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There's a specific symptom called Anosognosia : it's a symptom where a person can't perceive Their own impairment , common in conditions like schizophrenia or several bipolar disorder which makes it complex for people with mental illness ( madness) has a lack of insight making it hard for them to see their condition as mental illness.
Along side psychosis and cognitive barriers like the disruption of self reflection or the ability to connect a behavioural pattern to the illness. If you have seen the movie Shutter island you would very much relate to this thread. But my question is , what if we were all mad and we have all failed to realise this due to a defensive mechanism our brain contructs to make us think that we are completely normal ?

I ask this cause why is Nigeria the way Nigeria is today ? Why are our political leaders or representatives treating us as such that we are mad or something ? I can't comprehend the state of confusion I'm in right now , I can't express it. The country is in shambles and the only pivotal thing we can do as citizens is do adapt. We've adapted to the point of no return.

Effective from January 2026 the tax master would start preparing to collect his taxes , and I want to ask what we are paying taxes for ? Cause last I checked , theres honestly nothing worth paying taxes for. There's heavy insecurity in the country , there's unemployment at a very large scale , people are finding it extremely hard to feed and all that man could think of is taxation ??

What's your take on this cause , honestly it seems like we Nigerians aren't as normal as we think.


Don't even get me started on the lies , the sagas , how the hell did snake swallow money ?? How ??
I understand that every country has her own odeals but the ones we are facing in Nigeria is beyond odeals , it's madness , complete madness.
My landlord just increased my rent to an 100 percent increment, I hardly stay at home sef I work with an NGO that enables me to travel round the country , I pay crazy bills too , to what end ??

Why does life have to be excruciatingly annoying like this in Nigeria ??

Feels like I'm already running mad or something. Then there's also the suffering mentality, which is so absurd , why does 24/7 power supply feels like luxury ?? Someone was telling me that we don't need 24/7 electricity cause it's luxury and I opened my mouth and exclaimed Ahhhhhhh !!!
I'm tired.

Kobojunkie come and advice this broda pls

Join a church and volunteer to be a worker in church , you would make great friends from church.
Register in a gym , builds your body which also boosts your confidence and it's a great place to meet Like minded individuals.
Go for events and concerts or hiking , camping too.
Try to Make friends here on nairaland too , I've met great friends from NL here.
Make it an habit to talk to at least 2 strangers per week , it doesn't have to be creepy or awkward , just start conversations and see where it goes from there.

placeofallure:
Stop eeeeeeet?
Leg chain is no different from earring or bracelet or necklace. It's just another item of fashion. There's nothing special or untoward attached to it. A saintly looking lady without make up and all its trappings can give a man hell on Earth. What would you ascribe her attitude to?

It's a big red flag, I don't care what anyone says.

They are slaves to their emotions. They can't be trusted a 100 percent.
They can tell lies. They can cry a river and still be telling lies , a woman can love a man and 10 other guys and the man wouldn't suspect a thing. Their love is very conditioned.
In a year more than 100 guys would toast a woman that's In a relationship and she's not going to say no to all of them.
Lastly They are very confused beings , this is the biggest reason God never made a woman for himself.
As a man still building your life avoid women like a plague or they would destroy you completely with no remorse.

Yes this has been a good year so far.
Slept with multiple beautiful women this year,
Some are now begging me to marry them lol.

Met one of my mentors and he referred me to a job that made me millions.

Bought a landed property in the north.

Made more money than last year even with the crazy cost of living and inflation this year.

Took and completed few AI courses this year.

Renovated my parents house , bought new house appliances and furniture for them.

Life is good.

SisterAnn:
I wear a leg chain when I feel up to it and I'm not close to the nonsense you are yapping here. I have a man that adore me so much and I can go to the moon and back for.

You need to see how myopic you sound stigmatizing leg chain.

If you are in the habit of attracting toxic women who also love to wear leg chains, you should check on yourself properly. It's not about a leg chain or any jewelry!

If you a responsible man, you won't always attract razz women.

If you smoke and drink excessively, always broke, no business acumen, yahoo boy with 15m today, broke in the next six months, always ganging and banging, no future ambition, can't keep his eyes off anything in skirt, then you would be attracting your likes.

Nobody knows your character, this is a faceless forum ,you can lie all you want here but defending leg chain is absurd , it is bad and those who wear it are very much dangerous people , hype yourself and call yourself good all you want , e no concern me.

Change your circle of friends OP , if your still trying to find your feet as a man you should be friends with people who has found theirs already.

Not circle of friends that would drown you to find theirs.

Yes a man can rape his wife. Now outside the confinement of marriage it is a serious and punishable offense by law , within the confinement of marriage ( well I don't think there's a law for that here in Nigeria , except other countries , so it may or may not be punishable by law in Nigeria )

If a woman says no ,it's best to respect her decision and move on as a man , forcing her to copulate with you because you married her is morally wrong and can lead to further problems within the marriage. So yes a man can rape his wife.

Lalami3232:
My Christmas plan na to make sure say I finish developing my DNA test app wey go help men wey marry leftovers. But even I no fit complete am by December ending, make una just go hospital for thorough checkup while I'm still locked in.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Why don't you leave all that until next year and have fun my guy.
Chop life !!

Samantha125:
Ever since I came across a video of this other woman calling out the new generation of us married Pedi women for having a tendency of leaving our husbands during Christmas to spend it with our families back home when we've never witnessed our mothers doing the same thing to our fathers, I've been confused as to where I'm going to spend my Christmas because I was planning on going home...😭😭😭

But guys, is it a crime for me to be visiting my family for Christmas when my husband is working throughout the festive period? It's been two years since I spent it with them and everyone has been complaining of how Christmas is no longer the same without me since I'm the one who's normally in charge of the decorations, the meals to be prepared, and decide who's gonna preparing what.

It's not a crime to visit your family , I mean since your husband would be busy working , spending time with your family isn't a bad idea and you don't have to feel guilty about it.

Wananonly:
Its gonna be a good season for my skill bro!!

Gonna grab me as much money as I can bro

When my pockets are filled, I'll begin to fill my bags bro, when those are filled I'll take off my cap and fill it too. When that is filled I'll begin to fill the insides of my trousers bro. When the insides are filled I'll begin to fill the apertures in other peoples clothes bro!

Then some days into January I'll find me a nice baby girl and we'll spend some of the money together bro. After that I'll take a two week holiday .
It's all gonna fun , the stuffing of the money and the enjoyment with the baby girl and the holiday bro!!

That's what's up bro !! money comes first. Then the pretty baby girls can come in line next.

Negroid001:
I'm gonna be home all through, no outing and unnecessary spending.

Sounds boring. But make sure you have fun regardless.

So as we all know it , Christmas is a special festival celebrated from people all over the world.
what are your plans for Christmas and who are you spending your Christmas with ?
Your Romantic partner ?
Your wife and kids ?
Your family ?
Alone ?


For me I would be on a solo vacation chilling in Ghana that's where I would be enjoying this year Christmas( by God's grace)
I've always wanted to visit Ghana , so I'd be doing that this year Christmas, I've heard so many nice things about Ghanian foods and their women as well. Probably spend some nice time on the beach scouting for big big things you gerrit? . All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

Tell me your Christmas 🎄 plans.

They are all suspect.
In cases like this it's the least person you expect that's usually the murderer , so I would say probably the chef or no 1 guy.
A killer would be naturally avoidant and no 1 is giving off that same energy. So it's probably no 1.

Dazidon:
I want to start drawing 4 people at a negotiable price.

That's good man. Make sure you don't over charge tho , you start from little and after you've gained people's trust and confidence you can now sky rocket your price.

MikeofKd:
3.Relationships; platonic relationships, romantic relationships , ensure that your a person that you want to be around , don't be a boring person , call people , look out for people , keep the family close , be a sweet romantic partner, have friends in all circles of life. Find an healthy balance between work and relationship, find time to care about the people that matters to you.

4. Career; try things and fail , I've tried my hands on so many things , 9-5 , businesses, entertainment, hospitality I've lost count tbh but along all these trials and errors I found my strength in businesses and I'm doing really well right now. Your not confused when it comes to choosing a career path , you just need to try different things and then see whichever works better for you.

So Men in the house please drop one of two takes on how you navigated your path to success during your 20s.
Please and please serious minded individuals only , this thread should be educative pls.. thank you

MikeofKd:
No doubt the 20s is one hell of a decade , it's a place where turbulence meet humbleness, a place filled with echoes of chaos and battles of giants bills, a place where you get lost in , you fail and make series of mistakes, over and over again.
And it's even darker in a geographic location like Nigeria where the system is broken beyond repair and theres hardly any prestigious pathway for the youths to build and thrive on legitimately.

Now I want this thread to be a highly informative and pivotal thread , to sort of give people in their 20s an idea of how to properly navigate their way to the top especially in a place like Nigeria where legitimacy doesn't really pay all the bills.
Again I don't think most of us as been given due blueprints in which we ought to follow thoroughly to succeed in life legitimately, people like our dad's and even our uncles or brothers aren't giving us enough information that we need to build our respective successful future and become better versions of ourselves and persons of significant value.

So even though I'm still in my 20s (late 20s btw) I want to give a few hints that has worked for me over the years to build multiple successful businesses. I'm still navigating my way sha. But the point is so we can all learn and grow.

I've been able to work on 4 areas of my life and still working on them . And these 4 areas are in no particular order
1. Health
2. Finance
3. Relationships
4 career

1. My health ; honestly this isn't rocket science and it might be subjective to everyone, I've had to cut off fast foods , junks and all that unnecessary processed foods that adds no value to my health.
Health is wealth , I used to love junk foods but I had to stop it , I was getting fat in a very funny looking type of way , so I had to sacrifice and now I'm leading an even healthier life and it's significantly paying off big time.
So invest in your health , I go to the gym 4 times every week , and I eat only healthy meals , I stopped smoking ( except occasionally) stopped drinking as well too ( except occasionally) and it's been great no lies.
So while your in your 20s lead a healthy life cause if you don't you would end up spending money on transplant or surgeries , you dont wanna go that route trust me.
Invest in health supplements if have the money , invest in the gym , invest in oral and overall hygiene , dress well , smell nice , you don't even have to break the bank for these things tbh.

2. Finance ; This one is highly critical in your 20s , but I would tell you this , in your 20s learn more about money management than how to make money.
When you learn how to manage money and you understand how money works , getting money becomes relatively easier. Trust me.
Buy things that you need rather than things that you want , try to have liquidity, assets , don't try to impress anyone with money , it never ends well. Have an emergency savings account. Build your credit score.
Overall just invest in financial knowledge , it pays off well.

3.Relationships; platonic relationships, romantic relationships , ensure that your a person that you want to be around , don't be a boring person , call people , look out for people , keep the family close , be a sweet romantic partner, have friends in all circles of life. Find an healthy balance between work and relationship, find time to care about the people that matters to you.

No doubt the 20s is one hell of a decade , it's a place where turbulence meet humbleness, a place filled with echoes of chaos and battles of giants bills, a place where you get lost in , you fail and make series of mistakes, over and over again.
And it's even darker in a geographic location like Nigeria where the system is broken beyond repair and theres hardly any prestigious pathway for the youths to build and thrive on legitimately.

Now I want this thread to be a highly informative and pivotal thread , to sort of give people in their 20s an idea of how to properly navigate their way to the top especially in a place like Nigeria where legitimacy doesn't really pay all the bills.
Again I don't think most of us as been given due blueprints in which we ought to follow thoroughly to succeed in life legitimately, people like our dad's and even our uncles or brothers aren't giving us enough information that we need to build our respective successful future and become better versions of ourselves and persons of significant value.

So even though I'm still in my 20s (late 20s btw) I want to give a few hints that has worked for me over the years to build multiple successful businesses. I'm still navigating my way sha. But the point is so we can all learn and grow.

I've been able to work on 4 areas of my life and still working on them . And these 4 areas are in no particular order
1. Health
2. Finance
3. Relationships
4 career

1. My health ; honestly this isn't rocket science and it might be subjective to everyone, I've had to cut off fast foods , junks and all that unnecessary processed foods that adds no value to my health.
Health is wealth , I used to love junk foods but I had to stop it , I was getting fat in a very funny looking type of way , so I had to sacrifice and now I'm leading an even healthier life and it's significantly paying off big time.
So invest in your health , I go to the gym 4 times every week , and I eat only healthy meals , I stopped smoking ( except occasionally) stopped drinking as well too ( except occasionally) and it's been great no lies.
So while your in your 20s lead a healthy life cause if you don't you would end up spending money on transplant or surgeries , you dont wanna go that route trust me.
Invest in health supplements if have the money , invest in the gym , invest in oral and overall hygiene , dress well , smell nice , you don't even have to break the bank for these things tbh.

2. Finance ; This one is highly critical in your 20s , but I would tell you this , in your 20s learn more about money management than how to make money.
When you learn how to manage money and you understand how money works , getting money becomes relatively easier. Trust me.
Buy things that you need rather than things that you want , try to have liquidity, assets , don't try to impress anyone with money , it never ends well. Have an emergency savings account. Build your credit score.
Overall just invest in financial knowledge , it pays off well.

Contact the school and ask them or simply just google it.

TechBaron:
Chief.. Go and play with your mates.

We're not in the same strata.

I see that you're the OP and you have a bunch of senseless threads that you've been churning out.

I can never have a meaningful conversation with someone that still have this type of orientation.

Listen man , if you were actually educated you would understand the art of Opinions , this is my opinion and I'm not forcing or shoving it down anyone's throat.
You can disagree without displaying folly , have a nice life , since your clearly not living one right now.

placeofallure:
Hmmm, so I be sinner like this?

I wear ankle chains, I wear waist beads, I've got multiple ear piercings. I wear about 4 rings on my fingers simultaneously, I have tattoos in hidden places, though they're not permanent. I plan to start wearing a stud on my nose soon, then what again? I'm gonna dye my hair golden for Christmas. Mohbad Style, loading.
I am a daughter of zion and don't joke with my prayer meetings and choir rehearsals. I came back from the church (choir practice) about an hour ago. I'm a good girl, those things don't define me. I work 9-5, I'm very resourceful. Yesterday was our annual Award Day at the office, and guess what, I won the Staff of the Year award, It came with a cheque. I have my side hustles too, not Prostitution. My hubby is proud of me always cause I'm not a liability. I've got a good head on my shoulders...if any man runs away from me because of those things the OP has mentioned, it's his loss!

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If I meet you with all these things you've mentioned, yes I would avoid you at all cost I don't care if Ur a good person or not and who the hell says I can't get a decent woman without all this unnecessary piercings and body decoration stuffs I mentioned up there ??

You have a great life, well that's good for you and your hubby. wishing you all the very best.

GenFunction:
My own get butterfly and star tattoos,abeg wetin e mean?
Make I stil run?

2 in 1 only you 😂😂😭

U go cry nor worry ( in geh geh's voice )

pocohantas:
We do, but I would love to read more on the women you guys are married to.

Trust me there are great threads I've read about men worshiping Their wives cause they are special.
One thing about us Men is that we don't joke with a good woman , we don't.
Do Ur research and see for yourself.

TechBaron:
Thread for Nigerians who don't have a stamped International passport.

If you have ever boarded an international flight, you would have overcomed this backward way of thinking.

Thread for Nigerians who don't have IP yen yen yen but somehow your in the thread, ode .
Oga shift jare.

We4all:
What makes you think that a lady that wears leg chain is not family oriented? You or the OP could even be a cultist, but losing sleep over a lady's physical appearance.

Plus, no one births a criminal. People grow up and choose to become criminals.

Oya naw
If e reach your turn marry woman with leg chain you hear 😂😂😂

Sha don't come here to cry a river.....
Peace

pocohantas:
You all always know the kind of women to marry and avoid, until it gets to marrying one for yourself. 2025 and I haven't seen one of you who is with a woman he speaks highly of.

Don't tell me you women don't also have guys that you avoid or tag as red flag and can't marry.

femi4:
Those Jesus baby are crazy...from marathon sex all night to pastor Jerry live streaming...fear women

Bruv !! they are the worst , always masking behind false Holiness , I learnt the hard way.
Neva again.

mariovito:
Ah

You nor talk quick

My own get butterfly tattoo

Ah
Better Run o
Lmaoo

infogenius:
@ op

Bro, this list na pure comedy mixed with 1800s village gossip 😂

If we follow ur logic:
• Any girl wey wear leg chain = automatic witch
• Nose ring = confirmed marine agent
• White toenail polish = direct ticket to Babylon
• Extra ear piercings = she don sign contract with Lucifer

Meanwhile the same streets full of “decent hijab girls” wey dey run package, “daddy’s girl no piercing” wey dey collect money from 7 boyfriends, and “Jesus baby bio” wey dey do hookup sharp sharp.

Truth is:

Red flags no dey hide for jewellery, tattoos, or toenail colour.

Dem dey hide for CHARACTER.

Real list wey go save ur life:
1 Liars
2 Cheaters
3 Entitled people
4 Manipulators
5 Bitter souls
6 Users
7 Disrespectful partners

These ones fit wear hijab, suit, or full church gown.
Or fit wear leg chain and nose ring.

Judge the heart, not the fashion.
A good woman go always be a good woman, whether she get 10 piercings or zero.

Stop running from earrings and start running from bad behaviour.


That one go save ur life pass any village WhatsApp broadcast. 😂💯

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no be lie , sha avoid those women still.

Avoid These Set Of Women For Your Own Good.

You see these set of women I'm about to mention ehn if you don't want to die young as a man avoid them.

1. Women with leg chains: both legs or any leg, Avoid them for your own sanity.

2. Women with butterfly or star tattoos: run oh , run very very fast.

3. Women with more than one waist bead: if any girl is wearing more than one waist bead on her waist , there's actually more to it , run for your own good.

4. Women with multiple ear piercings: run very well , don't look back

5. Women with nose ring: not just any kind of nose ring but those ones in-between Their nose , run , run let your head be touching your head.

6. Women that paint Thier toes white: I can't explain this one but if you notice your woman does this , run for your life.

7. The Over religious women : these ones would do anything their pastor says , run away from them. Their bios are always like , Jesus baby , lover of christ , run o.

8. The entitled ones : these ones don't care about your well being , they don't care if your in debt or financial crisis,you must give them money and hell would break loose if you don't give them the actual amount they want , run o , run very fast.

9. The bitter feminists : these ones have dedicated their entire lives to hating men , only for most of them to end up in Shiloh , run o.

10. The ones that love attention from other men : these ones would cheat on you at any slight provocation, run for your life.

11. The witchcraft ones : these ones would friend zone you but start acting very interested the moment you find another girl , run o , don't look back.

Add your own guys.