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Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 7:11am On Jun 06, 2012 |
Ileke-IdI: i beg i no get your time, go sleep, your brain need the rest, it is very clear you have exhausted its usage for today already. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 7:07am On Jun 06, 2012 |
Ileke-IdI: Are you okay, like seriously, do you have problems with your eyes, or are you just an illiterate. Which one because if you read the post i identified my parents with their specific tribal locations. I hope you dont have a damage to your right hemisphere of your brain, because what you wrote is what a patient with such damage will say, mtcheww.smh. My mother is igbo and dad yoruba, so get now, hold your ears, infact stare so that you brain will make a permanent note, just because you chose lie about yourself doesnt meant everyone does it. I feel sorry for you!! Peace!! |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 6:47am On Jun 06, 2012 |
Ileke-IdI: excuse me mr know it all, just because my family is not like yours dont make it fake. I see how tribalistic you are and may God help your offsprings. If you want you can call me igbo, i have no problem with that, but i am yoruba with an igbo mother, dont hate on my heritage appreciate, its bad belle people like you that makes me question nigerias supposed unity...mtcheww kwasiaa paa!! |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 5:22am On Jun 06, 2012 |
V_Official®: i prefer a cartoon depicting them, but great idea..hmmmmm..juice following here oooooh!!!lol |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 5:16am On Jun 06, 2012 |
alj harem: @ Nri Priest, I saw your post the other day but decided not to post on this thread again to see the direction of the thread. lmaooo, are you serious, well my dad said my mom was the most beautiful woman he ever saw the first time he met her in uni, and very down to earth, and very intelligent. As for fulanis, my dear go check your books again cuz they would marry you asap if you promise to take good care of them. Please dont try to give them a culture they dont practice-maybe the ones you approached didnt find you charming enough, but you so called fact is either true to only you or just exaggeration. if we continue questioning who prefers marrying this and that we will get no where. i brought the topic up, as part of my fieldwork on tribalism. I love culture and everything about it, good and bad, for they are the things that shape and make us who we are today. 1 Like |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 5:09am On Jun 06, 2012 |
tpia@: umm i beg to differ, i am part of both cultures and from what i have seen its the opposite for yoruba- they value beauty a lot, over character, i might be wrong, but based on my observation thats what i have seen. |
Family / Re: Girl He Never Slept With Claims To Be Pregnant For Him by mimifonwon(f): 5:06am On Jun 06, 2012 |
vicoloni: A close friend of mine just called to inform me that a young lady whom he just met casually recently just called and told him she is pregnant for him. He was still trying to absorb this rather funny claim only for her elder sister to call and rain threats on him. I think sometimes when believe in the good in people so much that we forget that they are human and they make mistake. I am not saying he did it because the girl could just be crazy-some people can think themselves into being pregnant-FACT!!-its a type of mental illness. On the other hand, your friend could have serviced her sharp sharp and forgets that dna dont lie- atleast for now. If he still claims innocence let him take a dna test,its the only way to clear him. |
Education / Re: 25-Year-Old Bags Ph.D At Babcock University by mimifonwon(f): 3:50pm On Jun 05, 2012 |
tanimola22: Of course i search for her name through internet sites to see if she has published anything or co-wrote something, but it i saw nothing. but like i said, not that she doesnt deserve it, but i wonder if she can be able to compete internationally. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 3:13pm On Jun 05, 2012 |
mbatuku2: It also depends on the character- igbo men look at character and attitude mostly when they go after a mate, because that is what they have been told all their life that physical beauty is nothing compared to inner( character,attitude,etc). I understand that environment dictates who you end up with also, and that is exemplified by Lynxx who has been dating jemima foyeh for more than 6years now. I have actually met the guy and other than his looks and his outburst, he is lagosian as in if he was in the mist of mostly igbo speakers he would be lost, if they decide not to speak english and igbo only, but amongst yorubas he seems comfortable. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 3:05pm On Jun 05, 2012 |
One_Naira: I agree with you about it being on attraction, but when it comes to ghanian, most nigerians have a hard time marrying them, because in their culture the woman is king-as in its a matrilineal community, and if anything like divorce happens the women keep the children, which is unlike Nigerian patrilineal community. Take like for example mixed nigerian and ghanian stars like yvonne okoro and sakordie obidi, though they have igbo fathers, they claim ashanti and ghanian heritage. |
Education / Re: 25-Year-Old Bags Ph.D At Babcock University by mimifonwon(f): 2:58pm On Jun 05, 2012 |
Aqva: lmaooo i know someone who went to babcock uni for masters and came out with top class honors, but when they got to the states to study for phd, they failed and then just to humor him, my dad made him take america ged exam and the guy failed, so umm i dont trust this degree, not that she cannot get it, but i dont think she can stand foot to foot with other students internationally. But congrats non the less. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 2:58am On Jun 05, 2012 |
mbatuku2: hahhaha, no offense i have to disagree, omotola is okay looking, not beautiful in my book. To each their own abi.I have met her and her kids before and her children are not that cute. Okay one of my elder brothers married an igbo girl and the other an ashanti/igbo mixture, even though they rep yoruba till kingdom come, and there is nothing wrong with that. My mom wanted them to consider yoruba girls too, even invited a yoruba neighbor of ours in the states to spend a summer with us, but it just didnt work out. I guess its true most men chase after women that remind them of their mothers, regardless of tribe. On the ugly or not thing, every tribe have its uglies and beauties, one man's treasure might be another man's garbage. My eldest brother did date some yoruba girls, but said that the ones he dated were not clean and didnt cook the types of food he liked( he is used to igbo foods cuz of my mom) and he said she didnt have a nice over all character. For him it had nothing to do with their beauty, because his yoruba ex girlfriend is wayyy prettier than his wife physically, but attitude wise, the girl he married is better. |
Travel / Re: Levi Ajuonuma (NNPC Spokeman) Killed In Dana Air Crash by mimifonwon(f): 4:07am On Jun 04, 2012 |
what are you guys talking about, my friend who knows his son obi said dr. levi survived, and also a baby girl survived. I think we are too quick to claim death, instead of these officials doing the best they can to salvage what is left. I hope more survivors will be found. Amen. And to my dear Anyene family, may God grant your family rest and peace. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 11:13pm On Jun 03, 2012 |
mbatuku2: lol, no, but do pretend am one at times, but am a simple lab rat- I am a researcher in genetics. 1 Like |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 10:49pm On Jun 03, 2012 |
Odenigbo Aroli: @mimifonwon,you said earlier that your mum spoke yoruba; I will like to know where she was raised andwhen she learned yoruba? She said she learned from her yoruba friends cuz she attended uni of lagos, and then continued to learn after marriage. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 7:34pm On Jun 03, 2012 |
anonymous6: Well according to igbo traditions whatever your father is, is what you are, there is nothing like am mixed this and that, but it was my yoruba side that made me understand that i wasnt full yoruba.I mean growing up my parents forced us to learn igbo,yoruba and hausa, it amazed me that though my mom learned my father's language, he indirectly refused to learn hers. I remember whenever i went to visit my grandma in umuahia, abia state, she always treated us as if we were igbo, and rarely acknowledged the fact our father wasnt from igbo tribe, she even insisted that we teach her some yoruba language so she can surprise her inlaws. But my paternal relatives, especially my paternal grandma always made side comments about us not being full yoruba. Anyways when i was with my paternal relatives they at times made my siblings and i feel out of place, even though compared to some of them, we spoke better yoruba than them. So when it comes to identifying myself i used to say yoruba only growing up, because my mom said as long as we dont bare her father's lastname that we belong to our father. My mom says because her igbo heritage is exactly like that of the hebrews, where though a man might marry multiple women, the offsprings belong to the man's culture because when a woman marries, she is suppose to adopt her husbands tribe as hers, and no longer her own.But when i turned 16teen and my paternal cousins kept on calling us omo igbos, i just decided-against my mother's wish to claim both. 1 Like |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 6:46am On Jun 03, 2012 |
tpia@: Okay wow, dear tpia, i dont need to be happy that a man who insults my heritage wants me to lie about my identity and i dont need a man to define me. I am happy being single, and i rather marry a white man, before i subject myself to a tribalistic man in the name of culture. It is sad that women today feel they should be thankful that a man asked them out, as if they are doing them a favor. I dont need no man to ask me out, Its is a man's duty to chase a woman, and desire her regardless of her heritage. So Tpia @ 23 i am still growing but i bet i understand myself and identity better than you do yours, because only a lost and unfulfilled person will think they need another person to define them. 6 Likes |
Food / Re: Should Men Who Can't Cook Be Ashamed Or Proud? by mimifonwon(f): 12:34am On Jun 03, 2012 |
acidtalk: I got a very big surprise earlier today. Poster see i dont blame this generation for not knowing to cook. Its the mother's fault. My mom used to do that, telling my bros they shouldnt learn to cook, till we went to our maternal village to visit our great grandma and she forced all of us, regardless of gender to cook, because she says that at a point in our lives, especially for the men, that their mothers will not be around to cook their favorite dishes, so they needed to learn for their own good, so that a woman will not use food to hold them or punish them. My children must learn to cook regardless of gender. 2 Likes |
Food / Re: The Most Romantic African Food!! by mimifonwon(f): 4:47pm On Jun 02, 2012 |
oh if you only meant in the whole africa, I think any food that you share can be mad romantic, but Fufu and ogbono soup( any draw soup) can be if eaten with the one you love. I like feeding my man with my hands, that makes it romantic for me...lol. |
Food / Re: The Most Romantic African Food!! by mimifonwon(f): 4:44pm On Jun 02, 2012 |
I think peper soup, nkwobi, or ugba or abacha with coconut- yummmy. |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 4:34pm On Jun 02, 2012 |
V_Official®: Even though you meant well in your reply, if you read your own post, you will see that your bias and prejudice towards the tribe stated is not hidden. We all like to claim we tolerate and adore eachother, when the the enculturation bestowed on us as children have taken total control. Life is not fair and not all fingers are equal, but we must learn to appreciate, maybe even like eachother. You dont have to love everyone, but perchance by finding something out yourself, and not following hersays and myths then you can learn more about yourself and the people that you come in contact with. 1 Like |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 4:26pm On Jun 02, 2012 |
tpia@: First of all when we met i spoke yoruba, and so did he, so he just assumed i was full. He grew up in ghana and rarely visits nigeria, so when i told him my dad is from ogun state and my mom abia state, I thought he got the point that i was of mixed tribe. He never asked me anything more about my background. So i was a bit taken back when he met my mom and started making those statements. Yes in certain situations I reacted to things as he termed it like a "igbo girl," which i still dont understand by what he meant and dont care anymore. I didnt deceive him, and it is not my fault that he has more affinity towards igbo girls. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: If Your Name Have A Negative Meaning, Will You Change It? by mimifonwon(f): 12:17am On Jun 02, 2012 |
PrettyCindy: I know two person who had to change their name; one was formally Maureen while the other was Endurance. In some cases people are told by their pastors to to change and even provide them with new names. That is what you get, when you dont answer your traditional names. MTCHEWW, infact if you like change it to fool, i dont care. I blame your parents. |
Romance / Re: Public Or Private Marriage Proposals: Which Do Ladies Prefer? by mimifonwon(f): 5:42pm On Jun 01, 2012 |
i prefer private |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 9:22pm On May 30, 2012 |
anonymous6: well i just have seen more of the igbo woman, yoruba man pairing than yoruba woman, igbo man pairing, not to say it doesnt happen. also I was just curious. I felt considering you NLrs like to bring everything down to igbo vs yoruba, i wanted to open up a discussion, so i can learn why the data is more skewed to more igbo women marrying yoruba men than yoruba women marrying igbo men( which does happen). 2 Likes |
Culture / Re: Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 9:10pm On May 30, 2012 |
ezotik: this story sounds very nollywoodish, a home video directed by oduwa imasuen If you dont know by now, most nollywood movies are based on true stories, and it aint nollywood its real. 4 Likes |
Culture / Why Do Yoruba Guys Mostly Marry Igbo Girls Than Vice Versa? by mimifonwon(f): 8:20pm On May 30, 2012 |
I have been using this naira land as a source in how tribalistic we as a nation are, and though we intermarry, the ideology of one culture or tribe supremacy over the other is heavily appearant whether we show it or not. Do we fault our parents or our society. I know i grew up in a mixed tribe family where we were taught we should respect everyones culture, but without knowing it, there have been instances my father have been bias and sometimes outright tribalistic towards my mother and she also to him. It doesnt mean he doesnt love her, but in a way i think my siblings and i picked it up. My brothers mostly identify with being yoruba, but my sisters and i who were closer to my maternal cousins identify with both, and sometimes more with igbo. So if this can happen in a family with two educated parents who love and adore eachother, what is to say its not worst in a single tribe family. Coming to this forum have opened my eyes to the hate( whether joking or not) that we have for eachother's tribe. I used to believe that our generation would have nurse and hopefully heal the wounds of the past that our parents kept open, but i now see that the majority of us keep picking at the wounds and letting decay even faster than it should. I went on a date with a yoruba boy from ghana who parents are from ekiti. When I introduced myself i just said you can call me funmi. And we were cool, till we got to talking and we became more interested in eachother. Fastforward 3 months later, my mom told me to invite him to dinner cause she wanted to meet him. When he met my mom, first thing he said was-is your mom igbo or mixed, i was like, she is igbo and the guy then turned to me and says so that means you are half igbo. So i answer this fool yes. He starts laughing saying " why this again, what is with me and igbo girls." I was confused and i asked him what he meant and he said he mostly find himself attracted to igbo girls, but i told him i was half, not full, but he said his parents will not see it that way, that i act like a typical igbo girl. I didnt know whether to be affronted or accepting of the compliment. So he tells me that his parents disowned his middle brother because he refused to marry the yoruba girl they found for him, but rather fell for an igbo gal, and without his parents blessings asked his uncles in the uk to follow him to marry the girl. Its been 5 years now and his parents are yet to forgive or concede. So after his explanation that he doesnt want to lose his inheritance like his brother did, that when i meet his parents that i have to lie and say am full yoruba. I said lai lai, that one no go happen. So i dumped his tribalistic butt. emi omo nkechi, omo igbo ati omo ijebu,A kì í gbọ́n tó Báyìí-ni-ngó-ṣe-ǹkan-àn-mi - never, oluwafunmilayo chinazaekpere ade***, thats my name, and if any man doesnt like it, go to river niger and drown ya selves, and if you need help ill help finish ya stupid life for you. I told this story to show how tribalistic he was being, though he claimed his parents were the ones that were. Why should my tribal heritage matter. I know the yoruba culture, speak the language, know my village and respect my family's honor. It made me wonder whether tribalism is metastasizing even more than when my parents were young.And Is it true that Yoruba men marry more igbo girls, that igbos marrying yoruba girls?. 4 Likes |
Politics / Re: Victor Olisa: First Black Commander Of London Police by mimifonwon(f): 6:41pm On May 30, 2012 |
[quote author=shymmex][/quote] lol you know what this proves, that ijebu people are mostly igbos than of any other tribe, sorry my dear but the guy is igbo, my cousin dated his niece. And his sister lives in houston texas and bears igbo names and speaks igbo and comes to annual anioma meetings. nawaooo lets just accept we are all mixed with eachother, but olisa, orisa etc means same thing in igbo, like i said each clan have Gods specific to their lands,and each clan have dialects that is so complicated yet similar to eachother.But Olisa or orisa is the same name and it belongs to name to the igbo tribe, and if found in others its either it means something diff or the people are of igbo heritage. oya muah chop kiss and hugs fam |
Culture / Re: Does Anyone Speak Straight Egba Here? by mimifonwon(f): 4:25pm On May 30, 2012 |
BlackPikiN: Exactly, because of the bias in his father's family against easterners, his dad omitted the part that they married igbo women, so it showed that what we believe is not truly the reality of things, that is why i had our dna samples tested.I am now doing more research on my father's village in ijebu-igbo just to see how much of them truly belong to each tribe,it will take sometim -maybe years, but its a task i have taken up; because whether we all like it or not, we are mixed up somehow, and contrary to believe there are slight genetic differences found in each tribe.Its self explanatory if you carefully read the post. anyways DNA dont lie, people do. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: 40 Killed, Village Head Beheaded In Cross River Communal Clash by mimifonwon(f): 7:40pm On May 29, 2012 |
Politics / Re: Victor Olisa: First Black Commander Of London Police by mimifonwon(f): 12:33pm On May 29, 2012 |
SimonAndal: You're here fighting over his ethnicity or lack thereof, but correct me if I'm wrong but I'm sure he never identified with Nigeria in his interview. No offense when he was born and as igbos the children are not taught to see themselves as nigerians, but as igbos. Just like many tribes in nigeria, we claim our ethnicity first and loyal to our ethnicity first before the country-because we dont believe in it. Next Olisa for you novice is of igbo origin. Each igbo clan have a specific God to their land. Igbo language is very versatile and remains so, so no need to argue his existence, the guy doesnt, so why take medicine for his headache. Just like there are many names used to call God in yoruba, each igbo clan have names specific to them and their God. First of all Chi or chinekerem- The God who created me-in igbo means ones personal God originally but do to chritianity it got used to mean chi-ukwu or chukwu which means big God-almighty God. But again it doesnt matter his origin the fact is that he doesnt identify with nigeria, and i dont blame him, because he wasnt raised nigerian, but igbo biafran. I dont know why you all always feel the need to be tribalistic about every good and bad news. May God help us all. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Happy Democracy Day! by mimifonwon(f): 2:51am On May 29, 2012 |
Democracy day my foot,nigeria is a kleptocracy!!! |
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