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It's unfortunate that people still need a one on one orientation in this part of the world. No one is ready to build from scratch before longing for the proceed, you only want to explore a shortcut as an opportunist and dream of making it big time. Hence, you hardly find a visionary amongst our people.

Meanwhile, we cannot shy away from the foundation of this nation in a forceful and dishonest way. This nation post amalgamation was designed and converge to fail, not the other way round.

The elders we would I've ran to for help with the experiences are also running away, everyone only care about the welfare of their selves and that of their immediate family.

Who are the politicians? We all form and belongs to the pool of politicians, hence we are also grossly one of them. Our brothers, sisters, friends, colleagues are one of them.

I can't really digest the idea of helping our brothers on ballot box to snatch and cart away the constitutional votes of our brothers. As ridiculous as it is, the cause of their action did not emanate today, but it has been a customary trait in existence since the time of our founding fathers. I try as much not to do this on a public forum because it's not substantial to any effect, but news of this type would make me do it.


Abeg, hand dey pain me, make I rest 😞😞

LIGHTROOM:
I was owning #4500, when I discovered that they have cleared the deft, I quickly borrowed another #4500. Na to throway the Sim be the next plan now

No need to throway my brother, since U don òwe mtn the same amount Nigeria dey owe for debt, just carry ur Sim go do easybuy to complete the cycle. After all, U no go fit repay mtn.

No wàhálà so far ńa people who dey òwe u their debt balance go return, not on people like us wey no owe and get credit money.

Otherwise, Ayilala, Amadeo, Ogun, sanpona....

Make I stop there

Kentuforchrist:
People still dea vote lol

If I vote again make I bend

Thank God by January am leaving this country to Canada with every peace of my strength

To hell with nigeria

Make my children no curse me

Lol. My friend Funny thing is that, if you refuse to vote, you will only make it easier for inec to round up their figures earlier and collate the little votes casted. It amuses me when people think they are posing a threat to politicians when they boycott voting exercises. We only enormously run away from reality to make ourselves feel better

yrhuhfy113:
wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever.

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

Waoo! This is very educative and insightful. You can't have it all as a man of both genders. Regularities and irregularities is not peculiar to anyone, plus the fact that the society we live in shapes us all to the kind of culture going in on in marriages.

I could love this comment a thousand time....

And to Op, I hope you understand this and desist from generalizing. Remember you don't choose your gender before you were born. Would you have said this if you were born of the opposite gender? Let us learn and relearn

Veecruz:
You no suppose share am. You no see as dem pass abomination? You kon even talk say over the moon.

Lol. U no ṣeé say na d werey blogger make that strange headlines? Ńa hin make me dey ask if na Naija den be

cooooooks:
Na your union?

Which one U be there? The one in white or blue?

cooooooks:
God bless their union.

U say wetin

Veecruz:
Op for doing dis dem go use you for rituals before Christmas

And 2 the 2 beast, fire must burn dem 2 death

Ahhh. Bro wetin i do u? Abegi ńa share I share am I no kill person ńa. I suspect u be ritualist🙄

Burgermotors:
What is this

Bro na wedding na

Kobojunkie:
Show us that the shape of your head is better than theirs first.

OK. No vex sir/ma. I comot my hand

dkidd:
The other one even wore heels

Lol. The he/she first dey confuse me, but as I see heels on that dude, I knew he she's the bride

JealousCobra:
U sef na trouble lover 😁😁

JealousCobra:
Tmksouth and KingCold just wedded 😁😁😁🤓😎



Gay union.



TMksouth on blue KingCold on white.

Why are u like this na, how can U relate this kinda head to another person.

Nonexisting1:
As soon as I saw the head, I knew they are clients of the psychiatrists. If mad people are given the same free hand here, some of them would be married to the dustbin by now. I'm happy Nigeria still recognizes madness unlike the so called saner climes. Homosexuals in saner climes are normal people but in here, we know there is no difference between them and mad people.

Bro u wouldn't say it better. Na gross madness e be

illicit:
No be Naija head bẹ dis abeg

That's probably TMKSOUTH


💩

Abeg, don't shake this table na

Lol. Naso so so head we dey see

The heads for me

Instablog9ja don start.

My first issue with this pathetic union is that, with the shape of these heads, ńa Naija head be this.

Secondly, will these aliens knack

Hmm. The famous Ajala travel, this earth has indeed unearth and buried alot of folks. Just be good...

You will be surprised what the cost of getting and sowing that materials could fetch a common man. Of course anyone can get him herself a nice and befitting designers. But not the one that portray you in a negative way.

She knew what she was doing, now she got the attention she desperately crave for.

Govt should try as much as possible to act more and talk less. In this age of information and Intel, no amount of talk could appease the people if there are no physical and direct effect which will cut across all the nooks and crannies.

This govt should learn from its predecessor and handle things differently in a positive way.

Something must kill a man...

In short, ńa where man dey work he dey chop, but man must get plenty work and shop to chop for long

Young man:

Never remain stagnant, always be constantly seeking to improve yourself in every area

A little story, there was a giant company in the mobile phones business by the name of Nokia. But those days are long gone, it was booted out by Apple and Samsung

During the press conference to announce the acquisition of Nokia by Microsoft, the CEO of Nokia ended his speech saying:

"We didn't do anything wrong, but somehow we lost"

What they did wrong was failing to constantly improve their product and adapt to the new demands of the market

As a young man, in today's world, a degree isn't enough, some can even say they're no longer relevant. Meaning you need to learn extra skills, that will set you apart from the rest

In today's world, a salary is no longer enough, meaning you now need multiple sources of income. That means you need to activate your entrepreneurial side, to suppliment your salary

In today's world, you're being programmed to be weaker and dumber every single day, meaning you now need to start researching on a wide range of topics/issues

In today's world, the dating game has changed drastically, the women of today don't have the same mannerisms, behavior and mindset, women of previous generations had. Meaning you now need to learn game inorder to navigate the dating market

It's no longer okay just to be average. If you don't change, you will be disqualified from the competition. If you don't want to learn new things and skills and your thoughts and mentality stay old, you will end up swallowed with time

Learn OR perish!!!

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Hello nairlanders😊😊😊

Here are the 20 rules for men, these are not facts..... Infact it can be edited and reshuffle. Rules on this regard are not peculiar to every men. Do what's best for yourself and morally enjoy this life the more you could before you exhaust it.

Reminderz:
Hypergamy...

Ask most women if they want someone younger and see for yourself... Being older is expected to mean more matured and experienced... And you would want someone you take as a leader to be older than you.

Women will only settle or stay with a young guy when she can't find the man that satisfies her hypergamy...

🤔.... That's deep!

McLizbae:
Bros... It's not a law, but a principle. It's normal, safe, sensible, and precautionary to put all instruments in place to do a task better. Let's take a bike for instance. You can ride a bike with just your boxers. However, it is highly recommended to use your helmet, gloves, shoulder guide etc.

According to the Bible, the woman (eve) was build/drwan from the man (Adam) that pre-exist (older) before her. She was also built to be taken care of and pamper by the man from whom she was drawn.

Being older than a woman is a very important tool needed by a man to play his necessary roles effectively in a relationship.

This will surely make you laugh, but it's also a really important tool. Make sure your taller and financially higher than her too.

Lol. The bolded 🍘 me up big time. I've always give a bid deal to that. Just be sizeably taller than my lady to avoid an unfair comparison . . You are right in it all though except the height part.

Peter532:
For a man to be the head, he must be older.

Hmm!! He must be?

There are somethings in this life that are naturally the norms at which our lives must be evolve around. One of it is that you must respect old age. And the religious books back it up that a man must provide for his family needs (Though, that's debatable in today's reality).

But I can categorically tell that I've had to do with this in some part of my life where I dated and fell in love with a lady obviously older than me in age but not in appearance.

So would like to ask if it's just the norm, that a man is older and more mature than his lady, wife or whatever the case maybe or it's so because of the responsibilities expected of a man to play in consensual and affectionate relationship. Or we've been giving too much preference to the norms and should have seen it the other way round?

I've you had similar experience? Was it worth it or toxic?