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Those type of men are long dead. We just dealing with leftovers and rejects.

ronald4lif:
God is all-forgiven. At least that's what we're told right?. Therefore, hell is non-existent or empty. For hell to exist would require a God capable of holding grudges against his own children, for an infinite amount of time.

As hundreds of years turn to thousands, million billions etc God would still want his children to suffer and gnashing of teeth for disobedience. For what?. For murder?.

There's no evidence that hell exist except beliefs. Truth is not a prerequisite for beliefs.

Yes, Hell does not physically exist just yet. However when people are defining hell , they should only describe the feeling of being chained or confined to a place of darkness. It is a name that describe the act of confinement and solidarity.

Religious fanatics culled the fire and brimstone (book of revelation) to give it whistes and theatrics. A thousand years, Satan will be confined in the placr of absolute darkness but not in the "popular" hellfire/hell (book of revelation debunked that assertion)

After the judgement period, the world will be consumed by fire but not sent to "hell".

ISo yes, there is no physical hell.

Innocent babies are being killed and emotionally abused because of selfish acts.

Common sense isn't common...it's on sale!

seeme2:
Shut up there... over Sabi. It's people like you that makes Christianity seem unschorlarly. If God is agains polygamy wouldn't he have mentioned it in the over 600 laws given to Moses to compliment the 10? Polygamy is obviously wrong as it does not emphasise the special kind of love that should be between a couple but pls don't base that simple conviction onbthebwrong premise. God is fairer than you think. Monogamy is a Roman idea sotigbo? It was introduced by Romans to Christianity. Even Paul advices the Bishops to be a man of one wife, not all Christians.

Advice is now a law.
Not all Christians
Monogamy is a Roman idea
600 LAWS

No one said God wasn't fair but He is not the author of confusion! Just a person quote or read the bible doesn't make them a Christian. They can wear the cloak of Christianity and still be influenced and directed by Satan! .

Haba! What a shame. I guess that bullshit was culled from a book only YOU have access to.

Did you read the chapter and verse I have posted? No.

King James Version/AMP version

danla44:
My brother. Pls marry her as your second wife. Its better to go for polygamy than adultery. If America can legalise Gay Marriage when God says "NO"! Why not polygamy since the Bible did now frown at it. (Lamech Genesis 4:19)

Am a Muslim and I have one wife, my intention is to go for second wife soon.

Lamech was the son of Cain who was cursed and he did take two wives. However Deut. 17:14-17 debunked
your claim that the Bible didn't speak against polygamy. It did! Just because important figures sinned against God and did what they wanted doesn't mean God approved. He did not say man leave his parents home and cleaved unto 2, 3, and 4 wives. 2 became 1.

bigfrancis21:
Meaning?

Long time, Mrs Chima my enemy from the past. How are you doin'?

Oh we were enemies?

I dey good n u?

(Bend down on one knee and look at Jesus with tears streaming)

liyahwillie:
well spoken may God bless u

Thanks dear Bless you.

This is nothing new...it is just more accepting.

refreshrate:
On your quote for blackmail above you were asking how he would talk to his son treating his wife the way he treated his mum or his daughter getting married to a man like him, seriously what do you call that?

On sitting down and communicating, in your anger you probably missed the part where he said hed asked his wife to join him where he was so they could be a family together.
He did
He communicated
She didnt listen.

The first rule of love is to listen, not hear, listen heard that before?
Theres no need using a hammer to kill a mosquito ma, the talk about being in a loveless marriage and all, the wife only need listen and trust me things wouldnt have had to aggravate to probably seeking professional help and all that.

Why wouldnt she just listen?
But she would always expect him to listen.
And he always would case in point he mentioned something about not wanting to be the cause of truncating her career and stuff.

People change for one reason or the other.

The wife had a good man, she failed to manage things right and pushed him into the arms of another woman.

Listening and understanding you partners needs is something this generation of women dont get.

Some people only need attention, give them all the money in the world if that attention isnt there they will seek it somewhere else.
Case in point if it was money why do rich people still divorce?

Some people its money, give them all the attention and theyre never ok.

Some people have next to nothing in this life and you see where the woman is ready to do anything if you try her husband and theres nothing you tell her, you see that her husband nobody can be better than him as far as shes concerned, how about that?

The wife goofed. The banker lady played her cards right and it will shock you she could possibly make the man blossom in more ways than you could possibly imagine.

She knows the value she sees in him and is smart enough to appreciate it, it the wife fails to understand how to manage what she has/had thats her loss.

Thats the thing women of this generation being made to believe its only the man who should do all the appreciation and value the relationship.

Reality check ladies, love is a two way street, if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, youre not doing something right

check yourself and stop trying think you own rights to his thought process, even God his creator gives him freedom of thought!

Are you the lady in question? You seems to.be taking this too personal.

Is OP the only married man in Nigeria/world? No, he is not. I made suggestions that can help ANYONE going through similar situations as OP. Not everyone communicate with their partners and not everyone try talking to their spouse. So it was not only to him bit others it may apply.

Secondly, just like you told me not to dictate his thought process which I have never said I did or desired to do so. You can't dictate the wife's thought process. Maybeshe ddidn't want to listen because she has her own reasons just like OP has his own reasons why he committed adultery instead leaving his wife. Simple.

Thirdly, I didn't know suggesting one to think their actions and how it affects their children is blackmail. I forgot this is Nigeria, the land of the hypocrites and stone throwers. If the wife had "listened" would that stop him from cheating and "falling in love"? Nonsense!

We only heard one side of the story and I am only commenting to what he said without taking in the wife's side and the truth!

I stand by my comments and you don't have to agree with it. There is absolutely no reason for one to cheat even if they were held by gunpoint!

sukkot:
aiittttt. so what you doing on a saturday night, besides bothering me of course

About to give my husband some....bbl.

sukkot:
aint nobody said nothing about sleeping with female parishoners. get your mind out of the gutter woman

Did I say someone said it? Stop being petty.

refreshrate:
Walk with me on this, please calmly if you may.
Please.

When you start asking someone how will you explain this to your son...or how will your daughter that, dont you think thats blackmail?

Ah the religious card...when all else fails!
Surprising we have so many and more women in places of worship?

Have you noticed how even you have failed in any way to see any fault from the wife even though clearly stated by the OP you are trying to help?

Excuse me...blackmail applies when someone has information or secrets that can alter someone's reality or stability. How is telling a man to be the man he wants his son to be to his future wife and his daughter to choose as a husband blackmailing?

Secondly, I don't care if his wife did not wash her toto for 70 months and cooked horrible meals...it gives no reason for anyone to commit adultery! If he was unhappy with her for whatever reason he could have sat down and communicaate! If that did not work then seek professional help and if that fails then make a mutual decision to separate or divorce.

What is the point being in a loveless marriage and certainly not for the kids! Kids are smarter than we give them credit for and we as parents owe it to our children to do what is right for the children! If divorce is the answer so be it! What we do in our relationship teachesoour children to either have healthy or unhealthy relationships!

There is NO EXCUSE FOR ADULTERY!!!

blakky97:
are you a muslim mrschima? are you igbo too? im sorry im just curious. I am if you ask.

I am not a Muslim. You are Igbo..nice. What state?

sukkot:
who said pastors need to demonstrate decorum ?

2 corinthians 11 vs 6 But though I be rude in speech, yet not in knowledge; but we have been throughly made manifest among you in all things. << ALL PROPHETS BE RUDE IN SPEECH. ITS THE ONLY WAY TO GET INTO THE COCONUT HEAD OF THE REPROBATES

You are right, pastors do not need to demonstrate decorm. They do better with lack of understanding of the bible and sleeping with female parishers.

refreshrate:
Babe you need to calm down with the 'threats' regarding this issue. A few weeks back we heard about a celeb whos husband got his girlfriend pregnant and the whole social media went gaga.

This is no different.

No different in fact from when you see a man with a seemingly perfect wife leave home and starts to live with another lady who might be termed uglier than his wife or even below his standard.

Ask why this happens and dig deeper rather than resorting to all this blackmail.

ill tell you one thing though men are like kings and kids together in one, he needs all the attention he can get (the kid in him) and needs to be made to feel like the most important person in your life as a woman (the king).

With women claiming they have equal rights today and whats that supid word that would end most marriages yeah 'feminism' i always laugh.

Seriously as a woman you cant say youre providing the man with the type of things expected of him in a relationship which he sometimes breaks his back to provide.

You on the contrary as a woman...feminist and all that, try to show him that you are independent and all that kind thing that God did not send you in the house. Before he says one youve talked twenty, ok o. He then meets another woman who listens to him, provides comfort and shows him theres a life without pressure and even if there is both of them can deal with it together, meanwhile you youre there forming 'i will give him drama all the time' as a confirmed drama queen. well done. ma.
Its only natural to find a place of comfort and stay there. Thing is he would have spoken to the wife in subtle tones about his displeasure on some of the things but women being who they are never hear or see the signs after all shes the woman and hes the man and so should be able to bear more stress (feminism always hides when shes thinking like this)

Then silifa comes in and takes over next thing the wife is asking how could you do this to me?
story

Please ehn cos if you ask now, the women will say is he not a man (which i guess in their minds is good cause to kill the poor chap)

Im not trying to justify his having affairs but seriously i think its only fair we identify the true cause as to why he would take such a step.
Ive seen married women who believe its not right for them to apologize, when theres a problem. Meanwhile silifa is ready to apologize even kneel down just to ensure her 'king' is always happy.

Its supposed to be a marriage between two people non greater than the other except where you place your partner and your partner likewise places you. You put pride in the mix, prepare for whatever comes in.

Or what do you think the colleague he loves now is doing that is making him turn head?

Using the kids to blackmail him just wont cut it.

Blackmail? Did you quote the wrong post? What's you talking about? No one said anything about feminism and blackmailing children.

We can talk about feminism but the post is about a married man who has cheated on his wife with a colleague and he wants help with his ailment. I don't think my preaching of feminism will aid his pain and confliction. This matter is a bit more spiritual and I will let the religious fanatics handle this dilemma.

For the record, I suggest leaving the wife if he does not love her and to do right by his children. If I was the wife in question I wouldn't want to be with a cheater who has no respect for me or the family.

sukkot:
i said YOU err NOT me. dayum i guess comprehension is also another one of your deficiencies ?

Inhale and exhale. Pastors need to demonstrate decorum.

Ipledge4

You look handsome in your dp. I like H&M!

Do you shop at Abercrombie's?

sukkot:
that you err not knowing the scriptures ? yes i admit

Thank you for admitting your errors. It felt good abi?

sukkot:
Yours is at 0 percent. it cannot be rescued by charger. it has to be revamped and restructured

(Snoring loudly)

sukkot:
i think you are not understanding the scriptures. it says a spirituaL man can judge all things. do you get that ?

1 corinthians 2 vs 15 But he that is spiritual judgeth all things <<

LISTEN YOU ARE NOT SPEAKING TO TB MONEYSHUA OR OYAKHINAIRA OR OLEDEPO HERE, YOU ARE SPEAKING TO A MAN WHO KNOWS THE ESOTERIC NATURE OF THE BIBLE

Admit.

sukkot:
My brain is charged, is yours ? nepa done strike inside your brain

(Your battery is at 3% please plug in your charger)

sukkot:
respect yourself woman. i need to see you but not hear you. matter fact go and fix me some iyan and egusi

GO charge your brain.

sukkot:
woman you have no wisdom. now keep quiet

job 39 vs 17 Because God hath deprived her of wisdom, neither hath he imparted to her understanding.

Pastor Confused..admitting that you made an error doesn't make you less of a male.

That's is the reason why God would never appoint man to judge...too many flaws.

AgapeCharis:
[color=#27408B]Find your way to my posts. [/color]

No thanks.

sukkot:
and i repeat, woman you do not know what you are saying. you should be taking bible lessons from me and not vice versa. stay in your lane woman and let me do the teaching. keep quiet and let me quarterback this thang.

1 timothy 2 vs 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

I don't take lessons from dumb people.

sukkot:
and i repeat, woman you do not know what you are saying. you should be taking bible lessons from me and not vice versa. stay in your lane woman and let me do the teaching. keep quiet and let me quarterback this thang.

1 timothy 2 vs 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

You are killing yourself with your own stup1dity! That's has nothing to do with God giving men the position to judge. Matthew 7 1:5 debunked your assertion!

Humans do not have the power to judge humans. Are you confusing leadership with judge?

That's why many do not take silly Christians seriously using wrong quotes to prove a point.

Freemanan:
Let GOD be the judge of morality Love

It's good that God is the final decider because if it was left up to humans we are FVCKED.

AgapeCharis:
[color=#27408B]One of the few sensible posts I've you made.[/color]

You try making at least one.

sukkot:
you dont know what you are talking about and next time quote the verse so we can read it here and pin point what exactly it is you are highlighting.

You don't need to know what I am saying but you need to know what you are quoting and it's meanings..


I don't need to copy and paste the verse. Next time actually read the bible before you use it to prove your point.

You do have a bible in handy no?