₦airaland Forum

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

the earlier u realise u made a grave mistake the better.. I tell u this because I have 2 brothers who are sicklers and bro..its not funny at all. See eeh..its better I stay single than marry with the risk of getting a sickler.

chatinent:
This agency should minus discharged persons and tell us the actually number of those who contracted the virus remaining; this statistics is complicating everything like it's never depleting.

u do the calculations ur sef. They give total infected and those discharged... That's how data is collected bro..about na sis.

dawnomike:
When you live in a sane community where the system is filled with sanity...This is what you get!

Everywhere is on lock down apart from essential duty staff.. furthermore, all transport is free. While u pay 50% for taxi during this lock down. This is the way u make people feel the government.

U see how u deceive people! Who told u it takes 14 days for the symptoms to show. U just seat down and fabricate nonsense. Go the uniabuja teaching Hospital and kiss one of the suspected cases then come and write this rubbish here. (quote author=inforesource post=88102162]Dear Nigerians, I write to express my unbelieve on the spread of Corona virus across the country.

If you are resident in Nigeria you will agree with me that it will not take 4 weeks for all Nigerians to get this virus. Why did I say that? Do you know it takes average of 14days for the symptoms of corona virus to show up? Ok do the maths of the activities of the carrier for that 14 days and juxtapose that with the way our social life is structured.

So I think someone is not telling us the truth. For me and my house, we will serve the Lord. They should continue.

I believe there is something else. Stay safe and Keep distance as mandated.[/quote]

Abeg them don pay the girl for the service rendered?

BUHARI- Closed Naija border due to illegal importation and insecurity.

TRUMP: Banned Naija imigration visa due to insecurity.

The above are protecting the interest of it's citizens and that's what they were voted to do. Although there may be some economic and political reasons but it's a decision already made.

Humbledpie:
Rivers state has the shortest term governor...Celestine Omehia

Celestine Omehia stayed for 6months as governor before Rotimi Amaechi took over...
Andy Ubah has the record for the shortest governorship duration of 2 weeks.

Like play like play Access bank want double cross other Banks ooo

helinues:
Shortest term governor in Nigeria

Andy Ubah governed for 2 weeks naa..

kgr8mike:
No house member in Imo state came from APC.

What a twist!!!

All those members in AA will move to APC where they previously belong... Even some PDP members will move too. Don't forget Hope UZODINMA left PDP less than a year before the 2019 election. ..... UKO CHUKWU NA THE SAME PEOPLE.

Yea ... That's the major reason. PDP made sure those polling units was cancelled then...

nairalee:
The BIG question begging answer is if ALL the votes from the 388 Polling Units that were wrongly excluded ONLY belongs to Uzodinma.

Really?? So the custom job na legit?

I chose condom shaa but we all know say raw make sense pass...

Charleys:
Let's help this guy...


Like for raw sex, share for condoms.

What if na US produce the nuclear weapons and made it look like that of IRAN so that Saudi gobthink say na IRAN...#wildTHOUGTHS

U for use condom naaa....this stories for no come up. U for even chop plenty times.

Return leg

Just scored offside goal...and Ref no blow whistle.

Hmmm

The bolded is a trap!!

Lol

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U created a thread for this? And we came to view? That's what I call LNY
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Lazy Naija Youths

baba revise!

beardlessdude:
that's all u could think of? really?

Not at all I also think of how bad ur kidney n liver will look like after these quantity of alcohol you consume.

congratulations

Where video naaa

Tell them...both aspirants can never deliver naija period!

darol4real:
Sorry for that...I will prescribe a drug for your pain and is going to cure it very well.....take Ibucap or Ofloxacin

Ofloxacin for real? Ur jonsing don reach to prescribe antibiotic for pain? Hmmm I guess u need anti-psychotics so that u can know exactly what to prescribe for ur next patient. Lets not forget that Sarri's assistant (Inanni) also needs a sedative so he can sleep on his chair throughout a match and not celebrate in front of his opponent.

that goal pain me shaa

true...