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Some people kiss with eyes opened and some kiss with eyes closed.

It is that important or would it make a difference?

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]What? [/color][/quote]Nothing baldy

[quote author=fresh_dude]You see, even you admit that both sexes complain aboutt their partner. It's not a male or female thing ma'am, it's a human thing. What doesn't add up is people not understanding the meaning of unconditional love, mutual respect, sacrifice, compromise, tolerance, etc, and the importance of these qualities to the sustenance of relationships. Everybody goes into relationships with a chip on their shoulder and gender stereotypes which is to a large extent encouraged and amplified by the media. Relationships will record huge success rates when:
1.People begin to relate selflessly.
2.People understand that noone is perfect and that if the expect their partner to take the shtt they better be prepared to take their partners' shtt as well.
3.It doesnt matter whose right or whose wrong so:
i.Correct your partner in love.
ii. When corrected be humble enough, and proud enougj to accept responsibilty for your actions and apologise sincerely.
4.Your partner is entitled to get angry at you when you wrong them
5.Etc, etc, etc.[/quote]I agree that both sexes complain about their life, relationship, and their lack of. However, you stated that men sacrificed a lot for their partners hence my last comment.

We also need to take note of what they are sacrificing before we can give merit.

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]Na. . . Looking out for La paris. . .[/color][/quote]

La Parisienne: He's fine, just a little bit busy. Btw, am I not ur sugar too

I am only allowed to have one chick....Rokaitu is my boo at the moment. She is about to be replaced soon.

[quote author=~Killz~] [/quote]Jealous?

Just tell her no and thank you.

La Parisienne: Lolling. . .

Where is my suga, Marc Anthon?

Mache

Hmm.

It is always a nigga that place blame on a woman for a man's decision to cheat. No one can make ANYONE cheat even with a gun pointed to their temple.

Cheaters should accept responsibility for their lack of self control and regards to sanitation.

[quote author=fresh_dude]You say men are not willing to work on their partners, that makes you not just luckyy but highly favoured. I say this because your fiance is the only man willing to work on his (future)partner and bring out the best in her. Take a look at the romance board and see @Unbranded0029's post and see that MAN has sacrificed a lot to build up his partner. The moral of the story?Avoid sweeping generalisations, thank you.[/quote]If men has sacrificed a lot to build up their partners, you wouldn't see many females complaining about their husbands, boyfriends, and fiances. You also wouldn't see men complaining about the women they are with only respects them when money is involved.

Something isn't adding up boo boo.

bukatyne: @mrs chima: i m sure that if it were to be hamsky's male friend that were to be a control freak, he won't have made such a statement! men re not ready to work in their partners! no investment, saving etc but they want to reap MASSIVE dividends in terms of 'perfect' wife! have they checked/worked on themselves? do they know the flaws they have n re willin to improve? re they willing to help their women be better people? bring out the best in her? refine her in love? they just jam money n next thing, they re thinking of acquirin a beautiful washin/sex/baby making/cookin machine! let them sit down n learn wat it means to be a husband jor!

I hear you!

That's so sad when a manbitch has to create another username to chat with himself. He is earning his first of the month check!

omosexy1: Its funny how people from a million miles away comment and generalize about other people. Someone just woke up (Sandy Jo or Ho) and proclaim that there is no water in Nigeria (na wa oh; that woman dey drink OMO). I also wonder why Mrs. Chima delights herself by insulting almost everyone on this forum. Hmmmm the bubbles of OMO these people dey drink sef abi dem dey high on alomo bitter

Yeah, you keep on wondering boo boo.

You aren't offended by my comments are you?

bukatyne: @hamsky, everyone is a work in progress. if we re not control freaks, we re rude, selfish, liars, greedy, cuttin corners etc etc. if her hubby to be knows she's a control freak, he can help her if he really loves her. afteral, loving someone esp in a relationship/marriage is an investment! d dividends re numerous. since d gal knows, then d prob is half solved. showing her wit love that she can't control al situations or that when she orders him around, it hurts him would also go a long way. the man can also commit her to God in prayers n see d wonders He ll do. so she doesn't need a toy, just a man ready to love her unconditionally. ow re u? be blessed!

Be easy now, Ms Buka! You checked his arse.

The emboldened was beautifully executed.

bukatyne: @mrs. chima: ow re u n ur family? na wa o! u just picked my posts n dissected it! if i didn't know better, i would say that u re a surgeon of ideas! lol! i wonder y people really don't read their Bibles! i have read wat love is n ma, it is woaw! if any man practices dat, his marriage would be heaven on earth b'cos when u please ur wife, she would be outdoin herself to please u! wat is even been assertive? was deborah in the Bible not an assertive woman? the most important thing is havin d Spirit of God! have a splendid day! regards to ur family!

That's me, the dissector!

We are doing great and blessed. Thanks for asking Ms. Buka! Congratulations on your engagement and may you and your hubby to be have HOLY SPIRITED FILLED marriage and prosperity.

When you have a man that is filled with the holy spirit, you can't go wrong! I agree with you that when a man loves his wife according to the holy spirit, the wife will do anything to please her husband. Why would a woman please a man that doesn't respect, love, cherish, understand, and value her?

Would you expect your husband to be to respect, value, love, cherish, and understand you if you aren't willing to do the same for him? I am sure your answer will be no.

Relationship is a two way street and it is about PLEASING EACH OTHER in every sense of the way and not just sexually. Marriage takes loads of work, but when two people are on the same page spiritually, it is BEAUTIFULLY ORGASMIC!

Good men are definitely harder to find or come by these days.

Onegai: @ mrs. Chima: thanks for your comment about why guys are agreeing with me, because they want my email. Sadly your method of attracting a man or husband are not mine.
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You are exactly right, we have different methods regarding to men, because I don't need to sell wolf tickets to get or attract a man. I have a delicious and cream of the crop man.

You are entitled to worship YOUR man however you see fit, it has NOTHING to do with me and mine. My husband and I are MATURE adults and we aren't into childish games. I respects my husband as the head of the house and he respects me as the neck of the house and WITHOUT collaboration between us, the family is divided. We both put our Creator before each other for either one of us can save each other during judgement day. We got this.

My last comment regarding worship still remains.

Oh lawd! She called MBJ out!

dbabahimse: Its so funny the way people interprete the bible to suit the situation at hand. In those days you were referin to, do u realize that the husband were not like most men nowadays? The bible did not say you should turn your wife to a corporate slave. The bible only say she should respect the husband and not fear him. Men of then will provide everytin the woman needs and all d woman do is attend house chores but nowadays, the woman brings home income just like the husband and does virtually wot the husband does yet the husband still abuses her, maltreat her and make her life miserable and unhappy. The question now is, is it right as a woman to stay in an unhealthy relationship where you do all ur responsibilities diligently yet your husband cheats on you, he beats you and makes you unhappy for the rest of your life.

We guys say we want this and that but the truth is respect is reciprocal and for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. If u treat your wife badly, she should be able to tell you that and if you persist she faces the brutal facts and frees herself frm the shackles of oppression and captivity. DO TO OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU.

(opens your legs) Yeah! You are a man!

Thank you!

shymmex: I'm back with my stories .. I know some folks are bored of my stories, but I'm a perfectionist - and I seek perfection everyday, in everything I do in life.. I know if I don't open up about certain things I'm confused about - and brainstorm with people, who may have been through similar experiences in the past, I'll continue to make the same mistake.. We all learn new things everyday, and I'm on here to seek knowledge...

I've never been in a 'perfect' relationship, and it seems I'm too complicated for every girl I have ever gone out with (I'm a capricorn, and you know how we get down )...

I'll like to know if anyone has ever been in a 'perfect' relationship..

No one is in a perfect relationship and never will be.

SAFO: Not gonna happen but if it did, I'm still the head of the household so the final decision rests with me. Now if you have a man freeloading off his woman and not working at all, he should have no say. Matter of fact, he should be castrated and stoned for being a lazy s.o.b

I don't know any man that can idly stand by and let his woman be the bread winner of the family. It's a disgrace.

Even if you are the head of household, your decisions doesn't just affect you. Just saying.

SAFO: Yes I like an assertive woman and some trivial matters i will defer to my wife if her judgement is better. But at the end of the day, I'm the bread winner in my house and it's going to be my call.

If she doesn't like it, She can leave.

When you make that call and it doesn't work, then accept responsibility for it not working.

bukatyne: @onegai: it seems u didn't read my first post well. i said if one is a christian with the fruits of the Holy Spirit(developing them), the person ll have some characteristics that i mentioned above. as someone said, find the man that suits u. that is wat courtship is for. the problem with we christians is that we don't read our Bibles or those that read select the part they read and don't even practice it. as a christian, what again should i use to pass across my points if not the Bible? i know i am not perfect and i am telling God to work in me daily. i am not the type of christian that mixes the way of God with culture. i always thrive to do wat is right irrespective of wat the culture says. i m not desperate to get married or ready to disobey God for my marriage to work, however, i m praying that God makes me the wife of prov 31: 10 - 31, my hubby 1cor 13: 1 - 8 and help us both to develop daily the fruit of the Holy Spirit. If God knew that a man cannot love his wife selflessly, He wouldn't have wasted His precious time saying so. P.S.: my hubby to be doesn't drink and IF he tells me such, i ll look for 100 things for us to do than him going out to drink. if i can't stop him from falling, what is the my use as a wife? have u read Ecc where solomon was talking about marriage/companionship? if the husband/wife is falling (doing something wrong/sinful), it is the duty of the wife/husband to bring the other back in line with love. as to jezebel been in everything her husband is doing, that is the right thing because they are one. the only wrong thing is that they were doing the wrong things. what of acquilla and priscilla? were they not always together? waht is the use of marriage if a woman is to be on the sidelines? however, each man to his/her own. have a splendid day!

Damn! Keep it coming!

Many people are part time Christians.

bukatyne: @onegai: a man cannot love like Jesus Christ but he is expecting total submission from the wife? lol! what a double standard! get this: Christ loved the Church perfectly even when we didn't know Him and now we did, how many people can boast of total sudmission to Jesus Christ? No single body! show me a man that says he has no sin and i ll show u a pathetic liar! read Eph 5:21 - end to know the biblical roles of husband and wives. read 1cor13:1 - 8 to know what God expects from husbands and prov 31:10 - 31 to know what He expects from wives. However, we are al work in progress so nobody is perfect. God Bless you!

Oh my goodness!

It is funny how people can say that women should TOTALLY submit to man but NOT ONE CAN TOTAL COMMIT TO God?

Keep it coming!

bukatyne: @onegai: pls read your Bible well before saying some things! king xeres never told Esther to display her beauty; she was contesting to be the queen. read down n u ll see that when she needed to go to the king, she damned the consequences of been showing up without been summoned: that is not I-ll-do-anything-you-ask attitude1! it is if-i-perish-i-perish attitude! God blessed everyone wit common sense and i-m-pleasing-my-husband will not save u in God's sight if He finds you doing something wromg! if Sapphira could turn back the hands og time, she would have preferred to be 'kicked' out of ananias house than be the i-ll-please-my-king type of wife and end up in hell fire. if a woman would have problems, she would if she is assertive , aggressive or nice easygoing. don't get me wrong, if u read my previous post, u ll see that i don't support having an attitude or been rude. a woman should be submissive to her husband as long as what he decides is reasonable or not a sin. in an ideal home, the husband and wife would table the issues, make decisions and they pick the best one. afteral, it is for the both of them. everyone would be judged individually on the judgement day so the most important thing is pleasing God. for example: if God tells you as a lady not to wear trousers, u tell ur guy and he agrees. then years later, he says 'baby, i want you to wear trousers when we go out for occasions', what will you do? run and put them on because you want to save your home or be a submissive wife? there is a limit to everything. God bless you!

Sadly some women will put man before GOD. We also have to take in account that not everyone is a believer. Even the devil can quote scriptures. So we have to consider the source of whom we are talking to.

You made an excellent point about if God commands you to do something and your husband may disagree, who are you going to serve then? Common sense is definitely lacking on this thread.

lurkee: Every man is different.

Gbam!

cowgurl: [size=44pt]Now u'v js raised deir 'ego' a notch.[/size] For moi, 'l worship a guy hu deserves 2 b worshipped not an arsehole. It's y am into talkin wit d guy first so WE both can mak compromises b4 we begin. Let's bring our principles (cos 'v gat myn) 2 d table n talk abot it lik matured minds n blif me wen dis is done, d relationship is heavenly 4 both. It's been workin 4 moi thus far.

That's exactly what she did and thus they are falling all over the computer hoping to get her email.