coperatee01:
pls someone should help me cause am dying from depression.Nothing in this live gives me joy anylonger..the reason am still living is 1 .fear of going to hell if i kill myself.2.because of my mum.

Please don't kill yourself. I do not know what you are going through but believe that all is well. If your faith can not carry "is", at least, believe that "all will be well".

It beats my imagination that most girls think the only thing they can offer a man is sex. Guys started their thing by saying they won't give money to random girls again and the only counter girls have is "we will close our legs". Jeeez!

This is very demeaning and self-objectifying. What happened to things like "No more advice" or "No more business partnership" etc. Must a typical Nigerian girl bring herself so low as to think that what (a man wants from her) she can only offer a man is her body?

thebosstrevor1:
Behind every makeup, there is witch ready to destroy you.

The woman you will marry, will determine the quality of life you will get.


Choose wisely

True

Jesus Christ!!!

His own wife?

In a few years from now, there won't be anything called marriage again with the way things are going.

Afromentalist:

The guy is actually wise. He has already seen that they are hungry leeches so he go shatter the pussy tire for some years then later dump her and marry a young lady with good manners.

Lol

Chimaokigwe:


Small curse, the hungry fool has deactivated. And I haven't even started with her yet.

Lol I wish the guy knew the bullet he dodged

Chimaokigwe:


You that you're not a curse, you are leading your mother to do bambiala. Your mother should have exchanged you for a loaf of bread.
She must have tried that but no one was willing to accept you worthless thing.

Jesu! ��

Easy oh

Lol as long as you have money, you can marry 100 but be ready to die young

You better run away as much as you can and let another person inherit such morally-bankrupt girl. You don't know what God has done for you

Olakunleyakub:
This is so absurd...only God knows if I would consider marriage soonest despite having all the requirements and resources of marriage....


She does not love her husband to be but she agreed to his marriage proposal right? Women...the husband to be wil think he has a good wife but unknown to him oloribu and promiscuous wife is what he has now.

Every men and women are hoping for good person even when it is obvious that the good people are very few this days and what surprises me is how men thinks they have the best wives but in the real sense it is not.

To the op, my advice for you is to stay away from the useless dog if possible block her on all mediums of communication....did you remember the law of karma? It is very real...Bleep another person wife and be waiting to Bleep your wife too and even impregnate her join too couples with other people things. She is ur ex for a reason and never go back to ur past infact tell her you don't live in that house again cos river never flow and look back.

Lol for one second, I thought I wrote this.

Olakunleyakub:
This is so absurd...only God knows if I would consider marriage soonest despite having all the requirements and resources of marriage....


She does not love her husband to be but she agreed to his marriage proposal right? Women...the husband to be wil think he has a good wife but unknown to him oloribu and promiscuous wife is what he has now.

Every men and women are hoping for good person even when it is obvious that the good people are very few this days and what surprises me is how men thinks they have the best wives but in the real sense it is not.

To the op, my advice for you is to stay away from the useless dog if possible block her on all mediums of communication....did you remember the law of karma? It is very real...Bleep another person wife and be waiting to Bleep your wife too and even impregnate her join too couples with other people things. She is ur ex for a reason and never go back to ur past infact tell her you don't live in that house again cos river never flow and look back.

Lol

AfroKnight:
Her fiancé might even be among those guys saying DNA test is not necessary, not knowing he’s about to father another man’s kids.

OP,

You know know what you’re doing. You just need people to justify it for you. Continue.

A wise man would recognise that such a woman who is trying to have her cake and eat it, is a disaster for any man who ends up with her.

Lol sadly but very very true

Nazgul:
Mr man, whether she loves her husband or not is none of your business. She's getting married and she wasn't pointed a gun and forced to say I do. Which means she willing agreed to marry him after breaking up with you. So what's your problem?

Men tell their side chicks how their wives disgust them, and how they'll divorce her and marry them just to get into their panties.

Women tell their boyfriends how their fiance/husbands maltreat them just to get their love and affection.

It's all a game, if you love yourself just stay away from her and her marriage and focus on your life. A word they say is enough for the wise.

Succinct

No way!!!
It is finished

Iyajelili:
Stop dating broke girls you guys will not listen.

mogbolade43693:
Dis is the problem,with many relationships in nigeria..ur mum was expecting him to come with big bread,milo and milk.ur mum acted wrongly.dis is just a boyfriend and not ur husband.

Lol

Mariangeles:


We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

Very true but blowing it out of proportion is something to be wary of. It shouldn't be what ends a relationship on both sides

TransAtlanticEx:
Lol more examples of the independent women that cococandy and co have been preaching about that litter everywhere in Nigeria.
One was even telling me yesterday how U25 women with good careers are everywhere in Naija,that I should change my circle
She almost stab her fiance because the guy no buy her mama bread.
Can you believe this?
Imagine what will happen if you marry his one and somehow forget to drop food money in the morning...

Lolz

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Jajajaja

Very sad tale. So, oga baby daddy was just after having a baby?

Haaaaa! This man will finish Nigeria before he goes home

ndindiatu:

Oga marry whomever u want E no concern us. May be u are yourba. A word for my ibo brothers ,come back and marry for ur own good. Look for a good woman or find good ibo girl in abroad there and marry. Dont follow yourba men dey do nonsense. Dont be a sperm donor that will regret in ur old age. To date akata is not easy. They are so crazy. A word is enough for a wise. We ibos have a lot to do in our villages.

It's Igbo and not "ibo". You should be ashamed of yourself if you are truly Igbo.

lefulefu:
u can't know if d lady u about to marry has bad character or good character if u are in an urgency to marry and she was arranged back home by family friends or a friend if urs.u are in d US and u tell ur parents back home that u want a village girl or home bred girl to marry and they look around and arrange one woman for u and lady knows d person she wants to marry is based in the US won't she put up her fake best character.until u bring her over and boom she shows u wat she is really made up of.most of d guys who cry about home based wife dealing with had wives from naija arranged from them .yes they probably came from a good family but won't be a gurantee for her to be good.courting for some time is essential for u to study d person but again if d time u looking for a wife in naija is wen u already based abroad then there is a high probability the woman u meet will just be pretending.

Lol do people still do that village girl arrangee?

HisMajesty1:
It's not easy anywhere. If marrying back home in Nigeria will guarantee a peaceful life for you and your spouse, why not? I lost interest in aspiring to travel abroad a while ago... Nigeria isn't such a bad place with an above average income and a small, peaceful family... If God bless you well you can take your family for vacation abroad and come back home jejely.

Yes my brother. Abroad is not all that...

angelfallz:
Nice write up. A woman whose character and attitude changes from good to bad because her environment changed or circumstance(finances) changed was not a good woman to begin with. This also applies to men. Once you're a good person you're a good person.

How do men shine their eyes?
By consciously looking for the good qualities they want from a woman in the lady they're dating instead of only looking for sex. By investigating the lady, getting to know her family's background, Getting to know her friends.

Please, I must add, there are no guarantees when it comes to marriage, you can only do your best to reduce the possibility of ending up with a bad woman.

Very very true

wjxavier:


Your angle is all about Karma. What about the good guys who never hurt a fly but their wives grow wings on them? This is the most prevalent case.

What do you have to say about that?

The truth is that America is a woman’s paradise. The government supports women to the core and the disadvantage of men.

I know a guy who was broke when his wife had a baby. It was from the hospital they were telling her the Govt would support her financially IF she dumps his azz.

Truth is, the world is changing diabolically. The family is under attack. This is the BIG picture to keep in mind.

When the Centre can no longer hold, the devil has reign. So all these dumpings are not just physical shyte. They’re spiritual in nature.

Keep in mind always that the devils goal is the destruction of the family system. When this is achieved, it is easy for a kid to wake up one day and say they prefer to be another gender. Or to be ghey.

This is the big picture. If women have it in mind, they won’t be seeking liberation so eagerly.

Valid points. The devil is at work and the first place to start is the family and when the family is attacked and in disarray, he can penetrate fully. Now, the curriculum in North America is being heavily changed to support and infuse gender transformation, homosexuality etc and these are being forced on the kids in school. Parents are now battling hard to re-orientate their wards. With the way things are going, there may not be a family system in a couple of years to come.

efficiencie:
When you marry a public toilet you can expect be in for a lot of high blood pressure...it doesn't matter whether you take her abroad or not. Provided she is a public utility, everywhere you find yourself with her will be a living hell.

Lol sad but true...and then DNA issues

nedekid:

Sorry about the perfect part
"What you should be advocating for is that men should shine their eyes and marry women with the right character and attitude"
The main point of my response to you is how do you shine your eye and marry women with the right character and attitude?
As I said earlier, character and attitide might be a reflection of the current circumstances and enviroment. It applies to both men and women. So how do you shine eyes to know?
A man might be rich, have a good character woman with all the right attitide, he runs in to financial or health problems and sees the worst character he never believed the woman could ever have. Vice versa.
Same applies to a man that shines his eyes, disregards the chicks abroad and his mum or him picks up a very well brought up girl with good attitude and character, they relocate as the op says and few years down the line the enviroment brings out the worse. Same way you have some married couples in naija that relocate to Canada etc and you see the man or woman misbehaving or divorce after few years.
It applies both ways.
So in sumarry, the bottomline is mutual respect, understanding, the grace of God or call it luck that makes marriages work.
That was why in my first response I said the mythical good character woman. same applies to men.

True!

banmee:


Ordinarily i would be scared too. I fear Nigerians in general. Doesn't matter if they are male or female. That being said, there is only one Nigerian i thank the gods i met and that is my wife. She is the most amazing person i have ever met and probably the most beautiful woman in the world. And she was born Nigerian. That is a miracle in itself. My advice to you is to know the person you are going to marry as best you can. I made sure i lived with my wife for 24 months before we got married. I don't care who you are, you cannot pretend for that long. Especially with someone like me. I will stress the phuck outta you till your break. And she passed with flying colors. I don't regret anything. And this was 20 years ago. How time flies.

Congratulations bro. I am happy for you and wifey

Eriokanmi:
I can't subscribe to this 'tittle-tattle' write-up OP. . I chose not to marry the abroad or akata girl because of divorce issues it mostly ends in and the way they live their lives over there, recklessly. Please guys, don't subscribe to ideas of marrying over there when you can always come home to pick your wife. If you have the opportunity of coming home to pick a wife to marry, do so without looking back. You'd be glad indeed , that you did.

About those always citing an example of those who regretted doing this and eventually divorced or killed their wives, this is just one out of ten cases we've had. Out of 10 guys who invited wifey or came home to marry and moved with their wives , only one wouldn't end successfully, compared to almost 6 out of 10 people who married Akata but ended up in divorce.

Our background most times wouldn't allow many to marry and cope with the so called akata wives 99% of the time. We are cultured, mannered and respectable, even grew and brought up in different environments. We want to cater for our wife and love her dearly, ensure she looks good and takes care of our children, that's how we were brought up, different from the way akatas and our people who have chosen to be like them in their reckless uncultured lifestyle are. Those ladies here, who tend to emulate the western world tend to end up breaking up with their husbands as well and when this happens, they say all manners of things to justify their actions...the man is authoritative, he's domineering, he's this , he's that.

[b]What i don't seem to be cool with, on the part of the guys is all about those who always marry akata with the intention of getting papers or have what is called AOS done and later dump them as soon as they're through with the whole process. The law of karma would surely strike someday. If it didn't strike through unsuccessful marriage with the home breed, it would strike in the career or in some other painful ways. I know of someone downtown aurora in Chicago back in the days, who married an American young girl for the sake of papers. This pretty girl loved him so dearly. Eventually he divorced this girl and she committed suicide. There are several of such cases happening on a regular basis. I paid a brief visit to my cousin in texas in 2019 before returning home after my holidays, he narrated a similar story. If you're not going to be sincere with her, let her know from the onset, she could do a contract stuffs with you if she wishes to... else, your punishment awaits you big time.
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Nicely-composed. Nothing irks me like seeing guys use white/akata ladies for paper and residence and then dump them. I mean, how terrible can that be?

RisenPhoenix1:
Too simplistic and very untrue. Many Nigerian men go abroad on study or professional work visas, work hard without marrying white women for papers, and come back home to marry because they realise that akata girls have little value marriage-wise. Some genuinely want to marry akata girls when they start dating them, but their eyes quickly open; it's not like they deliberately go around breaking hearts. About the only thing you're right on is the dog-eat-dog mentality of Nigerian girls once they get their papers abroad and start to understand the powers that Western governments mistakenly give them. They become something else.

But marrying akata girls is not the solution. Like their white counterparts, they are wayward and divorce prone; ending up with all the man's wealth at the end of the day. No. The solution is to marry home based Nigerian girls, but never to relocate your family abroad until your children are at least at college level. Personally, I cannot let my kids out of Nigeria except on the occasional holidays; until they get to post grad at the minimum. For me personally, relocating anywhere is a no no. Nigeria is good enough for me. I hate stress.

Well-written but I do not agree entirely with the second paragraph but I understand you are in Naija. For me, I don't think it makes sense to stay away from my family. I wouldn't like the idea of being away from my wife and kids. For the kids, I will make sure the go back home at least once every year...mostly long summer holidays until we gradually move back home together.