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luxoire:
that is how some of you lot mis read situations - i know of white chicks that have done this too to brothers to keep them hained to them for life and also for the want of a mixed race child - what do you say to that??

What do I say to that?

I believe any girl who can go that far has Kolomental problems and is a very dangerous type. Like I said, to conive in such a manner is madness to me and never in a million years, baby or no baby, even if they put gun to my head will I be with such a person cause i'll be too scared of what they could do to me in the future.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4031912#msg4031912 date=1245081906]Why I no go vex when you dey talk say because of one girl who was just 20% to blame, all naija girls have comma, shior


And why you pipu no remember about vengeance being the Lord's when you chartered yourself to go to the parent's house to rat on her ehn


Yeah hope karma catches up with your friend's JT so that the next girl he trifles with will really become pregnant and show him pepper [/quote]Okay, let me rephrase, no be all naija girls but I still have that sick feeling regardless.

So we are apportioning out percentages for blame now eh!. Where did you get 20% from?.

So if this girl knew my friend had a girlfriend before jumping into bed with him that one no bi automatic 50% right there. She catch feelings and could not control it that one na another 10% blame right there. Trapping nah 20%.

Abi men scarce like that?

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4031745#msg4031745 date=1245080696]You and your friend are the ones who are sick in the head not naija girls, why involve her parents at all, if she was really pregnant nko, would your friend have accepted the pregnancy infront of the girl's dad and married her if they forced him to

I hope the girl gets her revenge on your friend and tell the current girlfriend so that everyone loses out

Nothing can stop me from setting Kobojunkie on your arse today, you berra start shaking in your boots [/quote]@ Busybody
Why you dey vex, e dey sweet you before now everything don come out you dey talk of revenge.

Vegeance is Mine, says the Lord and he who tries to take this faith into their own hands, well thats up to you.

I believe karma catches up to everybody someday.

Update:

WE DON CATCH THE GIRL REDHANDED!!

It took an elderly friend of ours who had gone through a similar experience to advise on on what to do regarding this issue. He suggested we find this girl and confront her relatives with the matter.We took his advise and over the weekend found out where this girl lives(which is with her parents). We took the risk and confronted the parents and told them what was going on.  They were perplexed and quite agitated.  They immediately called this girl to come home that there was an emergency situation . When this girl came back home, the expression on her face was quite priceless. As her parents questioned her she figited and stammered alll the way  until she confessed that that she was lying and only did what she did cause she was hurt.

You for see the number of slap wey im papa give am for face. Chei!. He was still quite upset and ordered all of us out of his house. We obliged without any incident and went our merry way.

I have to confess that this whole incident has completely turned me off Nigerian girls. I get a sick feeling in my stomach anytime I see one of ya'll now. Too much nollywood videos don make una dey craze for head.

If someone can go to this extreme, what are their limits, they could as well result to assasination by poisoning or even "juju". Chei


As for my friend, we have advised him to go take an HIV test as soon as possible cause that girl dey KOLO for head.

Advice to my fellow guys. There are reasons for rules to this game, If you break them you will suffer the consequencies. WORD!

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4007981#msg4007981 date=1244652675]@Morpheus24

Is any of the lady in question Kobojunkie by any chance [/quote]Ah no "Kobojunkie ke!" you wan put me for trouble.

luxoire:
signing your allegiance to your friend does not mean you are rid of all moral values just because you want to stay true to your friends and family.

not trying to make anyone of you to be bad guys, but the truth is, he screwed up, made a mistake and he should be told - that all of a sudden its may not just be about him and what he wants anymore - he gave up that right when he decided to play around unprotected.

there are potentially - a lady's health at risk, a foetus's life at risk - and the feelings of his current gf

so instead of trying to stop his gf from finding out, maybe he should stop being a coward, tell her, take the girl for a test, and all of them can have a proper grown discussion about where to go next - ALL PARTIES MAKING AN INFORMED DECISION on the issue!

who knows maybe is gf would prefer him to have a child than cause an abortion - y;all dont even know WHO SHE feels about abortions etc - just cause you havent checked - give her the option and she will be angry and hurt and disappointed, but she may still by him and surprise you.

What moral values are you speaking of. Pro-life or Pro-choice. If she chooses to have the child. it's her choice. If she chooses not to its her choice as well. If she is willing to live with the consequencies good or bad nothin spoil for the matter, but what we will make sure she fully realizes is that if this is a tactic of somesort as far as "trapping" which ya'll women are very skilled in doing then its going to end bad or even worse for her in the long run. She bleeped up as well and will pay the price too so lets make sure she is clear on that issue so she can make a fully informed decision as well. Abi?

luxoire:
yeah course you can gf - but wait lemme wash them first! lol
you never know - cos all along it has sounded like you and your guy are more concerned about him losing his gf than your are about anyone else in the equation - and whilst it is true the girl has the wrong mentality - it takes 2 to make an innocent baby

glad you say you are not animals and are acting in everyone's best inetrest

My allegiance will always fall with my family and friends first in regards to best interests and I am guessing she should have the the same on her side as well so don't make anyone here out to be the bad guys.

luxoire:
whilst you ppl are giving him support - also make sure you think of what is best for the girl and baby too - not just your friend - because he doesnt want to lose his gf

it was his screw up and if it means the 'best' decision for everyone involved is a termination - let him understand the magnitude of it

is it better for the baby to be aborted? - does anyone know this girl's medical history etc, or re you all just concerened about covering up his shite and keeping it from his gf?

what i am saying is DO THE BEST THING NOT JUST FOR HIM, BUT FOR EVERY ONE CONCERNED - THAT IS WHAT GOOD FRIENDS AND HUMAN BEINGS DO!

This is what we have been doing. We are not animals you know.

luxoire:
that sounds more like a contrite man - who relises when he has F*cked up - and not the corward we have been reading of so far!

let him come clean to his gf - its the only way he can break whatever hold this new girl has / will have over him - baby or no baby - as long as there is no secret to threaten him him - then she can do her worst!

This kind of matters should be handled delicately without anyone rushing into regrettle decisions. Damage has been done and might get worse so as much as everyone wants to condemn him. Its not going to do any good really nor is it going to change the situation at hand.

he needs people with a clear head and who are not emotionally attached to the situation to give clear reasoning.

luxoire:
and you think 'pressuring' this girl to get rid of the baby means she will stay silent?

she may start disliking this guy and and tell the gf

Is not how you think. We didn't bully the girl at all. We simply spoke with her about her choices and consequencies as well and if she was doing this as somesort of tactic to keep him it would not turn out that way.

In fact, my friend is at the point where he is willing to tell his girlfriend and suffer the consequencies if she decides to continue playing games.

IFELEKE:
The lady wants your guy so why would she block her only chance of getting him hooked?
. . .do you now get my drift?

Update.

We confronted the girl last night and I questioned her about a lot of issues to reason with her. We let her know that what she was doing was not reasonable and to think deeply about all the consequencies of this serious issue before making any decision.

She eventually decided she will go ahead with the termination and I am advising my friend to make sure he goes to the clinic with her as there was no confirmation of pregnancy to start with.

I really don't know if she will go throughwith it but let's see what happens from here.

IFELEKE:
Dude, you dissapoint me by asking that question.
What you should ask is why isn't your guy adequately protected?
Mind you, the girl has nothing to loose so why ask for protection?
If your guy values what he has he won't be playing with fire. . .We all play the Game But It's the person that gets caught in the act that bears the Brunt.

What do you mean by the girl has nothing to loose and should not ask for protection. You disappoint me too with that statement.

IFELEKE:
I am in the middle of a slightly similar case
A very close female friend got pregnant for her boyfriend and the youngman is claiming he is not ready for that kind of responsibility,The lady is now in a dilema because of her hard stand on abortion(she is an anti abortion advocate) coupled with the stress of undergoing her youth service programme in a relatively unknown terrain.
Presently, am faced with two options:
Option 1: Trying to make him see reasons and take full responsibility of his pregnancy
Option 2: Dealing with him ruthlessly while taking care of my friend.
Option 1 is proving abortive and seriously futile because he has refused to speak with me, am just bidding my time weighing the pros and cons of option 2.

@Topic
Personally, I believe If you are dumb enough to shoot without cover then you must be ready to face the consequences thereof. . .So, Let your friend face the music BUT his girlfriend must be brought in.

How many times will I tell you people. The baby ain't the issue. The guy is fully capable of taking care of the child. Its his girl he is concerned about.

Thats the risk he is not willing to take and to add to that. Wasn't the lady aware of the situation that was going on as well during the intercourse as to ask for protection.

Ben20001:
Let's make something straight here. . . the pregnant girl is not pregnant!

Let's all go for a chweck up Haba!

We are still waiting for this confirmation. She never show am pregnancy test although she says she has already taken one.

LadyT:
Beg for what?  Im sorry begging wont do it.   If it is his baby it WILL affect their relationship whether he likes it or not.  The only thing that can save mister Iliketoshaghussieswhilemygirlfriendisoutoftown is for him to tell her ASAP the longer he leaves it the more unlikely she will believe him that this wasnt kinda planned.

The more support he has the more likely he will be able to get through this situation so we go beg regardless.

luxoire:
she didn't LEAVE him - she travelled briefly out of town - so yes he should have waited until she got back and if he were stupid enough to play away - he could have used condom (none of this ' i didn't cum inside her blubber) so he is foolish!!

good one - i like to see friends that will tell you when you are rigth AND wrong (but come oh - where you guys shouting because he cheated, abi because he didnt cheat proerly? )

It seems you already know the answer to that question.

LadyT:
Nothing you can do about the pregnancy now. Let her keep it just let it be made clear to her that you do not want any kind of relationship with her and you will never marry her. Shes going to be a single parent etc

Maybe she might change her mind if she doesnt please remember once DNA tests have been carried out and the child is yours you MUST take for him or her as the baby did not ask to be born and does not deserve to suffer.

Both you and the girl are idiots and its time to face up to the truth. Please tell your Girlfriend ASAP if she leaves you too bad next time you will zip that shit up and have self control.

Mind you it could be worse you could have contracted HIV.

Like I said earlier, It's his girlfriend that's he's worried about not the child. He is completely scared of loosing her even though I told him I will recruit every human being I know to come beg on his behalf.

luxoire:
why did you cut out the first paragraph of my reply?   - i hope as a good friend you have also insulted him and told him what a disloyal and rubbish bf he has been by
a. cheating and
b. getting caught with a mini-me

that is what good friends do so the next time he thinks of whipping his thing out he will think of the consequences on his friendships and r/ship too

Trust me, me and a couple of other guys don shout for him head tire. The guy no fit respond.

Ben20001:
hmm. . . this' a serious case o

depending on her IQ, a pregnant gurl won't sound it like a threat.

If only your friend aint weak to confirm the pregnancy.

I have been trying to convince him to do this before he even open mouth tell im girl.

luxoire:
tell your friend to tell this girl - he will never be with her and if she is preganant fine, they can do a DNA test when the child is bown and ascertain his paternity then - you will help her financilally and bethere for the child if it is yours but he WILL NOT be with her, so unless she is ready for single motherhood she should reconsider what she is doing

in the meantime, he should tell his gf and prays that she loves him enough and has enough of the forgiving spirit to get past this - cos it seems like this new girl will seek out the gf andtell her if only to break them up just because she cant have him (some women can be like that)

atleats now he will think twice before sticking his willy in any odd place - without even know who the owner of the vagina is and whether or not is psycho!!

I have told him the exact same thing above and told him I will support him all the way and will even recruit my girl and other friends to come beg his girl if it comes to that.

I am also with you on her trying to break them up.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4000862#msg4000862 date=1244559317]Sorry i modified my post, like i said he needs to sit down with her and lay his terms on the table, that he does not want her. The girl is just hurt and has a right to be emotional . . . Did bthe guy told her he already had a girlfriend before hooking up with her?

Forget that "I did not come inside her" business, any liquid oozing out of a man's penis is capable of carrying sperm so it is not until you come that one can get pregnant.[/quote]According to him she knew he was with someone else from the the get go and after the rendevous she continously called him and pressed him on a relationship and he refused the advances.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4000755#msg4000755 date=1244558361]Well if he slept with her, she could be pregnant, but what you friend needs to let this girl know is that, being pregnant will not make him stay with her, that her being pregnant will not trap him. The girl is just hurt that another girl is in the picture, she might not love your friend that much for all you know.[/quote]He admitted to me that he did not "come" inside of her for fear of her getting pregnant. I asked my girl about this whole pregnancy cycle thing and she said it could be very possible she is but the time frame is a little suspicious.

What he is most afraid of is loosing his girl over this and not the actually pregnancy. I have told him he might have to confront her with the situation but he is again too scared to do so. It really hurts me to see him like this.

A close friend of mine had an affair with another girl while his girlfriend was outta town.

After this situation he felt extremely guilty and broke off any ties with this "other girl" but she refuses to let go claiming 'she is in love with him and wants him to leave his girl for her." Of course he refused and told her he was not going to.

A couple of weeks later the girl is claiming she is pregnant and is keeping the baby despite several pleas by my guy to terminate the pregnancy.

I have asked him to confirm this preganancy by going to the doctor with her but he is too weak to do so.

The past couple of days this girl has been using this pregnancy to really threaten my friend and I am beginning to get very upset about this and have even contemplated calling this girl and threatening her.

She has shown him no proof of this but is adamant that she is pregnant and will go ahead with the delivery regardless of what he says.


What should he do in this state? Please no I told you so responses!

@ poster


As it is evident that people are born black , white, brown yellow short, tall, retarded, intelligent, weak, strong,dumb, stupid, slow,transsexual, hemaphrodites,conjoined,

i don't think any one chose any of the above attributes. Therefore it is quite plausible to say I am of the opinion. People are born gay and do not choose this inclination.