₦airaland Forum

mutter:
You have no right to keep a child away from a father if the father is not a danger to the child`s health and well being.
It is the fundamental right of the child to know his father and it is the right of the father to know his son.

If love your child let the child get to know it`s father. Do not take it upon yourself to make a choice for your child. That child is a human being with rights and you have just deprived him of a very fundamental right.

More so he needs to know his fathers roots and the rest of the family.
Did his siblings, grandparents, uncles, Aunts and cousins also offend you.
You are depriving him of his father,his siblings, his family , his roots.

It is morally wrong and that child may grow up hating you for depriving him of so many people who could have showed him love.

Please overcome your hurt and pride and do the right thing in the interest of your child.
The child is priority here and remember.
You too did not show that child unconditional love.
You wanted the fathers blood tested to know if it was a sickler. Most likely you would have aborted it if it was.
So you are not much better and have your own fair share of sins and cannot stand in Judgement over him.

Finally follow your heart, which wants to call him anyway!

I just feel like kissing you for this.

topcube:
It's painful, my readers one way or the other, may or may not understand me, ok, let me put it this way, since my girlfriend has the wife material which is my goal, should I be commited & as a result, help her secure a low income job or back out from the relationship?
Pls, note, the relationship is just 7months old, moreover she's from Detal State, while I am Yoruba.
I need those whom are married or with experience to contribute

you were called kettle because your written English isn't any better but yet you criticise her on that.

Back to Topic, your ability to positively impact someone you have been privileged to meet, wife or no wife material defines your personality to a large extent. Besides, it doesn't take away anything from you to want to help her out if you can but just like a poster said, do not expect any form of gratification or feel she owes you her life for that sole reason not just to avoid disappointment, but cause it is what people do for people.

This is a non-issue and doesn't require. You creating a thread.

I am moved to put this up here knowing how helpful nairalanders on this section can be.

I hoped I don't have to or could help her out in my own way, I have advised and encouraged her as much as I can but I know that is not what she needs right now.

This lady lost her hubby few months into their marriage and was pregnant as at then, now her bundle of joy has been birthed but the husband's family took everything and pushed her away, right now she has been job hunting, the offers she got earlier were dropped because the little girl was too tender as per her employers. She recently got another offer and was willing to take it even though the pay was nothing to write home about but unfortunately it is an 8-5 job and they wouldn't even allow a 30 minutes break for her to pick her child from school. She stays in Enugu and even though I don't know if she would approve of this, I implore kind hearted nairalanders who stay close and can pull a string or two to help her get a job that would keep her busy and yet allow her time to take care of her daughter to help out.

This interests me cause I have a daughter about the age of hers and can't imagine her mum passing through what she is passing through just so she doesn't have to abandon the daughter in my absence.

asadike:
Most of d men coming my way are rich and very proud. I don't want a pauper though I want an intelligent and humble guy that I can call my friend and actualise our drims together

I think u got me here, we are within the same enclave, deje

Dem get mind o

Na here INEC want form muscles, what about those who do not meet other requirements? [s] (I am not talking about the sapitikate o)[/s]

But why are those people even contesting? Just to bear the title "former gubernatorial aspirants"? Na wa for some people sha

Issokay

LaurelP:
Guys have a lot of wrong notions about ladies especially Naija ladies. These beliefs most times are partially or totally incorrect, but because of societal norms and our culture, most ppl still believe them anyway. There are many of them but I will just mention 10 and leave u to mention urs.

1.Ladies who are social are promiscuous: The average Naija guy beleives dat ladies who are very social and confident are wayward and love sex a lot. This is actually wrong as many girls who are free and mingle with guys are actually virgins.

2.Ladies with big bosoms is a result of constant handling by guys: Even me I used to have this impression before I got to know that a lady can be busty naturally without having guys constantly handling her breasts. Those days, we will be making jest of girls with big bosom and calling dem all sorts of names. That's wat ignorance can cause, now I know better, lols!

3. Ladies with big bottom is a result of excess sperm: Many guys believe dat ladies who have big backsides get it from excess sperm from guys. But this is not true. There are ladies who acquired their assets naturally, not a result of guys sleeping with them.

4. Ladies who are quiet are decent: This is not always true. My experience with women have taught me that quiet and calm ladies are usually worse dan the social and talkative ones. Its when u are alone with them dat u will know who they really are!

5. Those ladies who cover their whole body and don't wear trouser are decent: If I hear! It could just be as a result of fear of parents or religious beliefs or just lack of modernity. Decency or being responsible has got nothing to do with whether a lady wears trouser or Mary Amaka! Its in the mind.

6. A rich young lady must be a runs girl: Not in all cases oo. There are many ladies who are working hard and making their cool dough legitimately. I know of one in my town who's building a house for her family. She's d only female in a family of 7 men and she's the only one dat got a very gud job in an airport.

7. All Naija ladies love Money: But really is there anybody that hates money? Both male and female? The way guys paint it is wrong though, as if all they care for is money and no other thing. There are still Naija ladies who will love you for you are, and even support you (financially) if need be.

8. Naija ladies can't do without a guy that has got a nice car: That's for hungry ladies. I've seen ladies who have turned down guys who have really nice rides for guys with Legedez Benz, lolz.

9. Thß
ey are not smart or brilliant: Na lie! The last time I checked, more ladies are making 1st Class these days than guys. Besides we have many ladies who are doing pretty well in their fields. I no get power to type their name abeg, u know them.

10. They are too pompous and proud: This may be partially true, but not all of them. Besides, what guys mistake as pride may be a result of shyness. Many of them are shy but they cover it up by putting on a facade of pomposity and pride to avoid guys taking advantage of them.


Feel free to add yours.


LaurelP

I must add for the benefit of the ladies on behalf of my baby mama.
No Money No Love a lot of guys believe a girl can't love you if you gat no cash. That's a lie from the deepest part of hell. As a matter of fact, a girl who loves you don't care where and if the next meal would come, off course some of her friends could imagine why she sticks with you when you couldn't pay her bills, but all those one no concern her. Those who go about dating big guys, don't have love in their agenda, to them sustenance is the name of the game and they are so ready to jump ship when they're okay their immediate needs have been met.

sauceny:
Looks like a currency note.

u should have said stamp and I will listen to you

Good news I suppose

alaoeri:
A broke guy keeps on organising shows (Dbanj 10th year anniversary kick start next week with the likes if Amber Rose & Blac Chyna coming) while those that ain't broke can't even organise a concert, do the math.

to raise money, don't you think so?

tclever:
Nairaland with politics...may post will never make first page moreover am suporting buhari...www.nairaland.com/2113770/obasanjo-blast-pastor-oyedepo-over#30141308

lol, u ma want make fp abi?

Ok, so what?

sammyj:
Trust my incoming computer servy president, uploading images of his team meeting with American secretary of state. Its beat my deep imagination if the clueless Phd holder could even accessed his Histogram page without the aid of any of his Special this and PA's talk less of uploading images on it. Ride on TEAM GMB, Vote wise.

Click likes for GMB

Click share for PEG sorry GEJ

he has not won and your grammar and spellings are this terribly affected, I wonder what happens if he wins. But na for dream sha,

Failbuhari yet again

Ouch

Who be she?

Ok

Maternity hospitals have dug pits where u throw them and every other thing into

The one girl I know, would perceive it herself, trace where it is coming from, get it herself and roast more if that one no do.

Hmmm

Interesting

Those saying it should be forgotten should remember it is the minimum requirements for an elective position, we might be setting a dangerous precedent should the bar be lowered to favour him just because he is GMB.

Soon it would be the age limit and more would follow

The truth no matter how glaring never remains the truth once it is in contrast with an established interest.

My understanding of the issue is based on interest.
The same people spewing rubbish that his qualification does not matter would say the opposite if they were in the PDP.
Father Mbaka blesses Jonathan and APC protests
He turns around to endorse Buhari and GEJ's loyalists questions his calling.

My grouse is not with the political class who are only trying to justify their pay, but the youths who waste valuable time on the internet fighting each other.

At the end of the day, it is still FFK and GEJ who gets invited to the wedding of LAI's child and not you and I.

It is still Lai that's gets a special treatment at the government house not you and I.

So why not just sit back and enjoy the show like the sitcom it is rather than allow them wip up sentiments whose bad effect would be on you and I and not them or theirs?

No matter how long any of them try to hold onto power, it won't last forever. Afterall OBJ is now the former President and whenever notices he has been forgotten, he tries to pull one or two strings to make us remember him.

Chai

otigbagba:
whats this one saying

I don't even know

one can not help but laugh at the pathetic Nigerian
situation. The saga would continue to drag and
create a precedence. there is so much to this but we
aren't seeing them because we are already drawn
up against each other as a result of our preferences,
facts are no longer facts.
I am not going to be bothered about the authenticity
of the result released, but I expected the integrity
General to come clean, we all know that at a
particular time in history, the army was filled more
with and by quota system rather than qualification
(this is for those basing their argument on his rising
to become a general) and a good pointer is the
interview granted by IBB on how they were
encouraged to join the army while in school.
We need to tell ourselves the truth

Show of shame

Lol

one can not help but laugh at the pathetic Nigerian situation. The saga would continue to drag and create a precedence. there is so much to this but we aren't seeing them because we are already drawn up against each other as a result of our preferences, facts are no longer facts.

I am not going to be bothered about the authenticity of the result released, but I expected the integrity General to come clean, we all know that at a particular time in history, the army was filled more with and by quota system rather than qualification(this is for those basing their argument on his rising to become a general) and a good pointer is the interview granted by IBB on how they were encouraged to join the army while in school.

We need to tell ourselves the truth

It is best where it has been or am I expected to log on to a laptop or purchase a data bundle just to whatsapp on mylappy when I can do it on my phone? Unless they intend making it broader than it has been, Instant messaging is best on mobile devices