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If I were him, I will never ever ever accept that apology. DSS should meet me in court.

Take them to court and make sure you request for 30 billion as damages

Marriage is a process. A process that should follow a procedure. When the procedure is not properly followed chances are that grave mistakes will be made. One indispensable fact about marriage is that it is a process that is not meant to be rushed. Why rush something you expect to last for a lifetime? Things hurriedly performed are most times bound to be erroneous. Some of these errors may not be easily corrected with just a wave of hand. Some people have lost their happiness as a result of errors related to marriage. Others have trade their lives along the line. One thing is certain about some of these errors, if the marriage lasts, it is doing so at the expense of someone's happiness.

One may be asking, what is hurriedly performed marriage? A hurriedly performed marriage with respect to this article is a marriage where two people just met and got married over a very short period of time, let's say within a maximum of three months. Most times, marriages that take this pattern are arranged marriages. Arranged marriages are marriages where partners are introduced to each other by either a relative or friend. It must be noted too that some religious marriages can be categorized under hurriedly performed marriage. Here, the people are either recommended by their pastor or through rigorous prayers and because of how authentic the sources appear to be, the participants see no need to wait or accommodate any delay as delay may be viewed as being rebellious.

Hurriedly performed marriages might have been favourable to some people, but the fact that it has strong pressing disadvantages cannot be overlooked. Some of its disadvantages are as explained bellow:

1. It may not be based on Love: This is one of the most scary disadvantages of hurriedly performed marriages. We have several feelings that disguise as love that are in fact not love. Some of these feelings are lust, infatuation, and likeness. Some of these feelings disappear after sex. In most cases, these feelings hardly last the test of time. Apart from these three above mentioned feelings, the fact that the feeling could be love, but a fake kind of love is another scary phenomenon. If you think you love someone, time helps a lot in validating your thought. You need time to truly be sure that what you feel for him or her is love, but the time you need to use in discovering your feeling, you already chanelled it into getting married. What if after everything, it wasn't love? What if you later discover that you don't love them? What if they later discover that they don't love you? How do you now handle it? At that particular time you feel pressured; at that particular time, when the feeling seems so hot; at that particular time when you feel you are on the right track; that particular time when you feel so madly into each other; why not give everything more time? You might be saving yourself a lot of stress by taking your time.

2. It might be love, but fake love: He might be a fake lover. She might be a fake lover. A fake lover will never treat you well. The peoblem here is not that they don't love you, but that they can never place you first. They are so self-centered that being with them will only render you damaged. You will never have lasting happiness with them. They are the type that will cheat. They are the type that will beat you. They are the type that will have no respect for you. They are the type that lack understanding. Your life with them will be like hell on earth.

3. You are married to a stranger: The fact that the marriage was hurriedly performed does not rule out the fact that the both of you are total strangers to each other. You will have zero level understanding. You may always have misunderstanding, or may not always have misunderstanding, but one thing might be certain, each time you have misunderstanding, heaven may get loosed. That you know someone from a far doesn't mean they will be good after marriage. Some people may be very good as a friend, but once they become a lover, they make life miserable for you. The worst happens when the both of you are not compatible or when there is no single chemistry.

4. You are not friends: This is a very big problem. When lovers are not friends, they can't communicate well. The both of you didn't have time to build friendship, it will bring in a big blow into the marriage. A marriage that lacks communication is dead on arrival. No marriage survives without communication, or better-still, no marriage is happy without communication. Marriage gets better with time, but somethings in marriage remain as they were when the marriage started. One of them is communication. If the both of you don't communicate well at the beginning of the marriage, there are higher chances that it will always remain that way. For you to have a long lasting marriage, your partner should be your best friend and your lover.

5. They may be hiding something: Have you ever considered that your partner may have a very dirty secret he's hiding? Have you ever considered she may be hiding something? This might perhaps be their reason for rushing the marriage. Perhaps, they don't want you to discover something about them. Allowing the whole process to linger and letting the both of you know each other more may blow everything out. What if they are criminals? What if they have very challenging health issue? What if they are into cultism. Cultism had in most cases resulted to the death of many women in Africa. It is very common for men into cultism to use their wives as sacrificial lamb. Some women don't have womb. Some already had unsuccessful abortions that had damaged their wombs. They may want everything rushed so the dude doesn't get to discover on time. In as much as someone having a health challenge may not always be enough reason to stop a marriage plan, but stuffs like this should be clearly known by your partner. If you have health issue, your partner should know before marrying you.

In conclusion, hurriedly performed marriage is the reason for most unhappy marriages in the world. You have to take your time. More than any other person else in the world, you need to know that person you are getting married to. You need to know them very well just as you know yourself. The disadvantages are very glaring. The end road is abject sadness. Please take your time.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/11/disadvantages-of-hurriedly-performed.html?m=1

What happened to the one sent to them about Mr Bullion Van?

Very great!

Larry Gaga

Lukasman:
Lovely. But don't they have charms with them?

No. I actually know where they practice in Umunze

A healthy relationship is not that which is free from problem. In fact, your relationship is not healthy if you don't have issues from time to time.


A healthy relationship is that relationship in which those in it bounce back almost immediately after having issues or disagreement.


Stop allowing your issues to stay too long before you resolve them. Stop being that person that will always be seeking for apology even when you are wrong.


Two wrongs can never get it right. Even when you are wronged, don't pay back with being wrong.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/11/how-do-you-know-perfect-relationship.html?m=1

Early marriage could be a very sharp move but it sure has a lot of disadvantages or let's say negative effects on those that go into it. Today, we will be looking at some of these effects. These effects are as explained below:


1. Socialization: This is a very big problem in the lives of most people that go into early marriage. At this point of their lives, most of their friends are not married. Some of their friends have no experience about marriage, they end up influencing these young couples negatively. In as much as it is not advisable to dump those single friends you have before marriage, doing exactly everything you do with them before you got married could be chaotic to your marriage. The advise they give you could also be deadly to your marriage. This is why you need to be diplomatic.


2. Diplomacy: Diplomacy can sometimes be linked to age, and may sometimes not linked to age. Truth be said, at a young age, people lack enough experience to be very diplomatic. Once married at a young age, your parents, friends, and relatives will always try to look out for you, this may be to the detriment of your husband/wife. You have to be able to filter what they tell you and know those to and not to apply to your marriage. Don't be someone that can be controlled by outsiders.


3. Education: Early marriage always has a strong militating force against education, especially in the life of women. Most ladies who go into early marriage are yet to go through tertiary institution. They most times end up not going at all. Sometimes, this depends on the kind of husband they marry. Some husbands may be threatened by a woman's educational career, they may be so insecured that they will do all they can to frustrate it. They may say they will support you in your education just to make you accept them, there are higher chances that they won't. Also, going to school always with pregnancy or carrying a baby is very challenging. As for the men, after marrying at young age, they may lack the financial power to fund their education.


4. Psychological constraints: Some people who marry at a very young age are not yet psychologically ready to be called mummy and daddy. Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility that very young people may not be mentally and physically ready to accept.


5. Finance: This is a strong determining factor that insures the success or perhaps the failure of any marriage. Finance sometimes commands commitment and respect. At a very young age, a man may not be financially buoyant to take care of his wife and kids. Marriage is more than just taking care of your wife and kids. You have to be ready for emergency expenses too. Also, a woman should be able to earn her own money too. Depending too much on the man may lead to him taking advantage of you. Women who have unrepentant cheating husbands are often those that can't earn a kobo. At a very young age, how many women can boast of being financially stable?


In conclusion, the above listed factors don't in anyway denote that early marriage is bad or unachievable. Looking at them, you should be able to know how to equip yourself. You should be able to know if marrying very early will be good for you based on the level of your achievements. You should be able to know if you are ready.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/disadvantages-of-early-marriage.html?m=1

You don't need trust to love someone. You don't need to trust someone before you accept you are in love with him or her. You don't need to trust them before you approach them and tell them you love them.


There are different level of trust. Trust comes gradually after series of unconscious performed responsibilities or displayed characteristics.


It's only a stupid person that trusts immediately. Nevertheless, it is more stupid and foolish to marry
without trust.
https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/is-trust-needed-in-relationship.html?m=1

He broke up with me six months ago after promising to marry me. Before then, I told him I wasn't ready to marry before graduating from the university, and I will be graduating in less than a year. I was living with him then. Everything was okay until his parents started telling him to leave me, that I am after his money. He is the quiet type. He eventually broke up with me. I left his house, he brought in another lady almost immediately. They started living together. I learnt he wanted to marry her. Recently, I don't know what happened between them, she left the house. Three days after she left, this my boyfriend that left me because his parents said I will finish his money started calling and begging me to come back to his house, that he still loves me. I am very confused now. Mr Caesar, I need your advice.


My response:


I don't think he just left you because of his parents. There must be more to it, but let's look at it from what it looks like. He left you because his parents believed you are after money. I guess it's because you want to finish school before marriage. Now he wants you back just three days after the woman he's living with left. My dear, don't go back. I think he thinks you love his money. He thinks you are cheap. He called and asked you to come to his house and start staying with him again. He didn't even go to you. You look too cheap to him. Also, he's a mama's boy who can't make decisions for himself. Men like this don't make good husbands, and what is this thing about living with him even when unmarried? Does he have problems with dating who is not living with him? My dear, he's your past. No need being confused about it. He doesn't know what he wants. If you go back to him, he will still make another big problem with you because of another thing his parents said, and I doubt you will ever have value for his parents.


I must add this too, reduce your dependence on men who aren't your relatives.

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Should I leave my girlfriend?

My girlfriend is making things difficult for me. I love her so much, and I know she does the same, but she keeps saying she won't like to marry someone outside her church. This keeps bringing problem for us because I particularly don't see myself ever going to her church in the future. I am not even asking her to come to mine. Please Caesar, do you think this will work? Or should I just let her go?


My Response :

Most women attending Pentecostal churches are like this, but they don't know it's a very wrong way of behaving. It is very wrong to try to coerce your man into leaving his church and joining yours. It is wrong to give a man interested in you a condition of being your church member before you marry him. A lot of people left diamonds and started picking stones through this way. It's very petty and portrays you as someone that is not even in love.

Still, my dear, it is not enough reason to leave her. Christians get married to Muslims and still retain their religion, with their happiness not been tampered with. Your woman is still acting childish and inexperienced. She needs exposure. Don't force or even ask her to leave her church for yours. Respect her church too even though you aren't going to attend. It is natural for her to start respecting your religious views when you start respecting hers. For now, I don't think you both have a problem.

https://www.caesarscircuit.com/2019/10/my-girlfriend-is-making-things.html?m=1

WHY DO PEOPLE FALL OUT OF LOVE?

Why do people stop loving? Why do people fall out of love? Why is it that someone that was madly in love suddenly stopped loving? Someone asked these questions after reading my book titled 'Therapy of love'. I will be answering these questions
with five different reasons :


1. Lack of communication :
Most relationships start
going down when the pattern of communication starts going down . Lack of communication kills a relationship faster than a bullet.


2. Lies told before the beginning of the relationship:
Some people claim what they are not just to win someone's love. After the relationship begins, it is very natural for your partner to feel disappointed because you are totally opposite from what they...
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Osu was banned in Igboland few years ago. It is a taboo to call one Osu in Igboland. Please when last did you come back home? It seems you don't know what is happening in the East and you claim to be an Igbo.

Rochas is a troublemaker. But it is unconstitutional to hold his certificate of return. INEC can't be the judge here. They should approach a court.

Preator:
Which server when there was no electronic voting? Anyway, even if its clear that Atiku won, no court in Nigeria will ever unseat a sitting president. Jonathan was a peaceful man else he wud still be president if he had declared himself winner. Enuff of this Stimulated "server" and let's enjoy 4yrs of "next level"

card reader sends everything to INEC server after election. If you have been an ad-hoc staff recently, you will know.

Ifeanyi Uba, a disgrace to political integrity.

nonsense. will that include their votes in the election? very wicked people that have no single interest of the country at heart.

This idiot should go and rest. she will only win Ikeoha in her dreams.

who said south west voted based on issues? issues my foot. If Atiku goes to court, he won't win unless Justice Tanko is shown the exit door. His appointment was properly calculated.

shoot at sight I guess

Can Amechi pretend not to know that APC were disqualified from contesting in Rivers?

I have read this post here before. Making a repost is very political. Trying so hard to discredit Atiku, but it won't work. I am fully Atikulated.

she needs help, not posting a video of her everywhere

Jesu

burnt or stollen?

Thunder....

her husband's death affected her greatly

That's Teni

NFF president said he will beg him to return. I guess this is it.

Some of those crowd were actually brought in from Bauchi

APC with a fake account