nwaezeemmanuel:
Relax, I'm not as angry as my comments look.

Your advice is really from your heart, but is wrong. You can't tell people to just have sex before marriage for the three reasons you highlighted.

Why?! Because pre-marital sex comes with consequences. Perhaps open people to the consequences and share a neutral view.

There are people that will take your advice word for word and it can harm them.

Yes every choices have consequences.

Even waiting after marriage before having sexx has its own consequences.


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nwaezeemmanuel:
Lol, you would be amazed at the number of couples who fought through that and are doing well.

ED can be reversed or improved. It's not cancer for crying out loud.

What about those couples who ain't patient enough to wait?

And mind you, not all ED cases can be cured bro.


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nwaezeemmanuel:
If erectile dysfunction is discovered after marrying - it can be handled.

A man can easily reverse it or even make steady improvements.

This is why marriage needs love. Not everything will be perfect. But no! You are placing marriage heavily on sex.

@the bolded, you think so? I really doubt if any woman would really want to stay with a husband with erection dysfunction throughout her life without fornicating? Maybe I am wrong Sha...


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nwaezeemmanuel:
You are giving your opinion and also recommending and trying to convince the readers.

Not everyone here is being hypocritical. Apologies if my comment didn't come out well.

The main point of an article or an opinion is to convince the other party to see things in a different way. It isn't like I am putting a knife on people's neck to accept my views. It is just an opinion.

So guys, if you can't control your sexual urges before marriage pls have enough sexx.

This was my statement and it was a mere advice, I don't understand how a mere advice is the same as pushing my opinion on people.


Have fun bro!

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Shortyy:

My personal life is none of your business.

True, your personal life is none of my business and I agree.

Not being able to control sexual urges is a problem. A big one. Shouldn't even be on that list.

I was only wondering why you made the above statement, that's all.

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nwaezeemmanuel:
You are going to ruin lives with this stupid information.

Even in marriage, sex is still a journey. Sexual compatibility is still a discovery. I'm guessing you're not married.

And people can control themselves, don't cover up your lack of self control.

If people want to have pre-marital sex, it's their choice but never justify it and try to subtly push it on others.

How did I push my opinion on others?
My opinion is my opinion.

You didn't counter my opinion in an intellectual and intelligent way which is sad.

The truth is that majority of the people who are "bashing" me and the others who are going to "bash" me on this thread had sexx even before marriage and those who are yet to marry are having sexx regularly but their hypocrisy won't let them accept.

Bro, next time try to tell me intelligently where my points are wrong, don't try to push your "morals justifications" down my throat.


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Shortyy:


Not being able to control sexual urges is a problem. A big one. Shouldn't even be on that list.

You still haven't answered my questions.



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Shortyy:
Which people can't control themselves? Just say You can't control yourself.

Are you married? If not, are you having sexx with your partner? If not, do you have sexual urges from time to time?

If you are married, did you stay up till your wedding night before you fucckeedd? Don't lie ooo



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lexy2014:


When u learn to love people in general, loving a woman won't be a selective project like building dangote refinery or a new airport. It will just be as natural as eating or sleeping. Let's learn to love everyone around us beginning from those who are most dearest i.e. our family. From there, it wouldn't be difficult to love outsiders which include GFs or BFs by exhibiting d traits mentioned. That's why they say that charity begins at home.

Very lovely points.....



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NNEWIsuper:
You made no much sense though.. How many people will you keep sleeping with to get the one that suits u.. I will somehow agree more with your first point

At least you agreed with one point, hallelujah

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Why s*x before marriage is good?


S*x releases stress, boosts immunities, helps you sleep and is heart-healthy. Sex is good whether you're married or not but a lot of people have pushed the narrative that sexx before marriage is bad which I simply disagree.

Here are the reason why I disagree.

1. Sex before marriage is OK because people supposedly can’t control themselves.

Not everyone has the ability to control their sexual urges


We can't really compare those days to what is happening nowadays.

Those day men usually gets married at a younger age compared to now, probably the reason why the narrative of premarital sex worked then. Those days men usually married at the age of 18 while women gets married at the age of 16. At that age, they are still boys and girls  and they barely knows what sex is about and are just developing their sexual adventures.

This days men and women gets married at a latter age, some  even stay unmarried till the age of 40 because of the economy and other social factors.

How will such a person control his/her sexual urges?


2. S*x can help determine Compatibility.

A lot of marriages this days are hitting the rock because the couple never had the time to check on their sexual compability.
Imagine a man that has a high libido and a woman with low libido getting married without having sex prior to their marriage, won't they have issues?

Or a man who has erection dysfunction only for the wife to discover on the wedding night that her husband can't "do the do".
What will the woman do?


3. Sex improves intimacy.

I don't know about you but sex definitely improves intimacy in my relationship.
Sexx with a dating partner brings you closer to each other.

It gives you the chemical, emotional and psychological bonding you both desire.

So guys, if you can't control your sexual urges before marriage pls have enough sexx.

What do you think guys?


Lalasticlala farano Rocktation

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TheCork:



huh??...bro all this juss to get puccccccy?.. ..even sweetcunt97 will not ask for all this!!

Must everything revolve around pussssyyy??

You mean you go into relationships mainly because of pusssyy?

You need help then.


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How is this a life changing thread?




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The assss attracts me to a lady first, the breastsss attracts me in the oza room while the brain attracts me to a lady forever.

For real, a woman personality, her mind and how intelligent she is, how good she can stimulates my mind with good conversation attracts me to a lady and not forgetting a good and intense sexxx



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Mcslize:


Exactly. That's a give point you made.

Yes bro. I am glad that you understand my point clearly.


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ReluctantAdult:

I get you bro. I totally respect that you take your relationships seriously. But I was mostly taking it as a game because I wanted to understand the psychology of women. Lol. I guess I learnt a lot.

Alright bro, enjoy the rest of your day.


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Jessepaid:
Shit..well...I agree with all you've said bro
Just that these days, I am more interested in building profitable relationships...not urgent 2k ones

Same here bro. I said it on one of my post on this thread. I don't have time to waste on unnecessary and fruitless relationships.

Any girl that brings some kind of weird and silly vibes will just get laid and played. No cap.

The article is meant for those who are in a serious and profitable relationship not the other relationship.

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Bloggersp:
i flirted with this bae for over a month
and she was head over heels for me, immediately i told her i love her Boom!! bae start to show character

You failed to read her body language. You said you flirt with her and she was head over heels with you why did you have to tell her that you love her again? Couldn't you read the signs, she already gave you the signs na.

You should have bed her instead but no you told her that you love her and you put unnecessary pressure on her, she has no choice than to leave

You are the one who bleeped up, no be everything man dey tell woman especially at the beginning of a relationship.


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Mcslize:
I am romantic but not the usual way. If I do it the usual way, she will get fed of me.

Be romantic in the unusual way. That's the only way you can keep a girl addicted to you and keep your relationship blazing.

Once a girl loose attraction for you, she will start giving you attitudes. Do all of that and watch her lose that attraction for you. She hears all that every day from other guys. You need to be different.

No attraction no love.

Balance is the key bro. You don't need to be over romantic to get her, just be yourself.



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Mcslize:


Tested and trusted, what u wrote there won't work on our ladies.

For instance, there is a lady I met last month. She told me how a guy is complimenting her and professing love to her and how she walked out of the guy. She said the guy has been asking her out. She always tell me everything. I hardly give her attention. I hardly call her. The other guy call her always but she seems more attached to me. She visit me always why the other guy is wasting his time bombarding her with love quotes, care and the rest.

That's how the female mind works. They feel more attracted to you when you seem not desperate and not all that caring. Do u know how many times she has asked me if I loved her? She asked me Mcslize pls how do you feel about me?

She tells me about other guys but she find out I don't feel threatened by all of that. This has made her to tell me multiple times that it seems like I don't love her. Why is it that she will tell me something about other guys and I will not feel any concern or get threatened by the mentioned of them. I simply laugh in my mind. Cuz I have learnt how female reasons. I see all of that as shit tests.

Instead of professing how much I love her and all of those confessions, I prefer flirting with her like a super man. Nothing attracts a girl more when you treat and pet her like a baby.

Bro, you made good points. But read up the article there is no where in the article that said you should be clingy or overly attached to a girl, infact I am not in support of that.

The girl you mentioned has already seen the other guy as a mugu. Why? The guys seems so desperate and clingy, why texts and call her all the time, is he that jobless?

Being romantic, being caring doesn't mean you should turn yourself to a mugu or take it to the extreme, everything has to be balanced.

Girls like mystery. You don't let her know everything about you, let her work her asss off trying to unravel you and that way she will get more attached to you and before you know it she is already lying on your bed
nakedd after going two rounds on her without her knowing how it happened

In everything a man does, he shouldn't do it to the extreme just like the other guy you mentioned.


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samwash:
Different view, pretend to care less
If you are the one doing the calling, reduce it a bit
You if give her money often, suspend it
Reduce the rate you visit her
For sometime don't take her out & also reduce the gifts you shower her.
The list is limitless but different methods.
After doing these observe her behavior towards you & ur friends & even your family members. Then you may get the clue.

Yeah that is another view that works well but I only do this when I discover a change in her attitude; when her attitude becomes overbearing..






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ReluctantAdult:


You don't get it completely. It's not even the emotions. That, can be hidden and suppressed by the stubborn ones but what give them away is their...ACTIONS!

There's no way in hell she keeps acting cool and lovely, knowing you're probably flirting with someone else, IF she truly loves you. Believe me my guy, I've done this experiment countless times and it is potent as fvck!

I totally understand you and I am not fighting you over this. Infact I agreed that it works and I do use it once in a while.

But the most important thing is not to take it to the extreme especially if you don't want to ruin the relationship except you don't really value the relationship.


That's my point.


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paulolee:
lolz...i even see spending more on her.....no wahala

Why do you all venture into relationships when you are having trust issues?

I don't spend either my money or time on girls I am dating except I am confident and certain that we are really into ourselves and we are both on the same emotional and intellectual level and it has to be mutually beneficial.


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Mcslize:
Lol see advice. But Op the female mind do not work that way. I will do the opposite of what you wrote.

Do all of that and watch how she will dump your sorry ass. But do the opposite and watch how clingy she will cling to you.

Guys be wise.

No I don't think she will dump you when you do that, she will only dump your sorry asss when you place her happiness above yours.

Peace!


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ReluctantAdult:


Trust me. This never fails. Watch her closely and you're going to notice it

Yes I have tried it couple of times, it works, I am not disputing that. My point is that some girls are very pretentious and stubborn, no matter what you do they won't reveal their true emotions to you, I have seen it and you don't want to lose her do you? except you don't really value her and the relationship.

And more so, I will only bring in other girl into the picture to spite her when I have exhausted all other options to no avail.

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ReluctantAdult:
This is not how I roll.

If I wanna test if a girl loves me, I bring another girl into the picture. If she gets angry and intimidated about it, that's it! She's in love
If she's not bothered, it means she hasn't fallen yet.

Bro, that's true but also note that some girls likes pretending. They won't show you that they are intimidated by another lady but deep down they are.

So how will you cope with that?





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If you want to see how much a girl likes you, do these 6 things.

Showing love to your partner is one of the ways you can make them feel loved and special. However, you can't know how much your partner likes you. You don't know if they love you more than you do or it is just vice versa. Well, we will get to know that here in this article.

1. Appreciate her more.

One of the ways you can know a girl likes you is just by appreciating her. If she does something for you, appreciate her in a cool manner. Some men don't appreciate their women no matter what they do for them, and that's very wrong. Women love it when you appreciate them and in this way, you can get to know how much she loves you. If she shows you more love and affection, then she likes you more.

2. Compliment her more in front of others.

Unlike appreciating her, you should also compliment her. Make her feel loved, tell her how amazing she is, how lovely and generous she is. Don't ever stop telling your girl how wonderful she is especially in public. Girls love it when their man compliments them especially in front of others.

3. Be more romantic with her.

Girls love guys that are romantic and if you want to know how much she likes you, you have to also be romantic with her. Don't be the boring type, grab her from behind, hug her whenever you want to greet and also give her a peck, hold hands when you're walking together, and do some other romantic things.

4. Easily admit your wrongs and then apologize.

Men can be stubborn and hard when it comes to admitting their wrongs, but if you want to know how much a girl likes you, you need to easily admit your wrongs and then apologize. It won't kill you, just 'I am sorry', that's enough to settle the fight. Easily admitting your wrongs, also shows your level of maturity and how much you respect her in the relationship.

5. Play your role.

Lastly, do your part in the relationship. Support her, make her feel loved if you have spent on her. Encourage her, be supportive enough, and also be there whenever she needs you. Also, don't make her get hurt, protect her, and don't let her cry. In this way, you can know how much she like you.

6. Spend on her.

Last but not the least, spend on her. It is a known fact that girls like being spent on. So they appreciate when their man spends on them.

P.S

Never waste your money on entitled girls; i.e. girls that feel they are entitled to your hard earned money, it ain't healthy for your health and the relationship in general.

Modified:

This is only for those who are in a committed, serious and long term relationships not the casual ones


If you have any reservations, do well to use the comment box.

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Arrewa:
Clout chaser!

Elrufai remain one of the best governor in Nigeria!


Elrufai is fighting insecurity and at same time developing Kaduna State.

Same people blaming Buhari for the insecurity in Benue are blaming Elrufai for the insecurity in southern kaduna!

Bigotry is a disease!

Only bigots hate Elrufai!

Elrufai is outstanding!

More Grace Mallam!!

Keep showing your ignorance to the world.
Are those pictures the only place in Kaduna?
Keep deceiving yourself.

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JOACHINpedro:

That's the problem, no one wants to lover higher than the other

Lol, but in a relationship, there is always someone who loves more than the other.


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nwaezeemmanuel:
How many girls have you met?! My God, you are very stubborn

Why are you forming Omniscient. You want people to lie so that you can look smart. It is your kind that will say a woman is a lesbian even if she has a husband.

Yes I am very stubborn especially when I know that I am right


Nobody need to "lie to make me look smart" like you claim. The truth will always remain the truth.

All you need to do is to stop defending what you know little or nothing about.
I have seen it, I doubt if you have.



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