₦airaland Forum

RenerdLiam:
You are right. But I believe the OP is not talking about speaking out, but rather talking about knowing you are being cheated, but seeking approval from strangers to allow yourself to be cheated. That’s the man OP is referring to as weakling.

Exactly. The speaking out should be his narration of what he did which is sending her packing for cheating. Because if you keep a cheating woman, she will continue the cheating as your punishment for not punishing her (sending her packing).

wizkidblogger:
as in, the way they FEAR WOMEN these days is worrisome

Men should be strong and fearless

It's not that easy.
It can be very painful.
Especially in this part where the man was taking care of his supposed woman financially with his hard-earned money before her disappointment is discovered by him.

pocohantas:
At no point have you all ever been "tigers", you only had women that were very submissive- thus making your pseudo-masculinity obvious. Tiger that was colonised and whipped in the butt, watched their women get fcked by colonial masters, sold themselves for mirrors and combs. Tiger that is in a third world country ravaged by hunger and ordinary malaria. Tiger that can't even boast of good roads and electricity...

Can you see that your masculinity revolves around toto? Something that is inconsequential to fast developing counties?

We are very hungry and bitter people, so we love and fck for all the wrong reasons. It is only normal we experience lots of fake pain.

At what point? Men in the olden days had firm grip on their wives and women.
A man is supposed to always be superior to a woman. Kiss the truth.
What these guys nowadays are doing is pure male weakness.
Nowadays, men are becoming women.
If you want men to make things in the society work first before considering their masculinity, also understand that there are limits to how men can express his masculinity too. But human-to-human, a woman by nature is beneath a man; the man is made to be bold in his dealings with a woman. The woman is soft.

Carcholce:
This is what I have got to learn about sex. If you as a man is very focused and don’t get easily seduced by women and sex. The woman you think does not like sex will automatically find you attractive. But Nigerian men do not even give chance to make this simple and clear observation.

Nigerian guys/men can be very impatient when they want to sha.g a particular woman.
The desperation they exhibit then makes the woman start doing shakara even if she would love to get laid too.
To beat women to their game, operate like them by ignoring, yabbing and making her feel less of herself and next thing you know she's all over you wanting it so much. They get ho.r.ny too. They just know how to play their games very well unlike men.

With their branded coloured shirts and caps as usual.
Rented induced crowds everytime.

deavicky:
don't mind them it will be clear to them very soon. I'm from kogi and I support Obi.
If we are in sane society someone like Tinubu can not even try to show interest on presidency let alone contesting.

I am in Lagos here and I am always very surprised whenever somebody thinks Obi has only Igbo supporters.
Like, is that not foo.lis.hness?
Even Atiku has supporters from other citizens that are not Hausa's.
Tinubu is just one anyhow human-being. No character at all.

Naijanascam:
You are part of the hired clappers and demented hallelujah boys that sees nothing and says nothing and in Sane environment you will be taken to a rehab facility for being a potential danger to the unsuspecting public.....a claimed Chicago trained accountant makes mockery of Statistics and you druggie clapped and you are not bothered about mention of down payment of Roasted corn in electricity transmissions.... that's an Irony and kindly live with your shameless nature in peace

You have time to be replying an urchin.
Funny enough, many educated ones among them do have urchin tendency too.
That's why you find them speaking the best of English on here.
I can understand if a politician is supporting his party candidate because he is forced to.
But for an ordinary citizen that is expected to be reasonable and do the right thing to be playing himself and doing himself because of bribe, sentiment etc, it's pure stu.pidity.

Superwave16320:
When Obi was telling his foolish support that some couldn't walk or talk to Nigerians face2face I didn't see your bigoted Igbo father wailing up n down NL over or Obi is not a mere mortal that can die Tonite only Tinubu is a mere mortal that can die according to your foolish bigoted tribalistic Igbo head.

Now Tinubu tells you how irrelevant n a nonentity Peter Obi is with his fraudulent lying statistics you are hyperventilating in sorrow all over NL. You de ment. Go n die over Tinubu's comment let's see if your will be noticed. So only cursed Igbos that will never be beta for like Peter Obi owns monopoly to insult denigrate n belittle other Nigerians ba ?

May it never be well with you for the audacity to create this thread when you never created one when Obi insulted n denigrated Tinubu. You de mad

But you be mumu o
You and the Yoruba's still thinking Obi is supported by only Igbo's can amaze somebody with una mumu level eh.
I am not an Igbo and I am an Obi-dient. How about that?
How can somebody just be thinking that the supporters of a candidate are from only a particular tribe for God's sake!
Try dey get sense

Difrent:
You think say BAT na Soludo
BATists will give you violence for violence of you try all you did with Soludo with BAT.
If una try any burn down Lagos this time around...una go hear whin
You can only bully or harass someone like soludo

That's such an urchin thing to say.
E dey una blood like una candidate.

Who burned down Lagos? When?
People legitimately vex for SARS mata and
they express their anger with small fire
you say na burn down Lagos.

BigBashiru:
Which role. That role isn't set in stone....instead of focusing on role the focus should be on fairness.

True.
These things are neither Laws made anywhere nor punishable.
Just social construct which many deviate from too.
Setting the tone from the very start and being very clear about it can go a very long way to let peace reign among couples.

Sweetplum:
Seems you v comprehension issue. If you so much dislike Tinubu, manage Obi. That's my summation. No Atiku, No Kwankwaso.

I also don't want the north to continue in power in 2023.
Tinubu is not just it at all. The signs are everywhere.
You sounded like you are rooting for him but also battling with tribalism.
That was why I replied you to know where you stand.
But as usual with your type, your mouth is quicker to be rude than polite.

Sweetplum:
Wives now aren't working abi?
What we are saying is you boys of this age are so broke and you are the ones that complains the most. Maybe Buhari hardship reset your brain too.

Why will they not be broke when Nigeria is happening to them?
And why will they not be complaining when their woman will
refuse to temporarily stand in for them as Helper, even when
he is seriously finding ways to make it?
And mind you, we are not talking about boyfriend-girlfriend here.

BigBashiru:
Which role. That role isn't set in stone....instead of focusing on role the focus should be on fairness.

That's when they will come in with the childbirth and gender roles narrative.
If you want to operate marriage like a partnership, childbirth becomes an issue of contention.

BigBashiru:
Where does this notion of a female disrespecting a man becos she is bringing money comes from?? It shouldn't be happening at all..... it can even be structured as a loan....

They understand it as overburden, after birthing/taking care of children for him, cooking/cleaning, hence the disrespect.
They see it that way no matter how hard you try to convince them that it's temporary.

olaeffect:
In my comment I said the pastor maybe addressing a particular case.
I have seen cases whereby some men have become dependent and being taken care of by their wives perpetually, simply because their wifes have the means.
It is thoes kind of situation I believe the pastor is referring to. It is not by money alone that you take care of a woman.
If your wife is the one financing the home then you have to do other things in that home that will amount to her care.
You don't expect a woman to take care of the house, the children, go to work, pay the bills, while you as a man loaf around and do nothing with the claim that loosing your job and being fed by a woman does not make you less of a man.
Oga, such a man is not only less than a man, but a disgrace to the entire "manhood"

There is hardly any man that will happy with that kind of condition.
It is a very big insult that majority of men try very hard to avoid.
Men's main goal in life na to "Blow."
The society sef nor go take am easy on him for being a failure.
I've hardly seen a man in such condition that is not seriously finding ways to make it.

Godmother:
Who said anything about being a full housewife? No woman should even consider that in this present Nigeria.

Also, being a helper is not only when the man is down. It is ALL THE TIME.

As a wife, I have done things I never thought I would and I did them with joy. I did them because my husband is a good man and I want to lighten his load. Sometimes, even when he has, I just rush to do these things to relieve him.

Nigerian men already have the wrong notion of Nigerian women and the thing is your kind will continue to pull to you what you think.

You can't just assume that the man is not planning and working hard or doing nothing to get back on his feet just because his wife is standing in for him and supporting him.

It's not easy and that's why it takes a while for him. But the duration makes many women think he is not doing anything or seriously finding ways. FACT: THE DREAM OF 99.9% MEN IS TO "BLOW."

And when he Arrives, he will assume his role and even want to compensate his woman for everything she did. No man is really happy watching his woman shoulder the whole responsibility. But many men are unhappy with the way their woman abandons everything to the man of the house.

Becoming a failure is the main insult every man tries very hard to avoid in his lifetime. And contrary to your opinion, Nigerian men are very hardworking and are earnestly find ways to breakthrough.

olaeffect:
Hmmm, when a Pastor speaks from the bible but based on the matter he is dealing with at that time; he may likely be misquoted

Pastor maybe refering to a particular members case that he is handli6at hand, where the man of the house is irresponsible and does not take care of his wife at all, but expects his wife to to take care of him because she has the means.

But some irresponsible ladies will now assume otherwise

But it is also part of the Helper women are called too.
Help him finance the home until he gets back on his feet and respect him while at it.
Contributing to the finance for running the home is also part of the Help.
Help is not restricted to only some things, it's a general term.

Sweetplum:
Says a man who's not proud to he responsible.

You better get your a.ss to work.
Wives in the Bible went to farm with their husbands.
The Helper you are called is a general title that is not limited to only cooking/cleaning, birthing/taking care of children.
It also means contributing part of your money to the finance for running the home.

Godmother:
See my dear, there's a natural order of things:

Women were created to be taken care of, to crave love and security.

Men were created to want respect and to be protectors/providers

The problems of today arose because men are trying to change the narrative but still expecting the same results. Some men now expect the woman to foot the entire bill but still demand the full respect of the headship.

In my almost forty years on earth, I have seen and witnessed things. I have friends that are married and have been footing the family bills for over ten years. It's an anomaly

The question is: What will she be using all her own money for if she is earning?

Or you stand for the full housewife idea?

A woman as the Helper can stand in as support for the man for the time being when he is down before he gets back on his feet again, and maintain her respect for him while at it, knowing fully well he is making efforts to bounce back.

The Creator called you Helper. I didn't make that up. Help goes beyond birthing and taking care of (his) children, cooking/cleaning and taking care of him, it can also mean contributing her own part to the finance for running the home. Wives in the Bible went to farms with their husbands and engaged in farm-works.

oojehshez:
Make sure you do not give birth to a girl, have a sister or mother better still no get anything to do with a nigerian female (as per you just dropped and found yourself on earth)...you guys just come online and start ranting forgetting that it's one woman that birthed you, you have sisters and it's a woman that will give birth for you, and you will have a daughter.

Na as man get issues, woman get am....na because of this mentality you no get good experience...your thought attracts what comes to you.

But una own issues can taya pesin eh.
Very unreasonable always.
Sotey una nor even like unaself because una know una own ways.
Operating like adult-baby everytime.
If it's not drama, it's stubbornness.
A woman is only loyal to her feelings, incapable of loving and only has unconditional love for her children.
She behaves according to how you make her feel at the moment, making her very unreliable.
Na God just dey help us men with una.
I love you all still. Because you make the world sweet in other ways too.
Only a very wise man can cope with a woman very well.

Sweetplum:
OK. This Olu Fasan is a bastard to Yorubaland.
Meanwhile. Let's say Tinubu should leave. Atiku and Kwankwaso too must not win. It must be Obi and we wan see wetin he fit do. And if emilokan is needed, it's Igbo's turn legally. Afterall the last original Igbo ruled in 1966.

Why did you call Olu a bastard but still went ahead to assume that same Tinubu doesn't win?
You wish he should win for power shift purpose but you also struggle with sentiment because your brain is also telling you that he is unfit to rule.

Obakoolex:
I just can't get it really
Sincerely most people that attack Tinubu if you check it well it's always out of personal vendetta or ipob brain washing that we are normally used to.
How can someone in his right mind say Ashiwaju is not worthy of becoming president with his record in Lagos state or because a crime over many decades ago which he's not even convicted for,
70% of present Nigeria youth would do worse if given the opportunity to make money tru laundering overseas yet tinubu is their enemy just for no particular reason expect he's always ahead.
Whom God has blessed....you know the rest.
Jagaban is just special like David in the Bible...many exploits but thousands foes

What did he do in Lagos as governor?
He generated plenty money, yes.
But he did nothing with the money.
Abi na him put the water there in Lagos ni?
He is not responsible for the achievements of the Lagos governors after him.
Keep deceiving only the gullible ones about Tinubu building Lagos bullshit.

PrinceOfLagos:
Show me any photo of Peter Obi being humiliated like this in court

Since you and Tinubu don't have shame

Are you minding them?
Tinubu is the wrongest human-being to contest for any public post at all.
His activities in Lagos are very clear evidence.

ALTERNATEID:
Kwara is in the bag already for APC.

Most of these crowds will just collect these politicians money and scam them and vote someone else on election day.
You think they are not affected by the hardship of APC abi to let such demonic party to continue in power.
Few mumu tribalistic ones are among them sha that will vote for Tinubu without collecting anything at all.

seunjungle1:
Na your own candidate no be thief abi....awon oponu abi fun radarad

Ole gidi ni Tinubu yen. His activities in Lagos is clear evidence.
Atiku too.
Apart from Obi's achievements everywhere for people to see,
Obi also generated plenty money and handed over the plenty money to Anambra before leaving as governor.
Tinubu is not an omo-oluwabi. You and I know it.
Be very sincere with yourself and help this country. Forget tribalism and do the right thing.
If you no pity yourself, try and pity the future of your (unborn) children in this country.
Obi is our last golden opportunity and chance to save this country.
Are you happy with how this country has been since?

ennypita:
Bro most of these guys supporting thieves and sicky sicky candidates knows the truth they are just doing it for the money.

They are just posting things so as to show evidences that their support group is working. Plenty guys for Abuja here just dey milk oga bullion van. One even wan do football competition to support Tinubu. Football team wey all of them are obidient.
So bro atimes wen u see their post free them. Na Hussle dey too dey Hussle.

Abi
Na to chop ein money and Bleep am up.
The annoying ones are the sentimental Yorubas supporting him even without receiving anything from him.
The worst are the Hausas supporting Atiku like that too when their own very Hausa brother Kwankwaso is vying too.
Some people can be very unreasonable sha even in suffering.

Thinkam:
wake up love, Obi isn't contesting 2023, maybe 2031

Obi will drop out of the race latest December

Atiku is coming



My account is already at zero bruv

Atiku is coming

Was this your own dream.
Your account is already at zero and yet you are supporting a thief into power.
A thief who will not make things any better for your account to remain at same zero.

Lipkeys:
He might be right. Have you forgotten so soon how candidates stepped down for bat during the primaries? Tinubu is a game player.. So many persons you think are against him are actually working for him... It will take super wisdom for obi or atiku to defeat him.. Bat dey like tortoise, no go try wetin he money fit do o.. He can even buy Reno over,if he wants to.. Na millions of dollars dey talk o,no be child's play o

You think national politics is the same with Lagos and southwest politics where he has been doing anyhow abi?
Dem go shock am very soon. 2months away from now.
Comparing a party affair with the main election where many factors come into play.

Aufbauh:
Neck pressing Part ll loading...........!
This 2023 presidential election will be easier for Asiwaju APC than 2019 .


This time around the PDP splited into 4 major opposing forces: Atiku, Kwankwaso, Obi and the G5.
The person that did this to the PDP won't make heaven

Viewing Advisory: Sowore and other irrelevant opposition supporters shouldn't tune in to TVC or come out of their rooms tomorrow if you resides in Lagos to avoids lamentation & sifia pain.

Apart from the southwest which Obi may either be near him by a very close margin or even win him in some of the SW states, which other part in the south can Tinubu boast he will win? South-south? South-east?
Tinubu has no support base in the north. The north-central are mostly Obi-dients too.
Continue living in your own delusion.

deeva2:
CAN refused to fall for Peter Obi and his IPOB emotional blackmail..

God one from them..

God bless Nigeria.

God bless Mazi Bola Tinubu..

Why is somebody standing behind him as defense in the picture?
Someone that cannot think and talk well again is who you want to rule you? Really? When leadership is all about decision-making?

Peterobiisathie:
our conscience can't be Pandora Obituary who has no good track record except lie

Have you been to Anambra before?

BATified2023:
emeka d mugu man telling us an over 60 year old pandora him tu lie is a youth

Same man that was with atiku few months ago suddenly became an angel today

You be mumu.
Did he come into power with Atiku?
And would he have even been able to do anything as vice then?
If you don't pity yourself, pity the future of your (unborn) children.
Obi's achievements and works are everywhere in Anambra for everyone to testify that he is ready to help.
A master-servant he is. Not like the other 2 thieves.
You better start having sense.
Forget sentiment and embrace reality.