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Has obontami been cured of his herpes? I see he's giving his soon to be herpes colleague thumbs up.

I wonder what is so cool about narrating your sexcapades. Is that a way of redeeming a lost self esteem . Gaining e-fans

Smh

cococandy:
Guys are pained

As in, the anger is real. .

One minute naija girls to them are oloshos and sex objects, the next minute they are hypocrites.

Very judgemental and confused lots

Does this same karma visit the philandering men who sleep with other people's wives and girlfriends, or karma is sexist

Nothing beats keeping your affairs personal. Evil people are always lurking around to poke nose into your affairs the moment things turn sour. Everyone suddenly becomes a motivational speaker and has something to say.

NoToPile:
With the way people are saying he married Funke because of money one won't even know he's a successful person himself. He's not a poor guy naa

It's appalling really. Many did not even read the interview.

@topic, I like his responses I must say . Very straight to the point.

I like the couple and I wish them well.

Some nairaland boys can be very daft.

You see just two women in this picture and you conclude women are sex objects. Don't you all have mothers at home? What pleasure does it give you to tag the female gender sex objects based on what some few idiots choose to do with their lives.

I'm with the fan on this one

People can not take what they dish. The fan simply redirected the tweet to him, and he had to bring his father into it. Freeze kan dagba ko danu rara

This guy's wife and daughters are in trouble.. Day in day out na so so rules and regulation.

Let women choose and deal with their choices .

None, till I know what the argument is about.

Who says I have to obey any of the commandos

I guess that's option C

naijamakossa:
hope if dangote marry u now

u go tell him mek him follow u do house chores abi

At least dangote will be 100% responsible for the bills and probably pay for domestic help sef.

Men cant desire a woman who contributes to bills and still expect her to be 100% responsible for chores. It's common sense really.

As for the post, Each individual should do what works for him or her.

And I've notice people tend to view feminism only from the marriage point of view. There's more to feminism than all these shallow arguments about splitting bills and house chores. The gender equality Bill has nothing of such in it. People should get enlightened really.

HumanistMike:
She'll get her karma. Nobody can cheat nature.

Her ex should be calm and work with the saying "HOW YOU TREAT ME IS YOUR KARMA. HOW I RESPOND IS MINE".

Well, how are we so sure the groom is getting served by karma too

What an irrelevant thread

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Ferruccio:
I reacted the way I did because I've never seen a person with no legs before. Except on Tv, you know Oscar Pistorius? I really never thought I'd ever be stuck with a näked, legless girl in my bedroom. When I saw her, I was petrified. Maybe because I never saw it coming. So, the first thing that came to my mind was to tell her to get out of my flat. If she told me beforehand, explained her situation and all, I would have handled the situatioon better.

I'd have been terrified at such a sight too, I mean you didn't see it coming, but I must admit that your reaction was too extreme and inhumane. Please reach out to her if you can and right your wrong.

Tunmmyzhe:
thank u sister, there are some questions I won't be able to answer here cos its personal, I just need solution to the issue at hand now.

Is there anything I can do to defend this alteration?

How will arresting her help whatever plans you have?

What exactly do you want from nairalanders?

Figure out the reason for the alteration?
How to defend the alteration for whatever purpose you want it for?
How to get your wife arrested?

I would have thought the first thing is to talk to your wife and find out why she altered the document, then proceed to get an affidavit to render it valid and useful for whatever you want to use it for while you settle your differences whether revoncilable or irreconcilable afterwards.

All these threats of arresting her is just a waste of time

majestique:
the last time he picked my call, he told me he was at his sister's place. after then I tried calling but he wasn't picking. I am not trying to paint a bad picture of him, not at all. neither am I calling myself a perfect person but the fact that he is not communicating when he's always online says a lot. going over to his house will only humiliate me and make me look cheap.

I'm glad you can see this too.

Any relationship that drains you is not worth it, let no one tell you otherwise

majestique:
I'm not avoiding the question... I leave for work as early as 5am and return as late as 7:30-8:00pm everyday yet he expects me to visit him before heading home which is not even possible as I would be too tired and would want to get set for the next day. the only available time I have is on weekends and I thought he understood. I'm trying my best to please him I n though he's not working yet. I send him links to job openings because I love him and want to grow with him. I have told him before to let me know when I do something he doesn't like so that I can apologize but he never does...he loves to keep malice. what else am I supposed to do?

No wonder.. Only jobless people keep malice.

Babe, I beg of you, MOVE on. You are closer to 30 now and the last thing you need is a time waster. From your last thread, it is obvious this is a one sided relationship. The signs have always been there. Why you chose to stay put is beyond me. .. You people will not listen now o, when you now find yourself in a loveless marriage, you start writing books.

Love should not be forced Biko. You need to pull your acts together and stop acting like a teenager in love.

Focus on your work, socialise more often, keep good company and trust me, every thing will fall in place when you least expect.. Cheers

This got me in tears

RIP Ife

What a thread

What do people gain from saying unpleasant things to others. If you cant wish them well why not just shut it

Congratulations Op, may God be with you and your wife to be.

I'm actually more pissed at the comments here than the cheating spouse right now.

On one hand we have the mind your business ignorant crew who clearly read that the man has been having unprotected sex with this side chic thats got nothing on the wife in all standards. Yet same people will dispute stories about an entire family wiping off from the face of the earth due to exposure to HIV and AIDS from a philandering husband. I mean how low can a married man go exposing your beautiful family to such. This man has no regard for his wife and kids.

On the second hand we have eediots with no future ambition who think it's okay for a woman To let go her dreams and aspirations because she has to be by her husband like a monitoring spirit to prevent him from philandering. And then we wonder why we have few female professors, engineers and professionals when in this century many, including women(to my surprise) believe once your married as a woman that is the end of your dreams and aspirations. Your purpose is to worship your husband and ensure he never cheats on you. Jokers

Do people really think at all on this forum.? How can I be reading ignorant and extremely myopic comments in this age. Since when did distance become a determining factor for cheating.? What if one's spouse becomes ill for months? What if it was the hubby that travelled to give his family a better life (which usually occurs at one point or the other in a couple's life) and the wife becomes the Unrepentant cheat. Are we all going to blame him for doing so and then excuse the wife's behaviour?

For someone like Op to post this, he really must feel sad about the situation and holds his friend's wife in high regard. It's really unfortunate as this new karashika is even a threat to the family's existence right now as she has been making threats already.

My advice is that you hint the wife about this even if it has to be anonymous so she can at least come home briefly to assess the situation of things and make he decisions. There's no point asking you to talk to your friend as it's obvious it's not working.

Lastly, you might want to distance yourself from such a friend as well and let him know you can't keep being a friend with his reckless lifestyle. I just hope he doesn't realise the harm he's doing too late.

Someone makes a statement that their mothers, sisters, wives, nieces and daughters have nothing to offer other than sex and people think it's cool . But you want to bully and hang a lady who merely stated that his mum must be proud of him.

Do you all really think his mum would be proud of reading that statement for real? That her son thinks the females in their family have nothing to offer than sex .

I know you people believe dissing women is the new cool, especially on nairaland, it's like the fastest way of gathering likes. But when you do and generalise, feeling cool with yourself, why take offence when someone redirects the statement to the females in your life. After all you typed those words

haibe:
those are not valid reasons. That he single handedly recruited a team doesn't mean he has the necessary personnel management skills. Anyone can recruit successful, there are even firms that don't have an HR dept. But recruiting in a professional manner is different from whatever he has done

I get you. And I don't agree with his style of recruiting either. Just trying to point out that you made him go personal with that statement.

haibe:
lol so why are you telling me your acheivements. Your criteria for recruitment is silly and there's nothing u can say to defend that. The fact that some employees didn't mind doesn't mean u did ur job right. You possibly would have been generating 10 billion annually if you recruited in a more professional manner.

From the way you communicate its pretty obvious you may be having personality issues, see how you came personal on me like you know who i am. I replied you in an objective manner without reffering to 'your person' but your best mode of reply is to go emotional. Hmmn..

You told him he needs a training on personal management and he gave you a thousand of reasons why he doesn't...

Beamborla:
Read my reply over again. You might get it this time.

Before some vultures however see this as an opportunity to tear me apart, yes I'm not rich YET. I have my two hands, my legs and my brain and most importantly, I have God...I'm not shooting for riches, I'm shooting for smth greater and better

If a rich guy tells me I'm not his standard cos I'm not rich, I won't blame him or become bitter. He has the right to choose. Poor is not attractive to even the poor not to talk of the rich.

I'M NOT OUT FOR A RICH GUY. I PREFER STARTING OUT FROM THE SCRATCH WITH WHOSOEVER I WOULD BE GETTING MARRIED TO.

I love all your submissions.

I wonder why men get all touchy when women state their standards. Inferiority complex maybe? And then the next thing is to start threatening with menopause, etc . Same people will gladly criticise you if you rush in and out of marriage out of societal pressure. This lady has worked her ass off whether legally or illegaly to get to where she is. She has every right to 'choose'.. Heck every human being has every right to his or her choice of partner.
By the wa with the insecurity displayed by Nigerian men, I don't even think she can have it peaceful with a poor /lazy man. Few months into the Marriage, he'll probably be on twitter accusing Linda of sleeping around or her mum of using his head..

To start with, the topic says 'date' so i wonder why everyone is assuming every relationship is a sexual one.

That being said, I also have a problem with the word 'supposed' like there should be a standard every lady must conform with and any lady who goes beyond this standard is a LovePeddler who will never find a man to settle with. I personally think the world has moved past all these unnecessary standards. There are hundreds of reasons why a lady can date a handful of men before settling down, so who are we to sit behind our computers and dictate what is ideal and what isn't?

Why is it okay for the man to date as many ladies as she wants before he finds the one but judge a woman who does the same.@Op, If the general opinion here is that a lady must not date more than 3 men before settling down, does that mean if you're in your third relationship and there are clear signs that it isn't what you want, you will stay put because you don't want to be judged by people or seen as wayward?

Any lady that allows society dictate to her or set standards for her lacks self love. Because at the end of the day, you alone bear the consequence of your action and in actions. As a human being, you should have your set standards and it sure doesn't have to align with that of the society.

And that is why some ladies will rather tell their men what they want to hear and not the truth when it comes to admitting how many relationships they've been in because they want to appear the way society wants them to. Having failed relationships doesn't necessarily mean one is wayward. It takes two to keep a relationship. So no one should dictate what an adult should do with her life.

That being said promiscuity should be discouraged for both genders. Those proudly admitting they can have sex with random girls wvout being emotionally attached are Jokers. It's nothing to be proud of. STIs are not gender specific and I have zero respect for anyone involved. Nothing is cool about sleeping around whether you're a male or female.

I vote

Ryabcool

Princeakins

Cc: NLjega

I vote for

Ryabcool
Photoshoot
Eldaillest
Princeakins

Cc: NLJega

Even a guy presented with these options will go for 6cars. Who 6packs epp

Shinelle:
Wow... for real! I'm glad you're here...I remember you alot. Kind of regretted not getting your number to keep taps.
Mine is for Wednesday. Maybe ild learn a thing or two from you . Sent you a PM

Hi, would have sent you a pm but I do not have access to the email this username was registered with. If you don't mind, drop any email I can reach you on. I have a few inputs for you. Cheers

fireforfire:
Dey all look shabby sef......except for d kids.

Sound sultan looks like a fulani herdsman .
His wife looks like someone dat just got up from sleep.

Dey dnt look like pple dt are celebrating anything.
Not a cute pic tho.

My thoughts exactly! Sound sultan and wife look so unkempt , so I wonder what the fuss about the maid is. The wife looks like a maid herself.

As a mere reader, i'm hurt. I personally don't think I can ever forgive this level of betrayal.

I'm so irritated with this woman. How vulnerable can one be to allow one's siblings ruin one's life.

babeface3:
Ur a single p? Sorry just practising some psychology #

Single P ko, double Q ni. Your psychology practice is whack