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MRbrownJAY: come on Mrs C, you should know me by now.......although i do not have a cootie cat, i have had an extensive experience on the matter (6kids, 5 baby mamas)......and i can safely say that i have never gotten that sweetness back after babies were born, NEVER!!!!!!!!!!

so as much as you "believe" your toto wont deteriorate, i have concrete proof that it will, whether Kegel or not.

btw, only a man who has tasted you (before the baby was born) can tell you if your toto is as sweet as before. you do NOT know how it taste, so you cant really know the difference.

Poor you! There is no such thing as one toto represent all.

Yes! Van Vickers I take you to be my internet husband until the minutes expire!

I will email you food and sex on the daily basis!

I do!

They should! It's their home too!

Dbosky!!!!!!!!!!!!

[quote author=fresh_dude][Quote author=99cent] So next time, marry off ur daughter at age 13 instead of sending her to school. I guarantee you 100% she will never become a feminist
Really? At 13, I'd say she has all the time in the world to become one.[/quote]Free her jor! She was being sarcastic.

MRbrownJAY: Mac, saying she wanted to marry him could have been a "wrong approach", but the fact that she added that she wants his babies too means that this was not a mistake, the gal was/is indeed desperate.

the only reason why you wouldnt feel like proposing to someone on the second date is because you would know absolutely nothing about that person, and any smart man knows that marrying a stranger is like flying a plane with absolutely no knowledge of aircrafts (or a license).

what other reason there is for someone to propose, talk of marriage AND babies on the second date?

even the agreement of marriage within the second date is wrong, because that means that these two have no respect for the institution of marriage. marriage is a serious matter, that demand a lot of strength and dedication. one of the main reason why people divorce is because of misunderstandings due to hasty marriage with strangers (for whatever reasons).

how many people have you heard that got married and discovered AFTER marriage that their partner was a cheater, abusive, disrespectful, dishonest etc ?

MBJ...what is interesting that many young couples have parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents that has been married for decades and courted the old fashioned way. Yet many of these young couples can't even tell you what a decent marriage entails. They can't even write 5 pages about their partner truthfully.

I find that troubling.

jakeng: Thanks bro, we didn't even know each other from Adam, we both met 4 days ago. She lives in the vicinity where I was supervising a building project.
When I asked her why she loves me this much and why she wanted us end up as husband and wife, she said she doesn't even know d reason why she loves me this much. She further said that not that am a terrific dresser or I drive a big car.

She has told on herself when she mentioned physical signs of you. She is a gold digger in the making. Consider yourself warned.

Come now! Come now! Fresh from America! I got demonic dirt that will literally change your life!

Are you holy and decent? You must try my demonic dirt if you want to love-vendor your babies!

Only $560 USD!

Yes. It's their marriage not yours.

Honesty and awareness free from ignorance rocks!

Lol@this dishonest poster STILL in denial.

Officer don't shoot! America made me kill my wife! I was a good African until I came to America officer!

Nosu: @all; thanks for ur view, I total agree wit those that will do that based on tangible reason but without a good reason, I wouldn't allow that.

Like I said before now, when I got to know abt her intention, we trash out the issue that very moment.

The 1st thing I realised is she just wanted to keep the name without any serious reason.

A lot of ladies tell u wat is the big deal abt the surname and I tell them, if there is no big deal y keep the name.

A lot of marriage today crashes today because attention wasn't given to small issues.and pls don't forget this, it is small cracks that becomes big holes tomorrow.

For me, if a lady can't leave her attachment to her home( without a cogent reason) then that tells me a lot abt who she is.

Lack of surname changes is not a valid reason for divorce.

The reason why marriages fail is the increase of immature and cerebral simps marrying without being able to effectively recite the definition of decent marriage.

Lol@boys crying and whining over surnames!

Children getting married these days is a sign that the world is dying!

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ sadly, most totos get busted after childbirth......some getting tight again after it, but never to regain the sweetness of that said toto. sometimes just seeing the toto get enlarge from the baby head is enough to turn a man off for life!

I take it that you have a toto?

MRbrownJAY: ^^i am simply telling her the undiluted truth.

You are telling me what you think is the truth.

Hmmm. I am willing to bet you met him online right?

debrief08: Did I celebrate my divorce?
No I cried and cried even attempted suicide.
Do I regret that I left? No I don't even my Ex admits that I might have died either from heart break or extreme abuse if I stayed.

Do I wish it worked out and we lived happily ever after? Yes I did, I wish I had only one marriage.

Do I regret the life I have now? Heck No. I have the best husband, kind, smart obedent kids, A man who supports me through sickness and health, a man who makes crazy sacrifices unbeliveable things just to make me smile.

Am I happy that I left, Yes, I look back and I am happy I was bold enough to leave and survive.

I still feel down sometimes, I wonder if I will go to heaven sometimes, I have doubts, but I also love God and I know He has made ALL things work together for my good.
I am no saint but I try not to hurt people, I know the Joy, peace and Happiness I have today can only come from God.

If people would have preferred me dead or miserable just so they can fill in their statistics of people who stayed married na them sabi.
Na me wear cloth know where tear, know which side dey bite.

I commends you and happy life!

Cheers!

yellowpawpaw: Why won't I celebrate it if I hv been inside hell fire on earth. Not only me,my family and friends will join me.
Maybe u guys hv not seen abusive marriage. it spills over to the children.pop champagne.

If he was good to you at the beginning and later turned against you.. it would be a celebration indeed!

However there are women who must marry or die trying. Some knew the men were no good and still marry. Some pretended things will change and bail. Men and women have equal accountability for their marriage but if one is not present...what can you do but divorce.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^after a few children, no exercise can make that toto feel as day one. none!

Just because your baby mimmas toto busted doesn't mean all totos are busted after birth.

That's like saying after 40 all dicks go to hell.

MRbrownJAY: kegel exercise wont turn your toto into a brand new spanking toto. as much as it may be sweeter than cherry pie TODAY, after a few yrs that wont be the case, and any disease infected toto would be better than yours.....simply because it would be new.

so in 20/30yrs, the only person who will ultimately enjoy that "now" recycled toto of yours (thatnks to Kegel) is your new lover.....unless you rather live a miserable life and stick to your uninterested husband.

Good thing about opinions that is it not a reality.

My kegalized toto would be enjoyed by my husband for decades to come.

Come to momma Chima.

We need to be honest about marriage and not sugarcoat the ugly truth either.

Just because someone has been married for decades means NOTHING.

Relationship in itself is hard. You have to work with another set of mind that differs from yours. It takes dedication, communication, respect, compromise, compassion, understanding, and loyality on both sides.

We need to be truthful with ourselves and change our pathology to realism.

Eiregirl: What about just having some respect for your yourself, your wife and the vows taken in marriage? If you don't want to commit to one woman, don't get married, SIMPLE!

True.

MRbrownJAY: wait till he has mounted you a few good yrs, the toto has lost all its elasticity, tittays are reaching your belly button and the "fun" is gone in the bedroom.....and see how easy he will let you have some fun on the side (and vice versa)

MBJ....you make me sick.

I can get my titties tucked if start swanging! My toto will never lose its beauty...kegal is my friend.

Chima would never give me permission to cheat. He is too territorial.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Nah, she doesn't. She was just being sarcastic. [/quote]Damn I am good.

They are okay.

shaybe baby: As a woman, you are better spending your years learning how to ask"how high does my husband want me to jump?", suspend your reasoning and believe that happiness is something you must sacrifice at the altar of marriage, as long as you are married, which one be happiness again? The very fact that you are someone's mrs is the most women can achieve and without it, women are nothing. How dare anyone pursue happiness if it's not found in marriage?

Even you didn't believe the bullshit you have posted.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Damn!

I need a copy of whatever Nollywood / African Magic movies you've been watching.

Care to recommend any to a sister, Shaybe? [/quote]Lol.

bukatyne: I sincerely refuse to believe all blacks are 'saints' till they come in contact with whites

The truth is that worse happens in Nigeria but our Police being very 'efficient' do not track most crimes.

How many white leaders would syphon the money meant for pensioners and go free if it goes public? Bill Clinton almost lost his marriage and position because he had an extra-martial affair. Do you think Jonathan sexcapedes will affect his position? Who cares about such anyways? What of people killed daily for rituals? Or raped? Or daily perverted justice?

Let's stop painting blacks as mindless fools who absorb anything from whites.

The white society is only more sincere while we are very pretentious and hypocrites.

If we are NOT satisfied with their morals, abeg let's move back home emasse! It is a sign of ingratitude to criticize your host.

Big kiss on the mouth. No homo!

Honesty and awareness free from ignorance rocks!

debrief08: Yes oh Divorcees are total failures, they are better off writing "letters from the grave" then we can celebrate them
A dead spouse is far more better than a living divorcee.
I will print the fliers

Put them in bold colors!

lovemychild: Am 27 weeks pregnant and i cant afford to take care of myself fianancialy cos i dont have anything doing yet.

my boyfriend who is the father of my child walk away cos he said he's not ready to be a father yet, that he has his career to pursue.

i actually never wanted to keep this pregnancy, but he convinced me to keep it, but just of a recent, he said he's scared that we should remove it. which i agree with him. we went to the hospital and met a doctor who adviced us to keep it. that i may die in the process.

since then, he stop calling me, visiting and even stop picking my calls. I've been so depressed and scared. i don't have money to even go for antenatal not to talk of what to use and take care of my baby when i give birth.

i've really disappointed my mom and my two younger brothers and don't know what to do. since last week i started thinking of giving out my baby for adoption, but i don't know how to go about it.

my question is:
1. does the thought of given out my child for adoption makes me a terrible mom to be?

pls if u know of any legal organization or foundation in abuja that can adopt my child for a year so that i can come back and get my baby, pls let me know and if u have any advice or help, pls advice me.

pls dont judge me nor condemn me. i already know i did wrong by not been careful, believing in promises that easily failed me and given out my trust to love . thank u

No you are not a terrible mother but rather a sensible mother.

I am for adoption and commends you greatly. God bless you!

AmberDelRio: Hi. My name is Amber. I recently got married to a Igbo man. I love my husband very much but I feel like he is hiding some things from me. I have been honest with him about the good bad and ugly with myself but I just can't shake this feeling of hidden things. I am now starting to question weather he loves me for me or if he would just like a green card. Should I go searching for information or just let it be?

Give us more information so we can help if not you have wasted time.

If a surname is more important than ensuring prosperous marriage in all areas of life then marriage isn't for you.

Trust and believe that marriage is not easy and it would be more difficult things to worry about than surnames.

You need to make sure that you and spouse are compatible to withstand bullshit as it comes or you will fail.