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If misinterpreting ma post cures Your erectile dysfunction . . .Good!!! 

I don't wanna talk bout how good he is . . . .I fear Mama-Gee would want to snatch.

kc08:
The question of feeling inadequate might not even come from a direct treatment or maltreatment of an educated illiterate partner, his or her concept of self in self esteem and worth creeps up in every relationship with just an innocent comment or question.

True!!!

She's acting single- Gary Stewart

–adjective
1. unable to read and write: an illiterate group.
2. having or demonstrating very little or no education.
3. showing lack of culture, esp. in language and literature.
4. displaying a marked lack of knowledge in a particular field: He is musically illiterate

The word 'Illiterate' isn't limited to one who's unschooled. Pay me for this work. 

Forgive ma offtopic, poster. I reckon this is an important issue.

violent:
If she's able to read and write in any other language, be it Arabic, Yoruba, Hausa, Ibo, french, spanish. . .etc etc, then she isn't an illiterate.

As long as English Lang. is concerned, she's ignorant in that field. . . .and that [Ignorant] is a synonym of 'Illiterate'- if it makes the explanation easier 4 You.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=451442.msg6209354#msg6209354 date=1276466378]Dayo is a tiger ke?
I heard he's impotent. [/quote]Lmao!!!
Little wonder Mama- Gee sees it as a waste of useful time honoring his invitation to the bedroom.
Dayo, pele o!!

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=451442.msg6209354#msg6209354 date=1276466378]In the bathroom. . . . . .[/quote]In 2 seconds, I'll be witchu.

If I were You, I'D dump him like he was some hot shite!! 

First - You can be as good as [even better than] some single Ladies w/o kids [Yet].
There are more than a million men out there and it depends on Your value, You can get as many as You want .
If he treats You like this , now . . . .There's little or no possibility that he will change later.

Secondly - His Mother doesn't like You? That's already a red light, already.
I'm not sure You are ready to put Yourself and Your son through the wahala Your man's mother is ready to deliver.

Please and please, DO NOT tolerate too much from this woman and her son.
Throw away that sme-sme/quiet girl/ 'wife material' / softhearted attitude when dealing with her.  . . .People who do not respect You, deserve no respect. Fire 4 fire!!!


What to do? Love Yourself and Your son- Important and number 1.
Strictly define certain rules to Your man [No time for yeye] and if he's treating You less than You deserve or desire, Walk out. 
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you . . . a man will only treat You the way You ALLOW him treat You and Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. . . even if he has more education or  a better job.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=451442.msg6209269#msg6209269 date=1276465372]Let em do it on the gas cooker. . . . . .[/quote]It's actually new . . . .I don't want them to destroy it yet.
I hear Dayo is a Tiger when he's doing his thang.

dayokanu:
Missy you need se-x!!

Lmao!!!
Prolly, I should inform ma hubby. Sauron Darling . . .

Dayo, You need Christ.

No!
Ma man is sleeping and I don't want You to disturb him.
Get Your n[i]u[/i]de selves to the nearest motel.

Kill

Mixed

If he buys me a Jeep.

Will You two lovebirds get Your butts outta ma Kitchen?

ITgurlie:
as they say, love is blind but in loving someone, you have to be sure that you're compatible to a certain degree your partner must be comfortable around your family, friends, etc and you as well

The problem she has is that she had a wrong foundation in her learning of English but all hope is not lost, cos with the love you have for her, she will overcome this weakness and both of you can move to the next level of your relationship

Please, don't see her as an illiterate  because she's not, she just finds it difficult composing good sentences

Wish you all the best and inform us when you're about to walk down the aisle

As much as You might be trynna make the situation seem easy for the poster,
it would be grammatically correct if anyone calls her an illiterate.
It's not an insult . . . .It's just what it is.

kc08:
I have this nagging concern and I truly need some second, third or a million opinions on this. Trust me. I am a single gentleman and am in my 40s. I met and fell in love with this pretty lady during one of my trips to Nigeria. Then she was an undergraduate student. She has long graduated. For many years we would call and have short chatting and email thing going on. Recently I have become more and more serious with her as I came to know her more. With this knowledge comes a great concern especially if she is to relocate and live with me in the Western English speaking country. She can hardly complete five grammatically correct English sentences on a role.

I started observing this when our level of chatting both on-line and on the phone increased. My first step to help was to ask her not to use the abbreviated texting formulas in our communication. This was to help me see her level of understanding and ability to correctly express herself.  Was I not surprised? May I say here that when I started noticing her lack of understanding of the arrangement of tenses,  grammar, word meanings and sentence constructions, the kind of things we learn in primary school and build up on in high school/secondary school and all that, it rang a big bell. To say the least, I could not believe what I was reading.

Ladies and gentlemen, I am really in a big bind. I love this lady but it is becoming very difficult to see how I would bring a wife who is unable to complete a simple application into an English speaking country. How about advancing education to add to the family support? To show that I mean it when I say I love her, I started asking her to write me stories on how her day went (she is working in Nigeria). The first write up, barely 10 lines long, had grammatical errors in each line. I am talking about mistakes you will not expect from a high school graduate not to mention a university graduate (trust me I am measuring her with Nigerian standard). I really love her and I see she is making every effort to learn but I am really scared about our future. It would be a different thing if I was dealing with challenging college assignments or difficult topics but we are spending hours on elementary English topics (using capital letters, tenses, possessive pronounces, and the use of articles) . Remember she is a Nigerian University graduate. It would have been a different thing if I was dating a high school graduate. It really disturbs me. I need your advice.

The line in bold is the most important thing.


Firstly, You must make her understand there's a prob. and what the prob. is.
Ask her to enroll in an adult school/ an English course while You have a little patience and continue to assist her in every possible way.

Party's over - Willie Nelson 

Acidosis:
could you pls interpret this interesting rubbish.

**Death**

3 kids.

Between the 1st and 2nd - 3 Years gap
Between the 2nd and last - 5-6 Years gap.

mama bear:
[color=#770077][/color] well b4 postn diz av dwelt so much on finkn,even as im postn it im stil finkn,if wat i did waz rite, ma story goes lyk diz, i broke up wiv ma boyfrnd coz i found out dat he waz cheatn on mi,den d only person i cud cry 2 waz his broda coz his broda lyks mi alot n waz lyk ma bestfrnd coz i tell him stuffz n all dat happens 2mi,only 4mi 2 realize dat afta cryn 2 him i felt so gud n ok around him n didnt feel sad n heart broken wenevea im around him so i started hangin out wiv him since he had a way of makn mi 4get evrytin. Den dia waz diz nyt i dreamt we kissed n eventually it came 2 pass,i went 2 see him one day n it rained so heavily & continously dat i cudnt go bck 2ma ouse so i had 2 crash at his place n dat waz aw we kissed & romanced all tru d nyt but no sex, in d mornin we cudnt help but feel guilty coz we knw wat we did waz wrng but it juss felt sooo gud, d frightful tin is dat now i fink i lyk his broda so much coz he makes mi so hapi plus he's so sweet in many wayz u can imagine,but d prob is dat pple wud frown at such an act,(mi datn his broda) infact d few peeps av told fink im crazy n dat i shudnt try it but we lyk ourselves n we jus flow, infact i wish i knew him lyk since!!! wat do u guyz suggest?

Get Yourself anatha man . . . . there are a million out there.

Some of us fancy a break from all the wahala that come with a relationship, and want to breath freeeeeeely. 
Here's to all the single Ladies . . . .Drink!!! Deejay, please!!! 

ITgurlie:
Being in love is a beautiful and wonderful feeling A lot of people go the extra mile to do anything for the one they love all in the name of love

A lady who got married to a Nigerian who lives overseas (N.B: the naija guy was already married to a white woman just for the benefits and not love ) recently played the role of a house help for her husband when his white wife insisted on following the naija guy home. I was when I heard this and I was wondering how far some people are willing to go in the name of Love

Imagine her serving her husband and the white wife and she sees them romancing

There are certain things I as a person will never do in the name of love, what do you all think

That is pure stupidity, abnormality, arrant rubbish . . . .

mode9007:
will give that a trial

Pennywise:
Missy B take it easy b/4 this guy cums on his keyboard

Comments are capable of making Guys c[i]u[/i]m?

Why should it be the society's business how I decide to dress? 

What's indecent about the first Lady?

Prolly, You might want to start by challenging Yourself/Your desire.

1 -Make up Your mind not to . . .
2 -Try not to, regardless of how strong the urge seems.

jennykadry:
crucify you? you are not even worth it

- - -

If You cannot control Your desire for anything [Sex, Food, drink, whatever], there's a prob.

To Your Mole rat, I assume?

ibkaye:
I'm very fine thanks

Good!
What's new with You? You've been kinda scarce . . . .Been with the Queen? 

chamotex:
https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/109.gif

Ma Yori Yori is shy . . . .C'mon, this is Missy eh - Your Sugar-mama.
Open Ya mauth jare. 

[quote author=Kenny_G link=topic=329403.msg6204067#msg6204067 date=1276375630]kai that must be very tasty sha,[/quote]I'm sure the Chef cooking me would agree with You.

ibkaye:
missy, how are you?

I'm aiight, Darling! You Nko?

chamotex:
smh

Will You sharaaap and come kiss me?! 


[quote author=Kenny_G link=topic=329403.msg6203993#msg6203993 date=1276374927]so u r not cooking but someone is being cooked in the kitchen? [/quote]Better put . . . .I'm the one being cooked.   

deneut:
so missy is a cook

You noh know? Biko, make an order here. https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-451442.0.html  

[quote author=Kenny_G link=topic=329403.msg6203928#msg6203928 date=1276374133]me is even greater, longest time howdy?

wats in the kitchen tonite?[/quote]Yup! Kinda been a while . . .
Kitchen is not in good shape at the moment. I'm using it as a bedroom 4 now.
There will be no food till . . . .Bear with us!!

deneut:
its missy in da chatroom

Yez!! It's Missy . . . .
Tsup?