₦airaland Forum

megrimor:
Instead of this guy to get married to this lady, I will advice Buhari to marry this lady. She will settle the heart desires of 180million Nigerians

puresaint12:
Do you believe your husband can be VERY irresponsible and refuse to change?? If not,don't quote me again!

puresaint12:
Trying so hard to justify leaving your marital home, Don't you know how to pray? Or are you an atheist? [b][/b]

steppin:
Women like are you exactly like Carol Ekanem Danjuma. They don't mind going through crap just to avoid poverty.
Are your folks that poor?

Story for the gods.
Don't know why mumu guys marry ladies like you, when they know it's gonna end up in divorce, if they go broke.

Iamfrank:
lol @op..... ur husband is just an example of me I swear, lemme tel u how my gf reacted cz am alwaz quick to apologize.....unfortunately ur husband is a player just like me.... (na only we know our weak point) try dis n it will work.....

one day my gf came to c me, so I was in d bathroom n I left my phone inside, immediately I came out my gf was holding my phone n was crying seriously, I already know y sh was crying, (lemme tel u sumtin, d tears of any good woman weakens ha man, no matter what) so I quickly wanna apologize saying it is dose women forcing demselves on me (Dats d lies we tel wen we r caught) sh just told me calmly to sit down n sh said sum words dat weakened me all day like "baby I love you so much, u r my king, u r my everything, I will worship d ground u walk on, sh went on n on without stopping n with d tears from ha eyes I almost cried. .... Dats how I stop..... Bt I wanna tel u sumtin, u r not giving ur husband d kind of s*x position he wants I am very sure abt dat, he mit not tell you but it a simple fact, Dats men for u, bcz he knows if he does u wudnt like it considering d type of woman u r (religious n decent)..... if you try dat step n it didn't work just pm me I will tell u of anoda easy step.....

LyfeJennings:
Lmao
Babe
Who U be sef
Make I toast

LyfeJennings:
E pain am
E pepper am
O Ka lara e
Ooobi

LyfeJennings:
Ako igbona n da daddy e laamu
O ti ya were
Olohun
O ko tii mo ni

AfroKnight:
sometimes Toks can give weird advice sha

Perfectionist11:
The saddest thing ain't d cheating..but the fact that he repeatedly get caught.. i.e he doesn't put much effort into covering it(meaning he doesn't regret it nor respect ya/value your feelings/he thinks you're com4table wt it)...I think this is a self esteem issue..no offense but a woman with a high self esteem would have done something bigger than typing this shit on NL..after 5 years

If you aren't tied 2 him & he isn't th 1 sponsoring your own family..I don't see the reason why you should continue to take this lying down...moreover..your we'll being could be @ stake due to STDs.

LyfeJennings:
O ti ya were
Don't marry
Siddon there make bridge pass U
Look hun, 90% of married men cheat
Not like I support it but then this woman's gotta keep her home. If she like make she vex commot house
Another woman go enter and do better than U
Let her be prayerful
Someday God will change the man

Dyt:
Ode MA niyen tie

LyfeJennings:
Does he perform his responsibilities?
I have to be very blunt with U
U see, U very very lucky he comes home and acts like a man.
Men are polygamous in nature and the earlier you take it. The better for you
Just keep being a good wife and be prayerful
God will change him for U

ItsQuinn:
See discrimination

ItsQuinn:
Cheating is natural and normal, please learn to accept that fact and ignore his actions, when he realize that you don't give a fvck about what he does, or he sees that what he does doesn't hurt you anymore, he will be forced to change. Tell him to go for stds tests, when you guys want to make love, use condoms for your own protection until you know he's clean

montezz:
Wasn't expecting an epistle so long tho. I am fine thanks.

naturalwaves:
I think cheating on a partner shows a lack of respect for the partner and the relationship. In relationships, respect is even more important than love. In this case, the lady did not only cheat but cheated recklessly till the point of getting pregnant. Haba!

Well, what has been done has been done. If the lady hadn't been caught, she would have continued which shows a disinterest in her current relationship.
Lool. Wasn't expecting an epistle this long tho. Well said.

The point is..... People should learn how to communicate while in a relationship. It is not a do or die thing. If you do not feel someone anymore, why not tell him or her? If you wanna share your body with someone else, then put off your current relationship. It may hurt your partner but won't hurt like cheating. He or she may even appreciate your sincerity.

Like they say, to err is human, to forgive is divine. The best thing to do is to forgive but accepting back is based on the nature of the offended person. You know, different strokes for different folks. How do you do?

fiizznation:
You didn't bomb boko haram when they were so strong, it is now that they have been defeated that you want to bomb them and take the glory of 'defeating boko haram'. The US should better face ISIL in Syria and allow the Nigeria military to continue their good work in the northeast

Missonas:
This is confusing. Why play reverse roles when u can both be who you originally are and still be together. Cray cray!

Cutehector:
hmm. Are u a lesbian?

sanniabiola:
Your story is heart aching, I stop reading comment and called the family of the lady that gave birth to my younger brother boy right away since my last contact in March, my own life story is similar, just that my father family ain't rich as yours, I don't relate with them that much cos they even need help. They have begged me to associate with them severally but nothing is enticing around then at all. So I just kept them in their place. If there anything that require their attention, I tell them. Since they have nothing to offer. My mum don't even care cos she know I won't go close to dirtyness which I see around them. Maybe you should see from the angle of what ur feelings would be if they ain't attractive. Overall, make sure you grow up a man of yourself, don't suddenly answer sir to people who never care about ur whereabouts because all those affections are cosmetic. If you follow them into their closet to verify what they utter about you or your mum, you will see that there's something to it. If I were you, I will relocate back to mum, spend some time with her, ask those family to stay away for now that you will contact them when necessary. Let your mum feel possessive of you. In fact if you have a girlfriend, start planning a wedding, invite your father's people as guest while step dad sit as Dad which he is really. Your mum have to experience the public humiliation look on there face irrespective of their affluence status. Then after the matrimony is concluded, that night carry your wife to your mum and present her to her and her husband while you father family are nearby to come and appeal again, this show of humility will melt your mum heart and her husband will also encourage her to tender mercy. But your mum first p, even if those people say you should stop using their name if your mum insist not to forgive them. Ur case simple pass my own, I don't even know which side to belong since my mum sef no share general surname in her family, so me just create another surname for my children and wife to be in 22 days time. I feel your confusion, it's normal as we are all human to be tempted. Take smart advantage of the situation and may I remind you not to settle in Nigeria after wedding, go to Canada with their money and start a fresh and make your own doh yourself. That what make you a man of yourself. I am open to give you step by step advice base on situation status. It is well Bro. God punish poverty.