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jay bee:
GBAM
Ain't nuffin like "I know what you did last summer"

You disgusts me so.

OP,

Does that bothers you?

Iice said it. There could be MANY REASONS we all can't speak for other people.

SA Goddess:
To those that wouldn't date single parents, does it mean you would want to be single and alone for life if your current husband/wife were to pass away? Would you be ok with the opposite sex/gender not looking in your direction because you already have children from a previous marriage/relationship?

Remember life happens and there are some factors that we do not have control over!!! Not everyone is a single parent because they were whoring around and the partner ditched them for something "better". . . . . .anyway, to each their own. . . . . . .

Again, what's this got to do with someone choice not to date or marry single parents? If that happens would that still CHANGE someone's preferences? No, it wouldn't. There would always be people who wouldn't date someone who is broke, ugly, fat, disabled, a specific religion, lives in a certain part of the world, and host of others.

Single parentism aren't the only issue. There are tons of other adversaries that prevents people from dating or entering a marriage.

Employment
Finances
Religion
Education status
Family Heritage
Health status

Let's keep it real and ACCORDING TO YOU if people shouldn't have an issue dating a single parent then people shouldn't have an issue dating someone with HIV infection. It all about preferences.

I remembered on one thread Shyone stated that she wouldn't bother with HER DUDE IF HE dances like Brother Franklin in church. That's her preference and NO ONE JUMPED ON HER ABOUT IT.

It is contradictory to the fullest.

[quote author=shy-one. link=topic=695105.msg8569298#msg8569298 date=1308755388]Thanks

Intellect ---- you possess a great deal as it is obvious that you clearly see the difference between "being defensive" and directing your response to others on a forum.

Some people live their lives as "mimes" --- when called upon to read it vexes them so it spouts them to anger.  They are so used to giving such little effort in their daily lives that when they run across others who devote time and concerted attention to topics such as these, it plagues them to THE POINT THAT IT turns them into negative individuals who shoot venom and just want to argue as they don't want to see your point(s) and they don't want anyone else to see your points either.  So they start turning the thread(s) into something unrecognizable in their efforts at temper tantrum time.

You then get to really see a different side of that writer.  Whereas on different threads they look attractive and then on this thread they turn quite ugly.  We get to see all their different colors.

They could have simply clicked "ignore" - as they don't like reading, maybe they don't know that "ignore" is an option for them.[/quote]You should have did the same thing but you didn't so pot calling the kettle black.   Tsk. Tsk.

Don't take what people say to heart it is very draining. It is not worth it.

jontoyin:
I can consider him if is rich.

Of course! Just kidding.

[quote author=shy-one. link=topic=695105.msg8568526#msg8568526 date=1308749045]@ Chima:

I agree about the "collective responses" - everything that is posted on a public site is for the benefit of anyone reading it-----so that they can see what others in the world are doing and expand their options and make better choices.

Also, I doubt on any level that to date and marry a "single parent" would ever occur because someone is trying to live for and/or please some one else at their own demise. We date to please self and if we are dating a single parent it is BECAUSE WE DESIRE THAT INDIVIDUAL. Marriage is too serious an institution to be dallied with just as an attempt to please another individual. So if we marry a single parent it is because that is our life partner and we are sealing the deal with marriage just the same as if we marry a childless partner.

My comments though I might swing them your way are actually for those residing in my similar shoes "marrying a single parent" and in the millions and millions of shoe of single parents that are and are not reading this same thread. That is the reason at times I can become quite outspoken. In Africa, how many children are residing with single parents due to NO FAULT OF THEIR OWN? How many children are starving, malnourished, living in conditions that are harmful to their health? In New York as well. The hundreds of times I went to the big apple and saw whole families sleeping in the urine smelling subways in that billion dollar city, single parents with kids and husband/wife/kids sleeping on the sidewalks with signs asking for money, etc, Some of those women were quite attractive, I was stunned. The actress who played the role of "Precious"-----her mom is a single parent and sings in the subways of N.Y. The famous individuals that were raised by single parents makes those of us "who don't date single parents," look quite silly. Lebron James mom is a single parent, Wesley Snipes mom is a single parent, Kanye West mom was a single parent, President Bill Clinton was raised by a single parent, Jill Scott (singer) was raised by a single parent and today she is a single parent, both Lisa Raye and Stacey Dash on "Single Ladies" - both too gorgeous and hot to overlook by ANY MAN are both single moms. Last but far from least---Thank God Barack Obama's mom didn't remain single for long after she birthed him "she was a single mom"---thank goodness someone saw and desired her enough to marry her so that the U.S. could have their first black president.

By the way, you are pregnant aren't you or did you give birth yet? Your husband were he to die tomorrow would leave you widow and your child fatherless, but the Mrs. Chima we have grown to love----you would still be young, attractive, fertile and very much still in your prime wanting a mate for yourself and your child would want a father even more so once they start school and see other children with fathers----Trust me====your child would wish for the same.

Your comments being read by too many to count-----to you, the ink in your pen is just a second in time that you can put to paper, then move on to the next thread. To others, your words can hammer home points that have effects as nails do to a coffin on unsuspecting innocent individuals.

There are single parents who I see daily that look better than those who have NO CHILDREN, make more money than those who have NO CHILDREN, highly intelligent, sexy, desirable and hold the attention of countless individuals because their lives have developed that much more meaning and alot of that has to do with the children that reside in their home. They are warm, loving individuals and to discount them without thought because they have children in the home isn't an option for many of us as these "single parents are too hot and fine and loving" and our desire is to occupy that same home with them. As they are the water to our rice.[/quote]As I have stated not everybody are dating or married to someone whose spouse is DEAD. It is okay for YOU because you do not have to deal with the baby momma/daddy drama. Lucky for you.

You have stated before that you do not like drama or engages into drama so if your dude were still dealing with his baby momma and she were like the ones on Maury Povich show I am sure YOU WOULDN'T even waste your time. Trust on that.

There are number of reasons why people do not want to date nor marry single parents it is not a BAD THING. You are emotionally invested because you are dating a single parent of three kids from previous relationship. If you weren't dating one, you would be less passionate about it. If you are so gung ho about "someone trash is someone treasure" then why not also be passionate about other threads as well that "discriminates" people? Exactly.

It doesn't matter those five single parents that you know personally making a dollar more than someone who has no children that STILL DOESN'T mean someone should settle for a single parent. WTF. Sample parameters doesn't represent all.

I did not read the rest of the book you wrote but You are entitled to your choices so as others are as well.

There ARE STILL going to be people who DO NOT WANTS OR WILL NOT MARRY single parents. I do not see why this is a big deal.

tom28:
As if you Americans are anyway intelligent.If i recall some few months ago Sarah Palin was arguing on tv that africa is a country while your Britney spears was saying africa is in japan .If these ppl are your representatives what can it be said about the average yank? I Have seen americans acting stup1d on the streets and on tv and it really dont matter about race because both akatas and wh1te yankee trash act both the same way.When you see wh1te trash then you know thats an american for sure. .Anyway we go have our discussion later

You are Sarah Palin in a man's body. LMAO@using Sarah Palin and Britney Spears as an example when they are slow just like him.

According to you, America is trashy but BUT YOUR PEOPLE leaving their country in droves. If Americans are academically inept then why would YOUR PEOPLE choose American education system? China/Japan is tough to scam into huh?

You are trash and you are not American.

kandiikane:
Why do so many Akatas like using the "N" word on others some much? Only  ghettos use that sh[i]i[/i]t.

So the Africans, Oyinbos, Asians, Hispanics, Arabs, and Native Americans that uses the Nigger word are ghetto too huh?

Take your time.

Wait!

Are you talking about girls with African men or other men?

Hell NO. 

OP take a look at my thread titled: World without men.

tom28:
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For a moment i thought you might suffer a heart attack but then thank God you cooling off now .AnywaY i am off for now

That's why reading comprehension is the SHIT. It is not your fault being slow and all.

Generator oil went out huh? You run along and make that naira LEGALLY.

SMH@buffy

tom28:
[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=694530.msg8572914#msg8572914 date=1308806TRY HARDER, Grandpa.  Ask for assistance.  You WISH I would take t.  Keep dreaming Jerry Jr.

It should be papa jr and not jerry jr so learn it

Jerry Jr suits you.  Tough.  Keep your posts coming your fans on another forum misses your posts.

tom28:
i am a young grandpa, haha!

You are a dummy who said Cubans aren't hispanic!   

It was priceless when you said 100,000 Black Americans beats 25 million Africans in the HIV infection race.  I shared what you said on another site and you was the hot topic for 1 week straight.  I shared some posts you wrote and white people thought you was a backwood nigger from Mississippi. 

I didn't even tell them what you were until after it dies down and they were like most Nigerian men are smart that couldn't be true.   

tom28:
There"s nothing wrong for a woman being submissive.You can be submissive and also be a helping partner to your husband and u should also be the one to advise him when he derails.No man wants a woman who is troublesome and fights ppl all over the area.Check out the number of men who die b4 their time and u will find out a number of their wives gave them hell while they were alive.
Praying
DEAR God pls when i want to get married make sure i dont come across a troublesome woman who would give me hell and may she be quiet,gentle and romantic
Amen!

Instead of praying for a wife, PRAY FOR A BRAIN.

tom28:
hell yea i am a 30 yr old grandpa , lmbao!!!

Dog years do not count, Grandpa.      How's the hot flashes? 

How many of your daughters/sons had children out of wedlock, Grampy?

tom28:
haha you so easy to piss off and you take this site too damm seriously.Just whats it about u akata women and your uncontrolled anger, lmbao!! :

TRY HARDER, Grandpa.  Ask for assistance.  You WISH I would take this site SERIOUSLY. Keep dreaming Jerry Jr.

tom28:
I have no issues with you and i do believe you might be  a respectable young lady and if what i am saying offends you i apologize but then i have no choice than to insult someone if she insults me.Its what is called bosoms for tats .Iam  just getting under the skin of that frustrated middle aged tranny(mrs chima)

You will have to do more than CALLING ME FRUSTRATED AND MIDDLE AGED to get under my skin.  You needs to be original and stop stealing other people's attempted words/insult.
 
Others who are TEN TIMES better than you intellectually have attempted to "get under my skin" and failed.  I do not take INTERNET serious and personal.   

Try again and HARDER, GRANDPA.   (I wouldn't hold my breath)

I know I am getting under YOUR SKIN though.

Asian men are the best. (looking at Ms. Potato)

tom28:
This akata with the igbo name is still mad.Well i just hope your sojourn on nairaland fetches you a nigerian husband, haha!

Why would I be mad at your disability?  I think it unfortunate for you. 

Correction:  I hope YOUR sojourn on nairaland finds YOU a Nigerian husband battyboo.   

Just go to the dating section and create a thread titled: I am a bottom biatch.   


LMAO@ME looking for and WANTING niggas from NAIRALAND!

Eeeeewwwww!

tom28:
The girls i dated were undergraduates while i was in the university and i also dated a lady that worked in the bank and by the way u really dont need to look down at the village girls in naija because they have more class than a ghetto queen from the projects

Just because I said you only attracts village girls doesn't mean I looked down on them.  Those village girls looks up at you and intellectual Nigerian women looks down on you.  

They have queens in the projects?    Are those queens your relatives?  

tom28:
Hahaha you wish .Why in the world would i hit on a 48 yr old middle aged woman who is hitting menopause when there are younger more beautiful women around.I am just saying that the anger and frustration among you black american women tend to increase as u get older.Damm it must really suck being middleaged and lonely

If Black American women didn't cause you any problems, why are you ANGRY?  I don't know why would you hit on 48 years old women but your brothers are.  If you are desperate you would too.  Just because your brothers were lucky nabbing them doesn't mean you wouldn't be lucky.  

I thought you was a man now you a middle aged woman and lonely?  

tom28:
So those nigerians who are going to whoop my Bottom are they staying in your crib mrs chima?
Dont make me laugh because you nothing but all mouth .I recall some time ago a user in here referred to you as a m0nkey and you did nothing about it.I am going to speak my mind and if u dont like it there"s the X button you f00lish akata

Those Nigerian men that ARE going to whoop your arse live in the huts next door to you.  You can speak your mind all you want.  We already know you are slow.  You can click the x if you can't take the heat helmet wearing nigga.

PureOhio:
tom28, why are you making all these generalizations?!

This has got to be by far one of the most disrespectful things I have ever heard on this thread. My mother is nothing like the women you've described. I've seen my fair share of loud and obnoxious Nigerian women but I don't say all of them are like them. Please stop making these generalizations about people. As a black man, I'm sure white people look at you as a black person and make horrible assumptions about you

PureOhio,

Tom28 is the spokesperson of Jerry Lewis Kids Foundation. He has issues not only with Black American women, but gay men and white people. He stated in other threads that the only reason Nigerian men date white women is for papers. He is obsessed with HIV infection, (I think he is HIV positive but that a different thread) and gay men.

Please do not take offense to ANYTHING he say. Even his OWN Nigerian brothers called him shameless IN OTHER THREADS. Now that pathetic.

tom28:
Not to worry naija girls love me and most get along with me for my sense of humour .Nigerian women are not fiesty like you akatas

Those Nigerian girls love THAT MONEY you borrowed to flash.  It isn't YOU suga unless they are village girls because I know for a fact intellectual Nigerian women WOULDN'T EVEN spit on you if you was on fire.  

Unless you got a different definition of fiesty.  There are plenty of Nigerian women on Nairaland that are "fiesty".   You met two Black American women and still don't know shit.  

What's sense of humor?  Did you pay the how to be funny membership fee?  

Tom28, your Nigerian brothers are plotting to whoop your arse once they find your address for misrepresenting them.  

You just mad over nothing and u label me as someone who sterotype but look at you saying i eat tacos and nachos from hispanic ladies

You need to read what I said again.  This time use a translator.  

I dont need to google about black american women since i come across them everyday.They have an attitude and they are all drama(just like you are exhibiting in here)

If you have actually came across Black American women who has an attitude and all about drama EVERYDAY.  Maybe you need to find out what is it about YOU that keeps attracting them. No intellectual women REGARDLESS of nationalities will even approach you because you ARE slow as molasses.  I am sure those Black American women that you SEE everyday (curling lips knowing this nigga lying) doesn't give two rabbit shits about you.  

Pick up a dictionary and look up the word Drama, Differences of opinion and drama are two separate definitions.  

My hispanic friend is not a mexican but a cuban and she"s a very good cook and besides you need to taste some of the african dishes she has perfected herself in preparing.

How can I say this without being too harsh?  (blowing slow breaths)  Did you go to ANYBODY SCHOOL at all?    Mexicans and Cubans are from hispanic/latino group.  (shaking head in disbelief like THIS NIGGA for real? )  

If she is SLOW like you, I am sure she thinks Jollef rice is made using Potatoes.  

I know a number of black american women married to nigerian men and these guys are complaining and making plans to divorce them for african women because these black american women give them problems all the time.One of my friends uncle who met his black american wife while he was in school in Denmark has divorced her and he"s now with a nigerian woman.

Before getting the papers, they weren't complaining huh?    That's why I tell chicks ALL THE TIME if you are going to marry someone that is UNDOCUMENTED you are taking a risk HE MAY be legit and he may not be legit.  

I stated in another thread that NIGERIAN MEN who marries other women for papers know to do these following:

Say anything she wants to hear.
Kiss her arse at ALL COSTS.
Keep her nice and happy.
Do not Bleep up UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES.

A man will leave a woman he doesn't love REGARDLESS OF HER COLOR.  If he is scamming her WHY WOULD HE STAY?   DUH.  

Sorry to say this but yes when it comes to sex black american women are very good in it but when it comes to marriage its a big no no.You ladies dont even have succesful relationships with your own black american men and you ladies disrespect them all the time.


Most men who can't Bleep say that the woman is good.  It will be okay, practice makes perfect.     Why do you care if some Black American women aren't in a relationship?  Why haven't a Nigerian woman claimed you?    

You and your brothers disrespect women all the time so how are you (the kettle) calling the pot black?  Just by reading your posts, I can see why Nigerian women runs to OYINBO men in DROVES.  

And i recall you some other time u saying that a good number of us nigerian men are scams but now you changing your words Grin.Ol boy some of you akatas are so damm funny Grin
Anyway i respect your black american men for the strenght they have in withstanding yall drama.


Tom28,

I am glad that you said that now sit back and learn.

First of all, I have never said A GOOD NUMBER OF "US" Nigerian men are scammers. If you wan to boast about scamming that ON YOU. You will also see that I stated the NAMES of the individuals and they are plastered all over Nairaland. Take your time and go over it. You will not find ONE POST stating the BULLSHIT you have claimed against me.

Secondly, I said YOU are not the typical MOST (not all) NIGERIAN man who has COMMON SENSE AND are COGNITIVE ENDOWED. You are 50 cards short of a full deck and you are not FUNNY AT ALL.

Lastly, my hat goes off to Nigerian women who PUT UP, DEAL WITH, TOLERATES, REFRAINS FROM KILLING, and wake up EVERYDAY with Nigerian men like you. Somebody have to do it.

tom28:
I dont know her but i have come across a number of black american women who are too fiesty,arrogant,loud and too controlling and they label that as being a strong black woman.African american women are beautiful yes but their character is what scares off a number of we african men when it comes to marriage.No african man wants to marry a woman who fights him all the time and NaughtyWoman all they long.If your own AA men are running away from you and dating white girls and latinas why do we african men have to take the load? There are white men out there who would be ready to date a fiesty black american woman and besides when a woman is much militant and fiesty a white guy loves it because its a turn on for them being controlled by a black woman.Personally speaking i think the american women that make the best choice for a wife are hispanic women.They are cool headed and they are the only american women who i know who can cook as well(remember i love women who cook)

You came across many black American women IN your dream?    Going to America by googling does not count suga.  I know there are Nigerian men who ACTUALLY went to USA and Nigerian men WHO googled America.  

What does the black American women that you have dreamed about HAVE TO DO WITH PureOhio?  We are talking about ONE person and not the type of women that you DREAMED about.  You haven't met PureOhio and you already JUDGED HER.  

Just because you like eating tacos and nachos doesn't mean that all Hispanic women can cook.  There are bad and good cooks in every nationalities and you are DEFINITELY not a typical Nigerian man.  (MOST have common sense and cognitive endowment)

pleep:
they need to make lesbo clubs.  Cuz it bothers me when hot girls dance together.

lady-loving-ladies really Loose all their magic when they aren't unclothed.

Well, you do know lesbos like women so of course they would be dancing up all on women but not all women who dances with women are lesbos just like not all men who dances with other men are not gay.

TRUST ME, I have seen men so some for real contact to contact dancing and SWORE they are strictly punny lovers. Hmm.

Brite02:
Do not discuss the issue with her mum, it might cause another problems rather if you can summon courage try and talk to her about it. . When you do, from henceforth give her long spoon or you'll again go back to your own vomit.

I agree 23%

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