take a retreat for some days to fire your spirit
~ listen to Christian songs regularly.
~ reduce your activities so that you can have more time.
~ study (not read) your Bible. This will involve using different material.
~ if the doctrine of your church is sound, don't leave but spice up by listening to good preachers online.
~ in a respectful way suggest to your pastor to spice up his service.

I'm a senior pastor in RCCG. I'm pic of a province headquarters parish. I allow my congregation to be hungry for my messages, teachings and programs. So I don't preach or teach all the time. I allow other ministers to handle some service.

Do everything to enjoy working with your senior partner - the Holy Spirit.

God knows my heart has always been to serve him well. I've tried to the best of my ability.

I can't suggest to my pastor to spice up his service. It's not in my place.

Nonetheless, I've read what you wrote and I'll pull myself to adhere to your recommendations. Thanks a lot.

Truvelisback:
Fast! U have been eating too much. It has made ur spiritman to be weak and ur flesh to be strong.

I don't eat too much. So this one doesn't follow.

cooooooks:
If you can think through the questions he asks, your faith will be forever strong.

I know Doug.
I've listened to him and many other atheist back when I was an atheist too. He constantly evade questions about his worldview, his arguments are manipulative and are far off from seeking objective truth. Go listen to the podcast he had with Darth.

If you wanna listen to an atheist, at least, choose the ones who are honestly trying to find answers.

Anyway, thanks for your input.
Take care.

cooooooks:
Go to YouTube. Search for "Pinecreek Doug".

Watch his videos.

I'm tryna reignite my prayer life and you're recommending I listen to an agnostic.

Ulunne777:
Church: because someone is disturbing me .
Prayers: bexuse I don't want my children to say their mommy didn't teach them how to pray.
For some years now,spirituality has become burdensome for me.I haven't even read my bible once this year.
Do I want to reconnect,I don't even know.[b]I'm going through some things that makes me question if God is actually interested in me.[/b]If he actually exists.If we are not living like animals who die and go.
I wish sometimes but the will,the time,the concentration is not there.
Ike Gwuru!

Wow. I've been struggling with this too. I mean, I used to pray for a long stretch of minutes and I end up feeling absolutely nothing. I don't hear anything, I don't sense anything. Just bleh.

I know God exists. My feelings can't dispel it. The evidences are written all over creation and they're quite glaring.

He has billions of loyalists. Maybe I'm just an insignificant lot. I dunno.

Richy4:

<<<I am not an expert in matters like this but in my humble opinion, I will suggest that you Meet whoever that is incharge of the church, let them delegate some of the responsibilities to others.. U were feeling the exact way Moses was feeling before God asked him to appoint 70 elders to help him see the affairs of the Israelites..

<<<Also, It feels really good to worship with the people of the same faith because iron sharpens iron... But sometimes when U were not up to it, u give yourself a break... It doesn't feel right when U feel that there's nothing else to learn in church..it doesn't look right anytime attending to church service feels like a chore... Immediately that feeling starts, it shows that u needed a bit of a break then come back again..

<<<As for praying, it happens to many of us... but Please do not let that fire in u to die down ok.. Prayer is communication... If U have nothing to say to the man upstairs, just say the grace and sleep... Don't feel bad u are just human..

Thank you so much for your words of advice. This was quite refreshing to read. Your second paragraph really hit home and I'll heed to what you've recommended.

MRDEE01:
Take out sometime to fast and pray.
Also listen to more of worship songs early in the morning.

BTW too much activity kills spirituality which imparts affects sensitivity.

I pray you find your spiritual bearing fast.

I'm struggling to pray and you're telling me to add fasting .

Anyway, I think you're right about the "too much activity".

I've thought about stepping down from some leadership positions, but I don't know how my pastors will take it. I don't want to be seen as a bad egg.

I'm not exactly sure how this started.

I used to always begin my day with prayers and studying the Bible. But of late, I've been finding it difficult to continue this practise.

I also have no desire to go to church anymore. I find I don't learn anything from the Bible whenever I attend. Either I'm too busy working (I'm a worker), or the sermons mostly borders on how to attain wordly success—things I can easily pull up from one of Anthony Robbin's motivational books.

I'm involved in a lot of things in church. I occupy several leadership positions (which I didn't ask for) and every Sunday feels like an office meeting.

I get home feeling drained and tired after several meetings. I don't learn anything from church and I no longer feel the passion I used to have.

I dunno what's happening. My spiritual life is wearing thin.

gstelly:
Since Monday I have been experiencing depression, been scammed of my life savings by someone I trust is not I have ever imagined things are way difficult for me to accept,lately things have been difficult even to eat is now a problem considering suicide but no...dunno what to do

If you're suicidal then you'd need to consider getting professional help. Please don't take your life, things will get better.

Sanmel:
I really wish I could share what I'm going through here.. Just that some demonic nairalanders will make you more depressed with their silly comments.. Let's just believe and be hopeful that there's light at the end of the tunnel.. Shallom

I find that a lot of Nairaland members hate their lives. Many are just plain frustrated. Hence, a platform like Nairaland that offers anonymity to share your thoughts becomes an outlet for these unfortunate lots to expel their frustrations. Regardless, there are still sensible people here.

I wish you all the best Sanmel.

The bulk of the comments here are borne out of ignorance of how the human mind works.

Although the topic explicitly reads that the thread is for people going through depression, a lot of you have resulted to making unwarranted comments on a subject you know nothing about, just so you could feel good about your pathetic and mediocre lives.

You lunkheaded fools!

Depression is a mental illness. There are biological, chemical and psychological intricacies that play into its complexity. It's not a matter of being tough.

Are you tougher than Tyson Fury who fell into depression and almost committed suicide just after winning the Heavyweight boxing title? Are you more accomplished than Elvis Presley who drugged himself to death because he wanted to drawn the emotional pain that comes with fame?

You average bloks who have never smelled or possibly imagined the hemisphere of what a meaningful life tastes like feel you can spill hogwash over something you know nothing you know about.

If you weren't poverty stricken, you'd realise that money doesn't bring fulfilment.

If you weren't poorly educated, you'd realise that you can be surrounded with a lot of people and still feel lonely. Ask Justin Bieber.

Adolf Merckle was a billionaire who committed suicide in 2009 after the financial crackdown that plagued the world in 2008. He lost a bulk of his wealth and soon fell into depression and he refused to speak about it. If he had opened up to someone about his pain, he possibly would have still been alive today and contribute more to the world.

A lot of you have average dreams. Hence, you never get to experience catastrophic disappointments that leaves you shattered. That's why you're here mocking and spitting on a serious issue that has taken the lives of millions.

I created this thread so I and others who are trained in the subject could offer help to people who may be hurting.

Unfortunately, I fear that you dumbbells might have derailed the purpose.

hpk:
If you're sad, depressed and lonely it's because you choose to wallow in your comfort zone waiting for pity party to come over and listen to your sad tales or researching on antidepressants to ease your pain.

Try sleeping for 8 hours
Walking in the Sun
Doing exercises to make you sweat (gym)
Eating steak i.e plenty of meat.
And bathing cold water.

If you're a man experiencing depression that's a cue your testosterone is utterly low but pills won't pick it up for you. Life suck from time to time and that's normal for a man, you would be in a Disney movie to expect life to be fair to you all your life.

Also, if you drink alcohol and smoke (cigarettes or marijuana) they'll be doing you more harm than good in fogging up your brain with unreal visions of what your life should be like while posing as short term solutions to the main problem.

Trash this pity party mentality in seeking for help from sadness, depression and loneliness you feel in the absence of enjoyment, financial abundance or rejection from a partner and toughen up your mind to withstand these situations while looking for solutions to your problems.

Remember, tough times don't last, only tough men do.

You've given your two cents.
Noted.

Goldbw122:
Life is beautiful and wonderful.

Yes it is. But some of us are still tryna work our way to that point.
Thanks

Promiseibritam:
Will this thread help to get my gf bk?

Do you mind sharing what happened?