₦airaland Forum

dawnomike:
3 to 4 months wait is fine....

Oh! Thats sound familiar.... Thanks man👍

Happy weekend nairalanders
So, I've come with loads of questions for young married men in the house

To this effect, I need upright and experienced answers devoid of negative sentiments

So, as a young family with less than a month old baby, of course there will be need for us to wait for at least, 3 years before developing a thought of making another baby.....


It is however normal and medically necessary for a nursing mother to abstain from sex during the entire period of breast feeding and nursing the young baby.

At the other end, a father/husband who has nothing to nurse but ensure basic provisions of needs and care for both the mother and her baby may have a need to crave for sex during the period.

Now, without fornicating,for how long can a man wait for the wife to be physically fit to engage in marital sex and how can this be achieved without cheating.

Some friends says they wait for 3 months before engaging their wife in a protective marital sex again. But when I mentioned 2 years to them, they all bursted into an uncontrollable laugh 😂. They stressed that even women would not hold it for that long.

So friends in nairaland, come to my aid..

And once again, my questions are directed to married and young couples in the house...

All opinions will be keenly processed and thought over ...

Thanks 🙏🙏

The whole thing looks scripted to me I swear . Abeg, wetin be the title?

You cedis people and their wàhálà ehn...

EreluRoz:
You see this abroad, I will never be a fan of it.

I can't trade my princess treatment here to become a second class citizen elsewhere. I love my country

I seconded you

He should be probed and sent to God if found guilty........No padi padi.


Next abeg

They should send him to God if found guilty....... I hate nonsense

Chetas81:
THEIR NOT BLACK AFRICAN FOOOOOLS

Oh really!! Mr compound fooooooooool. Like I didn't know that .

🤣🤣

When sharing formula goes wrong...

adamusuleiman3:
https://punchng.com/oyo-declares-august-20-work-free-to-mark-isese-day/

O dowo àwọn àgbà gbà. Ẹ jẹ kò ju wá ṣe. Isẹ ṣe làgbà!

Melagros:
COMRADES, Tinubu is a crooked, you can't divert our attention

Well, you are right. But believe me, every person's who get into that office regardless of their good or bad intention would look crook to you one year up. That's why you someone like us seriously advocating for restructuring. I mean let's do zonal if we can't do region to start with. The bedrock is that the current system is dysfunctional and not sustainable for a country as heterogeneous as Nigeria.

budaatum:
Thanks for pointing that out!

Does it mean state is allocated separately?

By the way, I am getting requests for money from Osun State local government employees. The reason they give is local government has not paid them.

On Local govt allocation.... I think they are yet to receive their first ever direct allocation from the center up till this moment. When they do, we Will definitely get the update..

CodeTemplar:
I am seeing LGA and not state or FG.

Look more closely bro

happney65:
Most of these states use the Money to pay salaries That is why apart from states like Lagos and Abuja with huge IGR coutsey of being a former federal capital and new capital. Most of them are just getting by.

Even the salaries sef they never pay am finish. That is why a state like Gombe is saying he cannot pay 70,000. In a state like Gombe that government is the largest employer of Labour.

That is why True Restructing must be done.

Each states should be in charge of its resources and sends a fraction to the federal government like a true federating unit not this one the FG is giving them stipends every month

You are on point bro👍. Restructuring is very intimidating to an average politician, they do not want to miss their milking point for anything.

May God bless our nation.

Now, more focus and expectation should be put on our local govt, this is looking good. Empowering them like this assures quick community development which the citizens have been deprived long time ago.

This is a preamble of how redistribution of power and wealth in our polity looks like, courtesy of restructuring.



While at that, fellow Nigerians, let's channel more energy on the 'RESTRUCTURING' of this country. Not 'DESTRUCTION'. Not ONE Nigeria we are made to believe exist.

Nigeria is too wide and complex to be run by one man sitting inside the Aṣọ Rock. It must be operated in faces not unitarily. This is the only way we could have it cool.



Modified

That's just the beauty of democracy, it gives everyone equal right to lawfully do and undo. As silly and alien as this shows sound to an African, the players have every right to hold it.......


While at that, fellow country men, let's channel our energy on just only one agenda of restructuring' this is the only agenda that will bring succor to all our grievances. Let's stop playing to the gallery all the time..

Best regard...

Can we have this moved up please? 🙏

As a fairly religious person who is only concerned about his personal connection with God aside from the peripherals, when I see the way we worship nowadays compared to the way our fathers in the past worshipped, I'm of the opinion that we have been bewitched or duped with our own ways in lieu of the foreign ways.

Yet, we still don't see this as one of the things that hinders our rapid growth, we have been brainwashed to erect many places of worship and not plenty factories where everyone can do something meaningful for their lives.


Note that I do not belong to the school of thought that "religion is a scam" but our mode of practicing it is what I have problem with.

Now, the big question is that "what happened to Africa religion"? Pls read below (copied) and let's brainstorm over it👇
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As an African, you travel to Israel to pray on a wall. This is called pilgrimage and you automatically earn the title of JP.

As an African, you travel to Saudi to pray on a black stone. This is called Hajj and you automatically earn the title of Alhaji.

As an African, you travel to your own Ancestral home or village where you were born to pray on Stone, River, Tree, or any symbolic spiritual statue in your home, this is called Pagan.ism and tagged as [b]Fetish, Dem.on!c and Devi.lish.

Your comments on this..

Who would expect anything different? 🙄

Let china breathe abegi

Kingrshd3:
Marrying a virgin too doesn't guarantee she won't cheat later when she get to maturity stage and expose to life at 27 and 30 she can still leave ur home and leave d kids for u to enter club.


Life no balance bro and their is no perfect calender for it

This virginity of a thing this guy carry around sha! Hope u will be ready to marry your daughter off as early as 18 years of age before she could be sampled out? Considering the days societal order, that's the only means you could marry her off as a virgin. The world has moved beyond all of that now.

Whats important is marrying someone who love you wholeheartedly and who will be ready to go down rough part with you....

BabbanBura:
Why are people this wicket!

I swear!! I don't know how people can live with such poisonous secret.

AngelicBeing:

Trouble man

Do we have people with secret like this here?. Abegi take them to your grave

I would have said "fear woman" but things like this are not peculiar to gender. Human being will always perpetuate ridiculousness. Irrespective of the gender

This is actually from a Twitter page and I've been short of words since I read it












I want to share my little anonymous secret.
I was 32 when I met my husband. He was almost 37 and single. He didn't really seem like a man of my type, but I was a bit desperate. I needed to settle down. He is not really fluent in English and acts a bit barbaric, not how I imagined my future husband. He's a plumber, and he gets a lot of work. He travels often, but he is home most of the time, too.
I wouldn't have agreed to marry him if I was young, though I would have dated him because he has money and is equally generous.
He is a nice-looking man, but he doesn't dress or sound like it. A woman like me wants someone who is good-looking and knows how to dress and speak fluently as well.
I really was reluctant when he brought up the idea of marriage, but I had to agree because I was 33 by then, and I felt like no better man was going to come my way. I had good men I was talking to, but none of them was interested in marriage or marrying me per se.
After we married, I started hating myself for settling with such a man. We barely attended any corporate event. His friends are all local, and he is always about us doing local things.
I am ashamed of him, so I don't even like staying by his side when we were out.
Long story short, I got pregnant for someone else because I don't really enjoy being intimate with my husband. He turns me off because I don't find him attractive. The guy I got pregnant for is equally married. He is the one I wanted to marry before he dumped me for someone else. We dated for two years and I was madly in love with him. I couldn't handle the heartbreak, but when I realised in marriage that I'd married the wrong person, I reached out to him, and we've been intimate ever since.
I'm not in love with him, I just like being intimate with him because I find him to be more of my dream man than my husband.
I had my child in January last year. My husband thinks he is the father, and I am not worried about DNA because it would never cross his mind. It's the literate who disturbs women with DNA. This is a secret that would never come out because my husband is convinced the child is his, and I never told my ex the pregnancy was his.
I just found out I'm pregnant again, and I don't even know which of them is responsible for this one.
My problem right now is that my ex mentioned that he wished I could give him a child. He and his wife have only one child. The woman is battling with PCOS, and my ex is in need of a son badly. My first child is a boy, and it's his, but I don't know what would happen if I tell him. He can't be trusted so I fear to reveal this truth.
I wish that he knows the truth and puts the child in his plans. Please, what should I do? He is richer than my husband and would give the boy a better life, to be honest. Please post anonymously and let your audience advise me, thank you.

No judgements please.

slimjohn2k5:
I swear is not easy even when you want to.
Most time when I try to tk a nap during the day my wife keeps disturbing til I wake up. Is not easy for men ohhh

Lol. Not easy bro. But there are times U get to stay away from all this inconveniences to clear your head and think straight.

squash47:
Rubbish. What if the husbands lived longer than the women before they died ? And what is the guarantee that calling my friends will give me long life ? Or even wearing good clothes?
Omo, abeg long life na gift from God.

Lol. You are right, but I think the common order is men dieing right before their wives.

Also right, that long life is nit peculiar to longevity, but once must enjoy the luxurious while it last

ForValour:
Very important advice. It is not easy though as man must put food on the table.

You are right, a whole lots of responsibilities hanging on men from parents down to your own family.

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