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dellynash:
hello Mohawkchic, thanks for your advice,i actually had some set expectations which i will wipe them out now and accept the transition.I will also try to be patient,
i don't understand when u say every man needs his ego to be stroke now and then, what does it means my dear?

~It means knowing & using to the best of your ability things/ways that please your hubby,other posters have given you pointers,at the end of the day,only you knows how your hubby will react to certain things,so its all trail & error, some might work,others wont work but keep your head up & keep plugging away!!

*Learn how to pick your fights w/ him,he can't always be right,but sometimes let him think he's had his way!

*Saying You're Soory :sometimes it may be you havent even done anything to apologise for but say it anyways!!

*Learn to Compliment him,his Efforts for doing some things,however small,let him know you noticed !!

*Cook him his favourite meal & then go in for the kill . .you can cajole him to listen to what you have to say!

*Avoiding Character Assassination : if there's nothing a man hates,its losing respect or face,much as we can't always control what we say when we are angry,try not to hit him where it hurts the most-by name calling etc

*Try not to bring up old grudges on past arguments - Unless when absolutely neccessary!!

~Can i also say,without you realising it,you might have been giving some negative body language that your hubby might have picked up on,let him know you're not comfy having a house guest so soon after youre just married!!

~With a house guest,there must be things you're not able to do the way you'd want to!! -scream your head off when doin you know what!

*not been able to walk around your house butt naked if you feel like it,you know how uncomfy & how much of a strain its having on you & affecting you,try to make him understand!

TOYOSI20:
Lol. . . . .mohawkchic, I'm trying tho. . . . . .my best thread so far.

~Aaaw Thanks ~

redprofile:
Key 1: Realistic Expectancies

What sets people up for disappointment is when they think something is going to turn out one way, but it turns out to be another. That is why it is important to have expectancies that are realistic. The good news is, no matter what anyone tells you about pregnancy, you're about to begin the most joyous, fun, unbelievable time of your life. You're getting ready to change all of your thinking about what having a child is like and you're getting ready to have a completely different attitude. The rewards outweigh the sacrifices 1,000 to one.

Key 2: Preparation

You must be as prepared as you can be for what is ahead and what you'll need to do. It is very important to include the baby's dad in the process as well. The father really needs to not be crowded out of the pregnancy and baby experience.

Dads: Stake your ground and change those diapers, get involved with bonding with your child right away.

Moms: He may look like a bear with boxing gloves on trying to change that diaper, but don't take over. He'll learn just like you did. And together, you can grow as a couple with the joys of the parenting process.

Key 3: Patience

It seems obvious, but it's extremely important to learn patience. Expectant mothers can go through many different emotions due to the hormone fluctuations and they may have difficulty dealing with the changes in their bodies. For the first time, it isn't all about you and it requires a shift in body image. Weight gain is a part of pregnancy and is needed in order to support the growing life inside your body. Research absolutely supports exercise during pregnancy, such as low impact cardio, yoga and light weight training. Women who exercise during pregnancy are much less likely to have postpartum depression, and much more likely to regain their figure and lose the weight rapidly afterward.

Key 4: A Unified Front

An expectant couple should provide a unified front in the pregnancy experience. Mutual support between you and your partner can make all the difference. As you work together planning for the family addition, listen to your partner's ideas and negotiate. Things like negotiating a name for your baby can be a fun experience.

The number one thing parents can do that may put their child's life in jeopardy is to not cherish the relationship with their partner. When you become a mother and father, you have to be careful to not stop being friends and lovers. It's so easy to be consumed by your child, but you have to remember that kids join our lives, we don't join theirs. Of course they are important, but don't forget to take care of the relationship that is their base of operations. Spend time as a couple and nurture your relationship so your child has a solid future ahead.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]MC, i think so too
Don't kids know about the birds and bees these days? Frightening[/color]

hotstuff06:
Mohawkchic, my thoughts exactly.
@ poster, I think what they want you to do is talk to her about boys and *ex. How to not have intercourse and or wait till her wedding night kind of talk.
It could mean more to her coming from the opposite sex that she admires so much as opposed to parents.
Her parents might have noticed that she respects and thinks so highly of you, hence why they are asking you to speak with her.

chika98:
Mohawkchic: I have a tiny harmless e-crush on you No homo

~Aaaaw Am ever so flattered!!^{You making a black girl blush purple here}

TOYOSI20:
Lol,. . . .no its actually not that, just not quite ready yet.

~ O! Okies

TOYOSI20:
So so true, I always avoid catching the bouquet. . . . .

~Lol,so you do believe?what you running away from? - marriage?

diggler:
So my question to Landers is;

Do you consider our preserved fish foul smelling?

Raymond88:
Here i was going to comment on how lucky the kid was, you're no fun.

~Boo hoo ~ At the rate they grow,me think he's got enuff time before he starts drooling over butt-naked ladies!!

laplace:
Hi Folks, I've got a cousin who is very dear to me. I was told by her guardians that she's been seeing her monthly period and needs some guidance and advice.
She respects me a lot and her guardian wants me to talk to her. I'm a guy and knows very little about such strictly feminine stuff.
I would appreciate the advice and guidance of women (especially) and experienced men in da house.

AMAKAONE:
@mohawkchick.

The colours are amazing
Perfect for Hot December days in Naija.

I found this one when I was looking for fabric on the Vlisco site.
They have hollandais, Java, Wax prints all in some amazing designs and colours.

~The colours are quite vibrant,wouldnt mind having a couple of those in my wardrobe come summer!!~

~Whats the best type of print you'd recommend if i want to have it done?i cannot tell them apart if my life depended on it

TOYOSI20:
Nice shoes, love them all, but don't really think I'm a self professed show maniac yet. . . . .lol

~Noted "Yet". . .all in good time TOYOSI20

femigirl:
mohawkchic,

Good topic my dear, i feeling you my dear sister.

Were should i start, i have bought shoes all over the world, i have so many shoes it crazy. I love[b] Faith, Dune, Barrats,[/b] Bertie, payless shoes all the sales assistants know me boy.

Aaaw me & you both. . . i love shopping from those three highligted . . . love buying shoes from Barrats,Aldo,Schuh Too,them shoes are always lush!!Tooo tempting not to buy

~Girl,if i could i'd do it in a heartbeat,just so i get a sneak peak of the new designs boots plus get a chunk off the price too!!  Most times by the time i want to get some boot i like,my size is no longer available, i have to start calling different store locations to see if they got what i want before making endless visit to various stores around london!! The things i do for my love of shoes!! i keep up to date w/ newsletter,special promotions online,you should sign up- if you're not already!!

I love shoes, I got some baragin shoes when i was in New york,ladies check out a shop called DR Jays Brooklyn ladies. i got heels shoes for $19.99, Nike $25.

I love shoes,shoes. However,can i say ladies look after your feet,pedicure comes to mind. I can't stand when woman done look after there feet. what with corns, hard skin, bunions please get it treated one love