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MsDarkSkin: https://www.nairaland.com/521836/21-year-old-tokunbo-okuwoga-arrested-murder



good point.
killing is cross cultural and happens everywhere.

Nigeria would progress further than they are if they learn to accept that their shit stank just as bad as the rest of us.

Would it make him less of a ho if the girl was Asian?

Good Girl: Good for you. Besides being beautiful, make sure she's rich too.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]LMAO!!! I did not notice o. . .[/color]

pendo89: ~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima,

@ chima.dd ur husband write the above article??

No. There are thousands of Chima's out there.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Hell NO!!![/color]

Why not?!!!

Men have multiples wives....how come women can't have multiple husbands?!!!

jason2010: This sounds like some American type 5hit. Most niger guys in Nigeria do not have baby mamas (without being married) all over the place like that.

You couldn't even say that without lying. You don't have to lie to kick it.

If it is an "American" thing....then why so many White "Green Card" babies with African daddies that is absent or with their other wives in Africa?

Why did YOUR Nigerian President has to threatened to enforce a law that a man can't leave his pregnant girlfriend? (not wife)

What is the point of the threat if it is an American thing?

Or is it the dumb African thing?

musawisdom: Walk away. Final answer, no 50-50, no fone-a friend

Who wants to be a millionaire.

Can she ask the audience?

Babzz: Is that what you think a wife is? Mrs. Chima sounds like she never wants to get married.......

Do you need Hook on Phonics?

Read my lips slowly.....

OP asked what is the different between THREE BABY MOMMAS by one man and THREE WIVES by one man?

I responded.....

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Thats a very good question.

Both groups are being bleeped/used by a doggish male-ho.[/quote]Now what the Bleep does that quote have anything to do with definition of a wife as in SINGULAR and what the Bleep I want in MY PERSONAL LIFE?

shymmex: I'm just trying to find out because it seems all the chics I've been with tend to spend more on me than I do on them. I'm not broke - I'm a baller, and a stunner - but all the chics I've been in a relationship with, don't really like it when I buy them things. They'd rather spend on me, than the other way round.

Fellow nairalanders, I'll like to know what you guys and girlies finna think, dun know.

It is not a bad thing if she doesn't have an issue with spending on her boyfriend...however she must accept that she could potentially being used only as an ATM girl.

If you are marrying yourself you can invite all 100 of your exes....however if you are marrying a man or a woman, you need to respect your partner by allowing him or her to have a say so about who comes to the wedding.

Why marry a person, you have no respect or love for?

HIV/AIDS is global.

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]To cut the long story shut, ZIP UP!!! Abstain, and if married, stick to your marriage partner like glue!

NEXT!!![/color][/quote]I can have two husbands right?

TisaBone: Exactly! That's a choice that the women make. a woman doesn't have to be wife number two. no one makes her. just like you can't only blame these men with all these bm's. That woman chose to lay down with that man. I choose not to lay down with a man until I have a ring on my finger, therefore I'm saving myself a whole lot of heartache and pain. Now as far as any potential husband having multiple children by multiple women, that's the equivalent of saying that a woman with a "past" doesn't deserve love and marriage, because of what she USED to do and who she USED to be.

That's is true about the choice. I don't see how women can knowingly sleep with a man that is sticking his dick in multiple women regardless if he is "married" to her. That's bleeped up how a woman can sit by the window and count the days her "nassy arse" hubby will reunite with her.

I found that many women who are in polygamous marriage do not work because they are taking care of their children and older wives' children as well. Some wives are excommunicated from the group for various reasons and the younger wives have to take in the children because the women do not have rights to their children upon divorce. Which is sad and bleeped up.

Some polygamous wives have home businesses however their main role is to take care of their rotating husband and plethora of babies. I can see that many of the reap the benefits of having their husbands gone for a few days however...who to say the other wives are infection free?

There is no difference between a woman with a bunch of kids by multiple men and a men with a bunch of kids by multiple women. I know some people can't keep their legs closed long enough to slide on a rubber.....but damn.

MsDarkSkin: SmGDh....thats cold.

Did he say for days wearing one underwear?

Don't the cooch itch/smell after one day?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Why haven't you replied? [/color]

Oh! On my way there!

Aren't wife number 2 and 3....cultural legal baby mommas?

See ladies...that's why you need to screen who you are fucking and WEAR PROTECTION for every Bleep unless it is your monogamous husband. Real talk.

TisaBone: tell me this. what's the difference between three baby's mama's and three wives?

Thats a very good question.

Both groups are being bleeped/used by a doggish male-ho.

LMAO@cotton hair being Black men's dreams.

Then why many of those dumb nutheads chase those with "horse and dog" hair?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Bed!
I'm a damn fine cook, i'll teach her how to cook! Kitchenology 101 [/color]

I find it funny how some men would call women who decides to support themselves feminist but then run after those very women when they are hungry and desperate.

liyah27: True... But he would not tell her anything bad. Thanks for the input.

How do you know? Are you on every phone calls he made to his mother? As I said...you don't know what has been said between the two.

Keep making excuses and ignore the elephant in the room.

liyah27: Also, just out of curiosity, not at all that this is the intent for us, how do viewpoints shifts if couples have children together?

The viewpoints will still be the same. If someone doesn't like you or want you....the amount of children will not change that.

liyah27: Well I haven't ever met his mother, so I'm confused as you might imagine.

You don't have to meet his mother in order for your boy to tell his mother about you. He doesn't have an international calling card?

You also don't know what he has been saying to his mother about you and for her not to like you WITHOUT meeting you IS A BAD SIGN.

Then again...you have a choice...you can deal with the mother not liking you and marry the boy you "love" or you give yourself a heart attack worrying about why the mother don't want her son to marry you.

The choice is yours.

Good Girl: The Nigerian government should form a Commission of Inquiry to address this phenomena because it has clearly become a national disaster which calls for some urgency. You'll see another couple soon. Watch the space.

Come on now! They are picking nice and young looking women.....Nigerian Style.

MsDarkSkin: [size=38pt]^^YANNO!!![/size]
Glad you did, but I wasn't about to explain the hair shows to her. It's no use nor should it be any of her concern for that matter.

Well...it wasn't just necessarily for her but all ignorant side spectators who feel inclined to agree with her/his bullshit.

acidtalk: Were you the stripper or just an observer

None of your business.

liyah27: Hello all, I am new to this site and so far have found some threads to be very helpful.

So here it is. For the last two years I have been dating the most amazing Nigerian man (age 29). I am Mexican (Spanish and English speaking), Christian and 27 years old. I was born and raised in the U.S. My boyfriend was born in Nigeria and is Igbo. His family has strong roots in Christianity. He was raised all over the world, with most of his teen years and adult hood living in the states. He has grown siblings who also live in the states. Two of his siblings are married to Nigerian spouses. One of his siblings is dating an American bi-racial lady. My boyfriend's mother lives between Nigeria and the states. Sadly, his father has passed. I have met his siblings (and they have been nice and accepting), but not yet his mother. My boyfriend's mother believes he needs to be with a Nigerian, Igbo woman and feels very strongly about this. So much so that she and some of his other relatives have attempted and nearly succeeded at running my boyfriend's brother's bi-racial, non-Nigerian girlfriend away. Recently my boyfriend and I have made plans to spend our future together, not so much an engagement, but planning to move to another state together and move in together. He told his mother and family of these plans and it has been horrible. She does not approve and is very vocal to him about this, getting many relatives to call him and tell him how our relationship will not work, how I will not be accepted, how he needs to be with a Nigerian woman to fully be included in his family. His relatives go on to tell him that he will not be happy with me that he has to be with a Nigerian women because after all love feelings fade the "family" (meaning mother, siblings and extended family) is what will keep a couple together. My boyfriend's mother calls him and tells him "you need to break up with her, you have three days" and then will go weeks without talking to him because of me. My boyfriends siblings are passive about it, and some feel he should follow his heart and the other siblings feel he should follow their mother's word.

My boyfriend and I are so much in love. We have both never been in love like this. We have looked at all avenues, have cried over this and have thrown our hands up over our heads in defeat. He feels this may be a losing battle because if we continue on this path we will both be made miserable. He feels it could get so bad as to them showing up at our house and throwing me out. He has been told stories recently of his relatives shutting people out because they chose to marry outside of their culture and tribe. He doesn't want this for our future and feels he will be heartbroken when/if we stay together and I am constantly not accepted and made fun of and outcasted. He feels he cannot stand up to them, nor do I want him to have to choose sides. It feels we have hit a brick wall and I know he is ready to give up. We both WANT very much to be together and both LOVE each other and both can imagine a happy future together if his family would accept me and accept us together.

Is there anyone who has been through this? Anyone who relates and has a similar family structure? Anyone who has been with an American and got their family to accept their partner. We want so much to work and love one another whole heartedly. But it hurts to feel our future may be doomed.

I thought I could contact his mother and talk to her candidly. He does not feel this is a good idea. I want to respect her and Nigerian Igbo culture. I love this man so much and respect him and his family. I want to be with him and him with me. I am committed to learning and celebrating the culture, to visiting, to doing whatever we can. I just don't feel it's over or that we should give up.

I am so heartbroken over this and trying to figure out what the best thing to do is. We love each other so much. Family is very important to both of us and cutting anyone out is just not an option. Any honest open advice would be greatly appreciated. Things we can do together and things I can do to gain acceptance into this amazing culture and family...ideas please!

Thanks!!

There are thousands of Igbo families with mixed culture and ethnicities family members....It has nothing to do with YOUR ETHNICITY...they just don't like YOU. Your choice....leave it or deal with it.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ you should try, but if it doesnt work then you shouldnt waste time......and simply do whatever you have both chosen and start to be HAPPY and POSITIVE again. remember that if your man choses to be with you then he should do so wholeheartedly and not 50/50......... as it seems that HE is the weakest link. you best be sure about what he REALLY wants (not to SAY it to you but to SHOW you)

btw what about your family, how do they view this whole issue of interracial marriage?

I agree with the weakest link part but what do we really expect a weak nigga to do? If he is so concerned with his family and how they perceived of her then he doesn't love her.

I also want to say that there is a big difference between lust and love. You can lust someone so much that it becomes delusionalized love that it isn't real.

If someone love you the way they should love you....THEY WILL SHOW IT not just say it and depend on their families to speak for their life.

Sometimes I wonder if people understand the dynamics and fundamentals of love. I also want to stress there is also a difference between conditional love and unconditional love.

Good Girl: Is it that these men have been marrying old white women since time immemorial; or has it become more rampact lately? It's like this is the season for strong, young men to hit the European jackpots! I mean c'mon! Life can't be that bad in Nigeria?

[b]Males [/b]are born everyday, but [b]men [/b]are getting extinct. Really sad.

Damn!

I guess that is the beauty of being a populace nation.