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MD has been more of an advantage to me. It's gives me a sense of purpose and that motivates me to work harder.

Most of what I've achieved today were somewhat because I daydreamed about them, I would daydream about finishing top of my class , so I worked hard and finished top of my class. I would daydream about having a beautiful romantic relationship and I would put myself in position to achieve that , I've enjoyed numerous romantic relationships.

Thing is that most humans are lazy , they wanna sit there and daydream their fantasies into reality but it doesn't work that way , after daydreaming you've gatto work hard for whatever you have daydreamed about , little by little all your fantasies would become your reality.

I can proudly say I've become atleast 50 percent of my daydreams and I'm still working extra hard to achieve the other 50.

So after daydreaming pls get to work , daydreaming should only give you a visionary dashboard of what your fantasized ideal life could be like but you gatto put in the work.

Everyone is talking about have money this have money that, of course I'm not stupid enough to bring a child into this world without catering 4 his/her basic physiological needs.

I'm working in a private sector , and I earn more than half a million naira monthly , plus I have side hustles which brings in money on a weekly basis.

I'm earning enough to take care of one child at the moment , all I'm asking is that , is it a good move ? Cause I'm considering the age factor. I don't want to have kids late, e.g having children at at 35 or 40 you would probably still be paying school fees at age 60 which is when ur meant to retire , do u get d calculations now ?
I just want to know how fathers where able to navigate through those hurdles cus I know some of dem weren't even earning dis much but still dey found a way to scale through.

I also would have my retirement saving plans mapped out. It's not like I want to be totally dependent on my children in old age , but who doesn't want their children to throw in some little help at old age , common.

Gerrard59:
No DECENT woman wants to be a baby-mama. Having a baby mama is a sign of irresponsibility. Any man who wants to turn a lady who has his child into a baby-mama is irresponsible and stoopid!

Do you think marriage is easy?? Obviously your opinions don't count for anything, one can have a decent baby mama , Money is all you need.

superCleanworks:
time and tide has changed. the days when men plan their lives and 98% of the plans fall into places has drifted. Back then your wife could give birth to twins and you would not flinch.
You have to work in line with your own plans based on what you have. Now, What do you have? It is not only about money oh! Do you have patience, discipline, tenacity, good family members, calmness?
Embrace the truth, Nigeria will be like this for a long while but blessings still come. Find a good, mellow, understanding and prayerful woman first oh because na there you go kill yourself if she is a heartless type. Find a good woman and start with one child first.

I think One can always learn on the go, I think nobody is truly prepared for anything . Having kids , u get to learn new things , getting married u get to learn new things too ,gradually one finds a healthy balance.

And about the wife that one go hard o. I'm planning on having a decent baby mama , d plan is just to have kids at an early age.
Marriage isn't for the weak.

But Thanks brother I appreciate ur post, your an OG.

immortalcrown:
Early marriage is the best. But marrying late and right is better than marrying early and wrong.

If you are financially capable to have a family now, go ahead.

But don't birth children that will hawk on streets. If you don't have the financial capacity now, be patient. After all, life is not about how soon but how well.

Some marry and procreate early but their children attain the age of 40 before becoming successful. Some marry early but remain barren for many years. Some marry early, procreate early but die young and leave the kids to suffer. Some marry late and their children break through before the age of 30. Therefore, don't decide marriage based on your age. Decide marriage based on your readiness.

Boss in as much as it not good to bring children into this world when you don't have a great plan for them is bad. At the same time , time isn't really waiting for you.
So one might wait and wait till d money comes but time is running , time is running.

G0odharddick:
Avoid marriage if you don't have the financial resources yet.

Forget those people telling you early marriage is the best story. You're a man, not a woman whose time is running.

Dude, settle down and make this money first before talking about marriage, and most importantly when the time comes go for a white woman and secure your future.

Boss I understand u quite well but I'm not talking about marriage here , I can have a decent baby mama and I'm ok with that.
D calculation I'm making here is if one has a kid or kids at an older age it might affect one badly. Time is running fast brother.

helinues:
Before considering of settling down, you need to be financial stable.

I am not saying you must have billions of naira to be financial stable oo but at least be financial independent

Financial stability is a gamble , there's no certainty that one would be financially stable at age x or not. So what if u become financially stable at a very old age.

Karleb:
What if you marry at 25 and have your last born at 40.

Won't you pay his/her school fees when you are 60.

All these pressure your are creating for yourself is not real. They don't give "who first born" trophy.

Why would I want to have a child by age 40 ?? Lol why do u think I created the thread , obviously it's Cause I want to hAve my kids in my late 20s at least.

MrBrownJay1:
this issue of having a child late or early all depends on the individual and their lifestyle...
there are many questions that needs to be answered:
- 1st and foremost why do you want to have children? to give life, have a family OR simply to have someone to take care of you in old age?
- 2nd you do understand that you may have a child that will be useless to you when you are old...aka a child with down syndrom or blind or handicapped. are you saying that such child would be a waste of life because they wont be able to support you in old age?
3rd do you actually believe that its a childs duty to take care of his parents during old age? wouldnt that child have their own family and struggles to take care of?
- 4th shouldnt it simply be: A MAN SHOULD ONLY HAVE A CHILD/CHILDREN WHEN HE IS EMOTIONLLY/PHYSICALLY/FINANCIALLY READY TO SUPPORT A FAMILY FOR THE NEXT 18YRS?

1st question ; Having children is a beautiful thing ,it gives you a great sense of purpose and existence. Makes one more responsible.

2nd question ; Nobody prays to have a handicapped child or a down syndrome , these are just silly excuses tbh. Let's be optimistic pls

3rd question ; having kids that would grow to help you in old age is a great blessing but it's optional , I would have my retirement plans so I'm not totally dependent on my children.

4th question ; A man should have a child at an early stage e.g. late 20s I believe at this age your emotionally , physically ,mentally and financially stable to raise children. (Its only dat the finances might not be enough to give them certain privileges dat one didn't enjoy as a child and that why I created dis thread so fathers can advice me on how they were able to navigate through all that financial challenges)

Karleb:
How is it beneficial?

Just say you want to keep woman at home.

If you start birthing at. 27, your kids will be in their 20s by the time you are at least 55 and they will leave you.

Everyone sees life differently I guess. If u don't agree its beneficial , well it's best known to u.

But for me , being old and still paying your children's school fees or what not just cus u had them at an older age isn't so ideal to me.

I'm in my late 20s and I've been doing some pretty serious calculations lately and I figured out that birthing your kids as a man in your late 20s is super beneficial but the issue here is the bad Economy that a lot of us face in our late 20s e.g paying lots of bills , settling family members , Etc


When you have a child lets say at age 27 or 28 when your 37 or 38 your child is 10 years , when your 47 or 48 your child is 20 years , now at age 20 your child is almost done with their first degree , which is super beneficial as supposed to having a kid when your 35 or 36 And this age some men aren't even financially secured enough to raise a family considering the Economic situation of the country.

Everyone desires for their kids to take care of them at old age , now imagine you are 60 years and your first child is still 15 years old. That jeopardizing the kid's future. Cause at age 60 your ability to work reduces significantly.

I would so much love to birth my kids now due to the old age thing but Providing for a child in this economy isn't that easy , I mean you want to be able to give them a great education and good life at early stages of their Life which can be very very hard in today's economy.

Nland fathers in the house please how were you guys able to navigate your way past all these money calculations and birth your kids early in your late 20s , please fathers in the house I need your wise counselling on this matter. I don't want to be old before I start having children. Thanks in advance.

Chetas81:
the more you stick To blue film the more they come after you

It's not about blue film, there are several reasons why spiritual spouses comes into someone's life , could be attractiveness. Certain spirits can be attracted to certain humans due to their handsomeness or beauty.
Some of these spirits have good intentions but the evil ones are more.
I heard of someone that every time he had sex in his dream , money would come to him effortlessly , for some others reverse is the case.
Read more books to reduce your ignorance.

These spiritual wife thing exists truly but there's usually a way of settling them before they can leave u alone.

Nigerians are cowards , they would rather die of starvation than die fight for good governance. Nigeria is blessed with numerous natural resources , there's enough money to go round for everyone , there's enough money to keep us far way from abject poverty.
Probably that why God has turned deaf ears to our prayers , cus he knows we aren't ready yet.

Imagine the Nigerian youths that are educated still fighting stupid tribal wars online. Shifting blame to one tribe or the other. I weep for this country.

We would also rather adapt than fight these Governments entities , we would rather make life miserable for our own selves , we are not ready yet. Perhaps when a cup of Garri gets to 10k and the inflation is choking us harder than ever we would wake up from our coward slumber.

There's a lot you don't know Mimi; you see in this world of ours , the spiritual controls the physical , everything that happens in this physical world is as a manifestation of the spirit world.

Black magic is most of the times often misunderstood and misinterpreted by ignoramus people. For example just as we have Muslims with good beliefs about Allah , we also have foolish Muslims with stupid beliefs about Allah , like d ones that believe 7 virgins is waiting for them if they kill plenty people and other stupid idiotic beliefs.

The word black magic exists without doubts if only you shun ignorance and be open minded to certain beliefs about black magic or juju.

Even we as humans are spiritual beings , experiencing a life in a physical sense of reality , we operate on energies , it's just so unfortunate that we are mostly ignorant to an extent and then our ignorance even cost us more cause we feel like we know a lot which is false but when you open your mind you begin to understand the dynamics and algorithms of this life.

The white men re~branded Christianity and sold it to us in Africa and strangely we are still holding on dearly to those beliefs of this so called white men who came to destroy Africa.
The white men practice black magic or juju very well , but you wouldn't know. There are certain spells, words or ritual rites that if done correctly as the potential to make one extremely powerful.

There's a whole lot to write to enlighten you and to free you from the burden of your ignorance but I will spare all of that till when you've ascertained the height of true spiritualism , comeback and let me know.

In this 2024 some people still bliv Jesus and God are whites lmaoo

I've got 58 I'm a very decent bad boy lol

OKOATA:
To be honest I didn't read this but judging by your post remember there are about 4Billion women in the world and about 50M in Nigeria of which 30M of them comprises of ages of ladies you can date and forget whatever is stressing your destiny. Just open your eyes to other ladies and see what you are missing.

Very underrated advice , often times we are too glued to certain people that we forget better people are out there searching for us.

Foolish thread , so as a man if u don't have money u shouldn't be happy or smile ? As if its depression or sadness dat will bring the money, who raised all these slowpokes ??

Money reduces your stress ,makes everything much easier and simpler but that where it ends , u can have lots of money and feel not accepted or feel like there's something missing still , the human mind can be very funny at times.

Damn nigga!!!!!

Every time I see women which such wonderful academic qualifications like dis ,my prick dey always stand.

2nd lieutenant is the normal rank she's supposed to have , but being that she was trained by the UK royal military hence her promotion to lieutenant, for d ignorant ones arguing , 2nd lieutenant comes first after NDA ,Dss or sss pop while lieutenant is after 4 years of being a 2nd lieutenant u write promotional exams to get to d rank of lieutenant.


One star symbol rank is 2nd lieutenant
Two star symbol rank is lieutenant

2nd lieutenant is the normal rank she's supposed to have , but being that she was trained by the UK royal military hence her promotion to lieutenant, for d ignorant ones arguing , 2nd lieutenant comes first after NDA ,Dss or sss pop while lieutenant is after 4 years of being a 2nd lieutenant u write promotional exams to get to d rank of lieutenant.
After this rank is captain of d NA.

One star symbol rank is 2nd lieutenant
Two star symbol rank is lieutenant

2nd lieutenant is the normal rank she's supposed to have , but being that she was trained by the UK royal military hence her promotion to lieutenant, for d ignorant ones arguing , 2nd lieutenant comes first after NDA ,Dss or sss pop while lieutenant is after 4 years of being a 2nd lieutenant u write promotional exams to get to d rank of lieutenant.
After this rank is captain of d NA

Oya add am 2k make I suck ur prick

Me , Mercisharelove and righteousness 2 , how about a 3 some ehn ? But I would watch u both first before I can decide to join.
Mercisharelove can suck my cork while righteousness burst her ass from behind ,sounds adventurous and spontaneous isn't it ?

Give her space and collect your ring back. Life no really hard.

People get money sha

Someone that knows where he's coming from and knows where he's headed.
Someone that wouldn't give up on himself even when everyone has written him off.
Someone that seeks knowledge for the sake of knowledge.
Someone that get tired and frustrated but he knows that the hard times are temporary ,so he picks himself up and continues his journey.
Some that always pushes himself , leaving his comfort zone.
Someone that keeps improving his life even after he has made an big impact.
Someone that doesn't give up.

If you want to stop ,it won't be easy tbh but all u need is self discipline.

First of all forgive yourself , so u don't feel any guilt or shame. Guilt and shame is a tool that makes us believe that we can't change our bad habits so we just subconsciously continue with our bad habits ,but after you've forgiven yourself ,the shame and guilt would be removed and this gives u advantage of going on long Semen retention periods.

Another thing is to join the nofap community online , here you see people talking about their nofap journey and u can grab one or two things from these people.

Starts your semen retention journey by getting your mind busy , a busy mind wouldn't be thinking of masturbating especially wen ur stressed out. So get ur mind busy and occupied.

Replace your urges to fap with maybe watching a blockbuster movie ,or taking a stroll outside or calling a friend or loved one. Whatever ur HobbieS are just do them wen d urge to fap comes up. u do this every time the urges comes up you'd see that ur not even interested in fapping again.

Check outs the benefits of semen retention and let that MotivAte you. Hope this helps.

Keep track of ur progress and reward yourself.
Like each time I completed a one month no fap journey I always spoilt myself with a reward for being disciplined, try d same. Could be a special type of food or outing , just reward yourself.

The smell of newly printed money and the scents of my girls panties.

Let's help this guy any amount can really go a long way , op drop aza i would support u , wen I have enough.