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both are correct.

siofra:
As a virgin, I'm not getting married to a non-virgin. I don talk my own

nobody is forcing anyone to either get damaged or marry such man. is it?!

just because some women are willing to become "damaged" doesnt mean thats what a man wants for his life. its all fun and game and a learning experience... when that man is ready, he has the right to NOT want a damaged woman (just like the neighborhood slut has the right to demand a virgin man to marry). to each their own!

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, u took it too far bro, no one under me ever lack food(thank God for that)
The tin is, children no dey no bellefull or bellehalf for where pot if soup ladened with meat dey.

How sure are u that those days i wasn't fed to the brim?? Taah!!

have you ever stolen meat from the pot while being belly full? sadly, in many families, children are fed ton of nonsense and then 1 tiny piece of meat... the day these same parents give their children a good balance of meat/veggies etc, thats when the pot stealing issue will disappear.

adeoyekay:
You guys are funny because some Christian are poor while some are rich proves that God does not exist

What theory is that?

what does poverty got to do with the above i mentionned?! you must be a xtian to think in such a failed way.

here is a clue: whether a rich xtian or a poor one, your god is powerless to the above i mentionned (apart from hunger), but most importantly, if your so called god answered your yeye prayers, then he would make you all rich since thats what 99% of xtians in Nigeria pray for!

Why u dey breath is it by your own power.

as for why i am breathing, it is because of HARRY POTTER.... do you have any proof to the contrary? or are you so brainwashed that you would believe any yeye story (written by xtian men) saying it is because of your invisible god?!!?
abeg grow a brain!

you did good bro, thats how you have to treat these broke begging animals! dont despair bro, there are a lot of good women out there, you just need to find them.

Adebisi0070:
I married this Lady 2years back, we courted for 3 months and then we did our wedding. After our wedding we found out we will be expecting a baby, few months later my wife changed drastically in character, she became abusive & hostile towards me. She insults and hits me. I thought it was pregnancy hormones, i over looked and loved my wife. After delivery she grew worst, she does'nt lack anything from me, i reported to my in-laws, they called their daughter to order yet no change, i reported to my parent, infact she rained insult on me in present of my mum & granmom. Everytin to make peace no way, last month i called my wife inside & asked her why this character? She started cryin & she said "her dad abused & misused her mother, always her mom was going through pains, after all she saw, she vowed she wil not subject to any man'' i cried with her and assured her that am not her father & i wont act as him. My wife changed only 2 weeks & grew worse. Am fade up, i want a DIVORCE. What do i do my fellow N'Ls?

what is there to do BUT DIVORCE HER?!? she is damaged emotionally and is trying to make you pay for something you havent done. you will never see peace in your marriage with such LIABILITY!

run brotha RUUUUUUUUN!

OlawaleBammie:
please how do i tell my kids wen dey grow to that stage not to tamper with mama's pot as everything is now costly,?? how do i tell them that they shouldn't touch the meat as it cost a fortune to bless the post with meat nowadays?? Pls how do i tell them that two wrongs doesn't make a right?

you cant... instill in them the best value possible and let them make their own choices. but if they go to bed belly full, they wouldnt steal meat from the pot. if they go to bed hungry, then instead of blaming them, blame yourself for not providing enough food to them (and stop Blaming the gov for your inability to provide for your own children)

Explorerx:
If he exist? Why are some people meant to suffer and some to enjoy?

there is no god, just an illusion put in gullible people's life in order to control/defraud them. if in doubt, look around you and see how many xtians go to church every weekend and subsequently die (illnesses, crime, hunger, accidents etc) yet that god is suppose to protect them. lol!

her constant trips to Dubai (probably to eat shiiit) was the turn around!

what a foolish man.... if he was rich in the US he would A) have a washing machine in his own house and B) have a maid to do his laundry for him (regardless of her salary, since you are rich)

this dude should stop talking about what he doesnt know. being rich is sweet WHEREVER YOU MAY BE IN THE WORLD!

ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!
any smart person knows that A) the biggest religion in Nigeria is Islam and B) anyone voting due to religion is as stoopid as the yeye foolish polithieves they are about to vote for!

normal women wouldnt say the above (as there is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to get married as a virgin), but then again, the above olosho only have bodhery to offer a man... thus understanding why she think the way she does.

any person doing ritual killing AND/OR being involved in anything remotely linked to ritual killing....DESERVE TO DIE A PAINFUL DEATH!!!

if your so called "friend" gets down with her then, she has all the right to believe that you guys are the same...

anochuko01:
if that's your opinion, then you're not emotionally intelligent. Just full of words.
You may not be as smart as you think.

But it's fine sha.

life is about being content with what you have, and this has absolutely NOTHING to do with emotional intelligence.
the majority of Nigerians are bitter/jealous people who'd rather envy their neighbor with a big car/house etc instead of value their humble life. no wonder so many deluded people are easily becoming criminals.

the OP has a great life WITHOUT IPHONE 13 and FANCY ATTIRE.....the minute he stops focussing on what others possess, thats when he will finally get it! anyone who values their life upon what strangers possess are royally DOOMED and will never be satisfied in life!

ChimasGirl:
In your experience, does the man or woman perform pre-intimacy the most? Besides oral, what is performed?

pre-intimacy is for BOTH partner to be ready for the "do".... meaning you hav to equally do it to one another (even though some people get in the mood faster than other).

besides oral, you also can caress, lick body parts other than Instruments, saying sweet words, placing kisses in different parts of the body, use fingers to penetrate and/or masturbate etc

OMOJOHN001:
I opened a thread sometime ago that I want to break up with my Gf due to some reasons best know to me and which I shared here too.

I finally broke up with her last week, since then this babe has refused to eat, she keeps crying since that last week, She's keeps calling me which I have refused to pick her call.

This morning on my way to church I got a picture and message on my phone, and what I saw surprised me, I felt like I have damaged someone beyond reparation.

This babe was rushed to hospital because she used overdose drug with intention of committing suicide. Thank God for hospital,she would have been dead by now according to her sister and the doctor I spoke with. I shall thank God she didn't die ooooo
Now she keeps threatening me that if I refuse to accept her then she will rather die than see herself marrying another man or me marrying another woman.. She's 23 years old we started dating when she was 20.

Please house, I am seriously troubled, I don't want to visit the hospital nor see her, yet I don't want to take her threat as play, because this babe has put all her life in me, I won't lie, she was loyal throughout our relationship and I never caught her in any cheating stuff.

Please Guy's, I don't see myself getting married to this babe, I don't know how to handle this issue now.

never pity people and if you think that you were right to break up with her, then no amount of tears or BS pity should change your mind.
yes it is unfortunate what happens to her by LIFE GOE ON!

anochuko01:
Y'all should stfu!
Firstly, there's no single sign of empathy in your long epistle, and that's a huge red flag.

i am not here to have empathy, i am here to give you my HONEST OPINION..you can take it or you can take it. choice is yours as it wont change my opinion on the issue.

Secondly, there's absolutely no way you'll always be 100% confident or happy when things aren't going your way. There'll always be moments when you question and doubt yourself, and today is one of those days for the OP.

it doesnt matter whether someone doubt themselves or not in life....when your whole focus in life is what others possess, then you will never truly be free. why would anyone give a flying fukc what other people have? live your life to the best of your abilities and be done with the misery. how can you ever be happy in life when you focus on people having more than you?!?!

Many of you don't have good sense of judgement, just quick to talk and reply. All the guy needs are real words of encouragement, and not all these text book motivation.

i cant encourage anyone that is focussing on other people....but what i can do is make them understand what is wrong with their stand on life. the minute they stop focussing on other people and their possessions, thats when they will live a better life.
thats MY opinion, and again, you can take it or you can take it.

Lastborn0074:
I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

a woman who decides to cheat because you guys are going through hardship is the DEVIL INCARNATE. how is cheating on her husband gonna solve the issue at hand?! even if she didnt cheat, see how she is portraying herself as a wh0re to all these men. who would want a woman like this as their life mates?!

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

when the TRUST is gone, when DECEIT is creeping in, when DISRESPECFUL behaviors are the norm, then really, you need to ask yourself what are you in it for? this person you called your "wife" has no RESPECT for you nor the marriage you guys are in.

HardMirror:
ok. I cannot have a baby with a baby mama regardless of how good she is

...and you are entitled to your own decisions in life. but just because you are against an act, doesnt automatically makes it bad.
babymama lifestyle is NOT for everybody, just like marriage is NOT for everybody. let us all accept that, just because something is different, doesnt mean it is automatically bad.

many men out there are better off with babymamas, just like many married men are better off in a polygamous marriage.
to each their own misery!