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tosyne2much:
You think an average 9ja babe will utter that statement ?

Why not? It just words!

I will say come Bleep me big daddy!

Ipledge:
white ladies are very cool and free;black ladies are too protective,i can approach white ladies or other race any where,but black i will need to do my maths well

And you met these cool white ladies online too huh?

Naija men!

Ipledge:
I might have a white wife,but If i dont wanna marry one,i wil like to have atleast a child with one

Color struck huh?

esosuo:
Mrs chima why weep na? Wats the story na?

SHADDAP!

She tells you that she is wet or/and hot.

leanfarmer:
I've met two sweet white ladies online and they've shown great attitude of understanding.

So you haven't met them in person yet?

Ipledge:
oooh,Nothing entice me in dating any of Them,but will life to have a white baby mama,i love mix children

Why not a white wife?

tpiadotcom:
Yes.

I weep for Naija o

Ipledge:
what do you mean by foreign ladies,u mean ghanaians and togolese included,or ladies from other race

I think she meant non-African preferably Oyinbo/akata.

kilokeys:
one way to help a Nigerian misogynist.. is to pray for him

I dey laff ooo

panachuku:
papers, sense of achievement, money

Getting a Foreigner is an achievement

I yaya ooo

iceberylin:
Kissing on the first date is a Big sin to A Nigerian gurl...
Being a broke niggs is unacceptable..
U gotta be cute also.
And possess Pink lips.
Be tall like a Giant.
Be a Gentleman and still be brave to scare bad guys ( is that even possible )

They just want a Perfect man...

Naija girls don suffer ooo

Not all Naija girls think alike..stop it.

Igbowife1:
He's never lived in the village. He was born and grew up in lagos. He's never hardly been to his village until he took me 3 years ago.

Igbos do not have to live in the village to marry someone from the village.

Igbowife1:
Again, I don't understand the hmmm comment? Why is this a problem?

Don't worry about it sugar.

Igbowife1:
He did have papers in Europe where we met. But then we met and we wanted to be together. So instead of staying in Europe with his papers that's inly a 7 hour flight from nija, he came to live with me and has to fly 24 hours to get to his country. He doesn't have European papers anymore so he needs a visa to go to Europe.

Yeah...he doesn't have his EU papers because he is no longer in EU and isn't naturalized. He is on American PR status because he is married to you.

If he was in EU for 10 years which the money system is greater than USD...why did you have to support him financially at all?

The 14 years old boy is living with his grandmother while his mother is in another city? Hmm.

BluIvy:
Dear Missy, you know I used to think people in the family section of NL were cruel or cold when they deal hashly with people who come with such stories. But you know what after reading this i cannot hide my irritation as well.

People on this section will try and help you open your eyes but if they see you really like your dark place, they will leave you to it. So you need to be sure of what exactly you want to find out when you come here.

First of all, if you think him not calling doesn't mean he has another wife as suggested why are you in this forum about such a minor issue? Why not wait for him to come back again and ask why he is not making time to call you after all the discussions you had?

Secondly, do you want Nigerians or other Igbos to lie to you and tell you there are no phones in Igboland or their culture doesn't allow calls or its normal for igbo man to act like that when he's home bla bla bla or something ridiculous like that?

Do you go to forums about your small domestic issues like these all the time?

You say he would not be married as he has been in Europe for over ten years but you also mention he goes home often i guess that could be yearly or so, right? Just because you would not have a husband who sees you once a year you assume other women would also not agree to that? Right?

If you trust your husband and his family this much why are you not asking them why he doesn't call? Or better yet ask them to call him and get him to call you?

Why come to a forum of strangers who cannot even call or locate your husband rather than his family?

You know what I think? Deep down you know something is not right but you need strangers to tell you otherwise.

I had a friend who did the samething atleast she was not married and didn't know the guys family, she would put up one excuse after another but deep down she knew what was up.

My advise to you is, go ask his family and be satisfied with whatever response you get until he comeback to answer for himself. If and only if you are still not convinced you can comeback for real advise on how to find information about your husband marital status elsewhere.

Damn! I didn't see this before I composed my last post. I am glad others sensed bullshit too!

Igbowife1:
I might be stupid but I actually done think he's in another relationship. I came to this website for advice on how to communicate with my husband and to understand he's situation better. He is in Nigeria building a massive business for our future. I know this is fact. I know he is busy and very stressed. But when he doesn't call me I get stressed. I call him, I'm upset with him, I tell him, he gets upset with me and we never haveenjoyable conversations. Before he leaves we talk and ge promises he will make an effort but as soon as he goes East everything changes. He's too busy, too tired. No network, can't charge his phone, he's drivung or it's just too noisy because he's in the town. I was hoping other people had this experience and found a way to understand each other and get their partner to make an appropriate effort. I actually know my husband loves me. He's kind and generous. I just can't get him to be kind and generous when he's busy and stressed.
Thanks for all your comments as I'm prepared to hear anything that will give me insight into understanding my love.

How can we help you communicate with someone WE DONT KBOW It is bullshit to what you said...if you didn't think there is an issue...you wouldn't have asked complete strangers for anything!

If the only concern you have is not getting a daily call from your hsuband...then YOU WOULD HAVE CONTACTED HIS FAMILY IN NIGERIA!

It is your life but cut the bullshit seriously!

Raiders:
I am not going to make any assumption till I get the facts. You should be careful the kind of advise you give here. Besides how do you know that the husband has a 2nd wife or girlfriend. There could be tons of reason why he could not call. I just hate it when people like you stereotype Nigerian men with foreign wives.

Opinions or advice doesn't destroy marriage but the 2 people in it. If she or he is cheating or being abusive...the marriage itself is shaken...to destroy a marriage is 2 people not fighting or working hard to maintain their marriage.

A stranger word can't kill something that is already dead!

Ipledge:
I dont believe the moniker,i hate seeing these things...my yoruba husband,my igbo husband

Hmmm. It is a trend brewing....maybe a tribal war?

Igbowife1:
I have been to Nigeria and met his family. He's sister lives in my country too. I don't believe he has another family. I don't believe he is or has cheated but I am obviously worried.

Come on girl! You think he will introduce you to his village wife?!! Buhahhhhhha. Sorry! There is no devoted husband nowhere in the WORLD that doesn't have time to call HIS WIFE unless he is BUSY with another chick/wife.

You can't even get a solid 10 minutes is a red flag and why is he visiting Nigeria frequently? Many Nigerians in America have businesses back home and often time have a trusted friend or family to oversee the business until they come for holiday but it too much even twice a year!

Hmmm. Good luck on the pain!

Fairgodwin:
Well, to be very honest with you, you have every right to be worried. I am a Nigerian, 'a good one,' but for your HUSBAND not to have at least 5 (not so good) minutes to call you, his WIFE daily no matter how busy, it definitely speaks volume.
Please I'm not trying to 'spoil' your marriage or ask you to start 'suspecting' him, but I'm definitely telling you it's either your husband has a wife in Nigeria or planning to get one. Please you do not have to take my comment seriously, I was only speaking my mind and being logical, as the [right thinking] human I was supposed to be.

No..you are definitely correct. I am willing to bet he didn't have his papers before they married.

Enegod:
false accusation.... I like older women, you see

Like 18 or 19 years old?

Never go to a black pastor church hungry!

Fat and thick are 2 different things!

[quote author=Enegod post=32359703]You deceived a 17yr old girl and had unprotected sex with her!! gaddamnit

Go and report yourself to the nearest police station [/3quote]

Didn't you do the same thing to a Ekiti girl?

tpiadotcom:
any historical romance novel recommendations?

I'm into those.

King James Bible.

DarkAngel86:
Boy and man is a state of mind in a relationship rather than an age thing. Boys love, love and men love to demonstrate love. Let me give you an example: A boy is new or even addicted to the chase and the moment they catch the prey they look for reasons to leave. Classic reason " she's crazy" I can replace her blah blah.

Men: Don't enjoy the chase as much because they know what they want and the search for that. Men are chased by women. Once men find what they're looking for they are happy because they can now un-burden themselves of that love they want to give. They want children so they could pass on love and wisdom not for their lineage.

So I hope that makes sense lol but I think being a man and a boy is a state of mind. I have met 22yr old men and 40yr old boys.

Do you think girls are taught to be competitive in early age regarding relationships, fashion, and etc?

kennynelcon:
make buhari no catch u

Buhari won?!! . Shyster Igbo Goodluck has been dethroned! Tufiawaki!

Luedave:
Nawa 4 all dis children comment.... Dis lyf don spoil.... Auntie y gals no gree enter dis thread na

They will soon come sugar!

Baddestguyp:
y'all yeye guys above me, stop derailing this thread

Are these your children?