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tom28:
Mrs Chima is what i would refer as the mad black woman

You still playing hide go seek with your brain?

Children!

Seun! Seriously? You changed cack to rooster?

Whoever said that Mr. Cock is like Dave Chap will be exterminated immediately.

tom28:
So you are married to a nigerian man and you are a black american woman?
I just hope your hubby treats you like a queen because you sound like a level headed lady.Your naija hubby is lucky to have you
PS: pls dont let Mrs Chima influence you with her i-am-a-strong-black-woman type of attitude.

You need Hook on Comprehension.  She is not married to her guy.  That's what dating means fool.   Yes, she is Black American so now you looks stoopid.  A minute ago you was preaching about how African men only using Black American women and Black American women only viewed as low class bitches in the society NOW SHYONE'S African boyfriend is LUCKY to have her?  WTF?  You are bipolar huh?   

I am glad YOU ARE NOT THE AFRICAN she is talking to. Ooh Lawd.

Where do you see me telling Shyone how to run her relationship?      Yes, I am a strong black woman and DAMN PROUD.  Secured black men have better things to do than to worry about YOU and your views on what's relationship should be about. 

Get a dummy just like you and you guys will live ever sadly after.      A strong Black/African INTELLIGENT woman wouldn't even spit on you if you were on fire.  Why would she settles for a bottom of barrel African when she can get top of the cream?   

pleep:
Wow. I read through the recent posts on this topic, and it seems to me like the prerequisit for becoming a female non-Nigerian nlander is a taste of yoruba manliness.

Almost all of you are dating yorubas, I bet even the Op is half yoruba. Dis ppl are multiplying ooo.

You counted three women and come to this conclusion? Go sat down!

MzDarkSkin:
[color=indigo]Kudos to you Shy-One. 

excellent point!!!

@Tom before I drop the subject and cease from further thread derailment, please take the time to
note one thing - one key thing in this 'rubbing of minds' segment. IF all or MOST AAs 'hated' Africans why
do you suppose we (Myself, Shy-One, Lived It, Chima) are on this site? I am sure you have heard of the infamous
'Mandingo' clown and his 'anti-African' bull but do you see any of us on this thread using the same language, tone,
or methods to put forth our points on the issue like Mandingo? No. So there is hope. There are plenty of spoiled apples in every orchard however you have to have spoiled ones to appreciate the good ones. It's like good and evil. Always an opposite. So please take it into consideration that not all of us are against Africa if that was the case the thousands of AAs and West Indians who have visited or repatriated to Africa physically and mentally would not exist. You are my brother at the end of the day and I have no hard feelings towards you. 
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(wiping Tom28 shit off my shoe) Caliente!

tom28:
And thats the same thing i am talking about.Whites refer to both AAs and africans as niggers so why do u AAs use such an insultive word to compliment each other?

Some Black Americans use it and some don't just like some Africans use it and some don't. Why are you worrying about what other people say? Does it bother you?

tom28:
You better
You better watch your blood pressure before you come up with a heart attack

Find an article of someone having high blood pressure calling YOU a dummy.

LMAO@typing dummy to a chatter leads to heart attack Where is that damn cat?

dayokanu:
Tpia is not wrong, I would marry Shyone before she even says yes

Tpia knows her shit!

Cuddlemii:
Mrs Chima,

Are you male or female? I think u need 2 take a look at your profile again.

I am a chatter. I looked at the profile. What about it?

MeandSum:
Does that mean all marriages from the same ethnic group succeed?

BTW, are you a guy or a girl. You seem confuse. You names says "Mrs" while your  profile says you are "Male"

Correction: You seems confused. I know what I am.

Refer to the bold

What does that have to do with my comment? My comment illustrates SOME people expecting other to congratulates them on their ability to marry outside their ethnicity or culture. It doesn't verify someone's love for another person from another circle. That's my point.

PureOhio:
Yh, what's up with that?

I was watching a show about weddings (four weddings) recently, and I kept wondering why they never say "that" at the end of the "I do's".

Must the Groom always kiss the bride? (lol)

Why can't I be the one to kiss the Groom?

Marriage/wedding is the oldest activity to date next to prostitution. Back in that time, women were SEEN and not heard so of course men would make it about them. But during your wedding, you can ask the priest to change the vow if you must.

It really not a big deal seeing you going to kiss anyway. On the second note, the vow wouldn't work on two gay men.

Tosinville:
Mrs.chima, so u still talk like a dead-brain woman till now? besides who's fcukkin' u? yo female neighbour? mumu.

Then why are YOU talking to me?  I see somebody finally scammed a recharge card.   


By the way Tom28's son, if I was brain dead I wouldn't be typing. DUH DUMMY.

Even if New York didn't approve or legalize gay marriages THAT IS NOT GOING TO STOP homosexuality.

Your next door neighbor is gay and you didn't know.

Mind your business it could backfire on you.

ZimAngel:
Thanks guys have never asked what tribe he's from. I will find out. I haven't got a clue.

But this also what I hear from my mates who married and dated naijaz.

I changed my mind coz I realized I will lose my sister if I carried on the way I was, her husband told her I was jealous and she started to believe it even stopped answering my calls. So I decided to just let it all go and just be there 4 her. Let her learn from her own mistakes.

That's the best thing you can do just be there for your sister. SOME people when they are desperate they will accept anything even knowing the person isn't for them. I am not saying YOUR SISTER specifically is desperate but her actions are desperado.

It is uncommon for Nigerian men not to provide for their family especially in the culture which they are reared from. The wives usually the home makers and often work if the husband's income isn't sufficient or unable to obtain a second job.

Depending on how long he has been without work could factor why he isn't working but if he screaming that he is the KING and are not earning his keep he isn't a real man. No offense.

kennygeorg:
married is not about ethnics, there is know descrimination in married,t the mentality of nigerian you most marry from you tribe or ethnics group, if you look at obama his father from kenya and married to white American now he is world no 1 citizen, if you look at ibb in nigerian his wife was an igbo ty danjuma his wife from east, so there is know descriminination in love the most important things is to pray that God should give you a good wife no matter the tribe she come from.

Some people do get married under false pretenses. Not everybody have an honest marriage.


Obama was raised by his white mother while his African father was in Kenya pretty much most of his life. He didn't grow up in a typical marital household. Not saying there is anything wrong with marrying who you wants but please let stop acting like we have to reward those who step out of their tribe or ethnicity.

It is not rocket science. Seriously. People kills me thinking oh I married an Indian look at me! Whoopsie dee do! Your ability to marry someone of another group doesn't have anything to do with your ability to love them properly.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=694530.msg8587686#msg8587686 date=1308998022]ok

I don't know about people in Indiana - I have been gone for over 10 years and just moved from Wisconsin the end of 2010 so I've been back in the area only a little over 6 months.  I have been closeted behind the walls of my business that I relocated from Wisconsin to Indiana  - preparing it to open to the public so I'm not sure what you are talking about regarding Indiana or lazy complainers.    What I spoke of - didn't have to do with location (where people are located) as I have lived in 16 different states in the U.S. and heard this in all of those locations.


No offense taken - You are Your Experience. (You are What you Eat) - When the Experience expands You Expand.[/quote]Sure Shyone.  (curling lips) 

Refer to the red

There is nothing like positive experiences!   It does the body good.    

You see that Tom28?  Don't let bad experiences expands you. 

ThiefOfHearts:
You cant be the largest amount with out of wedlock children and also be the same with the highest number of abortions, when people quote CDC, what they forget to mention is that unlike most minorities in the States, white people are more likely to have/afford private doctors, private doctors do not send in personal info on their patients like public clinics so the comparison isnt fair whatsoever

sue you? No reason to. I appreciate your approach

Thanks! The reference to black women having abortions were to show that not all black women wants to be single mothers alone without the help of the father or even with the help of the father. People assumed that black women wants to have children out of clear sky blue without the support of the fathers but when black men aren't taking care of their responsibilities what do the world expect black women to do? Sit around and wait until the nigga grow up? No. That's also explains why the are a decline in black on black marriage as well since 1950's.

Odunnu:
See how the table suddenly turned because it'l favour a guy.
I put up a thread some time back asking if I should tell a gurl his boyfriend (my colleague) impregnated another gurl even when their relationshp was heading to the alter. 80% of the response said I shouldnt. Whats the diff with ths now? Abeg tell, re-tell and keep telling jor. There's no reason not to tell.

The difference is that you asked hypocrites. If they told you to stay out of it then they should also tell this poster to stay out of it. It doesn't matter if it a man or a woman. People needs to learn to mind their business and let PEOPLE live their lives based to their abilities ALONE.

2buff:
what is it now madam?

and no I want to wife her.  The bleeping will happen afterwards.

Don't start nothing with me punk! I will cut you!

You just want her arse that all PERVERT!

ThiefOfHearts:
Lol Mrs chima, na you get time. More grease to your elbow sha. 

lol @ "they make more money that non-baby mamas" Some people will come up with the stupidest crap to make a point. 

I know I can be long winded at times but I GET STRAIGHT TO THE POINT though. I don't have time to be writing books and analogies online.

I know my straight to your face approach can rub people off the wrong way but hard truth isn't suppose to feel good at most cases.

(Sorry I just seen this and I know I am late responding!) Sue me!

ThiefOfHearts:
Shy_One, Not even joking now but please be quiet.

You sound  extra reetarded now

You were bashing Africans for being ignorant and closed minded for not being keen on marrying single parents, I gave proof that your special America also have people who think lowly of single parents esp single mothers

Now you are crying about grammar and crap which is hilarious seeing that the wordings of these people are no way worse than the garbage you see here on Nairaland. Only difference is that Seun no longer allows cuss words starting from last year. No bloody difference so sorry "boo boo"

I am amused by how bothered you are by all this though. Better ignore me before you end up with an aneurysm

Now that Im not a "factor" STOP responding. abi na by force?  

I must say that single mothers in America is like plague.  There are men who would date or marry a woman with children from previous relationship and many of these women aren't black because black women are having abortions like white on rice just like African women as well.  In America alone, 14 million black women committed abortions in 2002 according to CDC.  So if black women are having abortions in droves then how can black women be the largest percentage of single mothers HOWEVER black women are the largest percentage of unwedunwedn amongst White and Asian women. 

There aren't enough men to go around.  There are appropriately 8 women to 1 man in America.  People assumed that black women aren't desired in America which is false just like people assumed that majority of African men prefers white women and asian woAsianver their African women which also false as well.

Black women back in the day typically do not date outside of their "etnicityethnicityblack men will date whomever.   It has nothing to do with not being desired or "unmarriable".  If that was the case white, hispanic, and indian men Indian't be marrying to Black American women. It is the Black American women that prevented themselves from being married because they were waiting on the Black American men to step up. 

Now Black American women are dating outside of their group and finding love in other group of men.  Those Black American women that were waiting for the black man to step up were Being Intimate and bearing children out of wedlock which you have host of single mothers but they were targeted by abortion clinics to reduce the amount of black children in society.

Black American men aren't the only ones that think single mothers are a plague many ASIAN MEN will not marry a woman with children seriously.  Black men are just as bad as Asian men though so you are right which is funny because I agree they are the reason why those women have children out of wedlock!!!!!

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=695105.msg8578869#msg8578869 date=1308869023]hmmmm ok - lolololol - baby mama drama doesn't occur with everyone----those that act like talk show "horror episodes" has alot to do 1) uneducated and 2) youth who many times have very ghetto mentalities----let's hope that you date a single parent that has education and doesn't conduct themselves like the out of control individuals on television. Let's hope those who do date single parents choose those who operate from a base of quality. 

hahahahahah - girl you are something else. lololololol - gotta love ya Chima.


ok - nothing taken to heart - just responding to threads "like I always do" - Have a good Friday Chima -  [/quote]I hoped you didn't take it personal. According to you, you can't help you are interested in so if you are interested in someone who baby momma or baby daddy is not educated or have home training then WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Leave the person? Come on that is silly.

We ALL have a choice who we are interested in and SOME of us will take anything just to be with somebody. I have seen it happened many times and it is pathetic in my opinion.

Those characters on Maury show happens in real life and you know it. It is all good and those who are with single parents with children keep in mind it is not about you. The children will always come first in MOST cases be prepared that you may not be center of attention for a long time. (This is for everybody in single parent relationships)

Good luck!

I don't take NL men serious because it is ONLINE.

I am all for personal accounts and joint accounts. Joint accounts should be for bills and fees where personal accounts should be YOURS totally. Each party should put in same amount in the joint account if both are working. If one are working and other are working then some discussion going have to be made to determine the other spouse allowance and what shouldn't be taken out of the joint account.

Some couples do not like this idea because they feel it is hiding something but if you are not honest at all then what else would you lie about? The amount of kids you do have with another woman?

What kills me about these men on nairaland that they do not come straight and keeps it real.

I am not talking about just sex but keeps it real on ALL LEVEL.