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The best way to take revenge on your ex who treated you so badly is by being successful.
Truth be told, being successful isn't enough! You have to get a better person. Your next lover should be far better than your ex.
What gain will you have after receiving the worst heartbreak of your life, only to end up in a relationship with your worst nightmare? This is the main reason

you shouldn't just date anyone after a heartbreak. This is why you shouldn't date to spite your ex. This is why you shouldn't date because you want to show your ex you can do without them.
I know they hurt you, but just keep your sword; leave your hatred for them; drop your hunger for revenge and focus on being better than you were.
Make it an obligation to find a better person by being a better person. Watch before you leap
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/5-reasons-people-fall-out-of-love.html?m=1

What is South Africa doing there?

pickatyou:
Kim with 4 kids still hot as ever. Thats how star do

she gave birth with the help of surrogate

It makes no damn sense. If they want to get it right, they should release him first before making any silly moves because the court already ordered his release. Abusing of human rights is so deeply rooted in Major General Buhari's blood like bread and butter.

very wrong policy. It will take months to get SA visa. This policy will only reduce our international image.

fulaniHERDSman:
I knew it. Our daddy Buhari is very honest man.
I stand with Buhari.
Sai Baba.

ewu

Just 100,000 ? That judge is unserious. we should be talking about 100,000000

No, you sounded even more clueless than Nigerian president.

Love is a feeling that should be had for just one person. In other words, it is seen as an act of 'cheating' to love more than one at a time. Still, some people end up finding themselves in a relationship triangle with two people. Most times, this takes a gradual process, you just end up seeing yourself into two women or two men. Normally, you already have this particular partner whom you love so much, but you suddenly discover that there is this other person you are as much so into.


Why is this happening to you? Why does it seem you are in love with two different people? How did you end up finding yourself here?


Today we will be looking at why you are in love with two people. Some of the reasons why you are in love with two people are as explained below:


1. You rushed into a new relationship after your breakup: Sometimes, breakup is the answer or the option to most relationship issues, but the fact that some people breakup to makeup cannot be overlooked. Most times, some people don't breakup because they stopped loving, but because things weren't just working at the moment. You just broke up and you started dating someone else within a very short period of time, then the person you broke up with returned and you still love him or her, but you also love this your current partner, they are both good that you can't do away with either of them. You love your ex so much, this new person means a lot to you, so, you start dating the both of them. This wouldn't have been an issue if you took your time. This wouldn't have been an issue if you really knew what love was all about. There is something I must tell you, it is only a foolish person believes it is right to be in a love relationship at every point in his/her life. Sometimes, you need to take a break after a breakup. This will not only ensure you get the right person, it will also foster/prevent the possibility of starting again with the person you broke up with.


2. You don't know what you need: Most people that are in love with two women/men are often those who don't know what they need. They are so engrossed in their wants that they can't pay attention to their needs. If you know what you need, then you should guide yourself from getting involved with two people. The truth is just that our wants often make us cheat against our partners.


3. You weren't done with your previous relationship before entering a new one: This is a very big problem. That you don't communicate well or don't communicate at all with someone you are in a relationship with doesn't mean ...
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Why is it that 70 percent of the ladies whom the parents of their husbands were not in support of their marriage often turn out to be bad wives?
The answer is simply because they have grudges in their hearts against the parents of their husband for being against their marriage.


Why wish that the parents of your husband were dead? How will you feel if someone wishes same to your parents?


A potential bad wife is not yet a bad wife until she gets married to her potential husband and display
those her bad qualities. You are not yet a bad wife until you start doing those things a bad wife does.


The parents of your husband were against their son marrying you because they were looking out for him, no good parent will see their kid putting his hand in a fire and allow him to continue with that; they love their son.
Since their son was madly in love with you, since he went as far as telling his parents that 'you are
different,' that you aren't what they thought you are, what have you done to make those believe and hope your husband had in you come or become true? What have you done to disprove the parents of your husband? Instead, you came in and did exactly what
they thought about you. This is very bad.


Don't judge them because they hated you from the start, look at them as your mother and father. See your
husband's seeblings as your own. This could be the only way you could get true happiness in your marriage.
If an eye is plucked for an eye, the world will remain blind. Don't allow the wrong things people said about you to be true, rather, allow what
you believe about yourself to be true.
www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/11/most-women-whom-their-husbands-parents.html?m=1

My guy Bello, abeg show them more pepper.

Rubbish!
Few hours after he was seen with two bullion vans, the election in Lagos became chaotic. A lot of people were disenfranchised, many were wounded, and the surprise of everything was INEC turning blind eyes. As long as I am concerned, Tinubu is no democrat. He will be worst than Buhari.

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO MAKE A WOMAN LOVE YOU?


It is not every guy that has the charisma to be loved at first sight. No matter how much we try to paint it, the truth is that most ladies will never love a particular guy or some particular set of guys just because these guys walked up to them and expressed them. No matter how these guys try to express themselves, they will never win the heart of their intended partner. They can't even make any single impact at just that spot.


Why is it so? Why does this happen to some particular set of guys?


In actual sense, guys often tagged as 'good guys' often fall into this domain. They always have a lot to give. They are sincerely and genuinely in love with the person they are confessing their love to, but they just can't convince that person to accept them. In fact, it isn't just an issue with convincing the person, even when they try as hard as they can, it seems not to be working. The person they are trying to talk into falling for them is not taking any of it. In some situation, they later discover that that same person started dating someone else, someone that came even months after they already confessed their love to the lady.


Some people just don't have the charisma to be loved immediately. Some people don't have enough vibes to make a lady fall for them immediately. Some times, the truth is that they are the exact opposite of whom the lady they are interested in, ever envisaged to be in a relationship with. Guys like this may have some of the following issues:


1. They may be dull: Dull here means they don't seem to have a strong drive towards what they want. They seem not to be convinced or better-still, they act or show not to be conviced of what they are after. The manner with which they go after the lady doesn't in anyway show to what extent they need her. It doesn't to a great extent show the degree of how much they are into her.


2. They might be shy: Guys of this nature might be the shy type. They can't look straight into the lady's eyes and tell her how much they are into her. Some times, eye contacts are very important in communication. The eyes says a lot, but these set of people may end up forgetting everything they have to say if they maintain steady eyes contact. In fact, having an eye contact with that lady they are trying to convince into accepting them is very uncomfortable for them. This now results in them communicating straight way without knowing the angle to twist their pattern of communication.


3. They may not be good dressers: This might be...

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What will they do with original? If they can't manage photocopy, they should go to hell

Forced vibration

I think Nollywood was better then because they buy and act with script. Now the nonsense is just endless.

If I were him, I will never ever ever accept that apology. DSS should meet me in court.

Take them to court and make sure you request for 30 billion as damages

Marriage is a process. A process that should follow a procedure. When the procedure is not properly followed chances are that grave mistakes will be made. One indispensable fact about marriage is that it is a process that is not meant to be rushed. Why rush something you expect to last for a lifetime? Things hurriedly performed are most times bound to be erroneous. Some of these errors may not be easily corrected with just a wave of hand. Some people have lost their happiness as a result of errors related to marriage. Others have trade their lives along the line. One thing is certain about some of these errors, if the marriage lasts, it is doing so at the expense of someone's happiness.

One may be asking, what is hurriedly performed marriage? A hurriedly performed marriage with respect to this article is a marriage where two people just met and got married over a very short period of time, let's say within a maximum of three months. Most times, marriages that take this pattern are arranged marriages. Arranged marriages are marriages where partners are introduced to each other by either a relative or friend. It must be noted too that some religious marriages can be categorized under hurriedly performed marriage. Here, the people are either recommended by their pastor or through rigorous prayers and because of how authentic the sources appear to be, the participants see no need to wait or accommodate any delay as delay may be viewed as being rebellious.

Hurriedly performed marriages might have been favourable to some people, but the fact that it has strong pressing disadvantages cannot be overlooked. Some of its disadvantages are as explained bellow:

1. It may not be based on Love: This is one of the most scary disadvantages of hurriedly performed marriages. We have several feelings that disguise as love that are in fact not love. Some of these feelings are lust, infatuation, and likeness. Some of these feelings disappear after sex. In most cases, these feelings hardly last the test of time. Apart from these three above mentioned feelings, the fact that the feeling could be love, but a fake kind of love is another scary phenomenon. If you think you love someone, time helps a lot in validating your thought. You need time to truly be sure that what you feel for him or her is love, but the time you need to use in discovering your feeling, you already chanelled it into getting married. What if after everything, it wasn't love? What if you later discover that you don't love them? What if they later discover that they don't love you? How do you now handle it? At that particular time you feel pressured; at that particular time, when the feeling seems so hot; at that particular time when you feel you are on the right track; that particular time when you feel so madly into each other; why not give everything more time? You might be saving yourself a lot of stress by taking your time.

2. It might be love, but fake love: He might be a fake lover. She might be a fake lover. A fake lover will never treat you well. The peoblem here is not that they don't love you, but that they can never place you first. They are so self-centered that being with them will only render you damaged. You will never have lasting happiness with them. They are the type that will cheat. They are the type that will beat you. They are the type that will have no respect for you. They are the type that lack understanding. Your life with them will be like hell on earth.

3. You are married to a stranger: The fact that the marriage was hurriedly performed does not rule out the fact that the both of you are total strangers to each other. You will have zero level understanding. You may always have misunderstanding, or may not always have misunderstanding, but one thing might be certain, each time you have misunderstanding, heaven may get loosed. That you know someone from a far doesn't mean they will be good after marriage. Some people may be very good as a friend, but once they become a lover, they make life miserable for you. The worst happens when the both of you are not compatible or when there is no single chemistry.

4. You are not friends: This is a very big problem. When lovers are not friends, they can't communicate well. The both of you didn't have time to build friendship, it will bring in a big blow into the marriage. A marriage that lacks communication is dead on arrival. No marriage survives without communication, or better-still, no marriage is happy without communication. Marriage gets better with time, but somethings in marriage remain as they were when the marriage started. One of them is communication. If the both of you don't communicate well at the beginning of the marriage, there are higher chances that it will always remain that way. For you to have a long lasting marriage, your partner should be your best friend and your lover.

5. They may be hiding something: Have you ever considered that your partner may have a very dirty secret he's hiding? Have you ever considered she may be hiding something? This might perhaps be their reason for rushing the marriage. Perhaps, they don't want you to discover something about them. Allowing the whole process to linger and letting the both of you know each other more may blow everything out. What if they are criminals? What if they have very challenging health issue? What if they are into cultism. Cultism had in most cases resulted to the death of many women in Africa. It is very common for men into cultism to use their wives as sacrificial lamb. Some women don't have womb. Some already had unsuccessful abortions that had damaged their wombs. They may want everything rushed so the dude doesn't get to discover on time. In as much as someone having a health challenge may not always be enough reason to stop a marriage plan, but stuffs like this should be clearly known by your partner. If you have health issue, your partner should know before marrying you.

In conclusion, hurriedly performed marriage is the reason for most unhappy marriages in the world. You have to take your time. More than any other person else in the world, you need to know that person you are getting married to. You need to know them very well just as you know yourself. The disadvantages are very glaring. The end road is abject sadness. Please take your time.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/11/disadvantages-of-hurriedly-performed.html?m=1

What happened to the one sent to them about Mr Bullion Van?

Very great!

Larry Gaga

Lukasman:
Lovely. But don't they have charms with them?

No. I actually know where they practice in Umunze

A healthy relationship is not that which is free from problem. In fact, your relationship is not healthy if you don't have issues from time to time.


A healthy relationship is that relationship in which those in it bounce back almost immediately after having issues or disagreement.


Stop allowing your issues to stay too long before you resolve them. Stop being that person that will always be seeking for apology even when you are wrong.


Two wrongs can never get it right. Even when you are wronged, don't pay back with being wrong.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/11/how-do-you-know-perfect-relationship.html?m=1

Early marriage could be a very sharp move but it sure has a lot of disadvantages or let's say negative effects on those that go into it. Today, we will be looking at some of these effects. These effects are as explained below:


1. Socialization: This is a very big problem in the lives of most people that go into early marriage. At this point of their lives, most of their friends are not married. Some of their friends have no experience about marriage, they end up influencing these young couples negatively. In as much as it is not advisable to dump those single friends you have before marriage, doing exactly everything you do with them before you got married could be chaotic to your marriage. The advise they give you could also be deadly to your marriage. This is why you need to be diplomatic.


2. Diplomacy: Diplomacy can sometimes be linked to age, and may sometimes not linked to age. Truth be said, at a young age, people lack enough experience to be very diplomatic. Once married at a young age, your parents, friends, and relatives will always try to look out for you, this may be to the detriment of your husband/wife. You have to be able to filter what they tell you and know those to and not to apply to your marriage. Don't be someone that can be controlled by outsiders.


3. Education: Early marriage always has a strong militating force against education, especially in the life of women. Most ladies who go into early marriage are yet to go through tertiary institution. They most times end up not going at all. Sometimes, this depends on the kind of husband they marry. Some husbands may be threatened by a woman's educational career, they may be so insecured that they will do all they can to frustrate it. They may say they will support you in your education just to make you accept them, there are higher chances that they won't. Also, going to school always with pregnancy or carrying a baby is very challenging. As for the men, after marrying at young age, they may lack the financial power to fund their education.


4. Psychological constraints: Some people who marry at a very young age are not yet psychologically ready to be called mummy and daddy. Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility that very young people may not be mentally and physically ready to accept.


5. Finance: This is a strong determining factor that insures the success or perhaps the failure of any marriage. Finance sometimes commands commitment and respect. At a very young age, a man may not be financially buoyant to take care of his wife and kids. Marriage is more than just taking care of your wife and kids. You have to be ready for emergency expenses too. Also, a woman should be able to earn her own money too. Depending too much on the man may lead to him taking advantage of you. Women who have unrepentant cheating husbands are often those that can't earn a kobo. At a very young age, how many women can boast of being financially stable?


In conclusion, the above listed factors don't in anyway denote that early marriage is bad or unachievable. Looking at them, you should be able to know how to equip yourself. You should be able to know if marrying very early will be good for you based on the level of your achievements. You should be able to know if you are ready.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/disadvantages-of-early-marriage.html?m=1

You don't need trust to love someone. You don't need to trust someone before you accept you are in love with him or her. You don't need to trust them before you approach them and tell them you love them.


There are different level of trust. Trust comes gradually after series of unconscious performed responsibilities or displayed characteristics.


It's only a stupid person that trusts immediately. Nevertheless, it is more stupid and foolish to marry
without trust.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/is-trust-needed-in-relationship.html?m=1

He broke up with me six months ago after promising to marry me. Before then, I told him I wasn't ready to marry before graduating from the university, and I will be graduating in less than a year. I was living with him then. Everything was okay until his parents started telling him to leave me, that I am after his money. He is the quiet type. He eventually broke up with me. I left his house, he brought in another lady almost immediately. They started living together. I learnt he wanted to marry her. Recently, I don't know what happened between them, she left the house. Three days after she left, this my boyfriend that left me because his parents said I will finish his money started calling and begging me to come back to his house, that he still loves me. I am very confused now. Mr Caesar, I need your advice.


My response:


I don't think he just left you because of his parents. There must be more to it, but let's look at it from what it looks like. He left you because his parents believed you are after money. I guess it's because you want to finish school before marriage. Now he wants you back just three days after the woman he's living with left. My dear, don't go back. I think he thinks you love his money. He thinks you are cheap. He called and asked you to come to his house and start staying with him again. He didn't even go to you. You look too cheap to him. Also, he's a mama's boy who can't make decisions for himself. Men like this don't make good husbands, and what is this thing about living with him even when unmarried? Does he have problems with dating who is not living with him? My dear, he's your past. No need being confused about it. He doesn't know what he wants. If you go back to him, he will still make another big problem with you because of another thing his parents said, and I doubt you will ever have value for his parents.


I must add this too, reduce your dependence on men who aren't your relatives.

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Should I leave my girlfriend?

My girlfriend is making things difficult for me. I love her so much, and I know she does the same, but she keeps saying she won't like to marry someone outside her church. This keeps bringing problem for us because I particularly don't see myself ever going to her church in the future. I am not even asking her to come to mine. Please Caesar, do you think this will work? Or should I just let her go?


My Response :

Most women attending Pentecostal churches are like this, but they don't know it's a very wrong way of behaving. It is very wrong to try to coerce your man into leaving his church and joining yours. It is wrong to give a man interested in you a condition of being your church member before you marry him. A lot of people left diamonds and started picking stones through this way. It's very petty and portrays you as someone that is not even in love.

Still, my dear, it is not enough reason to leave her. Christians get married to Muslims and still retain their religion, with their happiness not been tampered with. Your woman is still acting childish and inexperienced. She needs exposure. Don't force or even ask her to leave her church for yours. Respect her church too even though you aren't going to attend. It is natural for her to start respecting your religious views when you start respecting hers. For now, I don't think you both have a problem.

https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/my-girlfriend-is-making-things.html?m=1

WHY DO PEOPLE FALL OUT OF LOVE?

Why do people stop loving? Why do people fall out of love? Why is it that someone that was madly in love suddenly stopped loving? Someone asked these questions after reading my book titled 'Therapy of love'. I will be answering these questions
with five different reasons :


1. Lack of communication :
Most relationships start
going down when the pattern of communication starts going down . Lack of communication kills a relationship faster than a bullet.


2. Lies told before the beginning of the relationship:
Some people claim what they are not just to win someone's love. After the relationship begins, it is very natural for your partner to feel disappointed because you are totally opposite from what they...
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Osu was banned in Igboland few years ago. It is a taboo to call one Osu in Igboland. Please when last did you come back home? It seems you don't know what is happening in the East and you claim to be an Igbo.

Rochas is a troublemaker. But it is unconstitutional to hold his certificate of return. INEC can't be the judge here. They should approach a court.

Preator:
Which server when there was no electronic voting? Anyway, even if its clear that Atiku won, no court in Nigeria will ever unseat a sitting president. Jonathan was a peaceful man else he wud still be president if he had declared himself winner. Enuff of this Stimulated "server" and let's enjoy 4yrs of "next level"

card reader sends everything to INEC server after election. If you have been an ad-hoc staff recently, you will know.