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PresidObi:
If you can't handle the heat, what the heck are you doing in a kitchen?

Learn to refuse giving girls or women your number so your life will be peaceful.

U be mumu

Where should I even start from , you can't show interest in a girl nowadays without collecting serious billing. So I've had two encounters lately with Nigerian women (not generalizing though) I've noticed that when you guys get talking and all it get to a stage , men we all know this stage ofcourse lol.

It's called the billing stage , strange billing, unnecessary billing , senseless billing , all kinds of billing , u just name it lmaooo.

Tbh I don't even chase girls , cause my kinda girl I no sure say she dey this Nigeria , I mean with the kind of entitled mentality that these Nigerian women have ( again I'm not generalizing)....

So recently a girl walked up to me ,got my number and stuff , we got talking and all , i wont lie more of d reason i gave her my number was cus i like girls that approach guys , its shows confidence i like that in my woman. But for reference ;Emphasis on she walked up to me and collected my number. Cause me I can't remember when last I chased any woman I'm too damn busy chasing my goals rn.

Well She gave me all the green lights nau , said she would even love to be my wife lol. I was starting to like her cause we started talking deeper and all , then boom she started billing me heavily, lol. I used to chest her billing initially but then she graduated , started asking for outrageous amounts lol , omo d story long sha but to cut it short I started asking why she needed these much amount of money and the next thing was insult , this girl insult me like mad , called me all sorts of names ahhhh.

Na me F up na , if I had I known I for no even give her my number at all. Funny enuf my guys too dey experience the same issues now , I checked X few days ago same thing , that why I called it's a pandemic. Men dey suffer o ,chaii
You can't even find love in this country again , dem go fes use billing reset your senses.

Men pls share your experiences of these women billing you anyhow abeg make we all laugh small lmaoooo....... Don't dull the thread.

Ps these screenshots are not mine , they are from X

Broke or rich everything na mindset. If you don't Gerrit forget abourrit

Nah bro you shouldn't have yelled at her na.
She's your mom , she simply just want the best for you , I understand d way she approached d case isn't cool but it doesn't change the fact that she only wants a better life for you.
You should apologize to her and make peace with her.
Only your Mom wants you bigger. Nobody else.

1. SELF INVESTMENT IS NON NEGOTIABLE: When you invest in yourself you get more ROI than ever. So seek and gain knowledge, improve your health , invest in skills , become the version of yourself that You've always fantasized about. It's non negotiable. It's a must.

2. DONT CHASE , ATTRACT:
You see ,if u Chase butterflies you would likely catch none , but if you make a beautiful garden it would attract butterflies naturally and you can catch as much as you want. Think about it well.

3. EMBRACE FAILURE :
A lot of people are scared of failure or rejection but rejection is the best trajectory to growth , it's the best way to build your life up. When you fail you get experiences in return and those experiences are priceless, saves and guides you for a lifetime.

4. NOBODY HAS IT ALL FIGURED OUT:
Nobody has it all figured out , even the billionaires your looking up to. There's always going to be a problem , always a challenge.
Dangote has his problems but all you see is the money , Atiku has his challenges but all you see is the money. Otedollar's only child has Autism, a problem money can't solve. Nobody has it all figured out. Stop pressuring yourself for anything . Everything comes in the right and divine timing as long as you keep working consistently towards your goals, you would achieve them someday.

5. DONT SEEK VALIDATIONS FROM ANYONE:
Now there's a big difference between seeking for advice and seeking for validation. Seeking for advice is getting details from experienced people about a subject matter. Seeking validations is seeking for the approval or disapproval of people. Why would you want to live your life seeking approval from people ??

6. GOOD HEALTH SHOULD BE A PRIORITY:
In your 20s your getting closer to your 30s and the way we are wired as humans , we get declining health as we grow older, watch what you eat amd drink. Hit the gym, Jog , practice self defense sports e g boxing.

7. DONT EVER THINK IT CANT HAPPEN TO YOU:
Life is filled with ups and downs , twist and turns and the most foolish thing you can actually think is that nothing negative or positive can happen to you. I've seen men go from 0 to 100 and I've seen men go from 100 to 0 , be humble.

8. DONT STOP LEARNING:
In this life everyone is a student and no one
a master. The day you stop learning is the day you stop living.

Please feel free to add yours.

Realistically it should be 35 years old , if police no kill you , hunger will , if hunger no kill you , herdsmen and bandits might , if those two no kill you kidnappers probably would, Efcc sef dey o, bad roads dey o , Nigerian girls might kill you too , school fees nko ? food inflation nko ? High cost of living nko ? Fake drugs , fake alcohols nko ? What isn't designed to kill you in Nigeria ? What ?
A typical zoo.

SeverusSnape:
I've had this feeling before. Maybe you're a NIHILIST.

Nah I don't feel like life is meaningless tho , I'm just tired , I just started feeling this way lately, I've not always been like this.

Ex0rrcist:
Take a break from social media, do more physical interaction with people if you can. But taking a break from socials really helped me in putting my mind on hobbies, and other things I have passion for without feeling pressure of achievement, or chasing success as an end goal.

Yeah Ive done that already , it's quite peaceful. Thanks chief.

Dawson126:
Have you heard something called Arrival fallacy or delayed gratification?
You see, it's the way most humans are wired. Without much medical details, without this feeling, your desires directed towards executive planning and motor actions won't be able to achieve more, you wouldn't want to be active and the brains hate such feelings until it is overwhelmed with another gratification such as imagination. It's a circadian rhythmic characteristics of the brain.

The joy is coming not from the final results but from the struggles in achieving it. Just channel it right while it lasts

Yeah true , we are wired like that. My problem is that I don't even appreciate d process or struggles , I just want the end result so bad and after I get I just feel empty.

Remembered when I chased one of my crushes back then d moment the girl started showing me serious and caring love , I ran away.

But thanks I would definitely put more efforts to making sure I derive joy from the struggles. I guess that's what makes the end result more meaningful to one.

tonididdy:
Take a solo trip/ vacation

Definitely looking forward to one. Thanks.

iamnotillicit:
I can't do without Igbo girls...

If Fulani catch you inside that bush ehn

You would get tired of igbo girls and all girls in general someday , trust me , been there done that.

In all Honesty,I'm not depressed or sad. I'm just tired of living around humans , like I'm tired of everything, nothing , I literally mean nothing excites me anymore these days.

Money doesn't , women doesn't , playing video games doesn't , playing sports doesn't , talking with family doesn't etc

I've realized has humans we just keep wanting more , it never really ends , we feel if we achieve something it's going to make us happy and then we achieve only to start wanting something else almost immediately lol.

I can very much remember when I wanted to graduate from school badly, I would dream and think about it and smile , few weeks after I graduated the feelings of being a graduate went south and I started wanting something else. Immediately I got that something else too , the feelings went south again.

worse case scenarios is that after the feelings go south it comes with that empty feeling, like you haven't even done something worth while.

I wish I could get a break from reality. Possibly live in a forest far away from humans for like a year with no internet , no human contact , grow my own food , good books , enough old Scotch or whiskey and extreme peace of mind.

For guys that feel the same way , what is that wish you feel may give you a good break from reality ?

You guys dated for 3 years and after you guys broke up , ur ex is already dating anoda nigga ahhh. Lol

Anyways the only real way to heal or move on is to accept that whatever has happened, has happened, certain things are beyond our control in this life. Don't fight the feelings of thinking about her , embrace it. It might take a year or two but you eventually move on naturally.

People like you more when your struggling to make it than when you've made it.
Enjoy your life and avoid envious souls.

Nice write up OP. Men suffer in great silence. I remember when I was still a kid one random midnight I sneaked to d parlour to watch cartoon and I saw my dad there in parlour deep in thoughts I stood there watching him for a few minutes without understanding, now I very much understand why he was in that position.

The life of a man is hard. Women hardly care , society barely cares , nobody understands a broke man , nobody. When He tries his best and yet nothing changes , people would call him all sorts of names.

That's why as a man , if you are ever gonna get married make sure it's a woman that loves you and not the woman you love, make sure you spoil yourself when you can. Go on solo vacations , buy a nice suit , eat good nourishing food. Drink good wine. Cause honestly nobody really gives a Bleep about a man in today's world. Take good care of yourself as a man.
Prioritize your Peace of mind, invest in yourself. Before you spend a dime on any woman make sure you have more than enough first , yes. Women can collect money from 200 men but one man can barely collect money from 5 men , be wise.

High time FG scraps this nonsense called Nysc scheme , the most useless scheme ever.
With their stupid 33k.
So many has died , so many has been kidnapped.
Posting people to danger zones. Useless government
All these for what exactly sef ?
Suffer suffer for the Nysc
You would finish and there's still no job lol.
Nigeria is hell fire , nobody can convince me otherwise.

Bia OP shes married , leave her alone , don't be unfortunate.

Simply cus ur my namesake , make I give u small OT.
OP The very key to getting women is your mentality. If u think women don't like u then u would always see it that way. Start thinking women like you and that would change everything.
Be confident as well , women don't bite , talk calmly , don't ask awkward questions.

When one dies , there's a gateway that leads to a portal ,a different realm where time ,space or matter doesn't exist , in this afterlife everyone has a soul family , The yorubas call it (Egbe orun) now the afterlife is where souls pass through the various process of reincarnations , you would be conscious during this period but as soon as your born , you won't remember a thing. But if you are a spiritually gifted child, then as a child you would have a little memory of the past life. A glimpse of it perhaps. Before it's been wiped away completely from your memory as u grow older.

If your really observant you would notice that kids are scared of the dark ,because they hear voices which are real but adults would just think and say oh his/her just a kid lol. Kids have a higher tendency to see and hear spirits bcus there are clean spiritually. Their flesh isnt weak yet and their spirits are stronger than ever.

The Egyptians believe that death is the beginning of life , which means that this life is but an illusion ,death is an illusion, nothing here on earth is real and the reasons why old Egyptians mummies were buried with golds was bcus they belived that this life is lesson field like a school , for learning purposes only and the afterlife is where your real home is.

Everything on earth is powered by energies , vibrations and frequencies , almost every adult is blinded by one addict or the other in this life , distracted by vanity , the food you consume , the thoughts u entertain, the clothes you wear all shapes your reality , plus your flesh is weak.
Only your spirit is willing.

The reason some people say when u die it would be like before u were born which is blank is a blatant lie. What happens in this world stays in this world and what happens in other realms stays in other realms. Which is why you can hardly remember your previous lifes. You've gone through a process of going in-between realms , your memory is brand new d moment you are born. There are secrets beyond secrets in this world , if you want to know more , embrace spirituality.

Dont quote me , I'm an old soul. I know more than my age thank you.

In 2025 I'm going to be a little late to the house but I will be there in a few minutes




lol

Sighs another preeq and toto matter again

So I've recently been thinking of pursuing a master's degree , apparently for broader knowledge purposes only.

I own several small businesses and do not intend on working for anybody. So you get the context of why I want a master's degree now, I'm not pursuing it so I could work for others , I'm pursuing it so I could gain more Relevant knowledge and apply it to my businesses , I have a business degree btw.

Which would you rather have me pursue or which is worth pursuing? An MBA in project management , masters in Project management ? Or perhaps a masters in Finance ?
Also which University in Nigeria do you think has a more recent and efficient master's degree curriculum ? not outdated pls. A lil Cheaper too lol.
I'm thinking of enrolling next year. Pls I need your inputs. Thanks in advance for your responses.

YouandiAllofus:
When I see these types of posts, I just laugh.
Because it is so funny how lots of men these days seem to be focusing on marrying the right woman blah, blah, blah.
How about you the man, are you the right kind of man?

When a man marries the wrong woman, his chances of going over marriage again is much more easier. But when a woman marries the wrong man, her chances of going over marriage gain, are at the slimmest ever. Especially, with babies out of her already.

Marriage is designed to favour women, u hardly hear of women losing properties cause of divorce , the man has lots and lots to lose , paternity fraud is also anoda one , and that why he has to marry right if not he is bleeped.
If ur fixated on being d right man it's good but dat doesn't guarantee u would marry the right woman , and if u don't then ur bleeped. Cause in d grand scheme of things men lose a lot more than women.

I've sat down with some of my OG's lately discussing about life and so many other things In general and one of the biggest mistakes these OG's have told me that they truly regret in life was marrying the wrong women.

Telling me how they lost it all after divorce and how their bitter ex wives would go to any length to tarnish their image almost made me cry. In their words ; Mike Marry right or don't bother marrying at all cause if you marry the wrong woman it's 100 percent gonna affect your life negatively for sure.

So men pls ensure you marry right , the wrong woman would send you to your early grave , the right woman would make you live longer. In your spirit , in your guts , in your instincts you know the right woman and the wrong ones.

Life is already tough for a man and marrying the wrong woman would just put you in an early grave , a word is enough for the wise , no too much capping , marry right or dont at all
peace and love.

Carndidlaydid:
For shame

Shameless men

Yen yen yen but it is you who is the real shameless hoe.
Stupid ass bi***

What Nigerians knows how to do best is complain and complain then adapt. I said it in a post about 9 months ago , that all we do is complain and adapt. We aren't ready at all.

First of all Stop keeping tracks of how long you've gone without masturbating, just make up ur mind not to do it ever again.
If u keep tracks ur mind would convince u into doing it again since u haven't done for so long but if u don't , u just keep getting better that way. Also find new habits to replace it with. Maybe try a new sport or just something that would give u dat same adrenaline that masturbation gives. Hope this helps.

noobody:
What about 37 and above,

Abi once you clock 36, automatic riches dey show?

I said 25 to 36 cause according to statistics most men above these age already have their life well put together, but i also said men above 25 to 36 could also share their thoughts.

Octopusbottle:
Bro , No b small thing oo.. it like your write up is an episode of my life. The worse part about mine is that exhausting me mentally and physically.

Am so much buried in the hustle and survival series that too enjoy a little become a challenge.

Lot of responsibility, expectations , work pressure and social pressure.

I pray man does not blow up ...

My gee , no be small thing , even days when I sick I still gas go work cause if not ,mhen it's tiring for real and the money sef no come get value.

A guy fainted in our office and soon as he was okay , boss told him to go back to his cubicle, dats when I know say ,no be life be dis.

olaztek:
The current inflation is making our hardwork fruitless. You work, work and work tirelessly and you have nothing to show for it except feeding and paying basic bills.

Single guys are lucky because they have only their mouth to feed and they are also unlucky because it is now extremely difficult to settle down and start a family.

Honestly bro ,like the inflation is really bad. Normally to make like 10k hard but that 10k na 1 minute u go spend am finish , it's crazy amounts of workload we put in for money that has lost it value.

Vinnie2000:
OP, The problem is the Country we find ourselves.

If you take that ur Hardwork and Hustle to countries like Switzerland, Luxemburg or Norway,
u will be living like Elon musk.

Honestly bro , u no lie , me sef don reason am , I once had an opportunity to japa but I miscalculated.