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shaybebaby:
Lol, I like what you did there; created a need. You'd be good at marketing/sales.

However, I'm very much of the school of thought kids should be allowed to follow their passion. At the moment, little man is all about astronomy.
Should I ever see the inclination towards programming from him, I'll be certain to come looking for you.

Trust me, you have got to channel his mind towards it. This is a great way. He wants to understand the universe and you need to guide him.
You need to read up about astronomy to be able to guide him on this else you will watch him become an atheist. Lol

Its a good way, teach him physics (not secondary school physics). Get some story books on astronomy, quantum mechanics, cosmology. Guide him. We are looking at another physicist and trust me, he is on the right track

Fingerprinter:
Hey guys, Cc. Supersystemsnig, Pocohantas, Mrphysics, please enough of this na. Since yesterday, you guys have been dragging back and forth on this particular issue. Please, let it slide.
I believe we are all children of God, let us remember what God told us about a forgiving heart and move on please. No more war abeg!

alright G

dokwhot:
It's been such fun so far.

With about 3500 views and the thread now have 18 pages, you can imagine what went on her.

Guy, I can now understand what you went through. This people want you to respect their opinion while they pay no fvcking attention to yours.

Thank your God that she left you otherwise, half of the marriage would have been spent on nairaland seeking advise

supersystemsnig:
Many ladies spoke to me and i've realized the consequences of my actions. I wish it would go away. It's not about who's right or wrong. I just want you to let it go. Remember what you told me about work? Look how this is sucking up time that should be used for that. I don't want it to affect work.

You're not my enemy, and don't need to bear such tag. Yes, my actions can't be undone, but i need you to let it go. You don't need any fear of me as it is over. I'm not your enemy, it has nothing to do with MrPhysics

If you guys have left me out of this, I think it would have not reached this extent.

Inviting me to dance to the tune of surugede is what I don't know.

pocohantas:
Spare me your nice repentant attitude. Don't be sorry, spill more. You no kuku dey tire to talk

Who said it has to do with mrphysics, are you both understanding from under your feet. I told your mrphysics to go lick his own wound.

With a supposed friend like you, who needs an enemy
Now, that I am done calling out that twotimer. You guys can go make love. You deserve each other.

Nzuko nka ga bu nani on^'u

pocohantas:
Why don't you answer my questions...
I'll leave you and your soulbrother to go brood. You guys have an enemy in common, don't you?

I don't do offline affairs on nairaland.

Enemy kwa?

Cc fingerprinter better come and say your final word to your brother. Seems like the son of man is about to be hanged on the cross of nairaland

pocohantas:
Stop this overused broke line, no one cares...at least I don't. I am not one of those girls you give 'transport money' .

Lol

pocohantas:
Stop calling people to come back you up, you know what I am talking about. I am enjoying seeing you act clueless

Smh.


In my next life, I will be intelligent rich (to have erection in peace)

Someone can't come to family section and comment in peace. Seems like its the reason people are most active in politics section

pocohantas:
I called you out for being pretentious, pretend all you want, you get the message. Now, shut up and shift.

1. Maybe you are talking about yourself. Pretentious? I don't think I have been and I do not think I will be. How you imagined I orchestrated a problem between you and Supersystemsnig is what I do not understand. I don't think I did any bad thing to arouse this kind of suspicion.

2. Same word again.

3. There is no message. If you have any message, let me know, I can create a thread for you to deliver it. What is all this?

4. I should shut up again? While you keep talking. You ladies never cease to amaze me. I shifted yesterday, maybe I won't shift this time around. Is that how you do? When you talk everyone must be silent?

Cc Fingerprinter

pocohantas:
Oh shut up...!And stop deflecting,who has a business with your financial state? You are asking why, are you blind to the other part of the post or you didn't tell your soulbrother all that? LOL! Twotimer!

I'm actually over this, but I had to call you out first. Go and sin no more.

1. You ask questions and you want me to shut up while you keep talking? You have been mentioning me since yesterday, I ignored all that, why do I have to wake up to your mentions this morning again?

2. On nairaland, it is believed that we are all broke hence we shouldn't talk. That is how guys have been pushed to leading a different life to please you guys even when it is impossible. So some of us have decided to answer broke niggers atleast we can talk and have peace of mind.

3. Do you want me to begin attending to your mail. I sent you a mail, so what is wrong with it?

4. Twotimer? that is your exact words on your response mail. Well, I don't insult people. But it would be good you don't insult someone who didn't insult you. I am sure I wasn't the only person that sent you a mail regarding the deleted thread. Yet you thought I orchestrated whatever happened between you and supersystemsnig whom I met few days ago.

5. You had to call me out? For doing what? Did I call you out?

6. I have never sinned, so there is no sin to get over with.

Make una leave people wey no know book nah. Make una leave people wey no get money, make una leave people wey no get work. If you chop them go talk, if you no chop them go chop-Osita Osadebe

pocohantas:
I've always said it,that men are most times more emotional and irrational when hurt than women. Both the OP, my alleged ex-boyfriend and his sidenigga Mrphysics are proof.

Why do you insist on bringing me into this issue? Why do you want me to talk on issue which is not my business?
You claim you have the right to talk or quote anyone yet you don't want anyone to comment on a thread on nairaland simply because you are there.

You kept mentioning my name yesterday and I have been wondering why?

Is it now a sin to be broke? So broke people can't live in peace again?

supersystemsnig:
I'm enjoying this spot i swear...All of a sudden this thread has removed the desire to quit the forum from my heart..the sweetness from all these posts is just way too much

True. So many knowledge have been poured out here.

livingseed:
Yes. In terms of truth as known by the mind through analytical reason. I think probably mathematical truth is about the closest we get to something irrefutable. Once the terms are understood and agreed upon, 2+2=4 is very hard to dispute.

Yet, would this would mean attempting to define truth through the conditioned intellect of any individual? For instance, political truth, business truth, mathematical truth, other truth etc etc. This is a futile pursuit as all the interpretations of truth is bound to be conditioned and hence bound to differ from person to person and even personally change with time through changes in one's conditioning. To seek Truth is to lose ALL the labels.

This brand of Truth is to be experientially understood, not intellectually defined and comprehended as that would be as futile as a dog trying to catch its own tail. That was why I said earlier that the source is okay, the channel is the problem.

IMHO

What can I said again. You nailed it bro

livingseed:
I also think that people see truth differently because everyone is coming from a different set of life experience, so they have different perspectives too.

This explains why different people everywhere arrive at different ratings of truth. They all have relatively different backgrounds and knowledge. In a sense it’s the people’s choice of truth that defines them.

People differ about truth, not because truth is different, but because people are different in terms of experience. If two people had identical match/experience, they would see truth identically every time.

BUT... there's Truth (with a capital T), something that comes with experience and not just a thought. Just like the Laws of Physics which aren't what someone "defines" them to be at any given time. They are what they are, and would and will be that way till the end of time, whether any intelligent observer is there to corroborate them or not.

Also, the difference between science and other discipline is the uniqueness of things in science. For instance, the Newton laws of physics is general. But in other discipline, they is no absolute truth. For instance, terrorism can be defined by different persons to be correct. But i science, terrorism for instance will have a unique definition.

livingseed:
I also think that people see truth differently because everyone is coming from a different set of life experience, so they have different perspectives too.

This explains why different people everywhere arrive at different ratings of truth. They all have relatively different backgrounds and knowledge. In a sense it’s the people’s choice of truth that defines them.

People differ about truth, not because truth is different, but because people are different in terms of experience. If two people had identical match/experience, they would see truth identically every time.

BUT... there's Truth (with a capital T), something that comes with experience and not just a thought. Just like the Laws of Physics which aren't what someone "defines" them to be at any given time. They are what they are, and would and will be that way till the end of time, whether any intelligent observer is there to corroborate them or not.

You are right. That is why I go by the political science definition of truth. Truth is defined as the state of things that exist. It doesn't depend on what individuals experience or think, rather it is what they think.

Notwithstanding, relativity tell us that two people who are different frame of reference can observe a phenomenon same time and explain it different while still being correct simultaneously. That means, when we look up a plane fly above us, and I said the speed is 4ms^-1 while you somewhere else says the speed of the plane is 30ms^-1, by relativity, we are both correct. So things depend on where we are. It is a fact.

supersystemsnig:
I'm your fan and always listen/read your comments. Sorry i never told you till today...but i'm a huge fan...I admire your wisdom and intellect ma..I understand....

Feminism has no issues with it, i agree...


Thanks for knocking senses into me

I think you should stop responding to comments from this thread. Go to front page, they are topics that will get you busy. Its okay abeg.

freecocoa:
i guess you and I have a different understanding of what nagging is, only a mad person continues talking about an already resolved issue, like seriously?

If you are attracting a woman that adds no value, who's to say you bring any value to her as well? Oga we can go on about it forever but the truth remains the truth, any man who would walk a woman out over one little misunderstanding, shouldn't be in a relationship, hoo ha!

I think we both agreed on this fact. No one is doubting it. Secondly, a lady that will do something that will lead a man to walk her out of his house isn't supposed to be in a relationship.

My sister, I have no value to add to anyone. I never add value to myself nah to come dey add on another person . She should add value to herself, while I add to myself. If we both do, they we will just do the finishing touches of the values on ourselves. Teaching her the basics of relationship isn't making sense. Nagging is something she should learn to stop. When the urge to nag comes, she should just get over it, either leave the place or keep quiet. I will appreciate a lady that kept silent than one that kept talking only because she wants to be heard. Who doesn't listen to a good word. For me to pay deaf ears to it means that its not making sense to me.

When she nags, I see it her wanting to nail the son of man to the cross She is looking for something from my mouth to use against me

freecocoa:
Nagging can happen anytime, there's no set time for it and fyi men nag too so, stop assuming only women do.

Nagging can happen during a discussion, in fact that's how it mostly starts so I don't know what you are saying.

Toh! If your woman likes being walked out on, good for you too, I sha know I don't get walked out on, over just saying my mind.

Nagging starts from discussion. I accept that assertion, but there is this thick line separating discussion from nagging.

I hate repeating same thing over and over again. When I apologize for the first time, know it came from my mind. I like to apologize and to greet people. You don't need to hurt me to hear[b] "I am sorry"[/b] from me. When I say it from my mind, I expect you to accept it without stressing things further.

When you constantly emphasize it, thats when i see it as nagging. Some men nag too. 10% of them, well, I do not know why they do so. They must be feeling like women in a relationship. When you observe you are being used, and your opinion isn't important in a relationship, you feel used and the resultant effect is nagging.

Some issue would have died out on this thread if people just let things be. But you see people stressing things out, they just have enough thing to say. And it keeps lingering

jhudit:
He brought it here naa, I only wanted prog.nose...the only real man that has commented on this childish display to see it. The internet never forgets...the guy done fall hand...

That's not the point. We all know that prognose or prognosis made the best comment and we sincerely thank God for his life and wisdom. Since he already made his comment, why not allow it to phase away.

Kindly see wisdom in allowing everything to go phase out.

We are discussing nagging, and you can as well contribute or read.

Remember I am the UNN 3rd class broke unemployed boy . Pity me is you have planned to insult me. Do act accordingly

supersystemsnig:
Yes, we walk away, but do you now what recurring nagging does to a soul? Male or female? It is trying to setup an entrapment to hold the other party permanently, subjecting them to rigorous torture and keeping them fixated on the aggressor as their fix... The nagging person has issues deep within that needs to be resolved personally. I don't see myself nagging people regardless of duress, i go come tell you as the matter be, straight up

Nagging kills the man in men. It makes him consider living a fake life, a life that only pleases the wife and not him because he want to be seen as respecting his wife. I have seen women who don't nag and their relationship have worth it. Nagging is not the only solution, there are other methods, she can explore it and get her opinion heard.

freecocoa:
Hahaha

Leave it to a Nigerian man to label a man who respects his woman weak as being controlled by her, na today?

See where you get It wrong, who says a man can't get in a word when a woman nags? Like he can't say anything because I'm talking? Even if he doesn't even utter a word, that makes him weak? A man who has his emotions in check is weak to you? I can see how mature you are. Do you even know that some men laugh nagging off? Do you know some would even try to hold you while you go on supposedly ranting? Do you know some would even try to apologize to get you to stop talking? All these men are weak according to you, only women batterers like yourself are deserving to be called strong/worthy of the title husband, my friend gtfoh!

Let me control him o, I like it like that, which man woman no dey control one way or the other sef? Phew!

How is locking your husband out of the house the same as just talking? As If men too don't nag, keep deceiving yourself.

What you think of my ego doesn't affect me, I love me like that.

The fact that its been working for you doesn't make it right If you nag here, I will just walk out on you shikena .

Seriously, women should count their words. Nagging is only preempting the man to say something you have been waiting to hear.

Call me for a discussion and I will listen attentively. Nag and I won't reply your mention.

Its very easy for a woman to say she is not respected in a relationship. Why is it that nagging happens when the man don't want to talk, or when the man just want to be left alone? Must you always talk at such time ?

supersystemsnig:
Sum it all brov, nagging is psychological assault and torment. In a relationship, people should communicate, without opened for either party to hear one another out, it becomes toxic and unhealthy...I wonder how come people don't see nagging as a problem


Nag me, i shut off straight

In most cases of nagging, the woman is just aiming and hoping to hear a particular word she will pick as the worst she have ever heard.

Trust me, those traps always catch me. If you nag, I just tell you want you have been waiting to hear from me and walk away. No time to check time bro. Life is easy

jhudit:
Na advice o, he should take prognose advice. Him and babe argue about a rape topic on Nairaland, him run offline to send mail...him still come share the mails on Nairaland. He shared it with us on another thread.



They should go and grow up. Two of them...

I do not see the reason for this again. Everything is already phasing away, bringing it here isn't making sense in anyway. You should allow this to rest

freecocoa:
As far as I'm not insulting you, if you walk away, you definitely don't respect me, if we ever find ourselves in a situation where talking happens, nigga if you care about that relationship, you ain't going nowhere, but if you do, like I would expect an immature man to, then I'm prolly better off without a man who can't stand a little heat.

Shift focus from what exactly? Is a misunderstanding with your partner, not worth focusing on? So many times, women have gotten men who wouldn't ordinarily engage, to talk by nagging them. I still maintain that how your woman goes about her nagging is Key, I know my man doesn't feel insulted when I do, if anything, he only ends up feeling bad, that he had to make me upset /talk that much, but I can understand you, most men don't know that relationships take work and they just can't be bothered, rubbish!

You don't need to insult me to nag. Nagging is when a woman keeps saying irrelevant things just to get something from her man.
Nagging
adjective
1.
continually faultfinding, complaining, or petulant:
a nagging parent.
2.
persistently recurring; unrelenting:

My sister, if you nag for me, I will find a place I will hear good things. Instead of telling me how to change my life, all you could do is to continue repeating something that is already settled

freecocoa:
OP is way beyond childish and that says a lot about how he's acted In the relationship. I just can't see how a sensible grown man would ask for a gift back because there's a fight, in fact that girl tried by even agreeing to marry him, nonsense!

If you acted like you should, I don't see how a woman would nag you in the first place, you men are just overgrown babies at the end of the day, so it makes sense to nag your a$$es sometimes, though I must say, how she goes about it, matter a whole lot. I try my best not to yell or use abusive language, it's more like giving cogent reasons why I expect you to do what you didn't do, which brings us to the nagging, what it does for me is that, it makes him see that he's not living up to expectations, thus further making him want to step up his game, of course when I start going there, he'd rather I stop, but if I don't persist, the issue might just get swept under the rug, abeg whether you all agree or not, you men need a little push most times, excuse me for recognising that and using it to my advantage.

I can tell you wouldn't even listen either way, I mean, you turned a deaf ear to ordinary seeing her off, what else can you do if you can't manage that small task?

Men, SMH, I hail women o, we are really trying.

It was totally wrong for op to have demanded the gifts back. He thought that's the things he could recover from the relationship having lost already.

Well, I can't walk out on you when you are talking sense. There is a difference between discussion and nagging. Nagging seems to also imply when an issue have been settled and you just want to keep talking about it. To this kind of talks, I will walk out. But if you have something you want us to talk about, its different and I will give you all the attention.

Thinking you own a copyright to men is what we hate dealing with. Respect the fact he told you he wants the issue to be forgotten. If something have been settled and you kept bringing it forward to be discussed again, I see the previous discussion as a waste of time. And I don't like wasting my time.


You should have asked what value her visiting add She didn't add any value, I did everything like she wasn't there. She had nothing to contribute, sitting down and just talking and looking at her phone was waste of useful energy for me to handle. The talking was boring me, she needed just to go. When no value is being added, then the presence is not required.

freecocoa:
Abegi make I hear something. You think cos you hear say woman nag, means what exactly? Abi you don't know that nagging has variations ati formula?

See you see so annoying, so somehow you can rationalize beating up someone simply because they are talking? Abi did they tell you that nagging means verbally abusing him ni? In fact let me even tell you, any man I've ever been with knew it was a big eff up to walk away while I was talking, for what na?

See the way you even say sending her away, no iota of respect, smh
Oga not every woman attracts a psycho, so best understand how nagging has worked for and respect it, tanx.

I will walk away. You can slap me and I will understand but when you keep talking, talking, and talking, its enough to walk away from you.

I detest nagging, anything that will shift my focus irritates me. So better learn how not to nag. You might meet the wrong people who doesn't take nagging.

pidgintutor:
you had better be careful with the guys you nag... sending her away is what a cool headed guy would do.. a calm guy would leave the house for you and not return until he is sure you have left the house. whereas the last group would give you the beating of your life... not every guy tolerates such. its so annoying thinking about important stuffs and a lady just cant shut her trap...


your guys have been cool-headed thats y you think it is a win win for you....

I am telling you bro. Nothing gets me angry like those nagging. Making me to think about what does not edify anyone. I am in that group that will live the house till I am sure she have left. I don't need that wahala.

freecocoa:
See the way you paint the whole picture like say you nice well well, If we check well now, you are the one at fault, cos for her to quietly collect the money and leave with no drama, she is a good girl.

The problem with you men is that you expect what you cannot give, you guys mostly already have this the-world-is-ours mentality, therefore you misbehave, expecting the lady to just suck it up, take for instance the way the OP has been sounding, as if he did the lass a favour, he even went as far as returning her belongings same night and asking her to return the phone he gave her, and you tell me he is not the one with the faults? I hear o. The way he has been going on really has me feeling for that lady kinda, tbh(though I still leave small room for doubt cos I don't know what really happened for a fact) but still, he has given himself away.

Anyone who would walk away from a relationship already headed for marriage just like that, over her not petting you when you felt you needed it, regardless, shouldn't be talking marriage.

This OP needs to work on himself o jare.

Oh! And on the nagging ish, I know that's the fastest way to get him to listen and act cos then he just wants me to stop talking, therefore he goes, "oya what do you want me to do now" ? Win-win for me.

At the bold sentences
1. I was a very good guy. I just don't like when you want to challenge my intelligence by thinking I am a fool. If you want to act, act as though you are dealing with a human. But ladies just want to act as if they are dealing with a fool. That was what op saw and got angry. Demanding for what he gave her was his weakness.
2. She didn't collect it because she was a good girl. I did because I wanted her to leave the house. Anything that will disrupt my thoughts gets me weak. I just needed her to go and go for good. She begged and begged me to see her off, my sister, I do ear like say I dey train pig.
3. Nagging solves no problem. You don't get me to listen to you but nagging. You only do that by talking sense. When you start nagging, it gets me weak and I begin to see the nagger as someone who doesn't know anything. I don't like talking too much, same, I don't like when you talk to me too much. Except we are talking about politics and money, every other talks should be short and simple.

Wish I can get a nagging pill for Nigerian ladies to take. Most ladies think that a guy is their right and they own copyright to him yet they don't want to be owned, they want you to allow her to make as many photocopy of guys and keep to herself. Ladies should try to understand guys, our lives are simple. Our burden are light and our cross easy

iyisco2001:
I have seen a couple M16 with some peeps, classified.
I love that machine and i cant doubt what it can do.
Including armour peircing.

It can kill you and kill your soul. No heaven or hell for the vicitm

freecocoa:
Lol, nobody has walked me out, the only person who ever said something close to leaving said "I will leave this house for you o" and I was like shuu, leave na, I dey beg you? the guy just weak for me, went to seat down and I kuku just continue with my nagging.

Seriously though, you guys are very annoying but don't seem to know it. Many fail to realise how serious an offense it is to walk her out, that's like a deal breaker, as far as I'm concerned, it doesn't show respect at all.

This OP isn't faultless and he knows it.

Guys hate that nagging. When he is thinking of something important, someone will just nag those God sent points off his head. Instead of walking her out, I refused seeing her off. She came alone, she must leave alone. You know what is like walking stupidly alone to where you will get a cab, she felt I was joking. I was kind enough to give transport that is twice higher than the actual amount. You ladies can be annoying too.

The op just escaped a timed bomb. Bring the issue to nairaland is a major problem he has. That is why I have been telling these two lovers to settle out of the High Court of Nairaland presided by the Honourable Judge Seun Osewa.

But both of them have Abraham as father here.

This is racism. Rubbish. Every time people will be shouting our thoughts are with them rubbish when they don't give a damn fvck of anything that happens to us.
Inferiority complex always killing Africans.

supersystemsnig:
It is the complexities that we attach ourselves to that gives us stress...aT TIMES, THE PRE-CODED INFORMATION IN OUR DNA AFFECTS OUR CHARACTER...



How can I come to nairaland to then decide the major things about my life? How can i allow people define how I should behave. I don't do that bro. When you come offline and you challenge my reasoning, then I will listen to you, but if it is nairaland talks, I don't insult people. Same, i apologise for dragging you into this. God knows you're innocent



I respect the sanctity of individual opinion. I respect people, who they are, and who they will be...i will respect this, i take responsibility for my actions. There's just a threshold for some things

1. you didn't drag me into anything. So free your mind bro.
2. There is certainly a threshold for everything

Thank God both of you didn't pull me in. I was already trying to reinforce my arms. My warriors who were trained in Syria, Pakistan, and Jamaica are already waiting for me to call on them in the business section

If you guys had pulled me into this, I would have just died

Nah only one person I get for nairaland and he is already waiting for me to say go ahead and everywhere would have ended. I didn't even know some people have Association of family/romance section e-warriors I just saw their president and PRO viewing this thread that was when I started calling for reinforcement of my trained Business section fighters