₦airaland Forum

Dextra: The fulani chicks are not allowed to show themselves in the public. They are shackled by Islamic religion.

not only because of their religion only, you have to have educational qualification as in be in uni or abt to graduate and speak english fluently, which most northern women, no matter their beauty dont have due to their act against western education etc.I like the idea that anyone can rep any state without tribal association, but they should be required to know the culture and language of those they are repping. , the girls aint ugly, but they definately not most beautiful. I also think the main reason most igbo girls enter pageants is cause unlike other tribes, igbos have always done mgbede(beauty pageantry), plus this get cash and luxury prices, i no blame them. I like their hustle sha,dont hate the player, hate the game..lmao. But it seems the past winners have mostly been igbos, so i will marry an igbo man to give my future daughter 60percent chance of winning.

nawaoo even yorubas get this kind internal problem. I dey laugh. my grandma is from ijebu-igbo, but just as clan sensitive as anyone. It is really sad that no matter what tribe we have in nigeria, that there is always an internal conflict. #sad! I used to think it was only an igbo and hausa problem, but i see clan mentality is in every tribe.May God help us all.

@symmex first step in fixing tribalism, let the government mandate that every child learn a different language within nigeria, other than english and their native tongue. Then There should be an intercultural exchanges between uni students. For examples students from ondo state can choose to transfer for a semester to an abia state school or edo state school, or university in kano and vise versa, this will greatly help, in helping reshape our youths and generation on these tribalism problem. Its a a place to start.

Dear poster You have just reinforced the same tribalistic sentiments you are against. I wont say its not possible that we can view ourselves as only nigerians, but its our differences that makes us who we are. Its like the different soups we make, we need different ingredients from all parts of the world to make it taste good, so that is what nigeria is. But if a part of the recipe gets burnt in the process of cooking it, and the cook still adds it to the soup, it will leave a distinct taste to mouth when the food is eaten and so is the situation in Nigeria. I am a mixture of Yoruba, Igbo, and fulani. My father is Igbo and Fulani and my mom Yoruba. I Know how accepting my father's side of the family is of my mother, but her side is not that accepting of him. Many people say that my mom family only allowed my dad to marry her because he had impregnated her, and because he comes from a rich family. "The fact is that the Igbo was and is still in some parts the least tribaistic people I know"- My yoruba greatgrandmother's quote. They marry anyone, as long as they respect their traditions and learn their ways, especially the men, after all a woman has no home until she marries." -My yoruba greatgrandmother( whose father is yoruba,and mother igbo-calabari) who is 93. She comes from ado ekiti, and always made sure she reminds my cousins and i that we came from her and are blood. She always tells us about how life was when she was young, life before the civil war. She said though their were tribal warfares, yorubas and igbo-which she adds calabari people to- were like sisters and brothers. She said the civil war destroyed nigeria in every way, especially mentally beyond reparation. My yoruba greatgrandmother says unless nigeria addresses the open wound that the distrust between tribes,especially igbo and yoruba will continue to generations. I know growing up my dad made sure i we understood we were igbos, no matter what our mother was. He made sure we learned igbo,hausa and yoruba. To him he was an Igbo man Leaving in Nigeria. He said though he is made up of two tribes, that once a woman marries she then belongs to her husbands people in everyway. He says People who have suffered in the hands of those they trust,never forgets,so I feel that Nigerians, especially igbos would always feel the need to separate themselves from other nigerians, because they are the only tribe in nigeria's history to have genocide committed against. In my family my parents and uncles and aunts made up this tribal exchange for my cousins and I, to make sure that each break,my cousins from the north,southwest, and east usually exchange locations each holiday. Like last time I went to my edo cousins' village, while she went to addo ekiti. Basically in our family before holidays my cousins and i exchange villages.Our parents made sure we would mainly go to villages,lol, but it works, becuase with that we understand eachother's culture and traditions especially coming from a multitribal family. So poster I think if the government makes every child to learn a language in nigeria other than their native or english, then some ignorances and negative tribal notions will stop. My family and I have been doing this intercultural exchanges since i was 12, and now that I am 24, I am glad my dad and uncles created this avenue for us to understand and appreciate each other. So Poster I recommend you do research on the topic you plan to write on. Even your write up shows the bias which you claim you dont hold anymore, you only mention one tribe negatively, and i know i might have done the same-but i explained why. The problem is we are in modern times where people want to let go of their tradition and follow the western ideology of one people,its not an African way. Though we must respect eachother does not mean we ignore and not represent. Its good we have pride in who we are, and not be ethnocentric. We have something that most africans in diaspora whose descendants were part of the slave trade wish they had, we have a culture and identity. There is no utopia.Nigerian government have not given us Nigerians the nationalistic pride that most people have. Nigeria is a name given to us by europeans that we accepted. We are all separate but equal people of different nations living under a cloak of another man's dream.A man that did not understand the cultural makeup or diversity within our different nations. Igbo is a nation, and so is yoruba,hausa,edo etc.Even though we say tribes, I beg to differ, but again its an assignment we have been given. Tribalism cannot disappear, as long as you see yourself as a yoruba man, and I see my self as an igbo, that is life. All we can do is respect each other and live together the best we can, just as our ancestors did before the europeans came, and things fell apart.