Originalsly: ..."And for me that is how I want it"

JallowBah:

So because me and my husband have an agreement in our marriage, tells you I am coming with western bullsh*t?
Grow up, dude.

And what the hell is going on with your comparison to fruits and animals? My husband is a human, a damn fine one as well.

Boss13:

So that later you can call him a useless man, your mates are making money and you are here siting down with me. Abeg be a honest woman and stop this nonsense forming naija woman dey do these days. We men know una.

sleekman:

Hehehehehe have an agreement. Abeg no let me laff. Only a matter of time b4 that agreement becomes an issue. U better allow ur man be himself instead of u restricting 'animalistic tendencies' with an agreement. You know what why dont u just seat ur man down and ask him if he likes being a domesticated cat?

JallowBah:

You can laugh all you want. Our agreement has not been an issue because we DECIDED TOGETHER. You know: grown ups can talk to each other, and find out what they want together.
Guessing that is too difficult for you to grasp.

busolayemi: Now am feelin so bad...neva meant for dis to get dis far ppl....nd if in d course of dis discussion I ad step on toes...so sorry...esp d guys/men....I so dnt even know wat to typ...buh one way or d oda, av gained frm dis discussion...tanks everyone

Originalsly: ..."And for me that is how I want it"

brilapluz:
wen u made ur first comment on dis topic,i was one of dose who commended u and believed ur husband is so blessd 2 have a virtueous lady as u..but now am obviously confused by ur latest comments..u have made ur point 4rm ur first comment..stick 2 it!
and dere is no point quotin any comment dat runs contrary 2 urs cos as u earlier stated,its all about choice and wat works 4 one family may not work 4 anoda family..

Explaindoe: I don't know why some people are so frustrated on this topic, is a matter of what makes the couple to be in peace

bukatyne: And what point did you think I made? This is a learning forum and believe it or not, a lot of people learn daily from here positively or negatively. Yes, my husband to be is blessed and I am blessed too. It was revelated in My Spirit one evening that the love of a husband/ lover makes the woman to blossom and the womna turns and take care of the man so he blossoms too. Please don't be confused by my posts. I am stil sticking to my first post. I would apprepriate if a man says he can't help his wife because he doesn't want to and not because 'he is the head of his family'. I dislike when people misquote the Bible to their selfish purposes. Thanks for your concern.

brilapluz:
hmmmm...interesting..i sud have known...

bukatyne: And what point did you think I made? This is a learning forum and believe it or not, a lot of people learn daily from here positively or negatively. Yes, my husband to be is blessed and I am blessed too. It was revelated in My Spirit one evening that the love of a husband/ lover makes the woman to blossom and the womna turns and take care of the man so he blossoms too. Please don't be confused by my posts. I am stil sticking to my first post. I would apprepriate if a man says he can't help his wife because he doesn't want to and not because 'he is the head of his family'. I dislike when people misquote the Bible to their selfish purposes. Thanks for your concern.

bukatyne: known what? Please share

Michky: Sharrap! You lazy goat. You're determined to be a lazy wife and you dont want to become stereotyped in future. So, you're here trying to start a bandwaggon, that you may not be singled out in future. FYI, it wont work. Ediot, stop embarassing yourself here joor. Have you ever seen or heard of a king doing dishes or chores? I use the King example because they are an almost perfect example of what a home should be. Many have said on this thread that IF YOU CANT DO IT, GET A HOUSE HELP and stop expecting the man to do your duty as wife. Ediot, is this hard to understand?!

JallowBah:

Lol. So a woman is lazy if she works full-time...? That is the most un-logical thing I have heard.
A QUEEN does not do house-work as well, sweetness, so that one falls out.

Grow up, clean after yourself.

Michky: Un-logical huh? So because she is not lazy with work doesnt mean she's cant be lazy at home eh? Smartness doesnt equate ability to speak english o. Hope you know that. Marraige, like other institutions, comes with roles and DUTIES. In school, you dont expect a Vice chancellor to do the job of a cleaner. At home likewise, duties exist whether you like it or not! A husband's duty is provision and protection. A woman's duty is taking care of the kids and keeping the home tidy. If you can't do it, get help or better still, forget marriage completely. Its not compulsory. I see you have been hammering on women working long hours. But did you miss the part where i said get a house help? Duh?!

Michky: Un-logical huh? So because she is not lazy with work doesnt mean she's cant be lazy at home eh? Smartness doesnt equate ability to speak english o. Hope you know that. Marraige, like other institutions, comes with roles and DUTIES. In school, you dont expect a Vice chancellor to do the job of a cleaner. At home likewise, duties exist whether you like it or not! A husband's duty is provision and protection. A woman's duty is taking care of the kids and keeping the home tidy. If you can't do it, get help or better still, forget marriage completely. Its not compulsory. I see you have been hammering on women working long hours. But did you miss the part where i said get a house help? Duh?!

JallowBah:

Or even bettere; MARRY SOMEONE WHO AGREE WITH YOURSELF ON WHAT YOUR SPOUSE IS SUPPOSED TO DO.

I do not have anything against women doing everything at home, when the women wants it herself. What I do have a problem with is men like you who can not seem to comprehend that people do not want the same as him.

And no, I don`t "get it", because in YOUR world, everyone have to do what YOU like. Realise that people are different, dude. You need to grow up.

CAMEROONPRIDE: forgive her she is an oyinbo.

CAMEROONPRIDE: forgive her she is an oyinbo.

Michky: You need to do the growing up girl. Obviously, you've realised that am a principled man. Infact, i believe that IF THINGS MUST GET DONE, THEY MUST BE DONE RIGHT. Women that do all the work at home are the right examples of Wife. Not lazy feminists like some of today's girls. Ofcourse i agree that people are different. You even accuse me of wanting everyone to do what i like but you quickly forget that the same thing is what you're doing presently. You're trying to change men's mentality and am here standing up for us and you're crying foul. Smh. Marraige is about agreement but it wont be in this generation that women will start allocating chores to us! Not in this life!!

JallowBah:

NO, I am saying that just because a woman want her man to help around the house, does NOT make her lazy.
I am saying: what if you loose your job, and your wife is working, she should hire a MAID to do what you can do at home?
I am saying that every marriage for themself.

You are the one flipping out at me, and others, for not doing it how YOU want it to be, not me.

And Cameroon...kiss my big oyinbo a*s

Michky: No matter what i say, you'll never understand my point. But for the opteenth time, i repeat: i dont want to be forced to do any chores. Na by force? A man that loses his job should be encouraged and supported (provided he's not a lazy couch potato) till he gets another. Joblessness should not be an avenue to coerse me to start washing your bra and undies. And YES, hire a maid if the husband is jobless or not (provided you can afford to). If however you cant afford one, then come home early girl. Your chores are waiting. Take it or leave it! You are obviously a: bossy; i-no-go-gre; i-must-have-my-way-always; kinda wife. Many like you dont stay married for too long except for a few. Thread carefully. *Just saying*

kandiikane: @jallowbah, You're arguing with a nigerian man over duties? It's like arguing with a brick wall. Many of them are not married so they don't understand it. Just leave them be.

Michky: Many Nigerian men are not married but Many other Nigerian men are married. How can you then generalize that the Nigerian men on this thread know nothing about marriage. Do you know all our marital status to have arrived at this conclusion?

kandiikane:


Yes, because if many arguing were married or even living with their partner they will know every marriage/partnership is different. What works for someone doesn't work for another. Washing your wife's panties doesn't make you any less of a man, you are not better than her. Marriage is a union and you're meant to work together. It's not a union where it's king and subject. If you don't have a job, you Should help around the house, it doesn't make you any less of a man. This shows the disrespect and ill mentality Many men have for women.

"Oh, I'm not a domesticated cat,Why should I wash plates?" what the hell, does that mean? Respect your woman and treat her as you would want to be treated if you want to have a happy and bliss union.