₦airaland Forum

amoco:
Great point. It's complicated. Marriage is not for the faint-hearted. You need money to run a home especially when children come into the picture.

If you marry a wrong partner with loose values, it gets more complicated for you.

There are many however who have been blessed by God with responsible and understanding partners. Such persons are very lucky.

True I know great men that became shadows of themselves simply because they lost their marriage , the women gave them hell.
The wrong partner is a death sentence , it can kill any man. May God help us all men.

marlow1962:
With the kind of women we are having these days, baby mama is the surest now.

You can never see a wife when the present relationship status in the country is "pay to love"

"Pay to love" is a very strong reflection of what love has turned into in Nigeria today. No lies detected.

silibaba:
Marriage no fevour men. Men are wiser now. Babymama is the best or you think wizkid is a fool?

Yes I agree but don't you think babymamas are bitter , at least 80 percent of the baby mamas I know are all bitter women cause the men refused to marry them.

davillian:
Getting married is not the issue
But us leaving together under the same roof is the problem

Why is that ? You can't live under the same roof with a woman ?

KhalifaJay:
Look around you and imagine getting married to these set of women that we have now, B2B midfielders na water ( them full every ) and hook up culture is rapidly growing.

Secondly the economy is also part of the problem. Lastly many Nigerian men are leaving the country every day, some of them settle there or within when they experience a different type of love and women, they won't think of coming back to marry their naija women.

I agree with you bro , the hook cup culture isn't dying anytime soon I'm afraid it's here to stay. Even some married women still do prostitution codedly.

And yes the Nigerian economy is in shambles. Na one of the Major factors why men dey japa be that.
If you experience love from outside this country ,u go too enjoy because your not dating somebody that sees you as an ATM machine , it's pure crystal love you get.
Most girls for naija still dey try survive the hardship. So their mentality about true love don block.

Dshocker:
Two things are involved

1.... The economy has rendered a lot of men broke

2.... The girls have gone haywire, zero morals, and aren't fit to be made a wife.

Zero lies , 2 solid points you have there.

oluwatruther:
It's not just money. Even the ones wey don clear am financially still dey run.

The thing now be say marriage no get warranty again. You fit spend 10 years finding someone, then discover say na different person you marry. So men don start to take things slow. Instead of rushing into something wey go lock them for life, dem prefer to just enjoy and make sure wetin dem dey enter be genuine one.

Economy just dey add pressure to the process.

Walai no warranty again , people dey divorce like water now these days after spending fortune ontop weddings. Omo this life sha.

Good day fellas , let's face it !! there's a pandemic of mature young men in Nigeria now between the ages of 35 - 40 that aren't willing or even trying to get married. Never did I ever anticipate that a time would come when Nigerian men would stay this long without getting married or not even bother about it by a tiny fraction.


What do you think is happening during this era of Nigerian men not wanting to get married ? Is it the Nigerian economy? Is it that they can't find good Nigerian women ? Or Is it lack of financial resources ?.

Young men in the building from ages 35 to 40 that are yet to be married can you kindly explain why your yet to get married, maybe there's a justifiable excuse for this afterall.

Let's have a brilliant discussion on this topic , mature minds only please.

What you need op is time to miss her ,trust me , I guess your the type that get bored with repeation seeing someone or something over and over again can be very boring most times. (Happens to me too)

What you need to do is travel for a few weeks , or months , and when you come back the relationship would feel afresh, your sex drive for her would spike up again , it's like your starting all over again. The excitement and sexual tension would've have been built while your away from her, so when u finally get to see her again , it would feel brand new and exciting again.

If this doesn't work then your probably depressed and should see a therapist.

Rip to the poor innocent lady. Those men should be castrated , slowly tortured and then finally being fed to pigs.

If those men had masturbated they wouldn't be in all these mess today. There's no shame In masturbation , if you are Hot , rob one out , stop preying and raping innocent women to satisfy your 2 minutes pleasure when you can just soapy FFS.
Bunch of retards.

Listen , if as a man your still simping in this 2026 , then your tears go long pass to third mainland. Look this one no be play play o , if you don't start learning about female psychology by now as a man , your doom is pending.
Recently I was reading a story on X (twitter) a guy named Ugo or something came online and started ranting about how his wife cheated on him and he initially didn't even want to bring it on social media but his inlwas didn't really see any big deal in it. They showed no remorse. Sounds like they weren't suprise their daughter issa hoe.
Now this guy brought this girl (his wife ) to the UK , paid her tuition fee in pounds , bought a car for her as push gift after she gave birth in 2024 , I also read somewhere that he bought a house for her ( I don't know how true) and he also created a app for her lmaooooo.
Now The most craziest thing is that in the middle of all this , the stupid girl (his wife) is still demanding that Ugo continues to pay her college tuition lol ( the nerves of a hoe).

Listen , listen , if at this age and time your not ruthless with women , you would cry blood. You gatto to be ruthless with them to the point that if they even cheat on you , it doesn't move you , you just find another woman and move on jeje.

If you like make money then start spending it foolishly on women cause your tryna make them happy , you go cry better cry nor worry.
If you don't have game , walai your in soup. Better learn game as a man o.

A word is enough for the wise.

Why does Trump want Greenland so bad ?
I don't think it's oil related , there's gotta be more hmmm

Love finds you when your not looking for it though. So chase money and build up value , so that when it finds you it would make more sense and be a really sweet relationship.

And when I say build up value I'm not just referring to skills that make you money NO
I'm talking about building emotional intelligence, emotional maturity , working on your self (personal hygiene, fitness , style ) these things makes you a better partner.

Men how would you feel if your wife got more richer than you or more successful than you in terms of wealth or affluence ?
There's a saying which I think Is false btw that most Nigerian men cannot handle a successful woman.

Personally I can very much handle a wife that's more successful than me idc tbh , as long as there's no disrespect from her ends. But if she became disrespectful at some point , I would end things if the disrespect persists.

They are certain women that would rub it on their husband's faces any little chance they get to remind him that they are more successful than him which isn't a cool thing tbh and This happens a lot.

Certain men don't even want their wife's to work simply because of issues like this. Which I sometimes think it's selfish of men to act these way but I very much understand them nevertheless.

I don't want to generalize but I think when a woman becomes more successful than her husband there's always going to be tiny or even large trunk of disrespect.

So to the men in the house how would you handle it if your wife became more richer or successful than you and she started pulling some very disrespectful cards ??
Would you end things or just continue to move with the rhythm.

It's the snake that is at risk tbh.

I understand life ain't easy but coming to say these things in NL isn't necessary.
There's no motivation here you either find a way or perish.

Happiness go wan finish Next of kin
RIP to the man

It's a pure case of Karma , you did your CL dirty and now your girl is doing you dirty.
Karma comes around in different ways yunno but sha don't kill yourself , break up with her and start on a new path.

The best advice is that you should first of all work on yourself , groom yourself properly.
Then go out , supermarkets , events , recreational parks , cinemas.
Give the girls you like eye contact , get their attention from afar before you approach them that way they don't seem offended by your intrusion , then talk to them , say a few pick up lines and then proceed to collect their social media handle , Instagram or snap chat anyone ,don't ask for her number.

If you get rejected don't feel bad and don't make a big deal out of it just move on with swag.

Nyascobar1414:
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No,men are just coming to reality about what was hidden from them about female nature..

As Emil Cioran will say
"What a revelation"😹

At the end of the day , we still can't do without women , it's a pick your poison type of situation.
Personally I used to b so misogynistic but at some point I realised I would have to marry someday and probably have a daughter too , so it's only wise I stop consuming these gender war contents.

Kalatium:
The internet is exposing alot of things hence the back and forth.

Yes I agree with you that the internet is exposing a lot but the internet is also causing a lot of damages to people's relationships and marriages.
Not every hot take on the internet should be taken seriously, some people tell lies and spread all sorts of allegations just to trend.

I won't lie everyday I log into NL it's one gender war or the other , the truth is in as much as we men talk bad about women , we still can't do without them and in as much as women talk bad about men , they can't do without men. So what's the point of all these gender wars

They should be more sensible topics than gender war every time , it's getting really stale , y'all should wrap it up please. Thank you.

Everyday gender war , don't u guys get tired of all these

cuteeme:
Thanks for your open-mindedness...that is my own test for knowing serious people and to test temperament and he failed woefully. He just fell into the trap. I was as polite as i could be. If the question did not go well with him, there are reasonable ways to go about it. I am in for seriois business not just boyfie things. I am very much well-paid and run a fashion business. So if a guy asks what i do, i can proudly say without feeling hurt. What of men that asks, do you go around and say that you are a thief? Is he even proud to tell what he does? Is he ready to care for a family?? Inasmuch as i am not looking for set awon "i neva shop" still have some confidence in you,have tiny bit of hope in you at least. Then it shows that intellectually we can never be at sync. So i told him to keep it moving. Next thing, childish him brought it here like a baby crying in diapers so people will clap for him?? I see many reasonable comments here and i am glad that there can still be sensible people here on NL... cos this is not really my go-to SM platform.

Anyway, i thank everyone who have contributed to this discuss positively and negatively. I am married to the love of my life, a sound and intelligent man who has ticked all my boxes in what I really want in a REAL man... At the end of the day i 'looked well' so i don't catch a leech on my way to the very peak. We are not only married we are blessed with a family. Thank you. God bless you.

Well said , Godbless your union , Enjoy !

cuteeme:
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The both of you still very much like each other the way your both replying each other on here. Y'all can still figure it out sha.

But this is my take: I'm not supporting anyone sha but I understand the OP , you didn't even tell him your name, you just asked for his occupation like dat , at least your supposed to introduce yourself and get to know eachother very well and his occupation would pop out naturally without even asking him , that's how you get to know people.

Tenrack:
lmao. And the women themselves do what? Go to social media and see them posing almost naked to attract views and engagement. This your talk no follow. The truth is, most of them have nothing tangible to offer. And it would become worse in the next generation as a lot of stupid men are willing to sponsor their baby girl lifestyle.

It's you that has been attracting OS , the women I've been with aren't all perfect but they don't live useless lifestyles either.
When you start attracting classy women , you would understand my writeup better.

I told her I wasn't gonna break her heart
I ended not only breaking her heart I damaged her mental health too.
It was brutal , I no sure say that girl for ever gree love men again sha.

Well that was when I was still in the world , I'm a prophet of God now. Hallelujah

Most Nigerian men sexaully objectify women and it's sad. What do you mean asides sex what do men gain from women ??
1. Deep conversations with a woman who is emotionally mature and intelligent is way better than sex
2. A woman that helps you do stuffs with or without asking her.
3. Companionship, you guys don't even have to be talking all the time , just being in each others presence alone is sweet like mad
4. A woman that gives you vital information, introduces you to people that can help u in life
5. A woman that prays for you , roots for you , supports your growth
6. Gisting and gossiping with a woman sweet diee

Omo I can keep going on and on , theres so much fun you can have with a woman and segs would only be an added bonus.

True tho

If you jam babe wey really like you , there's nothing like rules , she would do almost everything for you.

Remember one chick that has been forming hard to get for many guys e reach my turn we kissed and made love the very first visit to my apartment , I made her comfortable, made her free and that's what women really enjoy , a guy that makes them free and comfortable not a guy that would be asking boring interviewing questions.

The second time she came she brought food and drinks and started performing wife duties that same very day and we had a great run.

Women don't have rules , they only do if they don't rate you that much.

Advice ; Go for women that likes you.

All these money miss road men. Lmaooo
Low self esteem at it finest.

but wait oo Omo girls they really enjoy sha 400k just to collect number
Over 3 milla just to enter talking stage that never happened ahhhh.

Sex is an art.