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Some men have issues with women paying their way and the man's way as well.

(sending Inky my purse and wishing well bucket)

chelseabmw:

Hope am safe?why r u crying like a mad woman who just gave birth?

Not yet.  Some women do not cry when they give birth.  I seen a woman birthed out twins with no epidural and she didn't shed a tear.  That was an alien!  

livedit:
Yes. I'm like this isn't no strip club. But my husband said it was apart of his culture. We got money and gifts too. But I was curious to ask if you or anyone else on here gotten money tossed on them while dancing. You so silly Mrs. Chima! A prayer card? What the? , Creepy looks? I know that had to make you feel awkward. No likey,

Girl! Dogs gon be dogs no matter where they are at. I was like why is this man licking his lips and grinning like he just smoked some good weed? Yes, I got a prayer card in my wishing bucket. I was like this isn't a revival. I felt like I was Juanita Bynum for a second. I felt like I needed to quote some scriptures and baptize a few lost souls.

If I had been there I would be dropping like it hot while scooping those dollars between my legs. It is a skill that I mastered. (don't ask )

r231:
what's the definition of a simple wedding

The kind where you only spending 100 nairas.

[quote author=Crude Oil. link=topic=663553.msg8288364#msg8288364 date=1304977818]I have some serious trust issues so, I wouldn't.[/quote]Thanks for your honesty. Lack of trust and trust issues are common in today's society.

chelseabmw:
Yes am a moderator. . . .Auto section and EPL sport section

Go to my profile and see for yourself

You are a moderator of an AUTO SECTION? (laughing and crying) Help! Somebody help!

livedit:
I'm sorry Phate07, I couldn't resist to chime in on this discussion.  I'm newly married ( 7 weeks) and I know you said for "single" people, but I thought I would share my comment for the heck of it.  My wedding was pretty simple, but yet elegant but not extravagant.  My colors were purple, silver, white and gray and it was just lovely.  I'm a simple gal who enjoys the simple things in life.  

Please forgive me, as I don't mean to derail.  I guess I have a question, I'm married to a Nigerian and when we were celebrating (dancing) is it all nigerian culture to toss dollar bills at the bride?  I was like what the? They were just tossing them like it was nothing. Of course livedit kept dancing.  

You got dollars?!!!  I got prayer card saying please have a boy and let us know when you are pregnant so we can have another party and we got boatload of money but it was place in our wishing thingie we had.  I also got some creepy looks from the male relatives that were at the wedding too!  I was like the hell.  It were creepy looks!

You lucky ramen noodles!  

ayosmiles:
Ogugua, to be sincere u are pretty in a non-sensual, innocent way which I find appealing. You look like the girl I ca'n take home to mama, unlike rokiatu. I hope u are as innocent inside as u look outside

What did you say about Rokiatu?

Phate07:
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Ok. I think i get your point.
You would gladly grow old while waiting for Mr Right? Hmmm. Quite a dangerous notion.

Have you sky-dived before? Its not for the faint of heart.
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**looks warily around for mr Chima**
You know you aren't supposed to be sharing kisses outside your marital home? [/color]

Cyber kisses are allowed. If I gave you a real kiss then you worry.

The comments that I have heard so far are pretty common and it was expected.  I understand that some of you guys said that you trust your partner but you do not trust the world.  This is what I have to say about that and I am going to keep it real like I always do. 

The event is something that happens on occasions basis however other things such as work, business trip, family functions, and other more frequent events occur and it may be a time where you may not attend especially on a business trip or to your partner's workplace.  You will have to TRUST your partner 100% to not worry about what another person would do to your partner. 

You can't take anyone that doesn't wants to be taken and if you are having issues with trusting other people then you will have issues trusting your partner.  This is the real deal.  If you trust that your partner will remain faithful and resist all temptations that comes along then it would not be an issue. 

Let me give you another example, let say it is not an event that your partner attends what about a business trip?  Are you going to tell your partner not to go on a business trip because you do not trust the world?  That is paranoia and it is not healthy.  Now liveit said that the only person she trust with her husband is her sister.  Now I have to throw a curveball in it, what would happens to livedit's trust if her sister was to betray her trust by doing something inappropriate with her husband?  The response would be different. 

The bottom line is this:  If your spouse or partner is the type of man or woman that respects himself and herself to the point where they will not allow ANYONE or ANYTHING to come between the man or woman they love if temptation arises REGARDLESS where it is happening your man and woman have to know their self worth.  Again, you can't take anyone who doesn't wants to be taken or bothered. 

Let me throw this in here as well for you religious folks, Satan tempted Jesus when he fasted 40 days and 40 nights Jesus being the son of God and the most righteous RESISTED Satan's temptation and remained TRUE to who HE is. The same bible passage applies to humans on this Earth as well. There is no excuse.

Phate07:
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^^And who says Phate likes pink? You wishing you had me all to yourself?

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2buff:
Quite the contrary, I think your views are founded more upon estrogenal valor than actual truth.
If you tried at all, past the primal/illogical need to side with your fellow women, you would see that all the men are putting forth is this: if you do not want to be treated like a dog, don't act like a dog. I'm sure that, if you are truly as neutral and truth-based as you say you are, you would agree that this applies both to men and women. Your tone makes me feel you feel only men act like dogs, whereas a woman, no matter how foul her behavior, is annulled of all blame and should never take personal responsibility for her actions.

We're not interested in beating women just because. <It seems that, having no intelligent [/b]argument to add to the table, you women on here just repeatedly come back to this accusation. It's getting old and uninspiring>

If, out of the blue or out of a heated conversation, a [b]person hits the face of another person and the hitter magically expects no retaliation and in fact feels surprised that this slappee retaliated. Would you not count the hitter as clinically insane?

Personal responsibility is this: If you attack someone, it would be silly for you to feel that you won't be attacked back.
Why does the hitter in this case feel they don't need to operate under the confines of personal responsibility? By this fact, and the female responses in this room, it is safe to assume that 70% of our young ladies today are clinically insane.

In case you just popped in, do try and watch a clip somewhere on this thread of one such instances.

You wrote all that and still contradicted yourself.  You did the same thing you accused Anitta of doing "agreeing" with her fellow female counterparts.  

There are men that also agree with what Anitta are saying.  Lord Reed is a man and he is on point with EVERYTHING he said.  What you are going to accused him of being a wuss sprung by female punnies?  

Let be real and stop this sexism bullshit.  A spade is a spade is a spade.  If a woman who acts like a biatch being called a bitch then a man who acts like a ho arse nigga should be called a ho arse nigga.

You do know that people who are married renew their vows as well so if I was to do that I would have a very phate like wedding with a lot of pink and hot pink colors!

xynerise:
@op. I will if the event is done during the day. Because if she comes after 7pm, she will knee down on  concrete stones.

Okay, I see what you are saying.  And that is reasonable.  What if the event is at night?

amefi:
Mrs Chima wan follow persin go chop life 4 club. I wish una two luck oooo.

Who said this has to do with me? It is a question to generate discussion good or bad. This is not Dr. Phil or Oprah Winfrey show.

Now would you allow your woman to go to an event with another man if you are unable to?

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=663553.msg8287870#msg8287870 date=1304972013]@ OP: In the case of that kind of special event, there's no big deal mehn! My man will allow me, coz he knows I like boys/men. I like being around males than females, so---

Like seriously though, If you're with a man, does that mean you've lost the right to mingle and relate to other human beings around you?

Men! Big up yourselves jo! It's just a male friend---Geez![/quote]Girl!  You sure you from where those uhmm suckers are from?  Because you are clearly on another plane and a good one.  Thank God we have some intelligent folks still circulating on NL.  OOoh lawd! 

Good question.  It would be interesting to see how this unfold but good question and reply.

annita19:
Lol @ unafrican. . I bet your an African/American. I am from USA/Los Angeles CA nice meeting you here.

Yes among a few others. Nice meeting you here too. There are a lot of us USAians here as well.

Men/boys, would you allow another man/boy take your woman/girl to an event in your place?

For an example, your girl is invited to a special event that requires her to give a presentation or she is honored by an agency of interest and you are unable to attend because of work or you have taken ill would you mind if her male friend or male coworker tag along with her? 

Ladies, would you allow another woman/girl take your man/boy to an event in your place?

Why or why not?

livedit:
Hey girlie!

Well that sucks (pouting) , Wow! Livedit is gullible. Thank you for the heads up Mrs. Chima and Orton1_0!

I wouldn't say gullible because you do not know the chatters patterns as well as Orton and I. You just responding to a thread and being you. Nothing wrong with that but most of the threads are up for investigation that all I am gon say.

annita19:
Lol who cares about online ranting and riots. Well #truth hurts more than gunshot in the as[i]s[/i]. . I speak it the way it is undiluted U from Nigeria/Africa?

LMAO@gunshot in the arse! That gotta hurt!

No. I am from USA or unafrican as a man called me.

livedit:
Orton1_0, are you telling livedit she just wasted a whole essay for nothing on false information??

Yea, pretty much. You have to skim through trash from now on out or you would be wasting your time as Orton stated. Bless your heart though. Hey!

annita19:
Speak or forever remain silent lol

Trust me they rather I not speak because I will say things that will cause riots. So you hit the nail on the head precisely on your last comment. It is sad though and they think that makes them a man. SMH.

annita19:
Judging by what I have read here so far I would say Nigerians/African men do not have respect nor value their women. .

Hmm.

Richvkunt:
@Mrs Chima,
Your proper place  is in the kitchen and the bedroom and not posting BS from behind a computer.
Take care of your husband,and leave real playas alone.

Limp noodles, what real players? Real players target women that does not give up pussies easily and challenges you mentally, spiritually, physically, and cognitively. You are accepting sloppy seconds from hoes that is nothing to brag about. Free pussies is for everybody included women.

You are a real player alright, a real player in the game of hangman because you are hanging yourself crumbs and it is pathetic.

Too bad, you won't be anyone good, decent, FAITHFUL, clean, and intelligent husband.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=661744.msg8285032#msg8285032 date=1304941772]LoL @Mrs.C

I bet you he'll come back with one lame a$$ reply such as o I've got a sexy username, o I've got flat screen tv, o I make 25million a sec lol.
Man bit[i]c[/i]h[/quote]Suga, if you are going to steal my word DO NOT BUTCHERED IT!    It is manbitch.  It is not two words, but one!!!!!! 

Yes, he came back with lame arse replies because he is a lame arse limp noodles.  I want to say something else but knowing snitches I am refraining until it is necessary to pull out a can of whoop arse.

beejaei:
women are not intelligent human-beings

You are the epitome of what happens when women do not swallow and/or victims of blotched abortions.

Keep up the good work.