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Don't I just like Omo-to-dun! 

MOBO44, you now have followers. Impressive!

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
i fully understand you!
i would be scared, or shall i say "careful", to date in 9ja too especially when you read their views on relationship/marriage, how driven by money/materials some are, and the definition of happiness of most. . . . . . .

It's okay for us to be scared of Naija men too, because of how ''driven they are'', by sex. No?

chamotex:
Why the bedroom?
Can't we eat in the kitchen like everyone else?

Nah, sweets.
I want to feed you, specially. **Bites lip while rubbing palms together**

bawomolo:
it's supposed to be taught in totality but of course teachers don't have enough time or are limited by the syllabus.  parents pick up the rest of the slack.

You're beginning to speak ma language. 
[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=532017.msg6958312#msg6958312 date=1287327220]it's safe to say they are not the best medium through which Sex Education should be taught.[/quote]

bawomolo:
recreational sexual activity among dolphins, bonobo's and the likes is well documented.

Bawomolo,
To say 'Mammals - dolphins- have sèx predominantly for pleasure' is different from saying
'mammals - Dolphin- feel pleasure when they engage in sèx'.
There's yet to be, rather,I'm yet to come across any proof for the former.
The documentary you're talking about may prove the latter not the former.
In fact, give us a link to the video. I'm curious, now.

bawomolo:
it isn't a myth. 

“Sex is an antisocial force in evolution. Bonds are formed between individuals in spite of sex and not because of it.” These words open the chapter on “Sex and society,” in the classic book Sociobiology by E.O. Wilson (1975), emphasizing the divisive, competitive nature of sexual reproduction in general. Here, we examine the role of non-reproductive sex in the social lives of dusky previous termdolphins,next term and explore the possibility that, at least in this instance, sex reinforces important social bonds.

Like bottlenose previous termdolphinsnext term (Connor et al. 2000), dusky previous termdolphinsnext term apparently engage in sexual behavior for social reasons as well as reproduction. Sexual behavior may play a role in communication (Wells and Norris 1994), or in greeting ceremonies (Würsig and Würsig 1980). Although female dusky previous termdolphinsnext term are seasonally polyestrous, with conception only possible during a limited breeding season, mating occurs in all seasons (Figure 8.3, Cipriano 1992, Markowitz 2004). Social–sexual behavior outside the breeding season appears to be much more relaxed, lacking the high-speed competitive chasing we have described during the breeding season. Homosexual activity between males has been noted in both Kaikoura and the Marlborough Sounds (Cipriano 1992, Markowitz 2004). In a foraging context, social–sexual activity may be a form of celebration and/or strengthen social bonds between foraging companions (Würsig and Würsig 1980, Markowitz 2004).

Dusky previous termdolphinsnext term also mate with other species. Off Kaikoura, dusky previous termdolphinsnext term were frequently observed mating with common previous termdolphinsnext term (Delphinus delphis; 28.6% of mixed groups encountered). In the Marlborough Sounds, social–sexual activity between common previous termdolphinsnext term and dusky previous termdolphinsnext term was observed in two of five mixed species groups encountered (Markowitz 2004). Apparent hybrids between the two species have been noted (Reyes 1996, Würsig et al. 1997). Hybrids have also been noted between other cetaceans, including Dall’s porpoise and harbor porpoise (Phocenoides dalli and Phocoena phocoena; Willis et al. 2004), and bottlenose and common previous termdolphinsnext term (Zornetzer and Duffield 2003).
Summary and Conclusions

source: The dusky dolphin: Mating habits of New Zealand Dusky dolphins.

Again, you've misinterpreted someone's write-up
Lmao! What has this got to do with ''all mammals have sèx predominantly for pleasure''?
Sorry to burst your bubble, It doesn't prove jack. Least of all, that dolphins have sèx predominantly for pleasure.
It still remains a myth until there's a satisfactory proof - What process was followed to reach that conclusion? Who conducted the experiment/research, what prompted the 'whoever' to reach that assertion?
Please, give me valid answers not mere assumptions of yours or words of some unknown, like it has a scientific stamp on it. Thanks!

I demand an apology for making me waste a minute of my life reading that article.
See me thinking it's related to the issue at hand. 

Stop Racism - Maleke

tensor777:
You are arguing with an atheist which is never a wise thing to do.

Well, It's only to fritter away time. 

tensor777:
However there is no evidence that dolphins and chimpanzees have intimacy for pleasure so I don't know why you established that caveat.

This is a common MYTH. Since he (bawo)  went down that lane, i decided to go with him. Though, without being in accordance with the erroneous info - ''all mammals have intimacy predominantly for pleasure''. Ehn?
However, You're right. I'm yet to verify it from a reliable source or see an evidence.

tensor777:
That is one reason why the parents should be responsible for teaching their kids about the facts of life and not outsiders who may happen to inset their own prejudices  perversions and all kinds of politically correct nonsense.

I can't shout! 

bawomolo:
they have them in schools genius

Punto!
If we have them in schools where sex Education is supposed to be taught in its totality, and these teachers don't teach everything- the pleasure aspect, for example- according to you, it's safe to say they are not the best medium through which Sex Education should be taught.
Is this not what I've been saying, sir? You can't trust schools to teach it perfectly, hence mothers teach your kids [first] before anyone adds to the fundamental knowledge you've already imparted.

bawomolo:
who is then? miss cleo. who states fathers can't teach sex education?

You cannot blame me for your inability to comprehend simple English, I'm sorry.
How does ''Most times, Mothers do the Education when it comes to intimate issues like sex, Esp. when it has to do with a female child'''' and
''Hardly does a father do these things, when there's a mother''   translate to ''Father cannot teach sex education''?
I beg you to stop misinterpreting my posts, as you aren't even doing a good job.
Why would you take up a role generally known to be played by mothers?

bawomolo:
answer this question, who should teach orphans about sex?

Silly question!
The orphan is denied so many things the child under parental supervision enjoys.
Who tucks the orphan in bed? Whoever cares. Who teaches the orphan about sex Edu.? whoever cares.

bawomolo:
general awareness to you perhaps

It's not my fault you're way behind. General awareness is general awarness.
Perhaps, you should get out of the cave and get along with time. No offeinse [sic]
Who explicitly defined cooking to be the role of a woman? No one. But when the question is posed, it's safe to say 8 out of 10 people would answer ''the woman''.

bawomolo:
you obviously refuse to read. what part of we would both do the job don't you understand.

You will tell that to your wife and daughter, not me.    For the simple reason that, you can dictate who handles what, ONLY in your home.
If I'm right, I stated that before.

bawomolo:
you pretty much described women as tall children who need to be guided.

Your interpretation, not my words.

bawomolo:
it has multiple functions in which reproduction is one of them.   it's also a stimulating pleasurable act for human beings.

Have I said anything different? 

bawomolo:
do you have intimacy with the main goal being procreation?

Neither will I always have intimacy for purpose of recreation. At some point, one would engage in sèx for the purpose of procreation.

Sleepy

Ehn? **Faints**

Loca- Shakira

Be a gentleman, cook Wumine sum'n' to eat and stop whining.

bawomolo:
do you guys really believe sex ed counselors teach people how pleasurable sex is? really do you guys think so.

Hello?
Who talked about giving one's child to a counselor for sex Education?
I said - Sex Edu. ought to start from the home. Plus, whoever is doing the teaching must and should teach everything that has to do with sex - sexual pleasures, included.
If you must teach, teach everything. Otherwise, you're doing an imperfect job.

bawomolo:
assigning the role of sex ed teacher to the mum alone doesn't make sense.   this only encourages the tendencies for fathers to be absent from their kids life except financial.

Once again, I have to remind you of what I said earlier.
It's not me, Missy, assigning roles to parents.
I said- It's general awareness that Most times, Mothers do the Education when it comes to intimate issues like sex, Esp. when it has to do with a female child.
You still doubt that? Ask the OP to create a poll.
There are a million and one other roles only fathers can play perfectly.
Get busy with those.

bawomolo:
let me guess, are you the one who would teach your son about wet dreams, morning wood, wearing a condom? both parents should share both roles regardless of the gender of the child.

You don't have to teach a son how to wear a condom. There are more important things to teach him. There will never be a time he would wear the condom on his toe, just like you didn't teach him to put food in the mouth, not nose.
What next would you ask me to teach him? How to slide in?

bawomolo:
both parents should share both roles regardless of the gender of the child.

No, both parents cannot share that role. I wouldn't want my husband teaching my daughter how to wear her sanitary pad, when I can do the teaching independently. I'm not sure my daughter would be comfortable with the idea too.
Then again, need I say, I'm speaking for me. How one runs his/her family is subjective. You, as the father, can decide to sit at home and do the teaching while your wife plays the role of a playmate, problem-solver, provider, principled guide.
Whatever rocks your boat.

bawomolo:
i do agree parents should teach their kids about sex first but there is nothing wrong with them learning more about it in school.

Aren't we speaking same language- English- here? 

[quote author=Missy ♥ B link=topic=532017.msg6945867#msg6945867 date=1287148745]I think sex education should be done by mothers [at least, it should start from home] not school.[/quote]I'm not saying it can't be taught in schools. But first, it should start from home.

bawomolo:
news flash madam, mammals have intimacy predominantly for pleasure.  go watch videos of dolphins getting it on (ok bad idea).  we humans do not have mating seasons.

Don't even make me spiritualize this. I'D hate to, seriously.
I don't know from which angle you're viewing it but, I'd give it to you, as I see it.
The first blessing pronounced on man [that is connected with sex] is to ''Be fruitful and multiply; reproduce''. [I know you're an atheist and wouldn't buy the idea of sex being ordained, but this is the angle from which I view it]. Take it or scratch it.
That is not to say procreation is the only purpose for sex.

Sex serves as a natural function, primarily meant for reproducing.

To say ''mammals have intimacy predominantly for pleasure'' is  inaccurate. As humans, [prolly chimps] and dolphins are the only mammals known to have the capacity to have intimacy for recreation- that doesn't mean, pleasure is the predominant purpose for sex. Other mammals have the instinct to procreate.  Oga!
It is, however, a different thing, to say- ''all mammals feel pleasure when they have intimacy''. Although, this is yet to be verified.

bawomolo:
your abstinence only philosophy hardly ever works.

I'll let this slide for now.

bawomolo:
here we go again.   homophobia under the guise of "sex" education.   lol@the main purpose of sex being procreation.  I know you dislike homosexuals but this is brainwashing and not sex education.

Where in my post, on this thread, have I displayed a homophobia?
Where did I even mention homosexuality?

Is this news? They've always taught Bini in Schools in Benin City [From primary to JSS level].

Dolemite:
You know, Christian types. . .Hallelujah, Hosanna the whole works.

Hella funny! Lmao!
Well, Yes, I'm a Christian. I do not celebrate immorality- sexual misconduct, to be precise. E.g: sodomy.

Dolemite:
More like an acceptance. . .

It's either you misinterpreted the comment or I wrote badly.

femmy2010:
@MB,
The imagery of the lioness does help greatly in making me understand.
But aren't we suppose to guard what we very often refer to as my diamond,my gold,my honey etc jealously?

am learning.

We call them our diamond, gold and honey because they are precious to us.
If they are precious to us, their happiness ought to be our concern.
Being that possessiveness often causes pain to the person who's subject to possession, therefore making him/her unhappy, we ought not to be possessive, as it brings them pain and makes them unhappy.

While jealousy is more mild. It's okay to feel unhappy when you think there's a rival. With time, it passes. Get jealous and get over it.

Simply put - We're usually protective of it, if we love it. But if being protective hurts it, we must back-pedal else, we hurt it, hurt ourselves, and still lose it.

I'm also learning.

Dolemite:
I thought you were one of those believer types, weird comment.

Lol!   
'Believer type'? Dolemite, explain better, pls. 

BTW, You've not misinterpreted my comment to be an encouragement of sodomy, right?

femmy2010:
Many a time i mix up being jealous with possessiveness.
Would appreciate a better differentiation

There's actually a thin line between both. I can only try to differentiate.

Jealousy is that feeling of displeasure, when there's a rival or that tendency to guard one's own; to be protective of someone/something.

Possessiveness includes all of the above but takes it further. It becomes a Do-Or-Die affair.
That 'It's my own and I must do everything to keep it - by fire by force' mentality.
This is difficult to explain. Just imagine going close to a wild Lioness that just gave birth, as if to take the little lion. That kinda reaction you get from the mother.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Possession has more to do with control.
Controlling the life of your partner.
[/color]

Yup!

Being Jealous is cool. Possessive? Nah. It scares me.

People who are possessive are usually abusers, I notice.

spicyhoney:
It is u and your entire people that are bush people. Must u make a comment? Who ever said being gay is new? Mumu!

Rotfl! Nice one! 

At least, if you must engage in sodomy, choose a very sekzy partner na.
Charly boy? Denrele, have taste, please.

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He shares a similar stage name with another popular comedian but Ernest Essien, aka MC Basketmouth, is synonymous with musical comedy due to his unique style of jokes presentation. The popularity of the mercurial comedian, who was discovered at Opa Willaims’ Night of a Thousand Laughs, continues to soar in the face of serious competition. He has succeeded in building a brand with his stage name, MC Basketmouth. In this exclusive interview with Obaro Itewo , he explained the reason behind his change of name, which became necessary when a fellow comedian began using it. The Nkpat, Akwa Ibom State-born comedian is well-known for his popular song, Nigerian Girls. The ex-military man talked about his foray into comedy and the challenges associated with the profession.

Excerpts:

MC Basketmouth

I am Ernest Essien. I am from Akwa Ibom State. I was born in Port-Harcourt and I grew up in Jos. Now, I reside in Lagos. I am married to an Igbo woman. I am a professional entertainer: a musician, comedian and actor. I am also an MC. I’m into events co-ordination, planning and management as well as entertainment consultancy.

How did you come about the name MC Basketmouth?

MC Basketmouth is a recent brand. Originally, it was simply Basketmouth. When my younger brother, Bright Okpocha came into the picture, he was also using Basketmouth. So, in order to avoid confusion and conflict, I changed mine to MC Basketmouth.

Did Bright Okpocha come on the scene before you?

I started a very long time ago, 1996. Basketmouth became a brand fully around 1998. Bright came onto the scene in 2000. He approached me at Ali Baba Show and said he didn’t know I was using Basketmouth. I told him to keep the name, let me modify my own to differentiate us and that was how I added the M.C and came up with M.C Basketmouth. As at then, the name was already a brand. A lot of people blamed me. Some said it was a case of Jacob and Essau, that I sold my birthright. I did this, I did that, but today, I am very, very proud that I did it.

Did Bright Okpocha take advantage of the well established brand name for easy and quick rise to popularity and fame?

He did not. He didn’t even know about me and I didn’t know about him. He was operating then in Benin, with the likes of I go Die and Gandoki. We were very few then: myself, Ali Baba, Okey Bakassi, Okey Julius, Sunny Baba, before Klink de Drunk came in. The pioneer of comedy is none other than Ali Baba, although we have people like John Chukwu and the late Mohammed Danjuma. We also have television comedians like Baba Sala, Papi Luwe, Jaguar and the rest of them. But for stand-up comedy, Ali Baba is the person that spearheaded it all because nobody used to see comedy as something really serious. The general belief then was that comedians are jokers, people who are never serious in life. So Ali Baba is the person that really spearheaded its success.

What’s your educational background?

I went to school like every other person. I attended St. Michael Primary School in Jos. After that I went back to my village because my father wanted us to have a feel of where we come from. So I attended primary school at Nkpat Enin Local Government Area of Akwa Ibom State and later, Command Secondary School, Jos, where I had my secondary education. After that I lost my old dad before I later proceeded to the university of the streets where I had my Ph.D.

Can you recall how your exploits in comedy started?

Comedy is not just something you sit down and plan to do. Once the talent is innate in you, it’s finished. I grew up in the barracks, and that in itself is a comical environment. The barracks is a house of comedy. There you meet different kinds of people from different tribes with different characters. Comedy is something that is actually in-born in me. I grew up with it. Schools usually have groups that are into “yabbing.” So we just sit down one on one and face each other yabbing and throwing jokes. I grew up in the barracks. My father was a military man.

He must have been very strict?

He was a caring and loving father. It’s not all soldiers that are disciplinarians. He was a little bit strict, but he was a father that could say, I am sorry.

So how did your come into comedy?

I was a musician right from my school days. I was singing in the school band. My father was a choirmaster. My mother was into singing, so I grew up in a family were almost everybody was into music. I remember then in the late 80’s and early 90’s, before my father died, every Christmas, we used to sing in our church. We used to be five in my family. But I lost my immediate younger sister in 2005. I am the first-born. One of my sisters is now late. I have a sister and two brothers.

Why did you ditch music for comedy?

I still sing. My primary constituency was not comedy. That was why I was able to create music comedy like when I sang, Nigeria Girls. When Basketmouth came into the industry, I needed to create a distinction between Basketmouth and MC Backetmouth because it was really confusing. When I went to some places and said my name was Basketmouth, the reactions were like, “Ah! Which Basketmouth is this?” It became an issue.

You guys must have made a lot of money then?

binaflexia:
What a confusing and dumb question

Wonder why some peeps can't answer simple question or just walk away.

Pathetic!

That was rude and uncalled-for.

binaflexia:
I'm taking too much INDOMIE NOODLES nowadays, becos I'm too lazy/tired to cook.

I want to know if it has any side effect when taken at least once a day. I normally take it with boiled egg.

Any advice?

I take indomie a lot too. I have an impression it doesn't make me fat
[I don't know, from where I got that idea]
I don't know if it has side effects but you should be more worried about the intake of egg [if you eat it daily too], as eggs have a lot of cholesterol.

drrionelli:
What, may I ask, are INDOMIE NOODLES?

https://www.theasiancookshop.co.uk/ekmps/shops/asiancookshop/images/indomie-chicken-flavour-instant-noodles-2268-p.jpg

Bravaaaaaaaa!!!
I want to be like her, when I grow up.

Nice one! Thanks for sharing.

'You?'

What's the chorus -Wait till they are 10,50,100- about?

Even when they are 10 or 100, as long as they are still dependent, if there isn't a mutual agreement between both parents to send them down, they musn't go.
Grandma's say is secondary.

Why is this even an issue? [s]The Mother doesn't want, husband can kiss a transformer na[/s].

ifyalways:
hmmn
u went too far,Just let her see the positives and negatives of what the husband is suggesting and let her make the final decision herself.

Likewise. See his lips.

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He is best known as the singer behind the hit song “Na Ba Ka”. Talented Jeremiah Gyang is one of the few mainstream Nigerian vocalists from Northern Nigeria. He recently reemerged on the music charts with his song “God’s Love (Kaunar Allah)”.

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Saw this photo on Fb and I love it. Cute little darling.


Caption it.

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Sagamite:
One of the core reasons why I refused to join the shyt called Facebook.

Not even if I sent you a special invite?  

rokiatu:
And why are you taking the world headache and putting it on your head? People can do whatever the hell they want its their lives

True!

Kx:
My issue with some peeps on FB is that they just add u because u are dia friend's friend without knowing u. Its crazy i think.

It actually is.
To think I don't know more than half of my Fb ''friends'' but to be civil, I accept requests.

Another annoying thing is the marriage proposal mails. Like, WTF! Do you know me? Imagine how many ladies would get the same mail from the same dude.

obi123:
@makkajibbz

i grew up in nigeria , but i cant speak my language fluently but i do understand it very well, that doesnt make me less Nigerian and as far as Nigerian pride goes, havent got a clue what that entails , surely to have the Nigerian pride ,there must be something to be proud about .

Same here.

I know a Yoruba woman whose 3 daughters were born here and they speak Yoruba so well. Even better than English.

Is this a joke or something? To think the husband is in accordance with the idea.

Parents must play the role of parents, and Grandparents, the role of Grandparents.
In the affairs of a child, the parents' say is first and paramount.
What Grandmama wants must be put aside, husband and wife should sort the issue out between themselves.
Mother can take the kids to Nigeria [Village] for a visit but leave them with Grandmama for ''upbringing'' purpose? Nah Nah, for me.

abhosts:
So what is wrong in sending your children over to their Grandparent to learn their Native Customs and Language? You guys make it sound as if they are being sent to concentration camps. Their present age and the length of stay is the only issue that raises concern.

Everything.
What are the parents there for? If Grandma so wants to be an essential part of their childhood, she can always go over to America but the kids must remain under the roof of their parents.

greateros:
The smart gurls go for clean wowo, stress free, action packed, hardworking, decent earners like us,

Are you serious? If I decide to run away from ugly dudes, I'm not smart?

greateros:
Gosh how i hate those lazy loafers! they are fond of looking at your girl and giving her the eyes when you take her outing. I nearly plucked the eyes out of one idi-ot like that if not for the intervention of guys around!

I advice seun to make it mandatory that before any guy register on nairaland he should send attached copy of his NEPA bill to show were he lives!

Useless lazy idi-ots! Hungry go soon finish una! They full Nairaland!

Seriously, Fine dudes aren't responsible for your grisly looks, take it easy on them.


BTW, What's to say the so-called Echidime is cute?