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Djriri:
My partner and I are aware of our genotype situation both of us carry AS gene we both have a child together my first daughter who is AS genotype PRAISE THE LORD.

After finding out that I am also AS my partner after the birth of my daughter has told me he didn’t want to continue having children with me and would rather we both raise the child and get new partners. we want to let that connection go and 1 year later currently I’m pregnant with a baby boy who is now carrying the SS gene.

My partner has moved out of house ,, Paid me money to abort the baby and he went to start a new life far from me and the baby. I’m not sure if I should use the money abort the child and start my life or keep the child and pray for Gods forgiveness!!!!

HELPPPP ME

And then

Na now una know?

Interesting...

It's never an option no mater how everyone is good to each other... I considered all and still didnt keep my woman with my family even while I dont stay in Nigeria...just 2 months she stayed with my family I kmew what I had to tell everyone for calmness...not that anybody did something bad to the other but a bit of freedom... imagine if ur wife does not feel like eating what's been cooked... ? Wait oo..who will be in chargeof the kitchen...the litle girl or the mother in-law...

Just two months I needed to furnish my house I knew that sharing same house with just parents is a disaster waiting to happen let alone someone planning to stay long...

Make she no think.am oo...now i and my wife have a room in the family house Nd we also have our place where we stay.... las las the two houses is just a 10 minutes drive oo because I needed her not to be too far since i visit naija like twice a year...but still she isnt staying with them and that's a big difference...

Maybe coz i can afford it but it prevented a big issue..now everyone is happy and nobody poke noses into the others business

BluntTheApostle:
A few weeks back, my niece brought a man to me and introduced him as the one she wishes to marry.

Her father died while she was about 15, and I have been the one taking care of her, through school and all. So, she sees me as her father.

Alright, so she brought this young man to me. I have nothing against him. He is finishing up a master's degree, and even though he is not into anything really specific (he is a hustler sort of a person, combining different jobs), I do not have a problem with that. He appears focused, and really hardworking.

However, the problem is that he does not have a place of his own, and does not appear to have any plans in that direction.

So, last week, I asked him a whole lot of questions, and it appears like he would be marrying my baby, and she would live with him in their family house. Other families living there include the man's aged parents, some uncles and aunties, and their children. He was not specific whether aunties or uncles included blood relations and their spouses. I didn't press him on that.

Now, I have also sat my niece down, and had a chat with her. She is only 20+ (would be 21 in June). I tried to be as neutral as possible, but I may have been too blunt sometimes because she has been defensive, including accusing me of not wanting to fund the wedding.

Her mother reasons with me, but the girl has become deaf. She doesn't want to listen.

My point is that the wedding can be put on hold till the young man makes a firm decision on accommodation. All this: "I will consider it; I am considering it; it is a part of my plan" is not conclusive at all, and I don't want her to go and start her married life under the same roof with so many people.

The man is 30 (although he looks older to me), and I am beginning to feel that he is manipulating her.

What do you think?

Which of you has experienced living in your husband's family house? How was the experience?

For me, I think of it just like living in a polygamous family, and it makes me uneasy because this girl is too young, and too fragile.

Your opinions and experiences are highly welcome.

It may be all that I would need to reach a decision concerning this knotty issue.

Wonders shall never BEGIN

Coming from someone that didn't finish Primary school...

Funnyandviral:
you are calling trouble, and also trying to console yourself at the same time. In your mind now you are feeling that "Those celebrities are richer, famous and cuter, but you are still better because you have you ND(national diploma)"

I didn't say so... With the way she speaks and e.t.c. I just asked simple question!!

Hammyaladin:
is graduation a most,

Simple question wey I ask,. U carry Buhari enter the mater...

zopamous:
Who school epp

Even Buhari didn't have waec

But why this babe no graduate from any high institution?

benjackugo:
BBNaija's Vee Shares Her Early Childhood Photo As She Celebrates Mother's Birthday

Big Brother Naija star, Victoria Adeyele, popularly known as Vee took to her Instagram handle to celebrate her mother's birthday today, IgbereTV reports.

She shared an old photo of herself as a little girl together with her mother. She captioned the photo;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CXs1oXjL51p/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Lalasticlala

kamtamark:
she is with her boyfriend

hmmm...and u want to do something to the guy? Ur family should have known it's wrong to let ur sis live with a guy who isn't married to her...

The earlier u people understand this the better.. u can only sort this if she stays under ur roof or in ur family house.. no wonder the guy DER always beat her.. he has no respect for ur family.

Is ur sister living with u or she is living with the bf?

Answer this and I will give u advice.

kamtamark:
Please pardon my English. Is one years now that my sister introduced a boy to me as her boyfriend, since then I have gone to their place several times to separate fight and it seems it is getting worst but they don't want to end the relationship.

I warned my sister never to near the boy. To my surprise I will see the two of them again and my sister will say everything is now ok.

Please what legal action can I take to separate the two of them?

Let her go to the police...since she still has return ticket..police will do the needful and liase with embassy so she can get a paper to enable her travel... No time ok since her return ticket is in few days time

Kaynnedy:
Good afternoon House.

Someone told my sister that there was a connection for a sales rep. Job in UAE, since she's yet to get a job after her NYSC, (you know how tough Nigeria is now. But it will require her to pay some money for her visa, flight ticket and other necessary documents, but my sister told her that she currently don't have money to process any international papers.

After much discussion this lady told my sister not to worry that all documentations including flight ticket will be paid for her but on a commission fee when she arrived her destination and upon resuming work in UAE, a percentage of her salary will be remitted to them until she pays up the debt incurred.

This was two months ago precisely August. Now fast forward to yesterday 3rd November 2021, I got a WhatsApp message from my sister telling me that she was being forced into prostitution upon arriving and not the sales job as was agreed.

I told her to find a way to come back to Nigeria since she has a return ticket that will expire in 4 days time valid till 8th November 2021.

Now the issue is:
1. Her Boss, as she called her earlier took her passport upon arrival in the pretense that she may misplace it or it may get stolen.

2. Her boss insisted on her paying all the debt incurred in processing her peppers which is 125% extra on what she spent in bringing her to Dubai, which amounts to N3.5 million Naira.

Please is there a way she can return back without her international passport since she went there legally and her return ticket is still valid.

Please we need help as during this altercation since yesterday, I cannot communicate with her as her Boss has seized her phone. It's now a matter of life and death.

I no even write the exam with seriousness after writing the WAEC

Mumu

Kobojunkie:
Majority of our forefathers were not rich or wealthy in any way. I remember my own grandfather was not a particular rich man but he had two wives because he wanted more children.

Traditional laws as far as marriage remain, in most cases, as handed down and in many of these laws, women are considered property of their husbands, so also their children. So it not really in a woman's interest to be married by those very laws as the risks are extremely high that she will be deprived a share in properties from the marriage is the case of dissolution, divorce or abandonment.

It's like u re a Lawyer? I just realised it and knew am gonna loose so I don't need to argue... Let me just read the comments/arguments of others

Name checkers association...Brown Zinc community on da wheel of steel

fergie0o1:
U.S. Attorney Announces Charges Against 11 Members Of Money Laundering And Bank Fraud Ring

Over 50 Victims Sent More Than $9 Million to Defendants as a Result of Online Fraud Schemes



The US Attorney's Office, Southern District of New York

Really?

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

She knows..and also knows abt the recent pay rise.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

Nice

Am interested. Will chat u on whatssap ASAP

RightToReject:
I wager you were one of the wannabe kind and wannabe libertarian people who, prior to now, do see any man, and vice versa, who abhors nonsense and does not pander to the whims and caprices of small-minded women as a violent/angry man - of course, I don't hold brief for hypocritically crass and opportunistic men. Servility is as bad as cruelty, say no to both of them.

The condoning of nonsense under any guise doesn't make one mature and isn't a sign of emotional intelligence. The bigger amount of nonsense one condones, the shorter their lifespan. Always come into equity with clean hands and expect and accept nothing less ethically.

Love wasn't one of the causes of your problem; instead, your erroneous understanding of it and application of it was the problem. So also her background as a product of single parentage wasn't automatically the cause of her flaws as you alleged, but her poor ethical leanings which she's the sole architect of, was, and probably made worse through your indulgence at the inception of your relationship with her.

Am happy I still made meaning out of ur high tension use of vocabulary...

Xilsbridalhouse:
I suspect he could be a cheat too. You know these things brings out the beast in women.

Seriously?

Rozcol:
Op is a liar, most Nigerian men are liars and manipulators.You all will be surprised if you hear the wife's side.

u never hear from the woman and u already judged op to be a lier... How do we now wait for the lady's version if u that adviced us on that has concluded already... I just hope my woman has conscience n loves me beyond words because.... Hmmmm... E go red one day oo

Pecoleee345:
No.....she had miscarriage twice
It was two year into marriage I got to know she had an abortion while in school.

She has a weak womb according to test results.

It's more than two bro... I can't say for sure but most ladies with 2 or more abortions still have intact wombs except the termination was done badly or the babies became too matured before the abortion.. she never talk true how many abortions and medical prowess can't give u specific number of TOP (termination of pregnancy)...
Thank God say u don discharge... A female friend has a baby now after 6 TOPs some years ago...

damilola4162:
The founder of Living Faith Church International popularaly known as Winners’ Chapel, Bishop David Oyedapo has explained why he recently sacked 40 pastors from his church, Newspremises reports.

Oyedepo said, he decided to sack the pastorsh because they were unfruitful.

Newspremises recall that, one Pastor Peter Godwin had claimed that the church sacked the pastors in Ekiti State for having a church growth index that falls below expectations.

The pastor had said, “I was told by the management that the church doesn’t operate at a loss.

“They also told me that the total income that is being generated from my station should be able to cater for my welfare and accommodation, so as a result of low income, I’m hereby dismissed.”

This sparked reactions amongst Nigerians on social media who questioned the system at Winners’ Chapel while others stated that the church was within its rights to sack the pastors.

Addressing the issue while speaking to his congregation, Oyedepo wondered why there was no buzz on social media when 7,000 people were employed by the church.

The clergyman said, “People are confused about our Ministry. I learnt some fellows said, “you know, they are not bringing income, that is why they asked them to go”.

“We asked you to go because you are unfruitful. Unfruitful! Blatant failure. Doing what there? We have no patience with failure here.

“When we employed 7,000 people at a time, social media was dead.

“We have more employees in this organisation than most of the states. No one is owed a dime salary and we don’t borrow, we don’t beg. Ask our bank whether we take overdraft.

“We are covenant bound, working in the light of God’s word, enjoying an open Heaven.”

On if money was an issue to his church, he said, “Money? Nonsense. We have never lacked it and yet we have never prayed for it.

“We are just simply obeying God and He is backing up what He is asking us to do. Awesome God.”

Source:

Top notch response...

Go and pay her bride price ASAP....SHE IS THE ONE FOR U...

AS FOR HER BROTHERS..NA U SABI... CARRY UR WIFE OUT OF THAT FAMILY AND FORGET ABOUT THE SIBLINGS..U CAN SUPPORT THE PARENTS ONCE ONCE... AT UR OWN WISH...

LASTLY, MAKE SURE U DON'T GO BROKE IN THE FUTURE....U KNOW WHY...

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

Ekomatrix1:
I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.

she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.

Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?  

Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness  but no improvement .

what should i do?

Make I no lie u..she no be wife material... But if u can overlook this stinginess then no p... She can't even feed her sef on a journey u booked for her..after sending money 2weeks before the day...

She may also have some complaints abt u, but because na u bring case we can't say...

Lastly, she may have someone that don't even give her shishi and she spends on right there in Anambra..

Blurpy:
I have been wondering which country has the most Nigerian Immigrants. I know there are sizeable amount of Nigerians in the UK, USA, South Africa, Ghana, Dubai, China, Italy, France, Turkey, Benin, Cameroon , virtually on every country

For me I'll say UK, my assumptions are drawn from the foreign based end-sars protests, the numbers I saw during the protests, followed by USA then maybe South Africa.
What are your thoughts?

Because u can't protest or demonstrate in Dubai (UAE)... BROS NO REASON AM OO..

NAIJA YAKPA FOR UAE OOOO

IgweOfNnewi:
Lies from the pit from hell, marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin without experience, if you have money or not you wouldn't have issues, if you marry a harlot that even give her all heavens she will go to hell to have sex, I know a woman who had a jobless husband, she was more educated and more financially stable than the man that had nothing but they are living well, even the woman took loan several times in her office to buy two cars for him for transportation and some others to buy the house they are living, they have been together for about 9years now.

just wanna ask...do u have sense at all?

Ikwerelastborn:
Hahahahahahaha,hilarious. Please how can doctors get to practice in dubai

Doctors, like us, needs the dataflow verification and then take the Prometric exam..if successful u come in and practice peaceful, with better pay...

One of the best decisions of my life was leaving Nigeria to dubai 2 years ago... I regret not leaving earlier sef.. it's only those that didn't plan themself that will tell u Dubai is scam... I am a Registered Nurse here and it's realy cruise over here for me...

Make all of una getat!!!

Ikwerelastborn:
share your experience with us with all sincerity and give advice ,who knows some people may just need it.
Have you ever left your lucrative Nigerian job be it in the banking, oil and gas,health sector for a menial job overseas .And what do you feel about it right now.
we do know that is not that Rossy abroad as no country on earth is filled with milk and honey
Cc lalasticlala mynd44