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The Police and the military were well aware of the impending attack but allowed them to operate..... following the script.

When Nigeria will finally split, no matter the cosmetic "One Nigeria" being shouted, the core North will be hotter than hell and their elites would flee as Terrorists will run Taliban style government there.

Is it confirmed?

9jaRealist:
He is clearly an INSECURE old man…
Everything written by the OP points to his innate insecurities.
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And he has to live with it as remarrying and divorcing will not help his case.

Kaiair:
I don't think you should demand much unless you're earning less than him, working multiple shifts in a foreign country is frustrating he's not yet used to that kind of life unlike nigeria were as a civil servant you get paid even without coming to work...so he's earnings might really be less plus his working long hours so.... just pity him, it's not easy

If he is earning less than her and she is the one picking the bulk of the bills, why does he want another child with her?

Nonam:
Maggi85

Your Nigeria man is not using you. The people here above are giving you bad advice.

Nigerians have this mentality that, when a black man is dating a white woman, he is using her for papers. Your Nigeria lover is not using you. He feels you are financially OK that is why he support you less. He loves you and wants to marry you because he sees no other woman in his life. He is not giving you that support because he still have to lay something back home. Every man needs to have a strong foundation.

Sit your man down and talk to him. Tell him your worries and how you feels. Communication is good.

Love fire! See boldness with which you are confidently lying!

descartes400:
The OP compared the physical and mental features to that of a 17years old..not that she's actually 17...although 99% of women out there including our resident nairaland feminists.. behave like 17 year old my mother and sisters are exception to the rule though! i don't know about una ooh!
i don talk my own!

Na lie, you can't exempt your mother and sisters.

Don't have a second child with him and don't marry him as his heart is far away from you...he is using you and still want to further use you.

E don happen, Egungun don cross express!

2 places that a society can not risk an escape from is, a prison and a psychiatric facility.

shantti:
Which country is this and how come it's very bright like this by 5am

That is how it here in the UK presently. That picture was taken 4.32a.m.

condralbedez:
Okpa and coke,
Bread and Akara
Garri , groundnut and sugar .you will definitely miss all this if you studied abroad.

Of all you mentioned, it is only okpa that iI am missing. I still regularly take garri, groundnut and sugar, with £1 you get 250g garri, 200g of roasted groundnut and sugar

For akara, there are bean flour sold in African shops, so sharp, sharp within an hour akara is ready taken alongside custard.

Socratiz:
The man did not clarify his expectations before going into another marriage.

But all hope is not lost. I believe the marriage can be salvaged if both of them are ready to work at it.

What they need is to see a professional marriage counselor.

We deal with cases that seems worse than this.

When they go for marriage therapy, it will become clearer to both that they have no business remaining married to each other.

The core purpose of marriage therapy is to achieve clarity. Clarity on either the need to work on the marriage as the couples still has something between them worth resuscitating and nurturing or the clarity to accept the reality that moving on away from each other and continuing their lives away from each other is the best.

How does cooking with firewood makes one wife material?

Hmm...

annycase5:
He's just 2 years old,the guy's mom came back from UK recently and she said she wanted to go to to Edo her home town to visit her people she took the child along with her and she told me she's staying there for 2 weeks only for me to discover she actually took the boy to her sisters and she travelled back from there,it's so hard for me a child I suffered so much to birth I see his shoes clothes and I end up crying,the pain is too much

Ok. Which state were you living in with your son when your son's paternal grandmother picked him up?

annycase5:
Today is my birthday but I feel so empty and useless,I've been crying all night for weeks now to a point I feel pains in my chest all the time,my only source of joy which is my child has been taken away from me,even the guy I had the baby for doesn't give me attention
It's killing me so bad I'm depressed.i need to get away from this vicinity cos it gives me memories and each time I remember I can't help it

Anyone that has a job that comes with accomodation pls assist me so I don't commit suicide.pls assist me

How old is your child, who took your child away from you and for what reason?

Sighs ..

Ukwa is premium.

JBriel:
It's your personality no doubt. But thinking patterns, behavioral patterns are parts and parcels of our " individuality " we must all drop en-route marriage

The institution of marriage solicits giving up physical identity for couple identity. So, you're denying your wife what is rightfully hers by every right. Your company, your presence, your attention, your time.


Trust me I've seen many of how our intrinsic thinking patterns defrauds us to assume we can't do better, change, improve, do things differently but the truth is behaviors can be learnt. We can adjust and evolve.


You diagnosed the problems you have even in your words. " You just like to be alone " It is what forms after you've created a character around flawed ideologies and beliefs


You need therapy before you even connect with her. The ideas that forms this behavior must first be entangled so it stops isolating you and you learn new habits that shows you how to live, yes, how to truly live. How to be vulnerable, how to be open. How to love. How to feel again. How to feel worthy

If your feelings of unworthiness isn't resolved, even friendships would remain moribound and those thoughts have made you built a castle to imprison you in your thoughts, habits, behavioral patterns assuming the world is all evil that you need to shiled yourself from the world. Your thought patterns has imprisoned you



You need to be whole to love. You need to be whole to live. I recommend you find a long term behavioral coach to speak with. To take you by the hand and walk you into new pathways you can explore in life


Back to the issue of marriage. Marriage isn't just sexing. Marriage is " conjoining ". A man would cleave to his wife... Without cleaving, you're violating the marital institution my dear


Let go off whatever pains, heart breaks, dissapoinments that triggered the fear and behaviors that wants you imprisoned and start a new walk into a new path in life my dear.


Life is life. Life isn't all evil. Life can be what you create it to be for you



Everyone has limits, before you turn that woman into what you would regret, please find yourself and put yourself together

Well written, you wove through and captured what need to be said.

Buhari allowed terrorists to convert Nigeria to their playground.

Post the current picture of the house.

If you come Cambridge (UK), you go see buildings constructed in the 12th/13th Century standing strong and well maintained.

APC claims it has done so well but don't have confidence in the health system they claim they have invested massively in..... being shameless is a mental disorder.

Misused his position.

May likely be murder, to cover up some tracks.

Nice thread.

The sane Kano, he is dragging with Gandollar?

N100m

Way more than that

He is a banker in his 40s, married a 17/18 year old adolescent......he deserves what he is experiencing.

Serious entanglement, the marriage has ended before it started.

"After initially maintaining his innocence, Mr Abass made a volte-face, entering into a plea bargain agreement with the U.S. government in July 2021, in the hope of getting a lighter punishment.".....After reality had set in.

Until people get killed there, Lagos state's agencies will then show up

I guess the story of how it was cooked and eaten is now being told.