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[quote author=Ms. Potato link=topic=701615.msg8612648#msg8612648 date=1309324972]ANyone in particular you always see doing it?


I dont mean loading the picture in your profile I[b] mean like creating a thread and asking people question like, Please view my picture? Am I handsome enough[/b]? That kinda question[/quote]There you go! That's one of the "actions" and I will share more as time progresses. I swear we twins!

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kokoye:
Jamaican yams babyyy . . .that's why I can run real fast right now

How you be?

Whatever Negro! When I drop these babies I will be running faster than you!

I be good and you? Missed you.

livedit:
I'm in agreement with my girl Mrs. Chima.  By this age, I'm sure fatherhood is clear in his mind.  But he is wrong for trying to "trick" and/or pressure you into having a child.  Children are no joke and that's a life changing experience.  And if you can help it, you should make sure to be well prepared in advance to take on such a responsibility.  Raising and taking care of children is more than just combing their hair, playing with them and kissing them.  There is alot more involved in that and needs mature responsible parents to raised them, to teach them and take care of them.  You barely know each other (from what you wrote) and he is riding your back already.  Why not take the time to get to know each other?  You nor he even know if you two are even capable of having children?  He wants you to have his child, but you two haven't even met each other's parents or nothing?  If you are a woman who wants to do things the right way, and get married FIRST before baring his children than you stick to your guns and do that.  Don't ever contridict who you are for no man!  You only setting yourself up for regret and failure down the line and all for what?  He is not the only man that walks this earth.  You need a man who will respect and honor your values and not always seek to fulfill his own selfish needs all the time.  You let him know the deal, stand your ground and if he decides to walk then let him walk.  Then that means he wasn't the one for you and keep it moving.

Please tell her ooo. That the problem with too many women that they put other MEN first before their well being. I mean if she is not listening to the CREATOR for guidance then she will be duped and LEFT ALONE to raise the child. I am not saying the man PER SE is a dog but he is doggish. Why would he wants to impregnate a woman he is not putting a ring on her finger?

Maybe Lice is right he check for fertility and if she is pregnant she will marry her if he hasn't been verified for a green card. Then again he could be the "good" guy but I wouldn't be bringing no babies in the world UNTIL I AM CONFIRMED by the MOST HIGH.

That's just me though. How you be by the way sis?

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=702023.msg8617332#msg8617332 date=1309369363]unfortunately, if it seems green card related, then it probably is.

sorry.

aka anchor baby which actually is a derogatory term.[/quote]I do agree.  It does sound a bit GREEN CARDISH.   I cannot stress this enough for the life of me!  CHECK BEFORE DIPPING AND DABBING LADIES! 

Check for them papers or TRUST THAT GOD has blessed you with a GOOD MAN.

coogar:
he wants to be sure he won't be spending the best part of his salary on ivf processes and stuffs. besides, he's 30, he probably has got mates/colleagues who are fathers at the moment and he's feeling left out in the fatherhood business. if you love him, get pregnant asap or another woman out there might do the deed for you thus condemning you to his second class citizen. as long as he's ready to marry you before the delivery of the child, you have not had a child out of wedlock.

OP do not fall for this bullshit. If he really loves you he will wait until you are ready. You seems like you are ready but wants to be married first and that is the smart WAY to go about it however wait until you both are ready and able to take care of a child or children.

You do not want to bring a child into the world still trying to figure out who is this man you are sleeping with. That's not a good way to live suga.

rokiatu:
  ;DROFL! Cork let me be. I am not in the mood for your dry jokes.

That was funny?

Hey wifey! How you be?

No means no.

kokoye:
Most guys who marry for such purposes DO NOT want to have a child involved. _{child support}

so . .wrong answer

They assumed because THEIR brothers suckered an American girl for sham marriage or pregnancy that all American girls can be suckered. \

Not all American girls are desperate and will date/marry someone that is not documented
Not all Scammers aren't prolific either. Sounds like we have a few scammer haters on this site too.

smootheb:
I'm an American girl dating a Naija guy in the US and everything in our relationship is good. We get along well and our personalities mesh. I love him, he's all that I want in a partner and I try to be all that he wants as well. It's still a relatively new relationship.

He's definitely in the mode of settling down, career which he loves, finishing up advanced degrees and he wants to purchase a home soon. I believe he wants a future with me, but he's REALLY open to the idea of getting me pregnant, he is very much like if it happens it happens, but I think he is hoping it does.

I have never been pregnant and I don't want to have a child out of wedlock. I told him that if it does happen I'd have a hard choice to face because I'm 28 and certainly don't want to have any abortion at this age but I don't want a child out of wedlock so unless he's ready for marriage we shouldn't be taking the risks we do. To that he says that yes we would get married soon after if pregnancy occurred and that it doesn't take long to get married it wouldn't be a big deal. But he seems to be more interested in possibly having a child right now than getting married, he knows of married couples where the woman couldn't conceive so I guess he's wary of that? He knows I'm healthy and never had any abortions so hopefully he doesn't have any impotency issues either!

Is it normal for a guy in his early 30s to know so fast that he wants a woman to be the mother of his child? Do you guys just wake up one day and the fatherhood bug catches you, LOL.

Would it not be a shameful thing for him to tell his family (who I haven't met yet) but might they think "this fast American girl got pregnant." My family would be upset but issue mitigated if we got married.

Is it customary for a man to only meet his girl's parents when they are ready for engagement, and vice versa?

First of all, you stated the relationship is relatively new and you need to take some time to get to know this guy BEFORE YOU talks of having children PERIOD. You haven't met his family and he haven't met your family but you guys are taking about marriage and children? Sound a little bit fishy to me but slow down and if he doesn't respect you enough to consider your feelings and fears then you may want to shop around for another "dick".

All dicks aren't good dicks.

Hottie TIma

If my husband EVER ask me can he have a second wife I will ask him can I have a second husband?

(crossing legs and sipping on Chamomile tea)

I have a fresh bowl of strawberry-banana salad. You want some suga?

KAYD007:


AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Mama Chima is born again!


at least a little about sound today!, am happy 4 u ooo!

Choke on these niggles.

kokoye:
She is the one 'chocking' herself.

If she wants you, she should say the word and stop confusing herself by expecting you to say it.

On the flip side, are you sure she really likes you for you? you mentioned she ignored you before you got the award

How's she chocking herself? She obviously made it CLEAR that she is interested in a steady relationship AND HE stated that he is not ready. WTF.

Koyoke, did they eat your pounded yams last night and you still pissed?

Just observing and seeing the rise of validation seekers that all.

Hmm.

I need to ask you this question because I noticed that you are observant like me. I have noticed too many people are seeking validation from Nairaland and its chatters. Why is that?

Do you think it an alarming result of low self esteem or the needs to be validated from others?

Hmm.

SMH.